It seems we are living in a period of time when voicing opinions and taking a side on any subject has become the new “normal.” Sometimes those opinions are choices or preferences. But other times they are judgments closing up our mind and making the other side just plain “wrong.” Judgments are like boomerangs and come back on us.
6 Ways Our Judging Can Hurt Us
1 INCREASE OUR LONELINESS-
If we are making judgements about the relationships that we don’t have, blaming ourselves or others for current situations, or criticizing what happened in the past and who was at fault, it’s extremely difficult to NOT feel that horrible feeling of isolation. Our negative thoughts separate us from God or a Higher Power, others, who we really are, and the world around us.
2 MAKE US FEEL HOPELESS-
When we are judging, our attention is placed on “what’s not going right,” and “what needs to happen for it to get better.” No wonder we see things as a little bleak and gloomy, and think these negative things will go on forever.
3 CREATE CONFLICT WITH OTHERS-
Judging is an excellent tool for dividing and conquering. When we are judging we assume we know everything about the situation and our take on it is the correct one. That means others’ takes must be wrong and the battle begins. The battle really only disappears when we stop judging and are willing to see others, ourselves, or the situation differently.
4 PROMOTE ILLNESS-
Judgmental thoughts and attitudes have a huge impact on our immune system, and whether the medicines and medical procedures will be effective in healing our body.
We can change any physical condition, virus, or disease with thoughts and attitudes that are loving, open-minded, and positive.
5 MAKE US FEAR RETALIATION-
Have you noticed that you aren’t afraid of retaliation from anyone unless you have judged them in some way? Judging can cause us to want to get out the guns or want to move to another country to protect ourselves. If we stop judging others, the terrifying fear of them hurting us in some way will disappear.
6 BLOCK OUR INTUITION-
When we are judging, we are locking ourselves into a certain opinion, usually with no leeway. That makes it extremely difficult or impossible to be open for intuitive insights. We’ve got to get to neutral or not invested in making someone wrong before we are willing to pay attention to a higher source that could solve the problem.
If you need help stopping your judging, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.