Have you ever been so lonely, and felt so desperate, that you tried to grab someone—anyone—to make yourself feel better? Have you noticed, that even being in a satisfying romantic relationship, or in a room full of people, you can still feel just as lonely? What causes that miserable feeling to creep up on us like that, anyway?

We have all probably at one time or another run around trying to find a love interest, family, friends, or even strangers to rescue us from this horrible, isolated feeling.

So, What Causes our Loneliness?

A Course in Miracles (ACIM) states,

“Only what you have not given can be lacking in any situation.”

What does that mean? Could we be seeking the love that we already have, but are not giving? This reminds me of the song “You Get What You Give.” So, if we want to feel connected and loved, we need to extend love.

Other statements in A Couse in Miracles that validate this point are…

“Offer it and it will come to you, because it is drawn to itself.”

     Another is,

“By giving you receive.”

     That doesn’t mean we need to write a check, volunteer for a charity, buy gifts, or people-please. It means all we need to do to extend love and end our loneliness is to think loving thoughts about others. It’s that simple.

If you need help with ACIM or your loneliness, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

It seems we are living in a period of time when voicing opinions and taking a side on any subject has become the new “normal.” Sometimes those opinions are choices or preferences. But other times they are judgments closing up our mind and making the other side just plain “wrong.” Judgments are like boomerangs and come back on us.

6 Ways Our Judging Can Hurt Us
Judging Can…

1   INCREASE OUR LONELINESS-

If we are making judgements about the relationships that we don’t have, blaming ourselves or others for current situations, or criticizing what happened in the past and who was at fault, it’s extremely difficult to NOT feel that horrible feeling of isolation. Our negative thoughts separate us from God or a Higher Power, others, who we really are, and the world around us.

2   MAKE US FEEL HOPELESS-

When we are judging, our attention is placed on “what’s not going right,” and “what needs to happen for it to get better.”  No wonder we see things as a little bleak and gloomy, and think these negative things will go on forever.

3   CREATE CONFLICT WITH OTHERS-

Judging is an excellent tool for dividing and conquering.  When we are judging we assume we know everything about the situation and our take on it is the correct one. That means others’ takes must be wrong and the battle begins. The battle really only disappears when we stop judging and are willing to see others, ourselves, or the situation differently.

4   PROMOTE ILLNESS-

Judgmental thoughts and attitudes have a huge impact on our immune system, and whether the medicines and medical procedures will be effective in healing our body.

We can change any physical condition, virus, or disease with thoughts and attitudes that are loving, open-minded, and positive.

5   MAKE US FEAR RETALIATION-

Have you noticed that you aren’t afraid of retaliation from anyone unless you have judged them in some way? Judging can cause us to want to get out the guns or want to move to another country to protect ourselves. If we stop judging others, the terrifying fear of them hurting us in some way will disappear.  

6   BLOCK OUR INTUITION-

When we are judging, we are locking ourselves into a certain opinion, usually with no leeway. That makes it extremely difficult or impossible to be open for intuitive insights. We’ve got to get to neutral or not invested in making someone wrong before we are willing to pay attention to a higher source that could solve the problem.

If you need help stopping your judging, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

Of course, we could put ALL the blame on Covid-19 and all the isolation that has come with it. But there is more to it than being able to interact with others face-to-face. Covid-19 just pushed our already existing problem with feeling lonely to the surface so we’ll have to address it.

For years most of us have been trying to cope with our loneliness by staying crazy busy. Even the experts often suggest taking action and doing lots of things to deflect that horrible feeling. Maybe we could join a dating service and date all sorts of potential partners. Or we could make long to-do lists and preoccupy ourselves with checking things off. Perhaps we can do something that even takes more of our time, getting in the habit of people pleasing.

The question you want to ask yourself is this, “Is staying busy getting rid of my loneliness, or is it a way of trying to tolerate it?”

If staying busy is getting rid of your loneliness and you want to continue that pace, don’t read any further. But if staying busy is only a way to keep your loneliness at bay, read on.

The Solution to Loneliness

To relieve that horrible, isolated feeling we have to look at our thoughts.

Loneliness comes from our thoughts.

If we are thinking thoughts about what we don’t have, blaming ourselves or others for the current situation, judging the past, or making up future catastrophic scenarios, it’s extremely hard to not feel that horrible feeling of isolation. Our negative thoughts separate us from God or a Higher Power, others, and the world around us.

When we take time to observe our inner monologue and replace even some of those negative separating thoughts, then the loneliness begins to disappear. All we have to do is get in the practice of thinking loving thoughts about others, being grateful for what we do have, or do positive affirmations. Then watch the loneliness fade away.

If you need help with your loneliness, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

What we think over and over makes a gigantic difference in how we experience any situation. No matter what happens in our lives, our beliefs and perspectives determine whether we see the positive side or the negative side of situations.

A Mindset that Can Make any Situation Negative

When we are in the lower frame of mind (ego or the 3rd dimension), almost all of our attention is placed on looking for what’s wrong and not going right. Anger, doubt, worry, and fear can race through our minds, like we have no control over it.

Our Thoughts Have a Tendency to…

• Blame ourselves or others for the situation.
• Rehash the past and judge what should have happened.
• Disagree with what’s going on.
• Try to implement ways to fix what’s going wrong.

A Mindset that Makes any Situation Positive

When we are in a higher state of mind (the 4th Dimension), we realize that what we think plays an important part in our experience of it. Almost all of our attention is placed on trying to see the bright side of any situation.  Instead of focusing on what is wrong or right, our inner monologue consists mostly of thoughts about understanding, kindness, and gratitude.

Our Thoughts Have a Tendency to…

• Consist of lots of positive mantras or affirmations.
• Use the situation to express love to ourselves and others.

To Sum it Up 

When you think about any situation, does it make you feel better or worse? If it makes you feel worse, you could start taking control of your inner monologue to change your perception of it. That will make your life less doom and gloom, easier, and a lot more enjoyable.

Are You Ready to Change the Way You Think?

I have a “How to Feel Worthy” self-study course helps you change the mindset you have about yourself, your relationships, any situation, and the world around you. You will be able to finally feel deserving of what you want and able to be yourself. For more details.

Also, check out the quiz, How Worthy Do You Feel?

If you need more help thinking about any situation on the bright side, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

Since Covid-19 began, our already fast-paced world immediately transformed into an extremely fast-paced world. Both external and internal changes are occurring continually, and sometimes several in a day. That has caused almost all of us to experience more uncertainty, confusion, and downright fear—enough for us to seek out help in getting clarity and direction.

The Problem

With this much change, we could easily spend a fortune on psychic readings. Or we could take on some of the responsibility and try to make the most of each reading.

Here’s How to Get the Most from a Psychic Reading…

1   NEEDING A QUICK FIX-

Sometimes we can let our thoughts go in such a negative direction that we work ourselves into a horrible tizzy. Then we rush to get a psychic reading for relief. Many times, the relief we get only lasts a couple of days, if that, or until our negative thought pattern starts back up.

With needing a quick fix, to get the most from our psychic reading we could try to calm down and change our thoughts or at least wait until we aren’t so afraid. A good sign we could make better use of the reading, is if we have an urgency attached to scheduling it.

2   WANT PSYCHICS TO MAKE DECISIONS FOR US-

When we run to psychics to make our decisions, we are usually afraid and have gotten ourselves convinced that if we make a wrong choice we will have dire circumstances to face. This belief makes decision-making on our own extremely hard to do. It is also a good excuse not to take responsibility for our choice.

To make the most from a psychic reading, ask their advice but let your own intuition discern if it is the best path.

3   WANT TO JUSTIFY WRONGDOINGS-

There is a tendency to want the psychic to support our anger or to tell us how others feel guilty or bad for what they did or didn’t do to us. That doesn’t help us learn how to forgive or take responsibility for how we perceive the situation.

To make the most of a reading, ask the psychic to help you see others and the situation differently so you can have peace with it.

4  WITH A DRIVEN AGENDA-

This is more common than you might think. When our mind is biased towards what we want to hear or the way we want things to go, we often block out any other information.

To make the most of a reading, record it and listen to it again, and again, if needed, with an open mind. Try to really listen.

I don’t do psychic readings, but I do offer help with learning to use your intuition. Here are three ways…

1   Check out the How to Feel Worthy self-study course. It can help you change the mindset you have about yourself and the world around you, which allows your intuition to surface. For more details.

2   I have also just added intuition eBooks for three of the Myers-Briggs personality types.   

3   If you need more help using your intuition or inner guide, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

If you are reading this you already know there needs to be some changes in your life. It could be with your income, career, relationships, health, beliefs, priorities, or anything else.

There is no need to be afraid or to get overwhelmed with making the needed changes. The process is easier than you think.

Here are 5 Things We Need to Know About Making Changes in Our Life….

1   We Will be Guided in the Right Direction-

Once we get serious about reassessing our life and making some needed changes, a higher source that knows more than our ego or 3rd dimension self will help us in many ways. Other terms for that higher source are God, a Higher Power, Inner Guide, Intuition, Universe, Spirit, Divine, or any other word(s) we want to use.

2   Help Can Come from Anyone and Anything in Hundreds of Different Ways-

Don’t get locked into thinking help can only come from one way, such as getting a clear vision, maybe in a dream. A more common way to get help is through signs from the universe, which are external messages that we can see, hear, touch, taste, or smell. They give us validations, encouragements, and indications that we are in the flow. Or we can get obstacles that tell us to tweak something, go in a different direction, or to wait.

3   No One Knows all the Answers all the Time-

Because everything seems to be accelerated at a fast pace since Covid 19 began, it will be hard for anyone to know everything or to trust someone who says they do. That higher source is nudging us to get in the habit of finding our own answers by trusting our own inner guidance.

4   Every Change Helps-

Whether we accept it or not, everything is always working out for us, even those times when it appears to be working against us.

5   Make a Commitment to Re-evaluate Your Life and Make the Needed Changes-

Most of us have a tendency to exaggerate how difficult and complicated it really is to make changes. All we have to do is get serious about it. Once we finally stop being flakey and make a commitment, 90% of the painful part is done.

Are you Ready to Increase Your Ability to be Aware of that Higher Source or Your Intuition?

Check out the How to Feel Worthy self-study course. It can help you change the mindset you have about yourself and the world around you, which allows your intuition to surface. For more details.

I have also just added intuition eBooks for three of the Myers-Briggs personality types.   

If you need more help using your intuition or inner guide, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

Almost all of us are experiencing periods when we are being pushed to the edge. If this is one of those times, before you get really depressed and think your world has come to an end, look at it differently. Going through stressful times can be very beneficial.

Here’s Some Positive Things About this Stressful World…

It Can Help Us…

• Get focused on what we truly want in life.
• Have the courage to get out of our comfort zones.
• Start relying more than ever on a higher source (God, Higher Power, Spirit, Divine, Universe, Guides, or whatever you want to call it).
• Learn how to appreciate the little things.
• Realize we all are on our own hero’s journey.
• Take time to really notice our thoughts and feelings.
• Eliminate all the doubts we have about ourselves.
• Get rid of our ego (the 3rd dimension) and operate mostly from a 4th dimension
• Learn how to forgive ourselves, and others.
• Do away with our happiness sabotagers, such as the need to blame and not telling the truth.
• Rethink our entire lives.
• Realize this stressful world is not going back to normal for some time. It will shape into something better.
• Address habits we have been using to numb our feelings.
• Work on feeling worthier and finally feel “good enough.”
• Follow our intuition or our inner guide more often.
• Stay focused on unconditionally loving others no matter what they say or don’t say, or do or don’t do.

Especially during trying times, it’s difficult to believe that everything that happens works towards us having a better life in the long run. All we have to do is see it that way.

Grab a hold! Approach the next few years as though you are riding a superfast roller coaster with all the extreme highs, lows, twists and turns. Covid-19 has triggered an acceleration of doing things differently. At the same time, things we could count on in the past are disappearing in front of our eyes.

Here are 5 Ways to Make this Fast-Changing World Easier…

1   Throw the past idea of “normal” out the window. The next few years will be anything but ordinary. So, don’t try to rest on your laurels and ride it out until “normal” returns. You’ll be left behind!

2   Think of this fast-changing world as a huge adventure (like a hero’s journey), that can’t be escaped, only mastered. Every day there will be new things to explore, different paths to take, lots of twists and turns, and demons to conquer.

3   Let your intuition, more than ever before, be your guide through this enormous universal shift. You may turn spiritual and a little woo-woo, but your intuition will always show you the easiest and most pleasant path.

4   Learn to go within and pay attention to how the energy “feels.” No matter what’s happening in your life, what anyone is doing or saying, try to stay neutral and focus on how the energy “feels.” If it feels yucky, extend unconditional love to the person(s) or even to the situation, in order to transform it. If the energy feels pleasant, bask in it as long as you can.

5   This one ties into the previous two points, but is soooo important, I want to re-emphasize it.  Start heavily relying on a higher source (God, Higher Power, Spirit, Divine, Universe, or anything else you want to call it) that knows more than your ego or 3rd dimension self. That higher source is the only thing that can make this time in your life amazing. All you have to do is ask, listen, and follow through when directed to do so.

Are you Ready to Increase Your Ability to be Aware of that Higher Source or Use Your Intuition?

Check out the  How to Feel Worthy self-study course. It can help you change the mindset you have about yourself and the world around you, which allows your intuition to surface. For more details.

I have also just added intuition eBooks for three of the Myers-Briggs personality types.   

Or there are several blogs in the Intuition section on my website that could help.

There is no doubt about it, the world is changing at a superfast pace. New ways of doing things are developing quickly, while things we could count on in the past are disappearing in front of our eyes.

It seems like a very good time to reassess your life since everything else is changing. However, there might be some reasons you are reluctant to not jump on the bandwagon.

Some Reasons for Not Re-evaluating your Life Now…

When You…

1   Still want things to go back to the way they used to be—back to “normal.”

2   Are afraid of making any changes, even for the better.

3   Have no desire to give up your numbing devices or stress relievers. This could be with food, pills, alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, caffeine, impulse buying, keeping crazy busy, binge watching, texting, social media, or hundreds of other things.

4   Operate mostly on autopilot, not paying attention to your state of mind.

5   Refuse to listen to others or try new things.

6   Get upset when something does change.

7   Want to sit on the sidelines and watch others move ahead.

8   Are scared to death you will fail.

9   Don’t feel worthy of something better.

10   Are adamant about doing things the way you’ve always done them, even when things are not working any longer.

11   Feel you won’t get what you truly want, so why take time to consider it.

12   Don’t want to slow down and take more quiet time, even for a short time.

13   Have no desire to improve your ability to be aware of your intuition or follow it.

14   Want to hang onto how you define yourself, afraid you will lose yourself or your value. How you define yourself could be as a wife or husband, any job title, a millionaire, or dozens of other ways.

Almost all of us will probably have to re-evaluate our lives in some fashion during this enormous universal shift. When we ignore or prolong reassessing our life periodically, it almost always results in hasher and more drastic changes when they do happen.

Are You Ready to Start Re-evaluating Your Life?

This feel worthy self-study course helps you change the mindset you have about yourself, your life, and the world around you. For more details.

Also, check out the quiz, How Worthy Do You Feel?

If you need more help re-evaluating your life, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

Ever since Covid-19 appeared, it seems time is flying by faster than ever. Every day there is something new with politics (of course), the economy, diseases, deaths, inflation, migration, housing, changing careers, or hundreds of other things.

What fascinates me is that hardly ever is God (Higher Power, intuition, Divine, Spirit, Holy Spirit, or any other term you want to call the higher source that can make sense of this) mentioned, let alone discussed at length.

How do people go through the stress of these rapid changes without believing in God or a Higher Power? I can’t. And if they do believe, why don’t they mention it?

Here’s What God or a Higher Power Does for Me…

God…

• Gives me insights and guidance about anything I am curious or concerned with.
• Never fails in getting me out of my doubt and fear, when I call for it.
• Helps me choose love and get rid of my rigid beliefs about what is the right thing to do and what is the wrong thing to do.
• Teaches me how to expand my gratitude and have lots more faith.
• Makes this time in my life not so doom and gloom.
• Helps me accept what’s happening, instead of letting me waste time trying to resist it.
• Shows me how to truly forgive myself and others.
• Helps me master new ways to connect with others—beyond what I can physically see and touch, or through spoken or writing words.
• Comforts me when I need it.
• Teaches me how to accept love like I never knew before.
• Guides me to let go of trying to control what’s happening, and instead sit back and watch it unfold in a way that everyone will benefit from.

For many of us, this time has been the most stressful period in our lives. But it could also be the most enlightening and worthwhile experience we’ve ever had, like our own hero’s journey.

All you need to do is let God or a Higher Power be your guide through the twists, turns, ups and downs of this rapidly changing world.

Are you Ready to Increase Your Ability to be Aware of God, Higher Power, or Your Intuition?

Check out the How to Feel Worthy self-study course. It can help you change the mindset you have about yourself and the world around you, which allows your intuition to surface. For more details.

I have also just added intuition eBooks for three of the Myers-Briggs personality types.   

Or there are several blogs in the Intuition section on my website that could help.

Way back when, I remember Oprah sharing with us the “things she knew for sure”. Since then, whenever I start feeling out of sorts and being in doubt about something, I ask myself, “What do I know for sure about this?” With each answer I come up with, I feel more and more grounded.

Here’s “3 things I know for sure” about life in general…

1 Try FULLY PARTICIPATING or really engage in whatever you find yourself doing. This means taking everything you do—whether it’s a relationship, work, paying bills, taking a walk, or doing a chore—and really getting into it. I really believe most of our misery and discontent comes from getting into the habit of half-assing it.

2 HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE. We have the choice whether to make any situation in our life the worst thing that happened or the best that happened. It’s what we want to make of what happens.

3 Understand the PURPOSE OF LIFE IS TO LEARN TO LOVE, not to avoid or attack what we don’t like. I often hear my coaching clients saying they do love others, but it also means loving yourself, the good and the bad, and learning to love everything else. I did a video on learning to love doing the dishes years ago, take a look.

If you need help with any of these 3 things, contact Vickie for a complimentary coaching session.

I loved the 1993 movie Groundhog Day and have probably watched it over a dozen times. Not only does the movie make me feel good, but it has a very spiritual plot that can apply to almost everyone, whether they believe in a higher source or not. The movie implies “there are no accidents” and somehow absolutely everything that happens in life is orchestrated with a greater purpose.

Here’s How 2020 (and Possibly 2021) is Like the Movie Groundhog Day…

1   TRAPPED-

In the movie, the main character, Phil Connors, is reliving the same day over and over as if he was stuck in time until he learns how to unconditionally love.

In 2020, it seems like our lives have not only been turned upside down but stuck in a never ending cycle—that goes on day after day, week after week, month after month. The happy ending will probably only occur when we learn how to unconditionally love everyone and everything. That means loving ourselves, especially others, and everything else we could imagine.

2   DOUBT-

At first, Phil Connors doubts himself and thinks he might be crazy, going to the doctor for a checkup and to a therapist.

In 2020 (and possibly into 2021), lots of us are struggling to stay sane watching all the external drama unfold, which causes us to start doubting everything. We also reach out for help to try to make sense of what’s happening, especially to the latest news, the experts, and of course, the government.

3   FIGHTS BACK-

Getting angry about his situation, Phil lashes out by criticizing and being downright cruel to others. Thinking the clock might be to blame, he finally throws it across the room, breaking it. But as he finds out the next day, his rage had no effects. The clock was in perfect condition and the alarm rang the next morning as usual.

In 2020, almost all of us have been swept up for a time and downright furious at someone or something—and this may continue into 2021. There has got to be someone, some group, or something to blame for this endless horrible experience. We lash out in any way we can. Sometimes it’s by social media, giving money to our cause, or simply by badmouthing others. We soon find out our lashing out and anger only increase others’ anger and lashing out. Therefore, it has no lasting effects in changing this bloody battlefield.

4   DESTRUCTIVE-

Phil even takes it to the extreme. He wants this day to end so bad he resorts to stealing a truck, kidnapping the groundhog, and running the truck off of a cliff. But again, it has no lasting effect.

In 2020-2021, we may resort to destructive behaviors, such as trying all sorts of ways to gain at someone else’s expense. We could also turn those destructive behaviors inward, to numb or hurt ourselves, like beginning or continuing bad habits or addictions—anything just to stop this ongoing nightmare.

5   TURNING POINT-

Phil keeps trying to push and rush a romance with Rita, hoping to get some relief by forcing her into a relationship. Finally, Rita slaps him and declares, “You will never love anyone but yourself.” Phil replies, “That’s not true. I don’t even like myself.” With that one statement, a lightbulb turns on in Phil. He was really honest with himself, and the movie takes a turn from then on.

We often think as soon as things calm down and return to “normal,” it will give us the relief we so desperately want. Yet, until we include learning to love ourselves and get to the point we feel like we deserve something better, we cannot fully experience it.

6   FOCUS-

With Phil’s realization and new outlook on his predicament, he begins by learning to focus—not in a controlling, self-centered, and wanting something in return way. He starts by simply trying to throw cards into a hat, by training his mind and concentrating on it.

If nothing else, in 2020-2021 we are learning how to train our minds away from the external drama that we can’t hardly ever control, to something we can control, how we want to feel. We are learning the power of our thoughts like Phil did.

7   ACTS OF KINDNESS-

Phil then gives love to others with small acts of kindness, like caring for a homeless guy and surprisingly, providing coffee to his co-workers. The more he genuinely cares for others, the better he feels about himself. Phil’s courage and ability to care continue to build as he catches a boy falling from a tree and saves a man from choking.

The more we genuinely care for others and unconditionally love them no matter what they think, say, or how they behave—the better we feel about ourselves and the easier the future will get.

8   BEING INSPIRED-

Phil evolves into letting go of the “mediocre” and instead, having a deep desire to be inspired and excited about what he does. This is shown by him taking up ice sculpting and playing the piano with feeling.

For most of us in 2020-2021, the “mediocre” is becoming less tolerable, especially with our work. There were hundreds of thousands of us stuck in a rut and doing work that was not that satisfying. Something had to push us out of our comfort zones and give us the courage to look for something better.

9   COMING TOGETHER-

By taking time to become a person Phil could actually admire and love, he attracted others who admired and loved him too. Everyone at the dance thought highly of Phil and voiced their appreciation of him.

Now is the time to stop playing small and have the courage to become someone we would admire. We have let other things in our lives become the priority, such as money, status, and being right. But when it comes down to it, our ability to unconditionally love is the highest priority there is.

10   THE ENDING-

Phil wakes up with Rita in his arms, pinches her to see if it is real, and says, “Something is different. Anything different is good. But this could be real good.”

Finally, getting a new way of living is going to be wonderful, but it could get real good—beyond what we can possibly imagine!

Are You Ready to Unconditionally Love Yourself?

This self-study course helps you change the mindset that you have about yourself and the world around you. You will finally feel you deserve your new life on a steady basis. For more details.

Check out the Quiz, How Worthy Do You Feel?

If you need more help, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

Right now, external circumstances are pushing millions of us out of our comfort zones and spinning our lives in a completely different direction.  Everything seems to be changing or disappearing rapidly. And to make it worse, we are being told it could go on indefinitely.

Deep down we all probably know that this is a defining moment in our lives and that it will change us forever.

GOOD NEWS!

Even though it seems like we are losing control of almost everything, we DO have control over our mindset. We could stay in the fear, get angry, worry ourselves sick, and essentially make this a horrifying experience.

Or we could use this experience to learn to love everyone and everything, and most of all, become a hero in our own lives—someone who showed courage, who we respect and admire. Most refer to this process as a hero’s journey.

A Hero’s Experience or Journey…

1   THE CALLING OR REQUEST

External Pressure…

Many times, the calling begins with a tragic event or a predicament we’re facing—an external pressure. It is something that abruptly happens, throws us off guard, and turns our life upside down.

It could be concerning a loved one, a sudden illness or a pandemic, a death or several deaths, being laid off or furloughed, being a victim of a criminal act, a severe accident, an unexpected breakup, being trapped in close quarters with family members, too much alone time, being unfairly treated, an act of mother nature/extreme weather, or anything else that hurls us out of our comfort zone.

Internal Pressure…

Then there are times that the calling begins more gradually, hardly noticeable at first, then becoming more intense with time. It’s a feeling of dissatisfaction and discomfort. Something doesn’t quite feel right, like a yearning of some sorts to be filled—something that rises up from deep within.

With Both Pressures…

With both beginnings, the calling’s pull makes it very difficult, if not impossible, to turn back. We may not like it, but we know deep inside, this different direction—wherever it takes us and however long it takes—is destined and is our mission to follow through.

A Special Note…

Probably all callings initially begin with internal pressures. It’s more noticeable to those people who pay attention to how they feel and practice using their inner guidance or intuition. Psychics and INFJ personality types (according to the MBTI Personality Test) can often feel an underlying uneasiness and discomfort in themselves, other individuals, and even with the general population before the external pressure becomes obvious.

2   REFUSAL OF THE CALL OR REQUEST

We have the tendency to deny, avoid, resist, or fight against the call, trying desperately to return back to the way our life used to be—to our comfort zone. We are scared to death that we are going to lose all the good things we had going for us, and that our deviation from our old lifestyle will lead to a disaster.

Along with observing our life being pulled in a completely different direction, there is a tremendous amount of doubt about whether we are capable of even completing the hero’s experience or journey.

If we drag it out, the refusal can last for months or even years until we stop denying, avoiding, resisting, and fighting the call. For some, the fear of the new experience or journey is so great that they completely opt out of living through it.

But all we have to do is jump in and make a commitment to the new hero’s experience or journey, wherever it takes us. When we commit and mean it, the fear subsides—and is replaced by a feeling of relief.

3  MEETING THE MENTORS

Once we commit to the hero’s experience or journey, divine guidance appears. We come across seasoned travelers who give us training, tools, and advice that will help us with the hero’s experience—and most of all, teach us how to use spiritual aids.

During this time, we may get serious about relying on a Higher Power (God, Source, Divine, Universe, Intuition, or whatever you want to label it). We could also become aware of the signs from the universe, have visions, have telepathy, hear inner voices, get “aha” moments, have meaningful dreams, and increase our psychic abilities.

4   CROSSING THE THRESHOLDS

As the hero’s experience progresses, we are asked to take the plunge into the unknown, where the rules and limits are not known. It requires an act of faith—doing something we would have never done before the calling.  We have no idea of what will be involved, or how we will even survive. No one does it for us or helps us, and we are on our own.

An example could be caring for loved ones, stopping an addiction or bad habit, quitting a job, changing our career, volunteering for a potentially dangerous mission, breaking up with our current relationship, moving to another city, or anything that we would not normally have done before the experience began.

5 THE EGO’S TEMPTATIONS

The ego (3rd dimension mindset) knows we are in the process of releasing it and tries to hang on with all its might.  We might be tempted to half-ass our quest, hoping we can stay where we are after all, and praying that the pull for a new life will vanish entirely.

With every temptation we give in to, we realize the old pleasures and comfort are not what we once thought they were and are not satisfying at all. They were just illusions of security and satisfaction.

Temptations could be trying to re-connect with old friends, reverting back to our bad habits or addictions, quitting volunteering, moving back home, going back to the old career, begging to be rehired, or getting back with the ex.

We learn that relying on a Higher Power (God, Source, Divine, Universe, Intuition, or whatever you want to label it) and using our spiritual aids can get rid of the temptations the ego conjures up—time after time.

Each triumph over the ego builds faith and courage, enhances the feeling that nothing is impossible, and gives us momentary previews of a hero’s life.

6   THE ORDEAL OR THE BELLY OF THE WHALE

The hero’s experience or journey keeps taking us inward to the most dangerous spot, to confront our greatest fears and inner demons head on. It might appear we have been swallowed up and eaten alive. But really, we have only allowed the end of our fearful ego-self (3rd dimension mindset) and let the fearless soul-self (4th dimension mindset) rise up and come into power.

We realize our greatest fear was only a smoke screen hiding what we always knew—that we have been unlimited and significant all along. There was nothing to fear after all!!!

7   THE REWARD

We, the hero in our own life, take possession of the prize we won by facing our inner demons.  There is no more fear—no more feeling inadequate or unimportant!!!

8   THE ROAD BACK

Shortly after receiving our reward, we are asked to go back to the ordinary world changed forever. We then become a seasoned traveler who gives others training, tools, and advice that will help them on their own hero’s experience or journey.

And the most important thing of all is to shine a light

so bright it lights the way for others!!!

If  you need a mentor to help you on your hero’s experience, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

I had a client ask me in a coaching session how to get yourself to make a commitment. I had to take time and really think about the process I just went through.

I have never let myself feel sexy. Since the age of 6, I have been overweight – from 30 to 100 pounds — and I have never believed my facial features were very attractive either. So I resigned myself to a life of making due, blech!, with what I was given and learning to love myself anyway. Recently, my intuition and a series of events nudged me into committing to feel as sexy as I could. Read my blog on Define Feeling Sexy to understand what I mean.

Here’s what I did to make a commitment to myself…

1  I realized I was just wasting time. Everyday seemed to be the same, one meal to the next, just going through the motions, without any personal growth or “aha” moments.  I kept asking myself, “If not now, when? When I’m dead?”

2  I stopped lying to myself.  I had tried to convince myself  it didn’t matter, when all along, it did matter.

3  I had to acknowledge  I  had gotten so comfortable in my comfort zone that it was making me miserable. You know, when your life is not too bad but not too good either. My business was doing OK and I seemed to have enough clients. I was paying the bills and had some money saved.  I’m in fairly good health for my age, other than the weight issue. I had good relationships with my clients, friends and family. But it wasn’t amazing. Not even close.

4  I started doing affirmations.  For years, I have been in the practice of repeating positive thoughts over and over until I start believing them. It works well in getting me prepared to make a commitment. Some are…

• There is nothing I cannot do, including feeling sexy.
• There is nothing to fear. (From A Course in Miracles)
• Today is the toughest it will ever be.

5  I embraced a mindset to do whatever it takes however long it takes. For me this works by thinking of the absolute worst that could happen and giving it permission (mentally) to happen. For instance, never again eating the foods I want when I want them.

6 Then, I jumped in. I forged an all or nothing attitude. A real commitment to yourself requires a there-is-no-turning-back mindset.

Change may not be easy, but it is the way of life. And when it comes to changing – or in fact accepting that we deserve all our desires – even to feel sexy – it is life changing.  What is your desire, perhaps long hidden or ignored, that requires your commitment right now?

If you need help with making a commitment to yourself, contact Vickie Champion for a discovery coaching and consulting session.

Is your financial situation getting worse by the day? Are you having a hard time finding a job because you aren’t willing to change careers or move to a different city? Is your business suffering because you don’t want to change the way you market or what products you’re selling?

I came to a crossroads several months ago.

Clients were starting to drop off faster than I added them, something I was not use too. The old standbys of networking and asking for referrals were not as effective as before. Other life coaches and business coaches began to buzz about getting clients off the internet.

I had to ask myself, were most of my earning problems worse by my reluctance to change? Could I avoid earning problems altogether, if I started to embrace change?

Here Are Some Signs Your Reluctance to Change Could Be Causing Your Earning Problems-

When you…

1. Are adamant on doing things the way you’ve always done them.
2. Operate mostly on auto-pilot.
3. Refuse to listen to others or try new things.
4. Get upset when something does change.
5. Recreate the same old earning problems year after year.
6. Sit on the sidelines and watch others move ahead.
7. Don’t know if you have intuition.

Ways to Embrace Change-

1. Hire a life coach or business coach.
2. Learn new things daily.
3. Keep trying new things. Don’t stop.
4. Know that change is guaranteed and it’s a good thing. It’s a way to keep growing.
5. Realize fear of change is making the problem worse, if not causing it. Then place getting out of fear your highest priority.
6. Increase your faith. Nothing changes unless something better is coming.
7. Use our intuition daily.
8. Treat change as an adventure. If we make change a habit, we will have an exciting, fun life.

Instead of sitting on the sidelines and watching others succeed, I made the decision to embrace change. I learned everything I could on internet marketing and hired people to help. Now I’m getting almost all of my new life coaching and business coaching clients from internet searches.

Is your intuition telling you that you need to embrace change?  Sometimes an earning problem is no more than a reluctance to change.

Maybe you have overcome a fear to change and reaped the rewards. Or put your faith in a feeling that was telling you to change and had things turn around.  Or maybe you’re still confused about whether a failure to change is causing earning problems.
You can also contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.