Vickie Champion

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Free Will vs. Destiny: A Comparison

Let’s take a really good look at the differences between believing in free will and believing in destiny. Take your time. Some or all of these points may take reflection to comprehend fully.

The Differences Between Free Will and Destiny…

1   THE GOAL-

Free Will…

Most of us define free will as the ability to make choices as a separate individual, as one wishes, without these choices being predestined by fate or divine will.

With that definition, it makes our goal more self-serving and centered around getting what we want.

Destiny…

Most of us define destiny as believing there is a force (God, Higher Power, Divine, Spirit, Source, Universe, or whatever else you want to call it) that controls what happens in the future.

This definition takes our goal off of ourselves and striving to make what we want happen. Instead, it allows us to focus on learning to love.

2    MAKING DECISIONS-

Free Will…

Believing in free will makes us feel bogged down with the ongoing pressure to make choices. To add to the confusion, we think we have several options to choose from with every decision.

Destiny…

Believing in destiny frees us up from the complexity of decision making and gives us only one choice—are we going to choose love? Once love is chosen, we will either automatically know the answer through our intuition, or the issue will automatically be solved for us. Sometimes the situation just disappears, like magic.

3   MISTAKES-

Free Will…

With free will we worry about making mistakes, believing that each choice has the power in some way to define our future. So much pressure to get it right!

Destiny…

With destiny there is only a choice—to perceive things from love or to wait. If we decide to wait, we are only delaying the experience of the power of love.

4   HURTING OTHERS-

Free Will…

Believing in free will means our decisions can hurt other people and the decisions of others can hurt us. This produces a victim and  a victimizer point of view. Therefore, free will makes it extremely difficult to forgive ourselves, or others.

Destiny…

Believing in destiny means nothing can hurt people except their thoughts about the person(s) or event. Taking responsibility for the way we think empowers us, so no one can ever hurt us again and we are not afraid we can hurt others. Therefore, destiny makes it easy to forgive ourselves and others.

Here’s the amazing part! Every time we choose love, it takes away the painful part of the event and often changes the outcome.

5   SEPARATE INDIVIDUALS-

Free will…

The definition of free will implies we are separate individuals, which means we are striving to do everything all alone. It also means God or the Higher Source also is separate.

Destiny…

The definition of destiny implies we are part of the oneness. Everyone is significant and has a special part to play.

THE CONCLUSION- 

On the surface it seems the power and benefits of believing in free will are enormous and allow us to do what we want when we want. What FREEDOM! And the INDEPENDENCE!

But, is it really that great? Think of all the worry we have about making a mistake, or how we let things we think we have done wrong haunt us.

Then there are those times we wanted something really bad, and no matter how hard we tried, we were left empty handed. Or the isolation and loneliness we often feel.

The real power and benefits come from choosing love and leaving what happens in the future to the force and destiny.  It makes our lives focused on unconditional love, gratitude, acceptance, and forgiveness.

Are You Ready to Choose Love?

This self-study course helps you change the mindset you have about yourself and the world around you. You will be able to finally feel worthy and be yourself. For more details.

Also, check out the Quiz, How Worthy Do You Feel?

If you need more help feeling worthy, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

 

 

How to Attract or Seduce Your Twin Flame

Are you doing anything and everything to be in your twin flame’s arms, but getting no response, or worse, the opposite of the response that you want? Maybe you were ghosted on social media or she/he changed their phone number.

Unfortunately, the twin flame relationship is NOT a normal relationship. What we’ve used to charm and entice others won’t work very well with our twin flame.  Here’s why…

3rd Dimension Ways to Attract a Twin Flame

This mindset concentrates on doing things to GET noticed. We have the “look at me” attitude to lure our twin flame in. Look how attractive I am, and what I am willing to do or say to GET your attention. This is usually done by using things our twin flame can physically see, hear, or touch.

The 3rd Dimension Mindset Attracts by Using…

1  OUR BODY’S APPEARANCE-

We will go to any length to improve our appearance, especially if we think our twin flame is more attractive than we are. Of course, we will lose weight and strengthen our muscles. We might even get pearly white teeth, wear heels, wear the color red to seem more passionate, or smile often to appear more attractive.

2   WORDS-

We can use all sorts of ways to GET noticed with words, such as complimenting our twin flame, being sexually suggestive, making promises, apologizing, and saying endearing things such as, “I love you.” Then, we could top it off by using a seductive voice or emojis to appear more desirable.

If that doesn’t GET their attention, we can try to make our twin flame feel bad about what she/he did or didn’t do.

3   ACTION-

This means we do something to GET noticed. Taking action covers a broad area.  We could physically touch our twin flame to get their attention. We could do something they like or expect to please them. We could try to rescue them and fix their problems. Or we could take action because we are worried about them.

We could even go so far as to constantly drive by their house or show up at places they frequent.

 

4th Dimension Mindset is a Better Way to Attract Your Twin Flame

This mindset concentrates on GIVING to attract. We work really hard to learn how to give unconditional love to our twin flame by using loving thoughts, gratitude, forgiveness, and our inner guidance or intuition. Instead of the “look at me and what I am doing” attitude to pull them in, we become a magnet so strong our twin flame can’t resist moving towards it.

Why Don’t 3rd Dimension Ways Work?

It’s simple. It’s not a normal relationship based on conditional love (i.e. if you look and act the way I like, I will love you). It’s an out-of-this-world amazing relationship and it takes unconditional love to make it manifest for any length of time.

Are You Ready to Attract or Seduce  Your Twin Flame in a Different Way?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details.

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

You can also contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session. 

 

What Makes the Twin Flame Separation So Hard?

I know the magnetic pull sometimes is so strong it seems unbearable, and you want to be physically near your twin flame sooo bad. But if you believed being physically separated was only going to make the relationship more amazing in the long run, would it be so hard?

Things That Make the Twin Flame Separation So Hard…

When we…

  • Think being near our twin flame’s body is more important than having an out-of-this-world amazing relationship with them.
  • Blame ourselves, our twin flame, anyone, or anything for the separation.
  • Let ourselves get depressed and hopeless because we are physically apart from our twin flame.
  • Don’t really believe in God, Higher Power, Inner Guide, Source, Spirit, Universe, Guides, Angels, Divine, Jesus, or whatever we want to call that higher source that knows way more than we do.
  • Try to avoid making changes of any kind, especially with our thoughts and beliefs.
  • Are afraid of learning a new way of communicating with our twin flame, such as feeling the energy, telepathy, and astral projection.
  • Neglect listening and following our intuition, inner guidance, or gut feelings.
  • Believe all we have to do is to learn to be patient and wait until we are together again. That makes us put our inner work on hold.
  • Think if someone apologized it would help end the separation.
  • Pay very little attention to our mindset and more on trying to control what’s happening or what we think should happen.
  • Think loneliness and why we miss our twin flame comes from not having their body touching or near our body.

Now think about it. Do you really want to make being physically separated from your twin flame into a painful experience? Or do you want to use it to make the relationship even better?

Are You Ready to Take Advantage of Being Separated?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details.

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

You can also contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session. 

 

What Causes Your Inability to Receive?

We hear it all the time, “I have a difficult time receiving.” We tend to assume our inability to receive is something we need to work on and improve. But is it? Here are two different mindsets to explore regarding not being able to receive kindness or gifts.

About Receiving with the 3rd Dimension Mindset

This mindset is focused on following rules someone has made up. It’s usually known as good manners.

In this case, the rule could be the following: If someone gives us compliments or gifts, we need to be gracious, appreciate it, and say, “thank you.”

If we are unable to do that, we think it’s wrong. This mindset not only sets up the rules, but it loves to judge us if we don’t follow them.

Judging something as wrong causes the need to punish. More often than not, we punish ourselves by thinking we don’t deserve what we want, desire, or dream of.

That in return causes us to deflect kindness and gifts. Then we hunker down and try harder to follow the rules. This keeps us in an endless cycle.

 

Receiving with the 4th Dimension Mindset

The 4th dimension is focused not on trying to behave according to rules, but on following inner guidance or intuition.

Often, people give compliments, gifts and kindness in order to get something in return. If we are listening to our inner guidance or intuition, we know when someone is trying to give us a gift with strings attached.

Sometimes our inner guide or intuition tells us to go ahead and accept it graciously.  Sometimes we are told to accept it ungraciously and without a “thank you.” And sometimes we are told not accept it with a “no thanks.”

There is no need for us to judge any of these as wrong. In fact, if we forget the 3rd dimension rules and follow our inner guidance or intuition, it discourages others from lying to us, and cuts off lots of unpleasant situations in the future.

Did you know trying to follow rules, and judging it as wrong, can easily cause us to feel undeserving and unworthy.

Are You Ready to Get Rid of the 3rd Dimension Mindset?

This self-study course helps you change the mindset that you have about yourself and the world around you. You will finally feel worthy and the need follow rules will fade away. For more details.

Check out the Quiz, How Worthy Do You Feel?

If you need more help moving up to the 4th dimension mindset, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

 

Time Is a Sign You Have Found Your Twin Flame

Are you still unsure you have found your twin flame? Have you been on your twin flame journey less than a couple of years? More time will help you get clarity.

Time will tell if you have found your twin flame.

One of the signs the universe gives us is the amount of time we think about the same person day in and day out. It usually takes the universe years to finally convince us that we have really found our twin flame.

Here’s why…

If it’s an obsessive or ego-based relationship, our deep desire to be with that person begins to fade almost immediately. The attraction for that person is centered around trying to GET something from them, such as companionship, security, the ability to feel worthy, or money. It’s extremely difficult to wait for any length of time for the same person when we are focused on filling our imagined needs.

If it’s a twin flame relationship, our deep desire to be with that person is consistent over time, even though we may have periods that it’s less intense. But the desire stays consistent. The attraction for that person comes from wanting to GIVE unconditional love to them. That makes the relationship timeless.

Are You Ready to Make the Most of Your Time?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details.

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

You can also contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session. 

 

What’s Positive About Being Separated from Your Twin Flame?

Almost all of us twin flames have experienced times when we couldn’t physically communicate (see, hear, touch, or get a response) with our twin flame. If this is one of those times, before you get really depressed and think your world has come to an end, look at your separation differently. Physical separation is part of the journey to reaching the deepest love humanly possible.

Here’s Some Positive Things About Being Separated from Our Twin Flame…

Time Alone Gives Us a Really Good Reason to…

  • Get used to relying on a higher source (God, Higher Power, Spirit, Divine, Universe, Guides, or whatever you want to call it).
  • Get focused on what we truly want.
  • Realize we are on a hero’s journey.
  • Pay more attention our thoughts and feelings rather than what’s actually happening.
  • Work on ourselves to feel worthy and good enough for an ongoing amazing relationship in the near future.
  • Learn how to forgive ourselves, our twin flame, and others.
  • Eliminate all the doubts we have about our relationship.
  • Rethink our entire lives.
  • Use our intuition and become very spiritual.
  • Operate from a 4th dimension mindset instead of the 3rd dimension or ego.
  • Realize this is not a normal relationship that functions well on conditional love and a 3rd dimension mindset.
  • Address habits such as needing to please, staying crazy busy, addictions, and being dependent on others.
  • Grasp that sacrifice and compromises are not required and actually delay a happy outcome.
  • Do away with sabotagers such as the need to blame, apologize, and hide the truth.
  • Master a different way to communicate and feel connected to our twin flame—the nonphysical way.
  • Stay focused on unconditional loving no matter what your twin flame says or doesn’t say, or does or doesn’t do.
  • Discover how to appreciate the time alone.

Especially at the beginning of the journey, it’s hard to believe that everything that happens, including your time alone, is working towards your twin flame union. Once you start using your separation to do your inner work, it shortens your timeline for a happy outcome with your twin flame.

Are You Ready to Focus on Your Inner Work?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details.

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

You can also contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session. 

 

The Disadvantages of Having a Twin Flame

When most of us think about having a twin flame, what comes to mind is having the most fulfilling relationship humanly possible with a connection that is out-of-this-world. A relationship where whistles blow, bells ring, and fireworks ignite. No wonder it’s so appealing.

What usually doesn’t come to mind, are the disadvantages of having a twin flame.

The Disadvantages of Having a Twin Flame are…

1   WE CAN’T QUIT-

No matter how hard we try or what we do, we cannot get out of it. There might be times we think we have finally let our twin flame go, until we get signs from the universe or feel that magnetic force reel us back in.

2   WE BECOME REALLY OBSESSED-

We may have had an all or nothing attitude before, but this relationship takes it to the extreme. Everything else that we care about eventually takes a lower priority. Even our numbing devices and addictions, such as caffeine, food, busyness, texting, pills, alcohol, drugs, and cigarettes start losing our attention.

3   WE FIGHT OURSELVES-

We often have knock out battles between our mind and our heart. At times we are so sure we want nothing to do with our twin flame and then completely turn around the next moment and want to be with her/him so bad we can’t see straight.

4   WE HAVE TO FORGET ABOUT HAVING A NORMAL RELATIONSHIP-

There is no way our twin flame relationship will even resemble being like everyone else’s, at least until the planet evolves considerably.

5   WE WILL EXPERIENCE TERRIBLE LOWS-

Because the twin flame relationship is about getting rid of the 3rd dimension (ego) in both individuals at the same time, the lows can get extreme. One minute we can be fine and the next minute be in the deepest, darkest place we have ever felt. By the way, these spells can disappear if even one of the twin flame’s does their inner work on a consistent basis.

6   WE WILL HAVE TO BECOME SPIRITUAL-

There is no way of getting around it, we will become extremely spiritual. Between all the paranormal events, undeniable signs from the universe, telepathy, dreams, and intuitive abilities, it will make us believe there is something greater—beyond what we physical see, hear, and touch. In fact, it becomes so convincing that all our preprogrammed religious beliefs of what is right and what is wrong will become irrelevant.

7   WE WILL SPEND A LOT OF TIME ALONE-

Our desire to be social and have casual conversations will fade and at times almost vanish.  We’ll be more interested in solitude, creativity, and spiritual endeavors.  The twin flame journey drives us inward.

8   WE HAVE TO GIVE UP THE IDEA OF FREE WILL-

Most people think they have the ability to make choices as separate individuals, without these choices being predestined by fate or divine will. If we had free will in our lives and with this relationship, it would have turned out exactly the way we wanted it to a long time ago.

9   WE WILL LOSE FRIENDS-

Because our focus centers around our twin flame, we have less and less in common with others who are not experiencing the same phenomenon. We might have a couple of friends left who support our roller coaster relationship and all of our changes, but no matter how hard they try they can’t quite understand it.

10   WE FIND OURSELVES DOING THINGS WE NEVER THOUGHT WE WOULD EVER DO-

Because the magnetic pull to be with our twin flame is so strong, we’ll do practically anything to get to get her/him in our arms. We’ll change jobs or move hundreds of miles just to be physically closer to our twin flame. We’ll try all sorts of spiritual practices just to feel a deeper connection. We’ll even change every belief that is standing in the way of a happy outcome with our twin flame.

 

Huge disadvantages, huh? Or are they? These 10 disadvantages force us out of our comfort zones, stretch us beyond what we think is possible, turn our whole lives inside out, and most of all, prepare us for our twin flame union.  

Are You Ready to Embrace Your twin Flame Journey?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details.

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

You can also contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session. 

Why People Who Feel Unworthy Can Have a Hard Time Meditating

There are lots of us who can’t get ourselves to sit down, be quiet, and relax for more than two seconds. Sometimes it’s a symptom of not feeling deserving or good enough.

We Probably Feel Unworthy When Meditating Causes Us to…

1   FEEL GUILTY-

When we feel unworthy, we tend to keep crazy busy trying to prove our worth. So, when we take time out of our day to do nothing, we feel guilty for not being productive.

2   FEEL SELFISH-

When we feel unworthy, we tend to think others are more important, which causes us to have a habit of filling our day caring for their needs. No wonder we have a hard time putting ourselves first, even for a few minutes.

3   WORRY-

When we feel unworthy, we tend to make meditating a horrible experience by worrying if we are doing it correctly. Because we have a habit of criticizing ourselves for every little thing, the last thing we want to do is spend time meditating the wrong way.

4   FEEL MORE INFERIOR-

When we feel unworthy, we tend to constantly compare ourselves with others. If we are having difficulty siting down, or slowing our thoughts, we beat ourselves up. That then causes us to not feel as good as other meditators.

Pay Attention to How You Feel!

If you feel this way when you try to meditate, it’s not surprising you want to avoid it like the plague. The act of meditating is not important! There are lots of different techniques that get the same effects. What is significant is if you want to continue to feel unworthy.

Are You Ready to Stop Feeling Unworthy?

This self-study course helps you change the mindset you have about yourself and the world around you. You will be able to finally feel worthy and be yourself, whether you end up meditating or not. For more details.

Also, check out the Quiz, How Worthy Do You Feel?

If you need more help feeling worthy, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

 

When 1111 or 11:11 is NOT a Twin Flame Sign

When people contact me, they often mention that they see 1111 or 11:11 everywhere. You need to know that, just seeing four ones plastered everywhere is not necessarily a sign from the universe. Since 1111 or 11:11 have become so well known as twin flame signs, it’s easy to get fooled by thinking if we see or hear them, we have found our true love.

Here’s When 1111 or 11:11 Probably Isn’t a Twin Flame Sign…

1   THERE ARE NO OTHER SIGNS

Pay attention when there aren’t any other signs from the universe that will point us in the direction of our twin flame, such as seeing or hearing her/his name (especially if it’s an uncommon one, or if it’s first and last name together), or her/his birthdate (especially if it’s with the year too).

The key is the more uncommon and unlikely the sign is, the more the universe is sending us a private message.

2   WE ARE LOOKING FOR IT

Sometimes when we want that person to be our twin flame, we will start helping the universe by watching out for 1111 or 11:11. We might catch ourselves waiting for the clock to change, and guessing when 11:11 is.

It’s not much of a sign from the universe if we don’t trust that we’ll notice it when it does happen.

3   IT DOESN’T COME WITH A FEELING

A sign from the universe has a feeling attached to it. We feel something that is either emotional or physical. Emotionally we might get an “aha”, feel touched, or feel a little spooked out by how the sign appeared. Physically we might get chills, goose bumps, teared up, or feel our heart center expand.

The feeling that comes with the sign is almost always more important than actually seeing or hearing 1111 or 11:11.

 

Even if you do get others signs, are not looking for 1111 or 11:11, or do have a feeling when you see or hear it, it still takes inner work to have a happy outcome.

Are You Ready to Start Your Inner Work?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details.

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

You can also contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session. 

 

How Being Patient Sabotages Your Twin Flame Relationship

You would think being patient would be a loving thing to do, especially if you are in the runner/chaser pattern. But, the majority of the time it’s not.

Here’s How Patience Can Sabotage Our Twin Flame Relationship…

When we use patience to…

  • Blame our twin flame, their current partner, ourselves, anyone or anything else for the separation. A large part of the twin flame journey is learning how to forgive, even this.
  • Wait, which really means that we’re not ready for physical union yet either.
  • Keep fantasizing. That means we think our daydreams of a storybook romance just the way we want it are so much better than having an unconditionally loving relationship.
  • Stay in our comfort zone. Being with our twin flame sometimes has so many ups, downs, twists, and turns there might be a tendency to be afraid of the journey.
  • Stall doing our own inner work, which is letting go of the ego’s 3rd dimension mindset and releasing guilt, fear, and feeling unworthy.

As you can see, being patient is often used as an excuse to stay in fear of having a better a relationship than you have now.

 Are You Ready to Stop Being Patient and Do Your Inner Work?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details.

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

You can also contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

 

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