Vickie Champion

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15 Signs You Have Not Forgiven Yourself

For most of us, forgiving others is a whole lot easier than letting ourselves off the hook. Maybe it’s because we were taught to put others before ourselves and that it was somehow selfish to unconditionally love ourselves.

Here’s Signs We Have Not Forgiven Ourselves…

When We…

1   Don’t feel we deserve to be happy or feel worthy.

2   Are dead set that what we did or didn’t say, or did or didn’t do was wrong.

3   Make it a habit of sacrificing our needs and wants.

4   Criticize ourselves.

5   Feel bad or guilty every time we think about a particular event.

6   Keep apologizing for what we did or didn’t do.

7   Strive to be perfect.

8   Totally disregard when others tell us there is no reason to blame ourselves for what happened.

9   Deflect gifts or compliments from others.

10   Have a difficult time making decisions, afraid we’ll be wrong again.

11   Think about a particular situation over and over, especially what we did wrong and what we should have done.

12   Are very insecure about our abilities, knowledge, or just about anything we say or do.

13   Think our life or others’ lives would have been better if we didn’t say or do what we did. We think we have caused ourselves or others to lose something because of our actions.

14   Want to fix or rectify our past mistakes by trying to control our current behavior.

15   Have no idea what our dreams, desires, and wants are.

If we would just give ourselves a break and leave the past in the past, instead of punishing ourselves over and over for it.

Did you know not forgiving yourself causes you to feel unworthy?

Are You Ready to Forgive Yourself?

This self-study course or program helps you change the mindset you have about yourself to be able to finally feel worthy. For more details.

Also check out the Quiz, How Worthy Do You Feel?

If you need help forgiving yourself, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

 

Twin Flames: 29 Ways to Waste Time in Your Relationship

It’s easy to sit back and wait for our twin flame to stop running and come back into our arms. All we think we need to do is learn how to be patient. That attitude either causes a very long wait, or the same runner/chaser pattern, on and off, for years.

Here’s Ways We Can Waste Time While Waiting…

When We Keep…

1   Ignoring our inner guidance or intuition.

2   Feeling anger and grudges are justified, especially with ourselves or our twin flame. Someone has to be responsible!

3   Thinking we need to live by traditions and expectations of others, and feeling guilty if we don’t.

4   Calling ourselves or others names, such as idiot, asshole, loser, or fatty. We only do this to make ourselves or others feel wrong and unworthy.

5   Hiding the truth.

6   Considering God, Higher Power, Universe, Spirit, or Source as hokey.

7    Resenting others for having a normal life.

8   Trying to build our self-esteem by criticizing others.

9   Avoiding downtime or quiet time.

10   Wanting to get retribution for being betrayed.

11   Believing we can hurt other people and others can hurt us by telling the truth.

12   Being a victim of something that happened in the past.

13   Complaining about what we don’t have and what is not going right in our relationship.

14   Letting our ability to feel good depend on what’s currently happening.

15   Trying to make others feel guilty for what they did or didn’t do.

16   Being easily deceived by others.

17   Holding onto regrets about past events and what should have happened.

18   Fighting with all our might to stay in our comfort zone and to not ruffle feathers.

19   Believing thoughts are private unless we express them.

20   Being determined to meet the expectations of others.

21   Believing compromise and sacrifice are required in any relationship.

22   Criticizing ourselves.

23   Trying to be in control of what happens. This usually includes making lots of plans and promises.

24   Feeling sorry for ourselves.

25   Getting worried when something changes in the relationship.

26   Thinking others’ opinions matter more than our own.

27   Focusing on trying to do and say what will please your twin flame.

28   Taking things personal, trying to make everything that happens about us.

29   Feeling like you wouldn’t wish this kind of relationship on anyone.

Whew! What a list. We can waste time in our relationship as long as we want to, but here’s the problem: Every thought we think has an effect. So, if we think the negative thoughts, no matter what the subject, we will get negative effects. It’s much easier and pleasant to change the way we think than go through the painful experiences we will have by wasting time.

If you would like help while waiting…

Twin Flame Self-Study Course

This program explains how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details

 Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

You can also contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

How Building Self-Esteem is in the 3rd Dimension Mindset

I know it sounds crazy to say building our self-esteem is in the lower dimension mindset. But it is.

The 3rd dimension is about trying to build ourselves up to the point we feel good about ourselves which is called high self-esteem. Of course, if we don’t work at building ourselves up, we will feel bad about ourselves, therefore having low self-esteem. On the other hand, it’s frowned upon to build ourselves up too high and become narcissistic. As you can see, this mindset keeps us focused on balancing the fine line between low, high, and too much self-esteem.

Here’s More on How Building Self-Esteem is in the 3rd Dimension Mindset…

WE HAVE TO DO SOMETHING TO EARN IT-  The 3rd dimension is all about doing something to deserve something else in return, such as high self-esteem. We could do something to try to control our behaviors, do something to improve our appearance, or do something to make ourselves happier. We could also set goals and achieve them—all of this takes lot of hard work in order to feel good about ourselves.

IT DEPENDS ON HOW SUCCESSFUL WE ARE-   The 3rd dimension is about winning.  Not only do we need to do something to build self-esteem, but we also need to be successful at it. Without winning, we won’t feel good about ourselves. We’ll feel like a failure.

IT DEPENDS ON OUR EVALUATION OF OURSELVES-   If we do things that live up to our expectations, we feel good about ourselves and if we don’t, we feel bad about ourselves. In other words, we are practicing conditional love—if conditions are favorable, we will love ourselves and therefore, have high self-esteem.

IT’S SHORT LASTING-   The 3rd dimension purpose is to keep us busy building, not to feel high self-esteem. So, feeling good about ourselves doesn’t last long at all until we are busy doing something to achieve our next success.

A better way to feel good about ourselves is to drop the 3rd dimension mindset and trying to balance our self-esteem. Instead, move up to the 4th dimension.

Did you know behind the surface of needing to build our self-esteem is a feeling of unworthiness?

Are you Ready to Get Rid of the 3rd Dimension Mindset?

This self-study course helps you change the mindset you have about yourself. You will finally feel worthy and have self-esteem without having to build it up. For more details.

Also check out the Quiz, How Worthy Do You Feel?

If you need help with feeling worthy, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

 

Are there Things About Yourself You are Ashamed of?

Almost all of us have something, if not several things, we are ashamed of. Maybe it’s something we were born with—something defective or flawed such as our appearance, personality, intelligence, or background.

Maybe it’s something we regret doing or not doing that has had a lasting effect on how we feel about ourselves—something we haven’t forgiven ourselves for.

It could even be something positive like a talent or rare ability that we feel is a burden.

Actually, we could be ashamed of absolutely anything! Anything we feel guilty about, want to get rid of, or hide from others, we are ashamed of.

Good News!

Whatever it is, it doesn’t matter. Feeling ashamed is caused by having a 3rd dimension mindset. It’s that simple! If we move to the 4th dimension mindset, we can master any defect, regret, or uniqueness we have.

Are you aware at the core of feeling ashamed is feeling unworthy?

Did You Know That Feeling Ashamed is a Sign We Feel Unworthy?

This self-study course helps you change the mindset you have about yourself to be able to finally feel worthy. For more details.

Also check out the Quiz, How Worthy Do You Feel?

If you need more help feeling worthy, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

 

Do You Often Feel Something is Wrong with You?

We might feel something is wrong with our appearance, personality traits, habits, behaviors, or emotions. It could actually be about anything. We can even believe we have several things wrong with us on an ongoing basis.

Feeling something is wrong with us comes from a 3rd dimension mindset.

The 3rd dimension mindset is about trying to live by preset rules and beliefs about what is right and what is wrong. We could set up these rules and beliefs from our past experiences or those of others, to please others, or to shirk our responsibilities completely and let authority figures dictate to us what is right and what is wrong.

Other Things About Preset Rules and Beliefs…

Preset Rules and Beliefs…

  • Are extremely hard to follow.
  • Keep us judging what is right and what is wrong.
  • Set a limit on what we can and cannot do.
  • Keep us criticizing ourselves when we mess up.
  • Make us doubt ourselves and our abilities to make right decisions.
  • Cause us to ignore our inner guide or intuition.

A way out of feeling something is always wrong with you is to move to the 4th dimension mindset.

Did you know that beneath the surface of feeling something is wrong with you is a feeling of unworthiness?

Are You Ready to Get Rid of the 3rd Dimension Mindset?

This self-study course helps you change the mindset that you have about yourself. You will finally feel worthy and that feeling something is wrong with you will disappear. For more details.

Check out the Quiz, How Worthy Do You Feel?

If you need more help feeling worthy, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

 

Why We Don’t Make Feeling Worthy Important

Feeling unworthy is a horrible feeling that we all probably experience to some degree or another. So, why do most of us make feeling worthy insignificant or a low priority?

Here’s A Few Reasons We Don’t Make Feeling Worthy Important…

When we…

  • Don’t think we are worthy enough to feel worthy. Not making it a high priority is one of the ways we punish ourselves for being unworthy.
  • Believe it is a lost cause because we were born disadvantaged or underprivileged.
  • Think it’s too hard to do. We have tried to change our behaviors or achieve goals to feel worthy, only to fall short and feel like a failure.
  • Don’t think it really affects our health, income, career, relationships, or even the quality of our life.
  • Don’t understand that feeling worthy is only a mindset that puts an end to judging and condemning ourselves for every little thing we think is wrong.
  • Don’t know how to feel worthy or where to even start.

It seems like the last thing we want to change is our mindset. We actually think if we interfere with our beliefs, we will somehow lose ourselves, but we really will uncover who we really are and finally feel worthy.

If you would like help with changing your mindset to feel worthy… 

Are You Ready to Change Your Mindset?

This self-study program helps you change the mindset you have about yourself to be able to finally feel worthy and deserving. For more details.

Also check out the Quiz, How Worthy Do You Feel? 

If you need help with feeling worthy, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

 

Don’t Make Feeling Worthy into a Lot of Work

Most of us try to feel worthy by trying to control our behaviors.

We may struggle to keep achieving, with the glory of each success only lasting days, at the most. We justify it by telling ourselves, “Maybe if I set my goals higher, I will feel worthy.” This keeps us focused on doing more work.

Or we could try to control our behavior by restricting our behavior to what we feel is right and staying away from what we feel is wrong. If we are honest with ourselves, this doesn’t really make us feel worthier. It usually makes us hone in on that one time we slipped up by doing something wrong and condemned ourselves for it. This keeps us focused on constantly policing and judging ourselves.

The way to feel worthy doesn’t take a lot of hard work! All it takes is the willingness to shift our mindset from the 3rd to the 4th dimension.

If you want help feeling worthy, check out my…

Feel Worthy COURSE

This self-study program helps you change the mindset you have about yourself to be able to finally feel worthy. For more details.

Also check out the Quiz, How Worthy Do You Feel?

If you need help with feeling worthy, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

 

42 Signs You Feel Unworthy

Sometimes the way out of a mindset is first acknowledging how lousy we feel about ourselves and how it is impacting the quality of our lives. This list is for those who are tired of ignoring the elephant in the room and willing to begin taking the first steps to change it.

Here’s 42 Signs We Feel Unworthy…   

When we…

1   Don’t think we deserve what we want.

2   Are extremely critical of ourselves.

3   Have a tendency to people please or be too nice.

4   Strive to be perfect.

5   Feel intimidated or inferior around certain people.

6   Constantly worry about what we did or did not do.

7   Have plenty of regrets.

8   Strongly believe we need to do something to be loved or accepted.

9   Are afraid to make the wrong decisions.

10   Think there are things we can improve on or change to be worthier.

11   Stay crazy busy trying to prove our worth.

12   Think other opinions are more important than our own.

13   Deprive ourselves of the things we want.

14   Are easily deceived or misled by others.

15   Have a hard time asking for or accepting help.

16   Feel we are never good enough.

17   Don’t like the person we have become.

18   Have a fear of not living up to others’ expectations.

19   Find ourselves sacrificing and compromising more often than not.

20   Lack the willingness to forgive ourselves.

21   Are afraid to tell the truth.

22   Often feel depressed.

23   Feel we would be worthier if we looked, spoke, or acted differently.

24   Are afraid we will feel like a failure.

25   Find ourselves envious of others.

26   Think we were born less fortunate than others.

27   Think about our past mistakes a lot.

28   Have a hard time communicating and expressing our thoughts and feelings to others.

29   Have a difficult time looking into other’s eyes.

30   Feel guilty and apologize often.

31   Have a hard time accepting kindness from others.

32   Feel guilty about not accomplishing enough.

33   Think we are flawed or defective in some way.

34   Focus on what we are doing wrong and our faults.

35   Find it difficult to accept praise or appreciation from others.

36   Take others’ opinions personally.

37   Feel insecure about our abilities.

38   Have no idea what our dreams or desires are.

39   Wonder why others tend to take advantage of us.

40   Don’t feel respected.

41   Believe the more we are needed, the worthier we will feel.

42   Claim we don’t know how to listen to our inner guidance or intuition.

Acknowledging our thoughts and how we feel is the first step in feeling worthy. The more of these signs we identify with, the more we have ignored the elephant and let it impact the quality of our life. The good part is that once we become aware of our thoughts and feelings, even though they are negative, the elephant disappears.

If you would like to speed up the process of changing your mindset to feel worthy…  

Feel Worthy COURSE

This self-study program helps you change the mindset you have about yourself to be able to finally feel worthy. For more details.

Also check out the Quiz, How Worthy Do You Feel? 

If you need help with feeling worthy, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

 

Reasons the 3rd Dimension Mindset Settles for Less

How many times have you settled for something inferior or not what you really wanted?

I remember wanting a blue bike so bad I couldn’t see straight, and not really knowing why. Then for some reason, I settled for a red one.

Another time I forgot about the person I believed was my true heart’s desire because someone else came along who found me attractive.

 

Here’s Reasons Why the 3rd Dimension Mindset Settles for Second-rate…

When we…

  • Doubt that we know what we want or that it will be satisfying.
  • Get impatient and take the quick fix
  • Start people pleasing and let someone talk us out of what we want.
  • Feel we don’t deserve what we really want.
  • Believe it’s not possible or that we have no chance of succeeding.
  • Want to play it safe and stay in our comfort zone.

 

Did you notice, the reasons all involved FEAR?  The 3rd dimension is all about being afraid. FEAR that we don’t really know what we want or it won’t be that good. FEAR if we don’t grab what’s available, we will be left empty-handed. FEAR someone else knows better or that what we want is out of our league. FEAR that it’s not logical to have what we want or that having it will require us to be different than who we are.

When we settle because we are afraid, we get LESS. When we wait for what we really want, we get AMAZING.

 

If you need help not settling for the ho-hum, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

 Did you Know Settling for Less is one of the Signs of Feeling Unworthy?

This self-study course helps you change the mindset you have about yourself to be able to finally feel worthy. For more details.

 

Also check out the Quiz, How Worthy Do You Feel?

The Question Twin Flames Want Answered the Most

Why do most of us hire psychics? To know when we are going to be with our twin flame, of course. But, even when we do get a time frame from a psychic reading, it never seems to be accurate.

Here’s the problem…

Psychics usually read the energy in the moment. For most people who have little desire to do personal/spiritual growth, and have ingrained ways of thinking, it’s easy for psychics to figure out their future.

Every thought we think has an effect. So, if we keep thinking the same thoughts, we will get the same effects in life. If we operate mainly in the 3rd dimension, that is especially true. It becomes real easy for psychics to predict.

But, for a twin flame, the energy changes often. You and your twin flame are mentally connected. Therefore, every thought you or your twin flame thinks changes the effects. That’s why there are times it feels like we are on an emotional roller coaster.

On top of the twists, turns, ups, and downs, it feels like we are constantly being prodded and pushed from God or a Higher Power into doing our inner work. This combination makes it very difficult for psychics to predict our future accurately.

I haven’t heard of any twin flames yet, including myself, who have gotten an accurate time frame about “when we will be with our twin flame.”

I don’t do psychics readings, but I can help you shorten your timeline of being with your twin flame. Here’s two ways…

Twin Flame Self-Study Course

This program explains how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome.

For more Details

or

Twin Flame One-on-one Coaching

Coaching consists of 40-minute sessions over the phone (within the United States and Canada). For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact, Vickie Champion.

For more Details

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

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