Vickie Champion

"I inspire and strengthen lives one thought at a time."

What Causes Loneliness or that Isolated Feeling?

Have you ever been so lonely, and felt so desperate, that you tried to grab someone—anyone—to make yourself feel better? Have you noticed, that even being in a satisfying romantic relationship, or in a room full of people, you can still feel just as lonely? What causes that miserable feeling to creep up on us like that, anyway?

We have all probably at one time or another run around trying to find a love interest, family, friends, or even strangers to rescue us from this horrible, isolated feeling.

So, What Causes our Loneliness?

A Course in Miracles (ACIM) states,

“Only what you have not given can be lacking in any situation.”

What does that mean? Could we be seeking the love that we already have, but are not giving? This reminds me of the song “You Get What You Give.” So, if we want to feel connected and loved, we need to extend love.

Other statements in A Couse in Miracles that validate this point are…

“Offer it and it will come to you, because it is drawn to itself.”

     Another is,

“By giving you receive.”

     That doesn’t mean we need to write a check, volunteer for a charity, buy gifts, or people-please. It means all we need to do to extend love and end our loneliness is to think loving thoughts about others. It’s that simple.

 

If you need help with ACIM or your loneliness, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

 

5 Ways Judging Can Make Your Twin Flame Journey Harder

These days voicing opinions and taking a side on any subject has become the new “normal.” So, it’s very easy to carry that over into our twin flame relationship. We can have opinions on what we or our twin flame did or didn’t do and said or didn’t say, the current moment, or what we think will happen in the future.

Sometimes opinions are only choices or preferences. Sometimes they are really intuitive insights from a higher source. But other times opinions are judgments that separate our head from our heart and make one side “wrong.” Judgments, both delay a happy outcome with our twin flame and they make the journey very unpleasant.

5 Ways Judging Can Make Our Twin Flame Journey Harder 


Judging Can…

1   INCREASE OUR LONELINESS-

If we are making judgements about the lack of physical contact with our twin flame, or blaming ourselves or our twin flame for what happened in the past and who was at fault, it’s extremely difficult to NOT feel that terrible feeling of isolation. Our faultfinding thoughts separate us from that higher source, our twin flame, who we really are, and an easy twin flame journey.

2   CAUSE CONFLICT WITH OUR TWIN FLAME-

Judging is a great ego device for separating. When we are judging we assume our take on anyone or anything is the correct one. That means any other take must be “wrong,” which initiates the conflict.

Most conflicts aren’t the “fight to the finish” kind. They are usually pushed under the surface to simmer (sometimes for years, decades, or lifetimes).

Conflict only dissolves when we stop judging and are willing to see our twin, ourselves, or the situation differently.

3   MAKE US FEEL DEPRESSED ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP-

When we are judging, we are focused on “what’s not going right,” and “what needs to happen for it to get better.”  With that narrow focus, no wonder we see things as doom and gloom. Depression comes from thinking we won’t get what our heart desires.

4   PRODUCE PHYSCIAL SICKNESS-

Judgmental thoughts and attitudes have a tremendous influence on our body’s immune system, and whether the medicines and medical procedures will be effective in healing our body.

We can change any illness with thoughts and attitudes that are loving, open-minded, and positive.

5   PREVENT US FROM BEING AWARE OF OUR INTUITION-

When we are judging, we are locking ourselves into a certain opinion, usually with no wiggle room. That makes it extremely difficult or even impossible to be aware of the hundreds of intuitive insights we get each day. We’ve got to get to neutral or not invested in making someone or something “wrong” before we are willing to pay attention to a higher source’s guidance.

Are You Ready to Stop Judging Yourself, Your Twin Flame, or the Relationship?

I have a twin flame self-study course that shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more details.

I’ve just added intuition eBooks for two of the Myers-Briggs personality types that are common for twin flames, INFJ and INFP.   

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

You can also contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

Take an Ordinary Intuition Quiz to the Next Level!

Don’t take a one-size-fits all intuition test, like my “How Often Do You Use Your Intuition Quiz” and stop at that. Sure, it can give you a basic idea where you stand with tapping into this amazing source, but it doesn’t give you a more customized version that applies to your personality type.

If you are one of the Myers-Briggs personality types that wants to get serious about mastering your intuitive abilities, such as an INFJ and an INFP, take advantage of your unique intuition test.

INFJ Intuition Quiz

INFP Intuition Quiz

Or if you tend to lean towards an ISFJ personality type and have a more difficult time being aware of your intuition, this test may help.

ISFJ Intuition Quiz

Are you Ready to Increase Your Ability to be Aware of Your Intuition?

Check out the How to Feel Worthy self-study course. It can help you change the mindset you have about yourself and the world around you, which allows your intuition to surface. For more details.

I have also just added intuition eBooks for three of the Myers-Briggs personality types.   

Or there are several blogs in the Intuition section on my website that could help.

Is Your Longing for Your Twin Flame a Need or a Desire?

Almost all twin flame relationships have a period of time when they are not physically near each other. The distance is a part of getting rid of our 3rd dimension (ego) frame of mind and accepting the higher dimension mindsets. A component of this is gaining more clarity and understanding about our longing for physical contact. We could ask ourselves this question…

Is my Wanting to Physically be with my Twin Flame a NEED or a DESIRE?

To Clarify if Our Longing is a NEED…

1    A NEED TO SOLVE OUR PROBLEMS

Having a NEED is our ego’s (3rd dimension’s) way of solving our problems. Our problems could be loneliness, making decisions, an inability to feel safe, inadequate finances, or feeling unworthy, to name a few. Our ego wants us to believe that if our needs were fulfilled in our twin flame relationship, we would be in bliss.

2   A NEED FOR PHYSICAL BODIES

A NEED is associated with what one or both physical bodies do or don’t do, or say or don’t say. A good example of this is the longing for companionship, which is usually wanting the two physical bodies to be near each other.

3   A NEED TO PROVE SOMETHING TO OTHERS

Usually, but not always, a NEED comes with a longing to prove something to someone else. Maybe it’s proving we are worthy of attracting someone like our twin flame. Perhaps we want to show others how enlightened and intuitive we are or prove that we were right all along in spite of the condescending and skeptical behaviors of others.

4   A NEED CAUSES IMPATIENCE

Having a NEED almost always causes us to be impatient, even chomping at the bit, to be able to physically see, hear, and touch our twin flame’s body.

This Impatience Tends to Make Us…

  • Focus and question about how and when the in-person union with our twin flame will happen.
  • Put our life on hold until we get that need met.
  • Frustrated by the physical absence of our twin flame.

5   A NEED REQUIRES FULFILLMENT

A NEED can only be fulfilled in the 3rd dimension (what we see, hear, touch, taste, and smell with our body’s senses) to feel complete and whole. Nothing else will work!

To Clarify if Our Longing is a DESIRE…

1    A DESIRE DOESN’T SOLVE OUR PROBLEMS

Having a DESIRE is our intuition’s (4th dimension’s) way of leading us in the direction of our heart’s desires.

2   A DESIRE IS NOT LIMITED TO PHYSICAL BODIES

A DESIRE is associated with how things feel, such as the feeling of the twin flame connection or the feeling of “knowing” or certainty.

3   WITH A DESIRE, WE DON’T KNOW WHY WE WANT IT

No matter how hard we try to give a valid reason why we want to be with our twin flame, we come up empty. When we find ourselves fighting and resisting it because we can’t justify it, it’s a good sign it’s a DESIRE and not a NEED,

4   A DESIRE HAS PATIENCE

Having a DESIRE makes the wait to physically see, hear, and touch our twin flame’s body not such a big deal and even tolerable.

This Patience Tends to Allow Us to…

  • Focus on the feelings and the connection of the relationship that’s happening right now.
  • Enjoy every step of the journey.
  • Not be bothered so much by the physical absence of our twin flame.

5   WE ARE CURIOUS TO VALIDATE OUR DESIRE

A DESIRE comes with an excitement and interest to see evidence of our desire, but there is no NEED to prove something to someone else.  

6   A DESIRE AUTOMATICALLY STIMULATES UNCONDIONAL LOVE

A DESIRE has a built-in mechanism to give unconditional love to our twin flame instead of trying to get something from them, like a NEED requires.

In other words, our fulfillment comes from just having the DESIRE to love someone soooo much.

Important!

IF YOUR LONGING IS MOSTLY A NEED

If you have reasons why you want to be with your twin flame, put an enormous value on being in physical proximity with your twin flame, want to prove something to others, and put your life on hold until you are with them, you will probably be disappointed if you ever get with your twin flame. You have a lot of inner work to do before you can have a lasting happy outcome.

IF YOUR LONGING IS A LITTLE OF BOTH

It’s OK if you have a little of both. The more inner work you do to get intuitive insights on fulfilling NEEDS, the more likely you will have an amazing relationship with your twin flame.

IF YOUR LONGING IS MOSTLY A DESIRE

You are probably not even reading this if your longing is mostly a DESIRE, because you just “know” it will happen at the right time for everyone.

Are You Ready to Do Your Twin Flame Inner Work?

I have a twin flame self-study course that shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more details.

I’ve just added intuition eBooks for two of the Myers-Briggs personality types that are common for twin flames, INFJ and INFP.   

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

You can also contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

Why Some Under 35 Would Be Aware of or Meet Their Twin Flame

It is not very common at all to be aware of or to physically meet your twin flame before you turn 35. On those rare occasions when you do, your twin flame is more often than not older—and usually by more than a few years.

Here’s Possible Reasons Why You Would Be Aware of or Meet Your Twin Flame Before You Turn 35…

1   You might have an INFJ or an INFP Myers-Briggs personality type. Both types tend to be mature spiritually, highly sensitive, and practice trusting and following their intuition or inner guide.

2   You might need a cause or a purpose to work towards. In order to have a happy outcome with your twin flame, it is necessary to release your ego (3rd dimension mindset) and learn how to unconditionally love them.  There probably isn’t a higher purpose anyone can accomplish in a relationship.

3   You might have a lot of inner work to do. Maybe you had a rough childhood, feel unworthy, have addictions or habits you need to let go, or have some deep-rooted anger to uncover. Or perhaps you just need to hone your intuitive skills or learn to channel.

4   You might need to learn by experiencing the difference between a twin flame relationship, a soulmate relationship, a karmic relationship, and just an ordinary acquaintance.

5    Feeling the twin flame connection might help both of you step up the pace and get the ball rolling for an amazing journey.

No matter what your age, what you need, or what form your twin flame journey takes…

There are no accidents.

It’s perfect for you and your twin flame relationship! 

Are You Ready to Do Your Twin Flame Inner Work?

I have a twin flame self-study course that shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more details

I’ve just added intuition eBooks for two of the Myers-Briggs personality types that are common for twin flames, INFJ and INFP.   

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

You can also contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

When Does Twin Flame Chasing Become a Little Creepy?

Chasers usually feel the incredible pull of their twin flame connection easily, which causes them to start moving towards it. We will do anything and everything to get our twin flame in our arms. But sometimes, we can let our chasing become a little creepy.

What Can Start the Descent into Creepiness

When our chasing becomes a constant habit, it’s becoming weird and is not really beneficial in bringing about our twin flame union. In fact, the continual habit of chasing can put us in a comfort zone which can continue for years and years. Obviously, we are ignoring a higher source’s guidance and intuitive insights when we prefer our chasing habit.

What Advances the Descent into Creepiness

Being enamored and absolutely fascinated with our twin flame as an individual with a physical body can escalate creepiness. This includes our twin flame’s appearance, behaviors, personality traits, or anything we can see, hear, touch, taste, or smell. This tends to exclude the intense connection, our part in it, any intuitive insights, and the out-of-this-world feelings in the relationship.

Signs Twin Flame Chasing Has Become a Little Creepy

When we…

  • Get no responses, but continue to reach out to our twin flame either in-person, by voice, or by written word.
  • Reach out with all sorts of excuses why we are doing it. For instance, claiming we are worried about them or one of their loved ones. Or we want to help them understand why we did what we did or said what we said.
  • Talk to others about our twin flame’s appearance, their personality, why they are perfect for us, or what they say or don’t say, or what they do or don’t do.
  • Often try to guess what our twin flame is doing in the moment or what their day consists of.
  • Notice others trying to change the subject, roll their eyes, disappear, or ask us to stop talking about our twin flame.
  • Check our twin flame’s social media posts more than once a day.
  • Know our twin flame’s movements so well that they’ve become predictable patterns.
  • Create imaginary conversations between ourselves and our twin flame.
  • Liking or commenting on practically every post on our twin flame’s social media.
  • Intentionally try to run into our twin flame.
  • Develop elaborate fantasies about a future life with our twin flame.
  • Can give a detailed description of who we think our twin flame is, including personality characteristics, appearance, likes and dislikes, routines, and body movements.
  • Want to question our twin flame’s friends and family about them.
  • Have been ghosted on social media by our twin flame or have had our twin flame change their phone number and make it unlisted.
  • Know our twin flame is frightened of us.
  • Have been told by our twin flame not to reach out to them, and we ignore it.

To Sum It Up

If our chasing has gotten a little creepy at times, then all we have to do is…

1   Slow down, ask, and follow our intuition or inner guide before we reach out or fall into our chasing habits.

2  Take our focus off of our twin flame’s physical body and instead pay more attention to the feelings we are experiencing in the relationship.

3   Get into doing the inner work that is needed to improve the relationship.

 

Are You Ready to Take the Creepiness Out of Your Twin Flame Relationship?

I have a twin flame self-study course that shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more details.

I’ve just added intuition eBooks for two of the Myers-Briggs personality types that are common for twin flames, INFJ and INFP.   

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website. You can also contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

What are the Main Priorities in a Twin Flame Relationship?

No matter how strong our desire is to physically be with our twin flame, there are three priorities we need to master before anything long lasting can take ahold. Without this focus, the relationship will continue to be frustrating, be an emotional roller coaster, or constantly go in and out of the runner/chaser pattern.

The 3 Main Priorities in a Twin Flame Relationship…

1   The number one priority is to build a really close relationship with that higher source that guides us towards twin flame union. This higher source can…

  • Solve any problem in the relationship so everyone wins.
  • Orchestrate when and how events will happen in the relationship.
  • Know when we are ready for more love and happiness.
  • Give us intuitive insights and signs from the universe along the journey.

2   Another important priority is paying attention to our thoughts and perceptions, changing negative ones to positive ones as soon as possible. In other words, moving our mindset from the 3rd dimension mindset (ego) to mostly in 4th Dimension mindset. This minimizes our sabotaging tendencies in the relationship.

3   The last priority that’s really important is to learn how to unconditionally love our twin flame. This is a lot harder than it seems. This means we learn to not let anything that our twin flame does or doesn’t do, or says or doesn’t say irritate us in anyway whatsoever.

What’s Not a Priority?

Since we want to be physically near our twin flame soooo much, we can easily spend time wishing and dreaming about “how” and “when” we will be with them again, and forecasting what will happen then. THIS IS NOT A PRIORITY!

To Sum It Up

If we focus on mastering the three main priorities, the journey will be so much more enjoyable that the wait will seem like only an instant.

Are You Ready to Master the 3 Twin Flame Relationship Priorities?

I have a twin flame self-study course that shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more details.

I’ve just added intuition eBooks for two of the Myers-Briggs personality types that are common for twin flames, INFJ and INFP.   

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

You can also contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

 

 

Signs You are Ready for a Twin Flame Relationship

It’s very unlikely you yourself will ever be able to manifest or materialize your twin flame (see my blog “Can You Manifest Your Twin Flame?”), but you can become a magnet that attracts them into your awareness.

Here’s Signs You are Ready for a Twin Flame Relationship…

When You…

1   Strongly believe in a higher source (God, a Higher Power, your Guides, Source, Spirit, the Universe, Divine, or whatever term you want to call it).

2   Desire a deep connection with a romantic partner—one that is miraculous and awe-inspiring for eternity.  It’s when you crave relationship intimacy at the highest level humanly possible.

3   Have a habit of forgiving events, situations, or disagreements you have had in the past. That includes your own actions, those of past partners, or anyone else.

4   Are willing to give up numbing your feelings. This could be with food, pills, alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, caffeine, impulse buying, keeping crazy busy, or the hundreds of any other ways.

5   Are not always needing to be in a physical relationship with someone.

6   Don’t need to see things with your five senses—what you see, hear, touch, taste, or smell—to believe them.

7   Aren’t concerned with fitting in or belonging. There is a strong desire to be independent from others and you have no desire to be “normal.”

8   Have experienced psychic insights, telepathy, paranormal events, undeniable signs from the universe, visions, sensing energy, lucid dreams, or astral projections from others or associated with certain events.

9   Are willing to give up traditional rules, regulations, and obligations others have established. Instead, you rely on your intuition or inner guidance.

10   Try to be honest and authentic whenever possible.

11   Want to experience the 5th dimension or feeling of “oneness.”

12   Are willing to do any inner work that is required to attract and keep your twin flame. The twin flame journey requires never-ending spiritual and personal growth.

13   Feel worthy enough to handle soooo much unconditional love.

Are You Ready to Attract Your Twin Flame Relationship?

I have a twin flame self-study course that shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more details.

I’ve just added intuition eBooks for two of the Myers-Briggs personality types that are common for twin flames, INFJ and INFP.   

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

You can also contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

Why A Course in Miracles Students Attract their Twin Flame

Have you always wanted deep meaningful relationships and to attract your true love? The key is not to go on an aggressive hunt to find the “one” who will fill your needs, but to change your mindset to become a magnet for amazing relationships and that rare mind-blowing twin flame.

Reasons why “A Course in Miracles” Students Tend to Attract their Twin Flame…

A Course in Miracles…

1   Is all about relationships and learning how to love more.

2  Teaches us how to truly forgive and overlook what others say or don’t say, and do or don’t do. Twin flame relationships usually have already had several lifetimes of not being able to forgive each other.

3  Helps us realize the tremendous power of our thoughts and what they have to do with attracting our true love.

4  Is made for spiritual seekers that are willing to let go of conventional beliefs, restrictions, and rules. Twin flames tend to come from different backgrounds, religions, and cultures.

5  Shows us how to listen and trust our own higher source or intuition, which is required to be able to recognize our true love and navigate the twin flame journey.

6  Teaches us how to let go of our ego, which is necessary to have a happy outcome in a twin flame relationship.

To Sum it Up

Being a student of A Course in Miracles helps us get into and stay in a frame of mind that can attract someone who wants a mind-blowing, amazing relationship like we do.

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

If you need help with relationships, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

How to Hire Spiritual Help with Your Twin Flame Relationship

Having a twin flame is so popular now that there are gobs of spiritual people out there willing to help you in your journey. Here are some helpful tips to help navigate and shorten your path for a happy outcome.

Things You Need to Know About Hiring Spiritual Help…

1   ABOUT GUARANTEES

No one can hunt down “the one” for you, guarantee union with your twin flame, or wave a magic wand so the runner/chaser pattern will be over. Nor can they do your spiritual inner work for you, no matter how good they are at what they do.

Can they help teach you spiritual practices and give you insights to make your journey easier and the process more enjoyable? YES.

Only You Can…

  • End your doubt and worry about the relationship.
  • Be aware of your thoughts and the impact they have on your relationship.
  • Increase your faith in a higher source (God, Higher Power, Divine, Spirit, or whatever term you want to use).
  • Have the willingness to let go of your ego (3rd dimension mindset).
  • Feel worthy of such an out-of-this-world relationship.
  • Receive and follow your intuition, or inner guidance.
  • Constantly unconditionally love your twin flame no matter what they do or don’t do, or say or don’t say.

2   THE COST

Most twin flames, especially the chasers, end up shelling out tons of money for help along their twin flame journey. There is nothing wrong with that.

But the adage “you get what you pay for” doesn’t always hold true. In fact, there’s a real good chance the extra money won’t live up to your expectations. Instead, practice using your intuition or inner guidance before making a commitment, especially if it will require even a little financial hardship. Let’s make this clear! Your intuition wouldn’t require you go into debt to get help with your twin flame journey.

3   LOOK FOR THE NICHE 

Unless you are out for the adventure of something new (INFP personality types often look for new experiences), then find a spiritual helper that has a specialty that fits your core beliefs. I often have potential coaching clients read my twin flame section to see if it resonates with them.

Anyone you are truly excited to work with or feel a real connection to would probably be beneficial to your twin flame journey.

4   ABOUT THE HELPER

Whether you are thinking of hiring a psychic, a coach, or some other kind of spiritual helper, it would be extremely beneficial if they were experiencing a twin flame relationship themselves.

Something else! Reconsider hiring anyone who doesn’t give you an in-depth bio, a photo of themselves, or has vague or unclear material online. That could mean they are afraid of revealing who they are. Check and double-check your intuition on this one.

If the person you are considering is certified from a twin flame coaching program, then they may be limited to what they were trained to do.

5   THE HELPER MAKES YOU FEEL WORSE

There are a lot of spiritual helpers out there, especially those not experiencing a twin flame relationship themselves, who could constantly make you beaten down. One time maybe, but if you feel worse most of the time, it probably isn’t helping your twin flame journey in having a happy outcome.

Here Are Some Signs You Might Want to Reconsider Your Commitment…

When they…

  • Make you feel you are doing or have done something wrong. Most twin flames are already hard enough on themselves without reinforcements.
  • Tell you your twin flame is doing or has done something wrong. If you even halfway believe what your helper is telling you, it makes it really hard to overlook it and unconditionally love your twin flame.
  • Become defensive and argue with you. You want someone you feel you can talk to about almost anything.
  • Leave you confused and feeling lousy. Your helper is supposed to give you insights to navigate this extremely difficult relationship, as well as energize and inspire you. Sometimes they may say things you don’t want to hear, but in a loving way.

FEELING WORSE CAN BE TRICKY: You may have the habit of twisting things around to make yourself feel worse no matter who writes or says what. If so, reread or relisten to the materials, notes, or recordings to assist you in understanding it without that habitual negative filter. And always, use your own intuition or inner guide to get more clarity.

Are You Ready to Get Some Help with Your Twin Flame Relationship?

I have a twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more details.

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

You can also contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

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