Vickie Champion

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Ways to Get Yourself Out of Fear, Anxiety, and Worry

With everything changing so quickly, it’s easy to stay awake worrying about what tomorrow will bring, get physically ill, or even have full blown anxiety attacks.

Here are Some Ways to Get Yourself Out of Fear, Anxiety, and Worry…

1   Playing or Listening to Music-

Music calms our nerves, changes our mood, and gives us amazing “aha” moments. The key is to pay attention to how you feel when playing or listening to your favorite songs. Do they make you feel better or worse?

If you get into songs that make you feel worse, it will escalate your fear making you more doubtful, insecure, angry, and downright depressed. Watch out for love songs! Most are written about love going wrong or the painful part of their relationship.

But, if you get into songs that make you feel better, it will make your fear disappear, making you more hopeful, relaxed, inspired, and able to listen to your inner guide or intuition.

2   Getting Physical-

Any form of physical activity can help. Repetitive exercises, such as walking, running, or riding a bike are especially good—not only for releasing the fear but also for awakening your intuition or inner guide. Many times, answers to problems come during physical activity. If you can get out in nature, that’s even better.

3   Decluttering-

Clearing out your physical space also helps clear out your fearful head space, leaving room for those intuitive solutions and ideas.

Lots of times we keep things hanging around that make us feel bad about ourselves or our lives. We don’t realize they can affect our state of mind. These items could be things that remind us of difficult relationships, regrets, bad experiences, and past mistakes.

4   Take Time to Ask-

Whenever we ask (God, Divine, Spirit, Universe, Intuition, Inner Guide or whatever else you want to call that higher power that knows way more than we do), we will receive. Sometimes just thinking or saying “help” relieves the fear.

5   Sitting in Silence and Doing Nothing-

Whether it’s staring out the window or sitting on the front porch listening to the birds, somehow it releases the fear and clears enough space for our intuition to awaken.

If these suggestions don’t relieve you, everywhere you turn there are methods and people to help get rid of the fear, worry, and anxiety. Just use your inner guidance and dig in to what feels right. I offer two more ways other than reading my blogs and videos…

Individual Coaching

Coaching consists of 45-minute sessions over the phone (within the United States and Canada). For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.

And the

Feel Worthy Self-Study Course

This self-study course helps you change the mindset you have about yourself and what’s happening in the world. You will be able to change your perspective to be free of fear, worry, and anxiety. For more details.

How Fear Affects Your Twin Flame Relationship

Have you noticed, the more fear you’re in, the less you feel those warm and fuzzy feelings from your twin flame? It seems like feeling the connection goes in and out depending on how much fear (worry, concern, anxiety) you are experiencing.

Here’s the thing! The fear doesn’t even have to be about our twin flame or our relationship. The more we worry or get upset about something—anything—the less we feel the loving connection.

Fear blocks our awareness of love.

How Fear Affects Our Twin Flame Relationship…

 

1   Fear Can Bring the Ego (3rd dimension mindset) to the Surface-

That means every negative feeling we could imagine can rear its ugly head when we are afraid. Some common ones related to our twin flame are feeling hopeless, jealous, impatient, confused, guilty, judgmental, and inadequate. 

 

2   Fear Can Tempt us into Using Something to Try to Relieve it-

This could be anything—we can use food, pills, alcohol, drugs, caffeine, being crazy busy, binge watching, or hundreds of other options.

But let’s be honest. That something doesn’t really get rid of our fear at all. It numbs us so we don’t have to feel it. The problem is that using something to numb the fear usually dulls all feelings, especially the really good ones.

 

4   Fear Can Block Our Intuition or Inner Guide-

When we are afraid not only does it shut off our connection with our twin flame, it also stops our ability to be aware of our inner guidance or intuition.

 

5   Fear Can Distract Us from Doing Our Inner Work-

We can get so wrapped up with what’s happening and what might happen in the future, that it steers us away from doing anything to get us out of the fear and back on track with our relationship.

 

6   Fear Can Completely Stop a Happy Outcome with Our Twin Flame-

In fact, fear is the only thing that kills a twin flame union. The good news is, both of you have to be in fear to stop it. Because twin flames are the same soul, if only one of them chooses to get out of the fear, the other one will eventually follow.

Are You Ready to Get Out of Fear?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more details.

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

To learn more about Vickie’s Individual Coaching Sessions for twin flame relationships. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.

 

 

Twin Flames: Are External Circumstances Driving You Inward?

It certainly seems as if most of us are being pushed by external circumstances into slowing our daily lives down and getting more solitude.  It’s driving us inward—giving us plenty of time to do our inner work.

If you have been on your twin flame journey for any length of time, you probably know that in order to have an ongoing, amazing, out-of-this-world relationship, you have to do a lot of inner work.

That Means Learning How to…

  • Rely on a Higher Power (God, Source, Divine, Universe, or whatever you want to call it).
  • End the need to doubt yourself, that Higher Power, or the relationship.
  • Feel worthy. That includes forgiving yourself for anything you think you have done wrong, ever.
  • Use your intuition or inner guide.
  • Live most of the time with the 4th dimension mindset.

When external circumstances push you out of your comfort zone and free up your busy day-to-day schedule, it’s a perfect time to get serious about your twin flame inner work.

Are You Ready to Get Serious About Your Twin Flame Inner Work?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more details .

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

Learn more about Vickie’s Individual Coaching Sessions for twin flame relationships. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.

 

 

21 Things That Can Cause INFJs to Feel Exhausted or Drained

INFJ personality types (according to the MBTI personality test) are very sensitive to the energy of others and their environment. This makes certain situations depleting and sometimes extremely difficult for an INFJ.

Here’s a List of Some of the Things That Cause INFJs to Feel Exhausted or Drained…

  • Someone wanting their constant attention.
  • Making small talk, such as discussing the weather, what they had for lunch, or what they are going to do today. Essentially conversations from the head, not the heart deplete INFJs.
  • Environmental distractions, such as loud noises, strong smells, or scratchy fabrics. Of course, the more intense the distraction and longer it lasts, the more taxing.
  • Social events, especially when they involve being in large groups or around negative people.
  • Being criticized for not being able to get out of their head, obsessing, or thinking so much.
  • Not having a sanctuary or a safe space of their own.
  • Being stretched too thin or having back-to-back obligations.
  • Having to make decisions before they have time to think it over. INFJs don’t do well with acting before they think.
  • When their physical world (what we see, hear, smell, and touch) is unstable, like not having enough money, an ongoing problem, or a loved one’s illness.
  • Relationship conflict or misunderstandings, especially if they have no closure.
  • Being indecisive. This goes back to the two previous points. INFJs need stability and closure to stop feeling depleted.
  • Being around negative people for any length of time or watching the news can be very draining.
  • INFJs are organizers. So, it would make sense that any kind of disorganization would mess with their minds.
  • Trying to dismiss how they feel. To an INFJ, ignoring what comes from the heart is cutting off their energy source.
  • Not having big blocks of time on their own with no interruptions.
  • Dishonesty. This can mean others not telling the truth, or denying their own truth to themselves.
  • Not talking to others about meaningful subjects. It’s often difficult for INFJs to fully understand their own thoughts and feelings without the input of others. Many of my coaching clients and friends are INFJs.
  • Soaking up other’s emotional storms. It’s easy for INFJs to feel others trauma or crisis, and become just as stressed.
  • Trying to do things without passion. In other words, trying to settle for mediocre. INFJs are “all or nothing” types.
  • Denying their intuition or inner guide. Recognizing signs from the universe, getting “aha” moment’s, and having sudden insights or “flashes” energize INFJs.
  • Judging or doubting themselves. Because INFJs often sense things before they see evidence of them, they can get carried away in self-doubt, even to the point they feel like an undeserving or unworthy person.

Are You an INFJ who is Ready to Feel Worthy?

This self-study course helps you change the mindset you have about yourself and the world around you. You will be able to end the need to doubt yourself and finally feel worthy.  For more details.

Also, check out the Quiz, How Worthy Do You Feel?

If you need more help feeling worthy, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

 

3rd vs. 4th Dimension Definitions of a Twin Flame Relationship

If you look on the Internet for the meaning of a twin flame relationship, you can easily get confused. There are all sorts of explanations. What each one of these definitions have in common is that they come from the mindset of the writer. Some will resonate with you more than others, depending on your mindset.

Here’s a way of looking at the definition of a twin flame relationship from the 3rd and 4th dimension mindsets…

3rd Dimension Mindset Definition

The 3rd dimension definition is more self-serving. A twin flame relationship is finding that special person who will fulfill our needs and meet our expectations for a perfect relationship.

Signs We’re Coming from a 3rd Dimension Mindset…

When Thinking About a Twin Flame we…

  • Are mainly focused on getting what we want.
  • Believe the primary mission of the relationship is to have a storybook romance—a cool relationship with great sex.
  • Expect our twin flame to make some compromises and sacrifices to please us.
  • Want she/he to complete us—filling our needs, such as companionship and feeling secure.
  • Want them to make us feel good by saying and doing things that we like.
  • Would like them to come to our rescue, releasing us from the responsibility of changing our mindset and doing any inner work.

4th Dimension Mindset Definition

The 4th dimension takes the focus off of ourselves and striving to make what we want happen. Instead, it defines a twin flame relationship as wanting to unconditionally love a special person sooo much, we are willing to completely let go of our ego (3rd dimension mindset) to experience the twin flame union (5th dimension oneness).

Signs We’re Coming from a 4th Dimension Mindset…

When Thinking About a Twin Flame we…

  • Are mainly focused on learning to extend unconditional love.
  • Believe the primary mission of the relationship is to help bring ourselves, our twin flame, and humanity to a new level of consciousness.
  • Don’t expect she/he to say or do anything they don’t want to do just to please us.
  • Are willing to let go of our existing self-image and reconstruct a new one.
  • Come to our own rescue, accepting the responsibility of changing our mindset and doing our inner work.
  • Are focused on learning to extend love, no matter what the condition. That means not letting any circumstances whatsoever, tempt us into doubting ourselves, our twin flame, or our love.

Are You Ready to Change Your Mindset About Your Twin Flame?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details .

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

To learn more about Vickie’s Individual Coaching Sessions for twin flame relationships. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.

 

 

Consequences of Having a Twin Flame

At first, it might seem that the purpose of the twin flame journey is all about getting and staying in our twin flame’s arms. It’s way more than that! There are constant ups, downs, twists, and turns to this wild journey. By the time we’re well into our twin flame journey, our whole life has been turned inside out.

Here’s Some of the Consequences We Might Experience as a Result of Having a Twin Flame…

We Tend to…

 1   BECOME MORE ISOLATED AND DISTANT-

It’s like God or a Higher Power is taking away all the distractions to make us concentrate on our twin flame mission. We need more time for solitude.

2   MAKE MAJOR CHANGES IN OUR LIVES-

There will be lots of changes. Among them we might move long distances, drop our religion, change our career, and even stop addictions or bad habits. We find ourselves willing to do anything and everything.

3   CHANGE FRIENDS-

Because our whole life begins to center around our twin flame, we have less and less in common with others who are not experiencing the same phenomenon, or at least, supporting our roller-coaster twin flame relationship.

4   DISTANCE OURSELVES FROM DIFFICULT FAMILY MEMBERS-

If we don’t cut ties completely, we will drastically limit our time with those who are heavily into control, rigid rules, obligations, and traditions of the 3rd dimension mindset. Being around them can make us feel guilty or judged.

5   SLOW DOWN, AND NOT BE SO CRAZY BUSY-

We stop living life like it’s a race, always running from one thing to another.

6   BECOME REALLY SPIRITUAL-

Not only do we embrace God, Higher Power, Universe, Spirit, Divine, or any other way you want to identify that higher source that knows more than we do, but we learn to count on that inner guidance or intuition in our relationship and with everything else in our lives.

7   DEVELOP LESS TOLERANCE TOWARDS 3rd DIMENSION ATTITUDES AND BEHAVIORS-

It might get difficult to watch the news or be involved in or around pessimistic drama.

8   BECOME MORE SENSITIVE-

This goes along with the previous point. Not only do we become less tolerant to others’ negative energy, we become more sensitive to sounds, chemicals, perfumes, and certain foods. For example, it might become unpleasant to listen to white noise, and we might be drawn to listening to brown noise instead.

9   BECOME MORE CREATIVE-

The key is to do more things that are unconventional (similar to the unconventional twin flame relationship), imaginative (being open to new ideas), and that are inspired (to utilize our inner guide or intuition).

There are hundreds of ways this will play out in our lives. It could be as subtle as being more creative with every-day problem-solving, or as obvious as changing your career to be an artist.

10   IMPROVE OUR SUPERNATURAL ABILITIES-

We acquire a desire and the ability to communicate with our twin flame the 4th dimension way through psychic abilities, such as telepathy and astral projection. Maybe that’s why we get so many psychic readings, because we are learning to get better at the skill ourselves.

Inside Out

As I said before, our whole life will be turned inside out. The twin flame journey drives us inward, pushing us to find our true selves, feel connected to a Higher Source, and achieve twin flame union.

Are You Ready to Turn Your Life Inward?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details .

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

To learn more about Vickie’s Individual Coaching Sessions for twin flame relationships. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.

 

 

INFJs: 9 Reasons Meaningful Conversations Are Important

INFJ personality types (according to the MBTI test) love to get lost in their own thoughts and do well with very little social interaction. But there is one thing they don’t do well with—not having heart-to-heart discussions. Below are some reasons why connecting with others at a deep level is significant for the well-being of INFJs.

Meaningful Conversations help INFJs…

1   FEEL CONNECTED TO OTHERS-

Shallow and menial conversations of everyday life can confuse and frustrate INFJs, making them feel disconnected. But, connecting with others at a deep level does just the opposite.

2   SHARE WITH OTHERS-

INFJs have a strong desire to teach, advise, and instruct others. Usually when INFJs speak—people listen.

3   GET CONFIRMATION-

INFJs have a tendency to be tough on themselves and have lots of self-doubt. They often find support in talking to other people they trust or respect.

4   FIND PIECES TO PUZZLES-

Often deep conversations add missing pieces to INFJ’s theories to help them see the bigger picture.  They can often experience “aha” moments and get hunches during discussions.

5   KNOW OTHERS-

INFJs have a strong desire to know others at the deepest and sincerest level possible. The results are therapy-like conversations.

6   SEE EVIDENCE-

INFJs are highly intuitive and often can know things before they happen. Heart-to-heart talks can reveal proof of their insights. This helps them to stop second-guessing themselves and build trust in their inner guide.

7   AVOID INSOLATION DISEASE –

Even though INFJs can be hermit-like, they need social interactions to stay fulfilled. Because they thrive on deep connections, too much time alone can leave them feeling fearful, lost, and depressed.

8   LEARN-

INFJs have a drive to progress, grow, and better themselves. They need to take on new challenges to their thinking regularly, and meaningful conversations are part of that.

9   COME ALIVE-

Let’s face it, finding connections and having deep relationships mean everything to an INFJ. Without them, they tend to lose their life’s purpose and feel unworthy.

Are You an INFJ who is Ready to Really Feel Worthy?

This self-study course helps you change the mindset you have about yourself and the world around you. You will be able to end the need to doubt yourself and finally feel worthy.  For more details.

Also, check out the Quiz, How Worthy Do You Feel?

If you need more help feeling worthy, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

Why A Course in Miracles Can Help INFJ Personality Types

I recently came across a book on MBTI Personality Types where the author suggested that Jesus might have been an INFJ. When I read the word Jesus, I got a mini “aha.” I knew it was something I needed to consider and that it was possibly another piece to connect in my own enlightenment journey.

I am an INFJ, and for over 30 years, I have been passionate about A Course of Miracles (ACIM), which was channeled from Jesus.

Here’s Why I Think “A Course in Miracles” Can Help INFJ Personality Types…  

INFJs…

1   Think a Lot- ACIM is a course in mind-training. It’s perfect for someone who spends so much time in thought.

2   Are Prone to Analyze and Play Devil’s Advocate- ACIM takes one concept, “all there is, is love,” and approaches it from 100s of different angles.

3   Get Energy in Solitude- ACIM is a self-study course that offers that much needed time alone for reflection and gives us plenty of “ahas” with it.

4   Need a Cause- There probably isn’t a cause much higher than getting rid of the ego and learning how to be Jesus-like.

5   Are Eager to Do Their Inner Work- ACIM provides plenty of that. On top of the 365 workbook lessons, there are 100s of concepts to help us retrain our thoughts and perceptions about ourselves, others, God, and the world around us. The best part is observing ourselves changing as we implement the concepts—letting go of our fears and accepting the love.

6   Want to Have Deep, Meaningful Relationships- ACIM provides a mindset to take every relationship to the highest level possible, to love without any conditions.

7   Are Called “the Counselors” and are Fond of Teaching, Advising, and Guiding- There are several places throughout ACIM that suggest the idea of teaching. It even has a section called “Manual for Teachers.”

 

If you are one of the few INFJs that haven’t heard of A Course in Miracles, you might want to check it out.

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If you need help understanding A Course of Miracles concepts and live in the United States or Canada, contact Vickie for a complimentary phone conversation.

 

Are You in a Twin Flame Relationship or Just Infatuated or Obsessed?

It seems more and more people are having really intense attractions for a special person. Even though you can’t get that person out of your mind and want to be with them so bad you can’t see straight, that is not a reason to automatically assume you have found your twin flame.

Here’s the Difference Between Having a Twin Flame and Being Infatuated or Obsessed…

1   THE LENGTH OF TIME-

Being Infatuated or Obsessed…

When we are infatuated or obsessed, the attraction weakens with time. What was once terribly exciting gradually dwindles as the months pass by.

Having a Twin Flame…

When we have a twin flame, the attraction is still there years and even decades later. If we are doing our inner work, the attraction actually grows. Love usually takes time to develop, mature, and expand.

2   DREAMWORLD-

Being Infatuated or Obsessed…

When we are infatuated or obsessed we get caught up in daydreaming and imagining how we want the relationship to play out and what we want our twin flame to say and do.

Having a Twin Flame…

When we have a twin flame, the loving energy is often so intense it keeps us focused on the feeling. Our dreamworld mainly consists of wanting to experience that amazing mind-blowing feeling more.

3   FOCUS OUR ATTENTION ON-

Being Infatuated or Obsessed …

When we are infatuated or obsessed, we focus our attention on the physical world, which is what we can see, hear, and touch. Having physical contact with our special person is extremely important, if not everything. Often the attraction fades when we can’t see, hear, or touch our special person.

Having a Twin Flame…

When we have a twin flame, we focus our attention mostly on the feeling.

The love, appreciation, and connection outweighs what is physically seen, heard, or touched, ten to one.

5   PERFECTION-

Being Infatuated or Obsessed …

When we are infatuated or obsessed, we think our special person is perfect, and especially perfect for us. We think everything about them is perfect—the way they show affection, how they look, what they say, their personality, and how they behave.

One of the sure signs we are infatuated or obsessed is that we can’t stop talking about our special person.

Having a Twin Flame…

When we have a twin flame, it’s not about their perfections or even seeing their imperfections, but how the connection and love feels.

6   EXPECTATIONS-

Being Infatuated or Obsessed …

When we are infatuated or obsessed, we tend to place a lot of responsibility on our special person. We usually expect our special person to make us feel better by fulfilling our needs. This could be sexual, companionship, safety, financially, to build our self-esteem, or anything else we think we are lacking.  If those needs are not met, we quickly lose interest in our special person.

Having a Twin Flame…

When we have a twin flame, we see the relationship from a different perspective, taking full responsibility to make ourselves feel better. Instead of waiting to get our needs met, we focus on feeling better anyway. This different perspective makes our unmet needs not so crucial and frees up our relationship.

7   DRAMATIC-

Being Infatuated or Obsessed …

When we are infatuated or obsessed, we tend to have more drama by having frequent quarrels and misunderstandings. Each flare-up has the underlying aim of making our special person or ourselves feel guilty for doing something wrong.

This is usually caused by holding a lot of high expectations (#6) over our special person’s head or holding a lot of high expectations over our own head.

Having a Twin Flame…

When we have a twin flame, we quickly learn making someone feel bad about themselves or what they have done makes the relationship an absolutely horrible experience.

The Good Part

Whether we are infatuated or obsessed, or have a twin flame, the purpose of the relationship is the same—learn how to unconditionally love. The good part is if you are infatuated or obsessed and you learn to unconditionally love that special person, it becomes a worthwhile, amazing experience.

Are You Ready to Learn How to Unconditionally Love Your Twin Flame?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details .

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

To learn more about Vickie’s Individual Coaching Sessions for twin flame relationships. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.

 

Adapt a Jesus-Like Mindset if You are Unsure About Your Twin Flame

So many of us spend so much time being unsure. We get so worried about whether that special person we keep thinking about is our twin flame or not. Is it really that important to know if you have found the one? To help you get some clarity and perspective, try adapting a Jesus-like mindset.

Ask Yourself These Questions:

1   Would Jesus wonder if he was wasting time on the wrong person?

2   Would Jesus not ask God for guidance with this relationship?

3   Would Jesus get worried when something changes in the relationship?

4   Would Jesus let that special person hurt his feelings?

5   Would Jesus claim his doesn’t know how to listen to God’s voice, his inner guidance, or intuition?

6   Would Jesus focus on his own or that special person’s wrong doings, faults, or differences?

7   Would Jesus try to make that special person feel guilty for what they did or didn’t do?

8   Would Jesus lack the willingness to forgive both himself and that special person?

9   Would Jesus stop having faith if he couldn’t see evidence of the relationship?

10   Would Jesus not trust that God’s got a plan for this relationship that will benefit everyone?

11   Would Jesus question his worth or feel not good enough to do what God asks for this relationship?

Some of those questions you might answer with a YES because of your religious beliefs, but with the majority of those questions you would probably answer with a NO.

Would all our doubts and fear about that special person we keep thinking about fade away if we just followed Jesus’s example?

If you want a good book on how to adapt a Jesus-like mindset, A Course in Miracles was supposed to have been channeled from Jesus.

“If you want to be like me I will help you, knowing that we are alike. If you want to be different, I will wait until you change your mind.”

A Course in Miracles, Chapter 8, Section IV, Paragraph 6

Are You Ready to Have a Happy Outcome with that Special Person?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details .

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

To learn more about Vickie’s Individual Coaching Sessions for twin flame relationships. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.

 

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