Vickie Champion

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33 Signs a Romance Operates from a 3rd Dimension Mindset

This wasn’t written to point out the OBVIOUS 3rd dimension indications in a relationship. You know, the ones that are full of jealousy, abuse, overdependence, or manipulative and controlling behavior. I’ll leave that to the therapists.

This was written for those sometimes hard to detect signs that we are in the 3rd dimension mindset. We see these signs in other relationships and experience them ourselves so often that we think they are “normal” for romantic relationships. Yes, many of us think the pain, heartache, and the feeling of unworthiness is “normal.”

Here are 33 Not-So-Obvious Signs Your Relationship Operates from a 3rd Dimension Mindset…

When you, your love one, or both…

  • Have a habit of blaming each other for one thing or another.
  • Feel guilty and apologize
  • Repeatedly take things too seriously.
  • Feel lonely and unconnected.
  • Want your loved one to appreciate you more.
  • Find your friends and family avoid being around you and/or your loved one.
  • Have little disagreements here and there.
  • Want to spend more and more time apart.
  • Fear telling the truth about some things.
  • Can list at least more cons than pros about your loved one.
  • Have excuses to stay with your loved one, like for the sake of the kids or for financial reasons.
  • No longer feel good about yourself.
  • Have tried to make your loved one “everything.”
  • Don’t have much in common
  • Change your looks, behaviors, and dreams just to please your loved one.
  • Go along with your loved one’s decisions because it’s easier.
  • Are defensive about certain subjects.
  • Stay with them because they say they “I love you.”
  • Don’t like the person you have become.
  • Make problems with your loved one a topic of conversation with your friends.
  • Have others suggesting you hire a life coach or get couples therapy.
  • Find yourself compromising more than not.
  • Feel trapped.
  • Lack the willingness to forgive some things.
  • Stop paying attention to how you
  • At times dread seeing or talking to them.
  • Make conscious sacrifices for the sake of the relationship.
  • Feel you would be happier if your loved one spoke or acted
  • Do things just to please your loved one.
  • Find yourself resenting other couples’ relationships.
  • Don’t feel like it’s a 50/50
  • Let your loved one hurt your feelings.
  • Have gained weight or picked up an unhealthy habit to relieve stress.

If you can identify with most of these 3rd dimension relationship signs, it doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed—or that you necessarily have a heap of self-improvement work ahead of you.

Sometimes you can change your relationship simply by changing your mindset. Truly! And it can be done without making sacrifices or changing who you are.

Are You Ready to Get Rid of the Pain and Heartache in Your Relationship?

This self-study course helps you change the mindset you have about yourself, your relationship, and the world around you. You will be able to finally feel worthy of an amazing relationship. For more details.

Also, check out the quiz, How Worthy Do You Feel?

If you need more help feeling worthy, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

 

 

Getting Mixed Messages with Your Twin Flame Relationship?

Are you getting what seems to be contradictory information from your relationship and even from your twin flame? Twin flame relationships can get very confusing at times.

One minute we can be in love, head over heels, and the next minute want to run as far away as we can. We can get extremely deep feelings for the other and have no idea if those feelings are mutual.  We can be bombarded with encouraging signs from the universe, and yet have no evidence from our twin flame’s behavior. Sometimes it can feel like the “powers that be” are just messing with us. Mixes messages makes us question the “powers that be,” our twin flame, and especially ourselves.

Why are We Getting Mixed Messages?

Mixed Messages Help Us…

1   Adapt to a Higher Mindset-

One of the reasons is learn how to mostly operate in the 4th dimension mindset, which consists of training our mind to think positive and loving thoughts about our twin flame, and ourselves.

The 3rd dimension mindset is crammed full of doubtful and judging thoughts, which causes the contradictory information.

2   Build Faith-

Another reason is to get used to trusting in the “powers that be.” If we had our twin flame in our arms always without questionable messages, then there would be no reason to learn to rely on the “powers that be.”

3   Hone Our Intuition Skills-

The last reason we are going to talk about is our serious need to improve our ability to follow our intuitive insights. We will NOT have a lasting happy outcome with our twin flame without using it on a consistent basis.

Are You Ready to Stop Getting Mixed Messages with Your Twin Flame Relationship?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more details.

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

You can also contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

Twin Flame Songs for Those Who Haven’t Met Yet

This is for all who can feel their twin flame’s energy, but haven’t physically met them yet.

I left out songs that had a depressing feel. You know, ones that made the wait a painful experience or those songs that implied it was their twin flame’s fault.

I chose to list songs that were hopeful, more upbeat, and attempted to make the wait easier.

Here’s Some Songs That Relate to Those Who Have NOT Met Their Twin Flame Yet…

“Somewhere Out There” by Linda Ronstadt and James Ingram

“Haven’t Met You Yet” by Michael Buble

“I Know You’re Out There Somewhere”  by The Moody Blues

“Is It You?”  by Lee Ritenour

“Haven’t Met You” by Brett Eldredge

“I Know You’re Out There” by Sabrina Antoinette

To Make the Wait More Enjoyable…

Until you physically meet your twin flame, help make your wait more pleasurable by focusing on improving your intuitive and telepathic skills.

Since a large proportion of twin flames tend to be either INFJ or INFP personality types, I have produced eBooks to help them improve their intuitive skills.

INFJ Intuition eBook

INFP Intuition eBook

Why INFJs and INFPs Tend to Find False Twin Flames

Are you one of those people that tend to be a little impatient when it comes to finding your true love? Maybe you hold onto someone you are attracted to because you think they are surely your twin flame.

It’s very common for INFJ and INFP Myers-Briggs personality types to find false twin flames (becoming obsessed with someone who you are in a karmic relationship with).

Here’s Some Reasons Why INFJs and INFPs Tend to Find False Twin Flames…

INFJs and INFPs usually…

  • Search for “the one,” even from an early age.
  • Dive deep and are passionate about anything or anyone that interests them.
  • Combine their curiosity and their craving of deep soul connections, which makes them extremely open for any relationship where they feel a connection.
  • Have lived many lifetimes to accumulate plenty of unfinished karmic relationships.
  • Are eager to do their spiritual inner work, which can attract unfinished karmic relationships (false twin flames) full of learning experiences and unloving patterns to break.

Important!

Whether your relationship is your actual twin flame or a false twin flame, your job is the same—to learn how to unconditionally love them and yourself. Or you can wait until the next lifetime and do it all over again.

Are You an INFJ or INFP Who is Ready to Get Help with Using Your Intuition More Often?

If you identify with the INFJ or INFP personality type, there is a self-study eBook that can help you increase the use of your intuition or inner guidance—without having to change who you are. For more details.

Also, check out the INFJ or INFP Intuition Quizzes.

If you need more help using your intuition or inner guide, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

Do Twin Flames Have Free Will?

Most humans on earth probably think there is “free will.” That means that they have the ability to make choices as separate individuals, as they wish, without these choices being predestined by fate or divine will.

Before you go along with the crowd and buy into the concept of “free will,” take time to re-examine it thoroughly, especially concerning your twin flame relationship.

Things to Consider…

1   Almost everyone in a genuine twin flame relationship, if they had “free will,” would opt out. In fact, most of us have tried to will ourselves out of the relationship by doing everything we could possibly think of and then some. We’ve tried ignoring it, denying it, avoiding it, praying it away, cutting off contact, dating others, running away, numbing ourselves from the intense energy, and performing detaching ceremonies—just to name a few.

2   If everyone is doing their own thing and not connected to anything else, how are signs from the universe, coincidences, and synchronicities even possible? How can someone say the perfect words to us at the perfect time? How do we notice our twin flame’s birth date on a license plate?

3   Then there is the question about why you are not physically with your twin flame when you want it soooo badly. Even if you are an excellent manifester, getting things to happen the way you want them and when you want them to is hit and miss. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t.

4   This next point is deep, so take time to reflect on it. Believing in “free will” makes it difficult not to think you have made mistakes in your relationship and somehow, have hurt yourself, your twin flame, or the outcome in some way. That means “free will” makes it extremely hard, if not impossible, to forgive ourselves.

5   Don’t forget, believing in “free will” means your twin flame has “free will” too. That gives them the power, at any moment, to close their heart and go in a different direction. Boy, is that a scary and depressing thought! It leaves you without recourse.

6   If our will has the ability to operate on its own, then there is no need for God’s (Higher Power, Divine, Spirit, Source, Universe) help with the relationship. That means we prefer striving to do everything all alone, including our twin flame journey.

7   “Free will” kind of blows a hole in the concept that twin flames are ONE, doesn’t it?

Make the Relationship Easier

The sooner you can adapt to the idea of “destiny” in every aspect of your twin flame journey, the less painful and discouraging it will be. It’s an amazing mind-blowing adventure that you are not in charge of.

Are You Ready for an Amazing Mind-blowing Twin Flame Adventure?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to take the pain and resistance out of the journey as you move towards union. For more details.

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

To learn more about Vickie’s Individual Coaching Sessions for twin flame relationships. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.

 

18 Signs an INFP Has NOT Forgiven Themself

If you identify with the INFP Myers-Briggs personality type, forgiving others is a whole lot easier than letting yourself off the hook. Maybe it’s because INFPs hold themselves to such high standards, that if they fall short, they think it’s unforgivable.

Here’s Signs INFPs Have Not Forgiven Themselves…

When They…

1   Are dead set that what they did or didn’t say, or did or didn’t do, was wrong.

2   Need to be perfect, no matter what the cost.

3   Take others’ opinion personally.

4   Feel bad or guilty every time they think about a particular event.

5   Want to fix or rectify their past mistakes by trying to control their current behavior.

6   Keep apologizing for what they did or didn’t do.

7   Totally disregard when others tell them there is no reason to blame themselves for what happened.

8   Deflect gifts or compliments from others.

9   Have a difficult time making decisions, mainly because they are afraid of being wrong again.

10   Think about a particular situation over and over, especially what they did wrong and what they should have done.

11   Are very insecure about their abilities, knowledge, or just about anything they say or do.

12   Think their life or others’ lives would have been better if they didn’t say or do what they did. They think they have caused themselves or others to lose something because of their actions.

13   Don’t feel they deserve to be happy or feel worthy.

14   Find themselves in painful patterns to punish themselves. This could be  over/under eating, working harder, people pleasing, taking pills, drinking alcohol, careless driving, using drugs, smoking cigarettes, impulse buying, keeping crazy busy, or hundreds of other ways.

15   Criticize themselves.

16   Have difficulty leaving a bad relationship.

17   Have past regrets.

18   Ignore their intuition or inner guidance, especially when it comes to forgiving themselves.

Are You an INFP who is Ready to Hone Your Intuition or Inner Guidance?

If you identify with the INFP personality type, this simple eBook can help you fine-tune your intuition or inner guidance—without having to change who you are. For more details.

Also, check out the INFP Personality Type section on my website or take the QUIZ.

If you need more help using your intuition or inner guide, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

 

About Twin Flame Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine Energy

There are a lot of different beliefs out there about twin flame relationships, with divine masculine and divine feminine energy being one of them. The key is to find those beliefs that resonate with you and will help you in your journey to union. Some beliefs can make you feel better and hopeful, while others can make you feel worse and discouraged. Only you will know the difference.

If you feel better when you believe in divine masculine and divine feminine energy, go with it! There is no need to read the rest of this blog. But, if you feel worse, confused, or have questions about the concept, read on.

The Big Disadvantage of Believing in Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine Energy…

Believing in divine masculine and divine feminine energy can easily keep us locked into the 3rd dimension mindset, thinking that there is a difference in the two individuals and that they operate separate from each other. The 3rd dimension enforces separation by establishing clear definitions of what masculine energy is and what feminine energy is, which can drive a wedge in believing in twin flame oneness. Here are some ways divine masculine and divine feminine can differ in this mindset.

1  The divine masculine energy is usually thought of as insensitive, relying on reason, logic, and analysis.  Whereas divine feminine energy is usually defined as emotional, sensitive, and quite intuitive.

2   Divine masculine energy is usually defined as the leader in the relationship, and expected to be action oriented. Divine feminine energy is usually the follower, passive, and supposed to be patient.

3   Divine masculine energy is usually defined as strong, and the protector of the two. Divine feminine is defined to be weaker, and more dependent.

4   Divine masculine energy is usually thought of as certain and confident.  Divine feminine is defined to be more confused and flexible.

The Problem

With the 3rd dimension mindset, there can be a tendency to let the differences set limits on yourself, your twin flame, and on the relationship itself. It’s easy to make excuses and start blaming one or both of you for the separation.

Are You Ready to Feel Unlimited on Your Twin Flame Journey?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more details.

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

To learn more about Vickie’s Individual Coaching Sessions for twin flame relationships. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.

 

 

Why INFP Personality Types Can Doubt the Twin Flame Concept

This blog wasn’t written to try to get INFP personality types (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator) to buy into the idea of twin flames. It was written mostly for all of you who have INFP twin flames, who need to understand where they might be coming from.

Why INFPs Can Have a Hard Time Believing in the Idea of Twin Flames…

INFPs are usually…

1   NONCONFORMERS-

They often fight putting anything into a category and labeling it, including labeling themselves as INFPs.  Therefore, it is highly unlikely they would want to throw their extraordinary, out-of-this-world relationship into a category with others.

2   TAKE TIME TO EXAMINE-

When INFPs are faced with a new concept that they have no previous experience with, like twin flames, they will need a lot of time (sometimes years) to evaluate their belief in it. INFPs need to explore all the different twin flame definitions out there, which makes it extremely difficult for them to draw any conclusions.

3   DOUBT THEMSELVES-

Even if they do get close to believing in the twin flame concept, they will often second-guess themselves until any certainty fades away. Their self-doubt makes them slow to endorse something as the absolute truth.

Get This Straight!

It’s not important for your INFP twin flame to believe in the concept to be in a twin flame relationship! Nor will it impact your outcome in any way.

The twin flame concept is just something some personality types need to understand about this extremely rare relationship. INFPs are not one of them.

 Are You Ready for an Amazing Mind-blowing Twin Flame Journey?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more details.

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

To learn more about Vickie’s Individual Coaching Sessions for twin flame relationships. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.

13 Signs You’re in a False Twin Flame or Karmic Relationship

When we first meet someone who whips us off our feet and we have out-of-this world chemistry, it’s easy to believe we have finally found our twin flame. But often we are obsessed with a false twin flame or someone who we are in a karmic relationship with. It can be very difficult to tell the true twin flame apart from a false or karmic relationship, especially in the beginning of the relationship.

Here’s 13 Signs You Probably Have a False Twin Flame or Karmic Relationship…

When…

1   We notice that within a short time (days, weeks, or months) the strong interest in our special person begins to gradually decrease. Over time we almost always will feel less passion and less connected.

2   The conversations with our special person are short, limited, or stay on the surface. There are few discussions, if any, that are lengthy, cover practically every subject possible, and dive deep—sharing experiences and feelings freely.

3   We catch ourselves defending—justifying, explaining, or making excuses for—our relationship. That’s when we try to convince others, or more importantly, ourselves, that we are NOT in a false twin flame or karmic relationship. It’s like we are ashamed or feel it’s wrong not to find our true love yet. It’s NOT! Probably, all of our heart-felt relationships are karmic (having at least one lifetime with that person not ending with unconditional love), including a true twin flame relationship.

4   We feel uncomfortable in our special person’s presence. Being around them might make us feel tense, frustrated, or unworthy in some way.

5   Things feel off. Maybe we notice a lot of red flags.

6   We find ourselves not willing to be fully honest with our special person. For some reason we feel guarded and hesitant to reveal our true selves.

7    There is difficulty in communicating and lots of misunderstandings between us and our special person. No matter how much we try to make things right, it always seems to come short.

8   We aren’t watching ourselves grow and change. Instead, the relationship often feels stuck in a dysfunctional cycle and brings out the worst in us. We can easily become someone we don’t recognize or even like, let alone admire.

9   We recognize unhealthy and hurtful patterns, such as badmouthing and naming calling, or as toxic as physical violence or mental belittling. Anytime we have a hurtful pattern to make ourself or our special person feel guilty and be punished for some recurring behavior, there’s a good chance we’re in a false twin flame or karmic relationship.

10   There is a lot of drama, full of intensity and arguments. We notice there are more unpleasant days then pleasant days in the relationship.

11   We haven’t experienced feel good and inviting intuitive insights associated with our special person, such as paranormal events like undeniable signs from the universe, telepathy, visions, lucid dreams, and astral projections. We can get those with false twin flames and karmic relationship too, but they are not feel good and inviting. They come in the form of warning signs.

12   We have tried to convince them why they should love us or, at least stay with us.

13   There are lots of past hurts we don’t want to let go of, whether we, our special person, or both caused them. Rather than forgiving and overcoming past hurts, our focus is turned towards getting justice. We want the guilty party(s) to feel bad and be punished in some way.

Important to Know!

There is a very fine line between a true twin flame and false twin flame or a karmic relationship. In fact, a true twin relationship is probably a combination of a soulmate and a karmic relationship. True twin flames tend to have had several lifetimes together, during which they just couldn’t get it together and unconditionally love themselves and each other.

Both kinds of relationships are beneficial and instrumental in learning how to unconditionally love—and both kinds are extremely hard to end or get rid of unless this is learned.

Are You Ready to Learn How to Unconditionally Love Your Twin Flame?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more details.

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

You can also contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

 

9 Signs You Are NOT in a Twin Flame Relationship

It is extremely hard, especially at first, to know for sure if we have found our twin flame or not. Both the twin flame and the karmic (false twin flame) relationship can begin with the same intensity and attraction, but with time the difference becomes clearer.

Here’s Some Signs We Are NOT in a Twin Flame Relationship…

When We…

1   GRADUALLY LOSE INTEREST IN OUR SPECIAL PERSON-

The “I want to be with you soooo much” attraction may only last a few weeks or months before you begin to noticing that it is starting to dwindle.

2   NOTICE SIGNS FROM THE UNIVERSE-

If we are in a twin flame relationship, we are usually bombarded with all sorts of positive signs from the universe and synchronicities that are encouraging us along the journey. If we are in karmic relationships, we usually experience signs from the universe in the form of red flags.

3   ARE NOT THAT INTRIGUED-

In a karmic relationship, we progressively lose our interest in really knowing our special person—physically, mentally, and spiritually. We can often notice the relationship hovering around one thing, such as sex, with very little fascination on any other aspects.

In a twin flame relationship, we are curious to know our special person deeply from every angle and want to learn to unconditional love every part of them.

4   ARE DEFENSIVE-

Being defensive is when we justify, explain, or make excuses trying really hard to convince someone or, more importantly, to convince ourselves we are in a twin flame relationship.

5   LET OUR SPECIAL PERSON HARM US-

Physical violence or mental belittling can be associated with some karmic relationships, but hardly ever with twin flame relationships. We probably wouldn’t be able to even attract our “true love” if we had an unconscious desire to use the relationship to punish ourselves or hurt our special person.

6   HAVE RESORTED TO LASHING OUT-

Another thing that can be associated with some karmic relationships is badmouthing and name calling, such as calling them a narcissist. By the time we verbalize our negative thoughts, we have already judged, tried, and convicted our special person.

7   ARE UNABLE TO BE HONEST WITH OUR SPECIAL PERSON-

One of the key elements of being in a twin flame relationship is feeling so comfortable and safe that we want to be sincere. Karmic relationships can often make us guarded and hesitant to reveal the truth.

8   ARE RELUCTANT TO FORGIVE-

If we are in a karmic relationship, there is a strong tendency to hold onto past hurts whether we, our special person, or both initiated them. Rather than forgiving, the focus is turned towards someone being guilty and punished for it.  If we are in a twin flame relationship, there is greater pull to forgive and overcome past hurts.

9   RESIST LEARNING HOW TO UNCONDITIONALLY LOVE-

Not willing to go the extra mile is common with karmic relationships. We think if we can just fix the problem, we won’t need to unconditionally love ourselves or our special person.

When we are in a twin flame relationship, we are a lot less reluctant to go that extra mile.

What Now!

If you have all or most of these signs, you are probably in a karmic relationship. But, that’s NOT a BAD thing! Even in a karmic relationship, there is a lot of love underneath the hurt and pain, but that doesn’t mean you will physically be together for eternity, or even talk to each other again.

There are two main ways to have peace and a happy outcome with your karmic relationship. One is to be willing to unconditionally love yourself and your special person, no matter what was said or not said, or done or not done. The other is listening and following your intuition or inner guide.

Are you Ready to Increase Your Ability to be Aware of Your Intuition?

Check out the  How to Feel Worthy self-study course. It can help you change the mindset you have about yourself and the world around you, which allows your intuition to surface. For more details.

I have also just added intuition eBooks for three of the Myers-Briggs personality types.   

Or there are several blogs in the Intuition section on my website that could help.

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