Have you noticed how music can affect your emotions? There is something about certain songs that have a direct line to our hearts.

That being said, be careful if you’re not currently together with your twin flame and you’re in the runner/chaser phase. Pay attention to how you feel when listening to your favorite love songs. Does it make you feel better or worse about your situation?

I bet you, most of the time you will feel worse. How do I know?

Because the majority of love songs are about love gone wrong. Love songs tend to be about missing a loved one terribly, how a loved one hurt the singer, or someone’s willingness to do absolutely anything to get their loved one back in their arms. Most love songs are probably written right after a breakup.

If you get into songs that make you feel worse, then it’s easier to start doubting yourself or your twin flame, feel sorry for yourself, and get downright depressed about the relationship.

But, if you get into songs that make you feel better, it gives you hope, and shortens the timeline for a happy outcome with your twin flame. (See my blog, Twin Flame Songs)

For more info, visit the entire twin flame section.  

To get some help with your relationship, I offer a self-study Course for Twin Flames or Twin Flame One-on-one Coaching.

Probably everyone has heard of “the law of attraction.” It means every thought we think, whether we express it or not, becomes a magnet to the experience that matches that thought. In other words, we get back what we give out.

Did you notice, I didn’t say that you can get exactly what you want to happen and with whom? That would imply we have free will and can make anything happen that we want, no matter how it affects anyone or anything else. Maybe you have had times it seemed you were in control and got exactly what you wanted to happen, but that was when it worked in everyone else’s favor also.

However, we can get the emotional feeling or experience that we want from anything that happens, all the time. With our thoughts and perceptions we can choose the experience we want, which attracts more of the same kind of experience.

When we first find out who our twin flame is, or we are in a physical relationship, we are thinking gobs of loving thoughts and get gobs of loving back.  But as the relationship progresses and the newness wears off, three things could happen with our thoughts…

1   We could let ourselves get lazy and slack off from thinking feel good thoughts. It’s so easy to put our minds on auto-pilot, paying very little attention to how we want to feel.

2   Or we could replace those feel good thoughts by trying to prove that we are right—or the opposite, that we are wrong. In other words, we want someone to feel bad for what happened or didn’t happen.

3   This is the best option of all! We could think feel good thoughts no matter what our twin flame says or doesn’t say, or does or doesn’t do. That’s unconditional love and when we give it, we get it back.

Being physically near our twin flame cannot survive long when we don’t care about how we feel or when we want our twin flame, ourselves, or both to feel bad for something that happened or didn’t happen. For an unconditional loving thought is a magnet for unconditional love.

For more blogs and videos about Twin Flames.

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

and

Twin Flame One-on-one Coaching

Coaching consists of 40-minute sessions over the phone (within the United States). For more Details. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.  

Sometimes it’s really difficult to tell if you have finally found your twin flame or if you are in the middle of a relationship that is crammed with unfulfilling dreams that will slowly deplete your self-esteem. There is such a fine line between the two.

The three blogs below can save you months (or years!) until you figure out which one it is on your own…

          Obsessive vs. Twin Flame Relationships-What is the Difference?

          Wanting Someone-Is it Obsessive or a Twin Flame?

          Attracting Someone-Is it Obsessive or a Twin Flame?

A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

My previous blog listed some really good reasons to use psychics, but there are some things you also need to watch out for.

Some Pitfalls of Using Psychics with your Relationship…

When you start…

• Relying on them to get you out of your anxiety attacks and fear. With a twin flame relationship, that could cost you a fortune. Instead of asking the psychic what’s going to happen to get you out of the fear, ask them for methods on how to relieve the fear yourself.

• Becoming dependent on the psychic’s guides or intuition. A major part of the twin flame journey is about learning to navigate by your own inner guidance. Don’t use psychics to delay your inner work.

• Counting on the psychic’s time frames. Concerning the future, especially with twin flame relationships, psychic predictions can be way off. I’m going to be so bold as to say, ignore their timeframes completely concerning your relationship. Otherwise, you might tend to put your inner work on hold while you are waiting.

• Taking what psychics say too seriously. Just because they try to use their psychic abilities, doesn’t mean they are right all the time. Sometimes psychics are influenced by what’s going on in their own lives. Sometimes they haven’t done their own inner work and talk about things to be afraid of. And bear in mind, some psychics don’t have any idea what having a twin flame connection is like.

• Feeling beaten down, like you are wrong for what you want and your feelings. Watch out if you feel depressed or hopeless at the end of the reading. Good psychics will probably tell you some things you don’t want to hear, but in a loving way with a positive spin so that you can understand it.

If any of these resonate with you, you might want to try backing off a bit and using your own inner guidance more. In order to have a lasting happy outcome with your twin flame you will have to do it anyway. Why not start now?

I don’t do psychic readings, but I do offer help with your twin flame relationship. Here are two ways…

How to have a Happy Outcome with your Twin Flame Relationship 

Course

It consists of over 9 different PDFs and an individual phone coaching session. The study program explains how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome.

For more Details

or

Twin Flame One-on-one Coaching

Coaching consists of 40 minute sessions over the phone (within the United States). For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact, Vickie Champion.

For more Details

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

Psychics are a great source of help with a twin flame relationship, especially at the beginning of your journey.

Psychics Can Help You…

• Not feel you are going crazy!
• Verify if your relationship is of a twin flame, soul mate or karmic origin.
• Get answers to your questions.
• Build your faith.
• Learn about yourself, your twin flame, and the relationship.
• Think in new ways.
• Understand the woo-woo and spiritual experiences. If the psychics are really good they usually won’t give you a by-the-book answer. They will wait until their guides give them an answer.
• Makes sense of this wild journey.

Whether you use psychics or not, they are a good resource for help with your relationship. I don’t offer readings, but here are two ways I can help  you…

How to have a Happy Outcome with your Twin Flame Relationship 

Course

It consists of over 9 different PDFs and an individual phone coaching session. The study program shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome.

For more Details

or

Twin Flame One-on-one Coaching

Coaching consists of 40 minute sessions over the phone (within the United States). For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact, Vickie Champion.

For more Details

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

When I have a conversation with potential coaching clients, almost everyone’s main concern is, “when will I physically be with my twin flame?” The magnetic energy is so intense, sometimes it can feel unbearable. We automatically assume that once we are physically with our twin flame, it will become bearable.

Here’s the problem! Being physically near your twin flame before you are ready causes you to sabotage the relationship and the runner/chaser pattern.

Read this next part carefully! The reason the twin flame pull is so magnetic and intense is to keep us focused on our mission and most of all, willing to do our inner work and change our entire way of living in order to have our twin flame union.

So, the biggest reason to get help with your twin flame relationship is to…

Shorten the timeline!

If you roll up your sleeves, and do the inner work that is needed, a happy outcome with your twin flame occurs a whole lot sooner.

You can get help from almost anywhere, but here are two ways I can help you other than my blogs and videos…

How to have a Happy Outcome with your Twin Flame Relationship 

Course

This program explains in great depth the complex twin flame concepts and how to actually move past the challenges to have a happy outcome. For more Details

or

Twin Flame One-on-one Coaching

Coaching consists of 40 minute sessions over the phone (within the United States). The client chooses the subject or subjects they want help with for each session. If you could use some help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session. For more Details

It’s easy to get impatient waiting to be with your twin flame. Sometimes we want to run out and find the closest person. Sometimes we think we are crazy for wasting any more time on our twin flame relationship.

Here are Some Signs Not to Date Others Yet…

When you…

1   Get irritated with your twin flame for currently being with someone else, and you want to level the playing field or make her/him jealous. Even the slightest bit of retaliation won’t help you feel better long term.

2   Can’t really get excited about anyone else. The only one you can’t wait to be with is your twin flame.

3   No one is interested in you. You reach out on dating sites and no one responds back.

4   Find someone else that might work out, but the relationship peters out quickly. You might have one phone call that ends only after a few minutes, or get stood up on a date.

5   Are able to date someone else, but the relationship feels flat. Even though this person is likeable and you have someone to share things with, there is no spark in the relationship. It is not bad and not good, it feels like nothing.

6   Get lots of signs from the universe that pull your attention back to your twin flame. (For more details read Why do Twin Flames Get so Many Signs & Synchronicities?)

The Only Solution

If you have a twin flame, trying to find a substitute relationship, will not help you get much relief from the agony of waiting. Only doing your inner work will. Doing your inner work will give you immediate help with what is happening now, and also shorten the timeline for a happy outcome with your twin flame.

Everywhere you turn there are methods and people to help with doing your inner work. Just use your inner guidance and dig in to what feels right. I offer two ways other than my blogs and videos…

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

or

Twin Flame One-on-one Coaching

Coaching consists of 30-40 minute sessions over the phone (within the United States). For more Details  For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact, Vickie Champion.  

Have you ever wanted someone so bad, you can’t see straight? You can’t seem to get them out of your mind. At times, it’s all consuming to the point you can’t think of anything else.

This feeling probably happens to some degree with all romantic relationships. Although if we look deeper there is a distinct difference between wanting to be with your twin flame and leaning towards an obsessive relationship.

Here’s the Difference….

When you Want to be with a Twin Flame…

You HAVE NO IDEA WHY. It’s not explainable. No matter how hard you try, you can’t come up with much of anything to justify your desire. In fact, you probably have hundreds of reasons why not. And you tend to constantly question yourself, “Why them, of all people?”

When you are Leaning Towards an Obsessive Relationship…

You HAVE LOTS OF REASONS WHY you want to be with that person. There is a strong tendency to think you would be the picture perfect couple. In fact, you probably spend hours daydreaming about how great it will be when you are finally together.

Even knowing this distinction, sometimes it’s hard to tell what kind of relationship you are focusing on. To find out more differences read Obsessive vs Twin Flame Relationships-What’s the Difference?

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

Are you having trouble finding that one person that you can live happily ever after with? Maybe you are going from one painful relationship to another year after year. Or are you the third wheel staying away from any relationship whatsoever?

Times are a-changing!

I think it’s getting more difficult to fit relationships into a box with rules and restrictions. You know the typical scenario, boy meets girl, they date, they get married, have children and live happily until one of them dies. Maybe you grew up with parents who were able to fit their relationship into a box and are trying to coax you in that direction. Maybe it’s been part of your culture or religion for centuries. Maybe you see some of your friends who can live in a traditional relationship, which makes you wonder, “What in the heck is wrong with me?”

Here’s the problem!

Most of us can’t make ourselves jump in the box even for a little while, no matter how hard we try. We are either gay, a successful professional female, a male who wants to stay home and take care of the kids, we come from divorced parents and can’t imagine tying the traditional knot with anyone, or we want to marry for love.  Do I need to go on? And even if we could make ourselves jump in the box, it’s getting extremely difficult to find a partner who wants to jump in the same restrictive box with us.

What’s this got to do with twin flames?

These kinds of relationships usually are not trying to control love with male and female role playing, having expectations, and traditions. Twin flame relationships focus on learning how to unconditionally love each other, having the freedom to be who they really are. They don’t depend on their partner to make them feel better about themselves.

The Conclusion

If you can’t get yourself to conform to a traditional relationship, you’re not supposed to. Change the focus of your relationships to unconditional love, being who you really are, and taking responsibility for your own happiness. You’ll find the new trend fits you.

Twin Flame Course

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

When it comes to your twin flame relationship, do you often doubt yourself and feel like you are crazy? At times do you find yourself either running from your twin flame or chasing them? Does it feel like you are on an emotional roller coaster with ecstatic highs and some really scary lows?

Would you find it uplifting to get some help?

How to have a Happy Outcome with your Twin Flame Relationship

Course

It consists of over 9 different PDFs and an individual phone coaching session. The study program explains how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome.

For more Details

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

I’ve been talking to struggling individuals, watching videos, and reading  everything I can find on twin flame relationships. What fascinates me is, that hardly ever is the spiritual part of this experience mentioned, let alone discussed in length.

How do people go through this without believing in God or a Higher Power? And if they do, why don’t they talk about it in detail? I can’t.

Here’s what God or a Higher Power does for me…

God…

• Answers my questions and gives me insights about my twin flame relationship.
• Never fails in getting me out of the fear when I ask.
• Helps me accept my twin flame relationship, instead of wasting effort trying to reject it.
• Makes my twin flame journey enjoyable.
• Shows me how to truly forgive, expand my gratitude, and have lots more faith.
• Helps me master new ways to connect with my twin, beyond physical touch, and words.
• Comforts me when I need it.
• Insures me that a happy outcome for my twin flame relationship is guaranteed.
• Teaches me how to accept love like I never knew before.
• Guides me to let go of trying to control it, and instead sit back and watch the relationship unfold in the perfect way, at the perfect time.

As you have noticed, your twin flame relationship is the most intense, mind blowing, frightening, and most challenging journey you have ever experienced. But it also could be the most rewarding.

All you need to do is let God or a Higher Power be your guide through the twists, turns, ups and downs of this uncharted path. It could be the most unbelievable, amazing adventure known to mankind.

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

Is your twin flame relationship in runner/chaser pattern? Maybe you know who your twin flame is, but haven’t had a real relationship yet? Perhaps you are just hoping to find your twin flame soon. Neverthe-less, there is something you really need to know for the relationship to be successful.

“You can’t have an unhappy journey lead to a happy ending.”

Abraham Hicks

What the Heck Does that Mean?

There is a tendency to overlook our part in creating a happy ending to the relationship. If we treat being separate from our twin flame as a miserable experience, we tend to blame someone or something for the separation, put our life on hold until they come, feel lonely, or try to manipulate him/her into our arms.

Actually, our part in the twin flame journey is to raise our state of mind above the sacrifice, blame, fear, guilt, and anger into feeling happy no matter what happens. For a visual explanation, see my videos Why You are Not With Your Twin Flame Now and a A Twin Flame Union Explained.

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

We all experience it to some extent. What is it? It is that endless barrage of thoughts that race through our minds—an inner monologue, or mind chatter.

Part of our twin flame experience (and the actual union) is shaped by what dimension our mind chatter is coming from. Our relationship could be at a standstill—or downright painful­—if our mind chatter is at the lower energy level of the 3rd dimension. Or, our relationship could actually be enjoyable if our mind chatter is at the higher energy level of the 4th dimension. Best of all is the amazing, out of this world twin flame experience that results from the 5th dimension inner dialog.

Here’s the Differences in our Inner Monologue….

3rd Dimension Mind Chatter

When we are at that lower energy level mindset, almost all of our attention is placed on what’s not going right and what it should be.  Jealousy, anger, doubt, and fear can race through our minds, like we have no control over it.

Our Relationship Mind Chatter Has a Tendency to Consist of…

• Blaming ourselves or our twin flame for the current situation
• Fantasizing and daydreaming about making our twin flame relationship into a traditional romantic relationship full of rules and obligation
• Pining away about what we don’t have, like the ability to physically touch or, see our twin face-to-face
• Rehashing past encounters and judging what should have happened
• Disagreeing with what’s going on with our relationship
• Creating catastrophic scenarios based around the theme of “never being able to be with our twin”

4th Dimension Mind Chatter

When we are in the 4th Dimension, we realize that our mind chatter plays an important part of our twin flame relationship, both in what happens and our experience of it. Almost all of our attention is placed on observing and taking control of our inner monologue.

Our Relationship Mind Chatter Has a Tendency to Consist of…

• Lots of mantras or affirmations
• Taking time for meditation and quiet reflection with less mind chatter
• Asking relationship questions to God or a Higher Power, and waiting for the answers
• Desiring to learn, understand, or experience more about our relationship

5th Dimension Mind Chatter

When we are in the 5th Dimension, we mostly clear out our mind chatter and develop a quiet mind. Our point of focus is on listening for inner guidance and having an observing mind.

Our Relationship Mind Chatter Has a Tendency to Consist of…

• Developing an inner dialog with our twin flame, and God or a Higher Power
• Extending love to ourselves, others, and everything else
• Constant thoughts of gratitude
• Acceptance of everyone and everything

If you find that your mind chatter is mostly in the 3^rd dimension, notice how you feel. Do you feel you wouldn’t wish a twin flame relationship on anyone? Does it make you feel better or worse to think about your relationship? If it makes you feel worse, it’s time to start taking control of your inner monologue.

If you find your mind chatter is mostly in the 4th dimension, again, notice how you feel. When you think of your relationship, does it make you feel better or worse? Do you feel good, but not great? Is it starting to feel flat or at a standstill? Maybe it’s time to start listening full-time and let God or the Higher Power take over your inner monologue.

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

So, you are separate from your twin flame, or it’s not going well at all with them. How do I know? You wouldn’t be reading this if your relationship were hunky-dory and full of bliss.

Remember, having a twin flame can be the most fulfilling relationship humanly possible. But, there is a catch! In order to reap the lasting rewards of the relationship, we have to make the journey along the way the best experience we’ve ever had, not the worst.

Here’s Signs We Are Having an Unhappy Journey…

When we…

• Feel hurt by what our twin flame did or didn’t say, or what they did or didn’t do.
• Place all our attention on what’s NOT happening now.
• Daydream about what we want the future with our twin to be like.
• Put our life on hold, just waiting for him/her to contact us.
• Secretly want our twin flame to rescue us from our current situation. (Or at least make it better.)
• Place enormous importance in their physical body being near us. In other words, missing them.
• Are disappointed or depressed with the response when we try to make contact with our twin.

WARNING! This next statement might be upsetting!

“You can’t have an unhappy journey lead to a happy ending.”  

Abraham Hicks

We have to choose happiness and unconditional love before we can have a happy ending with our twin flame. For a visual explanation, see my two videos Why You are Not With Your Twin Flame Now and A Twin Flame Union Explained.

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

After a while you’ll realize you can’t break up and if you do temporarily, you can’t stop thinking about your twin flame. I think everyone comes to the realization that the only control we really have in this relationship is whether this will be the worst experience we have ever had or the best experience.

Here are Some Ways to Make it an Awful Experience…

1. Fight it. Listen to all your friends and try to be normal. Go out with other people and make yourself enjoy it. Cut off all ties and do your damnedest not to think about your twin. The longer you can last, the more painful it gets.

2. Don’t ever ask God or a Higher Power for help. Go with the concept “God only helps those who help themselves.”

3. Insist on making promises, try really hard to keep them, and feel guilty when you break them. To make it even worse, expect your twin to do the same.

4. Leave a trail of unforgiven relationships, such as ex’s, family, friends, acquaintances, and even strangers. Make it a point to bad mouth them, think about revenge, or avoid them like the plague. Think that anger and keeping grudges has nothing to do with the success of your twin flame relationship.

5. Don’t bother with being grateful for your twin flame relationship. It’s best to stay focused on things that are not going the way you want them too.

6. Tell your twin what he/she is doing wrong or at least think about it a lot. To make it worse, you could blame what your twin said and did for your separation.

7. Make up elaborate daydreams and fantasies about the future with your twin. Don’t forget to add in exactly what will happen, who will do or say what and when. That way you will have lots of disappointments.

8. Stay focused on what’s happening, what you can physically touch, hear with your ears, and see with your eyes. To make it even worse, think it will always be like this, you will always be separated from your twin, and there will never be a happy outcome.

9. Be extremely skeptical about the woo-woo part of your twin flame relationship. Doubt your intuition, absolutely deny any paranormal events, and ignore even the slightest hint of telepathy with your twin. And make sure you block your true feelings, especially those from the heart. That way you will have no doubt that you have gone crazy!

10. Stay steadfast to the belief that once your knight/dame in shining armor rides up on a white horse and rescues you, it will be bliss. To make it worse, believe that having your twin beside you will alleviate the need for further inner work.

Really! If you actually do these 10 things, either you are not in a twin flame relationship to begin with and are hell bent on sabotaging your life. Or you’re reading this from a room in a mental ward. The intense magnetic pull you have for your twin would be unbearable and it would send you over the edge.

The less excruciating thing to do is to change your mind to make this the best experience you have ever had.

For a Twin Flame Course to show you how to shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

I’ve asked a few of my twin flame coaching clients what the energy felt like. Most of them, like me, had to think about it for a long time before we could put it into words.  We all agreed that the twin flame energy was hard to describe, extremely intense, and unlike anything we have experienced before with any other relationship. Here’s what we came up with…

Twin Flame Energy Can Feel Like…

• Sensational bolts of energy running through our body.
• Our heart center has expanded so much it seems like it can burst at any minute.
• The strongest magnet in the world is pulling us towards our twin.
• Every cell in our body is pulsating and alive.
• An expanding warmth.
• An indescribable deep love.
• Our entire body feels expansive and tingling.

It Can Also…

• Grab our attention so forcefully that it’s extremely difficult to concentrate on anything else.
• Make us so eager to be with our twin that we feel like a child jumping up and down, waving our hands in the air with anticipated excitement.

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my Twin Flame Coaching and Consulting.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

Has someone told that you need to let your love interest go and move on? That’s a good suggestion for people in obsessive relationships. Most of them wouldn’t think of detaching from their love interest. They are always manipulating and pushing to make the relationship happen.

However, if you are in a genuine twin flame relationship, you most likely have already tried detaching or separating dozens of times. The intensity of the energy can get so strong, we’ll do anything to try to get away from it, and have.

I use to be really good at detaching. I’ve known for a long time that hanging on can repel something I want. Once I released something, it would either come back to me, or something better would take its place. It always worked before, until I tried letting go of my twin.

So far, every attempt I have made to separate and move on has been excruciatingly painful. It has whirled me into a tailspin—downward into the darkest fear and depression I’ve ever experienced.

I went a week once, trying to separate from my twin, blocking her energy, allowing no thoughts about her, and having internet or social media contact.  It got worse each day, until I was begging God to die. I truly thought the only way to escape the pain was for my life to end.

Every time, the minute I give in and embrace my twin flame again, I get relief. Attempting to detach is as hard as trying to separate the backside of a dollar bill from the front side.

What We CAN Detach From…  

Maybe we can’t separate from our twin flame, but we can detach from 3^rd dimension mindset. The 3^rd dimension is a way of life that supports needing things to work out a certain way. In fact, most, if not all our suffering in our twin flame relationship comes from staying attached to the 3^rd dimension.

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help letting go of your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

If you are like me and every genuine twin flame I’ve talked too, you can’t really break up. Boy, have we tried! Most of us have done everything humanly possible to end the relationship.

I’ve tried denying it, avoiding it, cutting off contact, attempting to date others, keeping myself crazy busy, praying it away, saying hundreds of affirmations daily, performing surrender ceremonies, meditation, psychics, past-life regressions, journaling, ignoring signs from the universe, living in the moment, and hypnosis. I even went to a shrink, thinking I was crazy for not being able to let my twin go. All with no success. My twin is still on my mind every day, year after year.

Here’s where the concept of free will comes in. Most of us define free will as the ability to make choices as separate individuals, as one wishes, without these choices being predestined by fate or divine will.

If free will were possible, wouldn’t more of us in genuine twin flames be able to will or wish it away?

A Course in Miracles states that,

“Every decision is made for the whole Sonship, directed in and out, and influencing a constellation larger than anything you have ever dreamed of.”

To me, this means that, instead of every individual going their own separate way and doing their own thing, there is a Higher Power or God orchestrating a course of events so intertwined that it is beyond our comprehension.

That being said, I had no choice but to try all those things to get rid of my twin. Maybe it was to learn to be compassionate with other twin flames failing at free will as I did. Maybe it was to write this blog. It sure wasn’t to end the connection with my twin flame.

A Course in Miracles also says,

“What could you not accept, if you but knew that everything that happen, all events, past, present and to come, are gently planned by One Whose only purpose is your good?”

“And it will lead you on in ways appointed for your happiness according to the ancient plan, begun when time was born.”

That last phase ties into what I have heard others say about a twin flame plan being something our soul agrees to do before we come back to earth.

And finally, it says,

“As the course emphasizes, you are not free to choose the curriculum, or even the form in which you will learn it. You are free, however, to decide when you want to learn it.”

I think we have been chosen for an exceptional study program with specific lessons, tests, and assignments customized especially for us that we are expected to complete. That last line means that the only choice we have is not if, but when we want to master the program.

Therefore, we do not have free will about whether we have a twin flame or not, who our twin flame is, or even all the twists, turns, ups, and downs our journey will entail. But we can decide when we will complete our assignment.

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

On my video, 34 Signs You are in a Twin Flame Relationship I find the comments either agree with me or totally disagree with me. I think the confusion comes from their definition itself of a twin flame relationship. One meaning seems to be “Easier” like a soul mate. The other version is more “Challenging.”

With both definitions of a twin flame relationship you can experience that deep love everyone talks about, notice a feeling of “familiarity” between  you, recall your past lives together, and become aware that you are telepathically connected.

Here’s what I think are the Differences…

INTERESTS

• The EASIER definition has many shared common interests in the physical world, such as music, food, income brackets, and age.

• With the CHALLENGING definition there are hundreds of opposite interests, such as messy/clean, extrovert/introvert, scheduled/spontaneous, and spiritual/analytical.

HONESTY

• With the EASIER definition, it’s justifiable to keep secrets if you have a good reason.

• With the CHALLENGING definition, it becomes unbearable to not be honest, especially with yourself.

 PURPOSE

• With the EASIER definition, the primary mission is to have a storybook romance, a cool relationship with great sex.

• With the CHALLENGING definition the primary mission is to help bring yourselves and humanity to a new level of consciousness.

FOCUS

• With the EASIER definition the relationship is supposed to complete you and make you whole. That usually means your twin comes to your rescue, releasing you from the responsibility of your inner work.

• With the CHALLENGING definition both twins are already whole and complete. Each whole comes together to experience the ultimate crash course in forgiveness, unconditional love, and oneness.

SELF-IMAGE

• With the EASIER definition, it builds your self-image at a pace that feels safe, comfortable, and without much stress.

• With the CHALLENGING definition, it almost destroys your existing self-image and reconstructs a new one. This is the part that makes most of us think we are crazy! It’s a time of extreme change, personal growth, and awakening for both parties.

APPROACH

• With the EASIER definition, you welcome the relationship with open arms.

• With the CHALLENGING definition, at times you have tried with all your might to end the relationship.

Now, Here’s the Good News!

Whether you believe the EASIER or the CHALLENGING definition of a twin flame relationship or a variation of them, it doesn’t matter.

Your job in any relationship is to learn how to unconditionally love the other person and yourself.

For a Twin Flame Course to show you how to shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

The twin flame journey seems like a combination of the very best you have ever wanted and the worst you could have imagined. It’s a huge ongoing battle between your head (ego) and your heart (love), until inevitably your heart wins. We know Love conquers all. So until your ego raises the white flag and surrenders, the relationship can be extremely difficult to endure.

Some try to avoid or deny the battle hoping the ego will fizzle out on its own, not realizing that it may take several lifetimes for that to occur. Others decide not to take ownership for their part, and instead blame their twin for running away from the battleground.

Then there are some who decide to let Love lead the way. Even though the game plan seems to have lots of obstacles to conquer, they have faith they will be well equipped to overcome anything they need to face.

Here are Some Ways Love Can Equip You to Fight the Ego…

1   Make a Commitment. 

Accept the fact that your destiny is to win the war with your ego and unconditionally love your twin flame. No matter how much you avoid, deny, downplay, or resist, it will still be your mission. Sometimes making the “whatever it takes” commitment can be the hardest part of the battle.

2  Take Full Responsibility for Your Thoughts.

Every thought you think has an effect. So, if you send out more loving thoughts instead of thoughts based on your ego, it changes the advantage. Think of them like cupid’s arrows, with the power to transform anything to love.

3  Change your Perception.

You and your twin are ONE. Only the ego can make you believe that you are separate and can go in different directions.

4   Call in the General.

Whenever the ego seems to be knocking you to the ground and making you judge yourself, your twin or the situation, stop and ask your leader, Love, what to do. Ask and ye shall receive. You can get out of any jam with Love, even in the midst of a full blown battle.

Once you go into the battle well equipped with Love leading the way, you’ll find the ego is not so intimidating and as powerful as you thought. And with each victory it gets easier to keep moving forward until Love has won.

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

Below are some songs that relate to the twin flame journey.

“The Only One” by The Black Keys 

“Crazy” by Gnarls Barkley

“Feels Like Heaven” by Laid Back 

“If I Should Fall Behind” by Bruce Springsteen

“I Knew I Loved You” by Savage Garden

“Eternal Flame” by Bangles

“I’ve Loved You Before” by Melissa Etheridge

“Past Lives” by Kesha Sebert 

“Déjà Vu” by Dionne Warwick 

“Almost There” by Andy Williams 

“Said I Loved You But I Lied” by Michael Bolden

“Somewhere” by Barbara Streisand

“Rise Up” by Andra Day

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

Maybe you know who your twin is, but yet have not actually met yet? Or perhaps you have met, but one of you is in the process of running. No matter what your current situation is, the all-consuming intense twin flame energy can be extremely difficult to deal with.

In the midst of a spell of this powerful energy, it is harder than blazes to sit still and not take action. Sometimes we want to take action to get rid of the energy all together for some relief. Sometimes we want to take action and do something to get our twin to come closer.  And then there are the extremely rare times that we take action because God or a Higher Power instructs us too.

Here’s the key to whether or not the action will have a happy outcome…

Before taking action of any kind, and ask yourself these questions,

          “Am I trying to take control of… (fill in the blank).”

          “Am I afraid of…. (fill in the blank).”

If you are, it would be better if you would just sit down, take some deep breaths, and try to embrace the energy instead.

The twin flame journey is about going within, letting go of the fear, the need to control, and just trusting God or the Higher Power. A happy outcome will happen with little or no effort on your part when the time is right.

For a Twin Flame Course to show you how to shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

Maybe you have been with your Twin Flame and one of you ran. You could both acknowledge your relationship, but because circumstances are what they are—maybe you are with other people, or live in different cities, you have stayed apart. Or you might know who your twin flame is, but you still haven’t physically met.

No matter what the reason, you are not together. There are times you feel you are handling the separation well and then there are times you are absolutely miserable.

Here are Two Things You Can Do to Delay Your Union Even More…

1   It’s easy to start BLAMING OUR TWIN for the separation, especially if they are in denial, avoiding us, not into personal growth, or just clueless.

Here’s the problem with twin flames: Because we are one with our twin, on some level they can feel us JUDGING them, which repels them even more. What will bring them closer is loving them unconditionally no matter what they do, say, or where they are in life.

2  When we get afraid we’ll never be with our twin and we can’t stand it any longer, we can try to MAKE IT HAPPEN. You know, reaching out trying to beg, prod, sweet-talk, and nudge them into our arms.

How does this push our twin flame away more?  Well, TIMING is everything.

The best analogy I can think of is that we need to calm down and wait for the swell. If we don’t wait for the right wave, it either takes a lot of effort paddling and kicking like crazy and then we’ll never be able to catch it. Or we’ll find ourselves hurled in the undertow. But if we learn to wait for the swell, our paddling joins with a bigger flow, one that will take us easily all the way to the beach.

To have a wonderful relationship with our twin, it’s better to wait for the swell and not take action when we are lonely and afraid. If the timing is right, there is very little (if anything) we need to do to make it happen.

Blaming, judging and trying to make the relationship happen is exactly what we are learning NOT to do.  Remember, having a twin flame is all about learning to have faith, not letting what seems to be happening upset us, and loving without reservations.

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

Why is it hard to make promises to your twin and actually keep them? There is a simple answer. You can’t take a twin flame relationship and fit it into a 3rd dimension mindset. It just won’t work. Here’s why…

Reasons for Promises

1   The 3rd dimension mindset can make promises in an effort to feel SECURE in their relationship, especially “forever” promises. Because twin flames minds are connected, all one twin has to do is be aware of their own “FEELINGS” about the relationship to recognize their twin feels the same.

2   The 3rd dimension consciousness can make promises to try to alleviate FEAR. Fear only appears when you are thinking about things in the future, or things in the past, believing they will happen again. Twin flames quickly learn to stay in the PRESENT where fear cannot exist.

3   The 3rd dimension mindset can make promises hoping to CONTROL behaviors, yours or your twins. Twin flame relationships focus very little, if any, attention on who’s doing what. It’s all about LOVING, FORGIVING, and ACCEPTING in spite of what’s happening.

4   In the 3rd dimension consciousness, promises can easily put you on AUTO-PILOT causing you to IGNORE your thoughts, feelings and insights. A twin flame relationship is the opposite. It ENHANCES your intuition, sensitivity, and opens up a new world.

5  In the 3rd dimension mindset, promises can easily cause COMPROMISE and SACRIFICE. The focus is keeping the promise, no matter what you have to do or how miserable you are. Because everything is INTENSIFIED with twin flames, feeling miserable becomes absolutely unbearable.

Here it is as simply as I can put it. The only way making promises will work in a twin flame relationship is if a Higher Power or God specifically instructs you to do so.

For a Twin Flame Course to show you how to shorten your timeline for a happy outcome.  

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

Everybody probably at one time or another has fantasized about a romantic relationship. Daydreaming is a quick fix, in other words, thinking that romance will be just the way you want and it is around the corner. We long for a companion who understands us and responds to our every need.

Here’s the problem.

Daydreaming locks us into trying to control how our twin acts and what’s going to happen according to our imagined fantasy. Maybe you can get some relationships to look like your storybook romance, but not with a twin flame.

In fact, daydreaming can be the very thing that causes us enormous pain and delays us from that glorious day we unite with our twin. We are so busy trying to control what our relationship should be like, what our twin should say and do, and what should happen, that we completely forget the real purpose of having a twin flame.

Twin flame relationships are all about learning to forgive, accept, and unconditionally love. So, it would make sense that everything that we wouldn’t even think of daydreaming about, is going to happen.

To feel better, instead of getting lost in daydreams that waste time and cause disappointment, take a different approach. Ask a Higher Power or God how to truly love your twin, and how to really accept that much love back.

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

What makes having a twin flame so darn difficult? The answer is easy. The only way it can be excruciating, is if you or both of you are trying to fit the relationship into a  3rd dimension box.

The 3rd dimension is about operating from rules, obligations, traditions and fear. The exact same thing the twin flame union is supposed to break out of and blow wide open.

Signs you are Trying to Shove your Relationship into a 3rd Dimension Box is When you…

1   Really think a CONVENTIONAL ROMANCE (trying to control your love like most couples) is going to be successful.

2   Have RIGID BELIEFS, characterized by polarities such as right/wrong, black/white, rich/poor, and feminine/masculine.

3   Believe your thoughts are PRIVATE and it’s OK to lie if you have a good reason.

4   Resist CALLING ON a Higher Power or God for help.

5   Think you need to DO something to FIX the relationship.

6   BLAME your twin, anyone or anything else for your current situation.

7   Think ANGER or JEALOUSY is justified.

8   Define INTIMACY as having your twin in physical proximity to you.

9   Give lots of importance to the AMOUNT of “I love you’s” said.

10  Wish your life could GO BACK to the way it used to be.

11  SACRIFICE and make compromises.

12  Expect your twin to DO things for you, and with you, to show their love.

13  Make PROMISES to control behaviors.

14  Pay very little attention to noticing your thoughts and more on trying to CONTROL what’s happening or what you think should happen.

15  COMPARE your relationship with other couples and wish for a normal relationship instead.

16  Feel you would be HAPPIER if things were different. Maybe if you were married, or with your twin all the time you would feel better.

17  Operate from CONDITIONAL LOVE. Only if they SAY and DO what you want, then you will love them more.

18  Use your twin to fill your box of NEEDS such as companionship, financial help, emotional support, or to make decisions for you.

19  Place importance on giving and receiving MATERIAL GIFTS that represent love such as birthday gifts, Valentine’s day gifts, and matrimonial gifts.

20  Think what your twin SAYS or DOES is more important than the LOVE you have for them.

21  Hold GRUDGES against your twin or anyone else.

22  Take relationship ADVICE SOLELY from loved ones, religious leaders, doctors, and therapists.

23  Neglect listening and following your INNER GUIDANCE or intuition.

24  Feel SEPARATE from your twin and from a Higher Power or God.

Now think about it. Do you really want to take the unconditional love and freedom out of the most loving relationship you’ll ever experience? Ask a Higher Power or God to help move you up to living mostly in the 4th and 5th dimension. You’ll find all the agony and pain in this relationship disappear.

  A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

Meeting your twin is only part of it, being able to handle the intensity and looking head on at your ego is another thing. The purpose of having a twin flame is to go through a crash course in releasing the ego for eternity. No easy feat!

Here are Some Suggestions to Make Your Twin Flame Union Easier…

1   Throw the paradigm of romantic relationships out the window. A twin flame union won’t be like any relationship you have ever had before or be like hardly any other relationships in the world. You’re probably one in 100,000, if that. I also highly doubt it will be the same as other twin flame unions. Twin flames connect to be an example of a new way to love and way more than a story book romance.

2   Think of the relationship as a huge inner adventure that can’t be escaped, only mastered. Every day there will be new things to explore, different paths to follow, lots of twists and turns, and demons to conquer.

3   Get used to lots of spiritual experiences. You will be exposed to everything that will help you release your ego and act only out of unconditional love. This could be signs from the universe, telepathy, psychic abilities, recalling past lives, astro projection, or even anything that seems impossible.

4   Learn to go within and pay attention to the “feeling.” No matter what’s happening in your relationship, or what your twin is doing or saying, stay focused on the “feeling” moment by moment. If it feels like fear or some of the lower energies, send your twin unconditional love to transform it. If it feels like love or some of the higher energies, bask in it as long as you can.

5   With the relationship, start heavily relying on God (Source, Spirit, Inner Guide, Universe or anything else you want to call it). That Higher Power is the only thing that can make this adventure easier, end the fear and take you to a place that very few humans have ever gone. All you have to do is ask, listen, and follow through when directed to do so.

Good news!

Whether you have been in an active twin flame union for years, are separated, or haven’t even met them in person yet, these five things will help make this adventure absolutely amazing.

For a  Twin Flame Course to show you how to shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

It’s confusing when we first meet someone who whips us off our feet and we experience out-of-this world chemistry. It’s hard to believe this is an ordinary romance. So, we can easily assume we’ve finally found the highest relationship humanly possible, our twin flame.

Signs You Probably Have NOT Met Your Twin Flame Yet…

1  There is not an age difference of at least a few years.

2   You tend to keep little secrets from her/him because you are afraid of her/his reaction. If it is a twin flame union, there is absolutely nothing you won’t discuss with them.

3   You can’t remember receiving lots of noticeable signs and synchronicities that were nudging you in his/her direction, long before you ever met.

4   There are not enormous amounts of differences between you and her/him. In fact, twin flames are opposites, having hardly anything in common at first other than they are both human and have an intense attraction for each other.

5  Neither one of you is heavily involved in self-growth, spiritual, or faith based pursuits.

6  Your deep attraction  to her/him has faded or died out with time.

7  Neither one of you has realized that this isn’t the first time the two of you have met. Twin flames almost always have had several previous lifetimes together.

8  You aren’t ready to unconditionally love someone no matter how they act, what they say, or what they do. Twin flames are put together to go through a crash course in forgiveness, gratitude, and acceptance.

Whether or not you have found your twin flame, it doesn’t matter. What matters is whether or not you want a deep fulfilling connection with someone else. And if you do, #8 is the only thing that can make that come true. Even the most ordinary romances can be amazing.

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details