Simply, we never lose what truly matters to us.

If We DON’T Believe “We Never Lose What We Value”…

Not believing that little statement takes us down the dark side of our situation. We are choosing to play the victim of our circumstances, feeling we have been mistreated, which results in anger about it. This can easily lead to more anger, a feeling of helplessness, hopelessness, and depression.

If We DO Believe “We Never Lose What We Value”…

This opens the door, and we claim our power in the circumstance. That doesn’t mean we get revenge. It means we are open to seeing it as a blessing in disguise, which leads us down a different, more positive path.

All we have to do is examine how we FEEL about it.

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I’m going to use the loss of a job to explain the concept, but the belief that “we never lose what we value” applies to anything and everything that will happen to us.

With a Job Loss, the Emotional Feelings to Look at are…

1  DAILY TASKS

Maybe some parts or all of what we actually did were not our favorite things to do.

2  REQUIRED SACRIFICES

Maybe the work hours, flexibility in the schedule, or the distance from home were not ideal and required family members or us to make some sacrifices.

3  INADEQUATE COMPENSATION

Maybe we just weren’t making enough money to pay all our bills, feel secure, be motivated to do our best, and have the desire to be loyal to the company.

4  PRESSURED

Maybe there were unreasonable deadlines, or we were overworked to the point we were exhausted most of the time.

5  LACK OF APPRECIATION

Maybe we felt we were being used and taken for granted. Or let’s turn it around, perhaps we were there using them to gain experience and contacts.

6  RELATIONSHIP DIFFICULTIES

Maybe we had trouble with misunderstandings and unresolved conflicts with our supervisor, co-workers, or customers. Perhaps we disrespected our leaders, or it was obvious they didn’t respect us.

7  WORKPLACE CULTURE

Maybe we just didn’t fit in. There might have been toxic behaviors like bullying, harassment, gossip, or favoritism that we couldn’t shake off.

8  AGAINST MORALE COMPASS

This is the most truth telling question to ask ourselves. It’s very difficult to try to go against our own moral compass by trying to ignore it, making excuses, denying it, or blaming others for unethical things.

What are Unethical Things?

Unethical things are based on the strategy “Companies can gain at something else or someone else’s expense.” That means they can get something that would benefit the company from causing harm or loss to other things (environment, animals, etc.), individuals, or groups.

The Important Part

If we have done, been asked to participate in, or others in our company have crossed the line, because “we never lose what we value,” it will eventually rise to the surface to be rectified. With job loss, at least we are able to distance ourselves from participating in or witnessing it any longer.

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Still Doubtful You Didn’t Lose Something You Valued? Three More Questions

1  Was there anything you would rather have done for work if you could have?

2  Were you dreading going into work?  Was it gradually getting harder every time?

3  Do you secretly feel relieved not go back to work?

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Conclusion

I bet you had a few, if not several, areas of your job that weren’t ideal.

If we honestly take a deep look at what was going on with our emotional feelings, it’s hard to be blindsided and play victim.

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I have two QUIZZES that may help you…

Is the Changing World Stressing You Out?

How Often Do You Listen to Your Intuition?

Also, check out the Inner Work and Intuition sections on my website.