Vickie Champion

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How Fear Affects Your Twin Flame Relationship

Have you noticed, the more fear you’re in, the less you feel those warm and fuzzy feelings from your twin flame? It seems like feeling the connection goes in and out depending on how much fear (worry, concern, anxiety) you are experiencing.

Here’s the thing! The fear doesn’t even have to be about our twin flame or our relationship. The more we worry or get upset about something—anything—the less we feel the loving connection.

Fear blocks our awareness of love.

How Fear Affects Our Twin Flame Relationship…

 

1   Fear Can Bring the Ego (3rd dimension mindset) to the Surface-

That means every negative feeling we could imagine can rear its ugly head when we are afraid. Some common ones related to our twin flame are feeling hopeless, jealous, impatient, confused, guilty, judgmental, and inadequate. 

 

2   Fear Can Tempt us into Using Something to Try to Relieve it-

This could be anything—we can use food, pills, alcohol, drugs, caffeine, being crazy busy, binge watching, or hundreds of other options.

But let’s be honest. That something doesn’t really get rid of our fear at all. It numbs us so we don’t have to feel it. The problem is that using something to numb the fear usually dulls all feelings, especially the really good ones.

 

4   Fear Can Block Our Intuition or Inner Guide-

When we are afraid not only does it shut off our connection with our twin flame, it also stops our ability to be aware of our inner guidance or intuition.

 

5   Fear Can Distract Us from Doing Our Inner Work-

We can get so wrapped up with what’s happening and what might happen in the future, that it steers us away from doing anything to get us out of the fear and back on track with our relationship.

 

6   Fear Can Completely Stop a Happy Outcome with Our Twin Flame-

In fact, fear is the only thing that kills a twin flame union. The good news is, both of you have to be in fear to stop it. Because twin flames are the same soul, if only one of them chooses to get out of the fear, the other one will eventually follow.

Are You Ready to Get Out of Fear?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more details.

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

To learn more about Vickie’s Individual Coaching Sessions for twin flame relationships. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.

 

 

Twin Flames: Are External Circumstances Driving You Inward?

It certainly seems as if most of us are being pushed by external circumstances into slowing our daily lives down and getting more solitude.  It’s driving us inward—giving us plenty of time to do our inner work.

If you have been on your twin flame journey for any length of time, you probably know that in order to have an ongoing, amazing, out-of-this-world relationship, you have to do a lot of inner work.

That Means Learning How to…

  • Rely on a Higher Power (God, Source, Divine, Universe, or whatever you want to call it).
  • End the need to doubt yourself, that Higher Power, or the relationship.
  • Feel worthy. That includes forgiving yourself for anything you think you have done wrong, ever.
  • Use your intuition or inner guide.
  • Live most of the time with the 4th dimension mindset.

When external circumstances push you out of your comfort zone and free up your busy day-to-day schedule, it’s a perfect time to get serious about your twin flame inner work.

Are You Ready to Get Serious About Your Twin Flame Inner Work?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more details .

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

Learn more about Vickie’s Individual Coaching Sessions for twin flame relationships. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.

 

 

3rd vs. 4th Dimension Definitions of a Twin Flame Relationship

If you look on the Internet for the meaning of a twin flame relationship, you can easily get confused. There are all sorts of explanations. What each one of these definitions have in common is that they come from the mindset of the writer. Some will resonate with you more than others, depending on your mindset.

Here’s a way of looking at the definition of a twin flame relationship from the 3rd and 4th dimension mindsets…

3rd Dimension Mindset Definition

The 3rd dimension definition is more self-serving. A twin flame relationship is finding that special person who will fulfill our needs and meet our expectations for a perfect relationship.

Signs We’re Coming from a 3rd Dimension Mindset…

When Thinking About a Twin Flame we…

  • Are mainly focused on getting what we want.
  • Believe the primary mission of the relationship is to have a storybook romance—a cool relationship with great sex.
  • Expect our twin flame to make some compromises and sacrifices to please us.
  • Want she/he to complete us—filling our needs, such as companionship and feeling secure.
  • Want them to make us feel good by saying and doing things that we like.
  • Would like them to come to our rescue, releasing us from the responsibility of changing our mindset and doing any inner work.

4th Dimension Mindset Definition

The 4th dimension takes the focus off of ourselves and striving to make what we want happen. Instead, it defines a twin flame relationship as wanting to unconditionally love a special person sooo much, we are willing to completely let go of our ego (3rd dimension mindset) to experience the twin flame union (5th dimension oneness).

Signs We’re Coming from a 4th Dimension Mindset…

When Thinking About a Twin Flame we…

  • Are mainly focused on learning to extend unconditional love.
  • Believe the primary mission of the relationship is to help bring ourselves, our twin flame, and humanity to a new level of consciousness.
  • Don’t expect she/he to say or do anything they don’t want to do just to please us.
  • Are willing to let go of our existing self-image and reconstruct a new one.
  • Come to our own rescue, accepting the responsibility of changing our mindset and doing our inner work.
  • Are focused on learning to extend love, no matter what the condition. That means not letting any circumstances whatsoever, tempt us into doubting ourselves, our twin flame, or our love.

Are You Ready to Change Your Mindset About Your Twin Flame?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details .

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

To learn more about Vickie’s Individual Coaching Sessions for twin flame relationships. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.

 

 

Consequences of Having a Twin Flame

At first, it might seem that the purpose of the twin flame journey is all about getting and staying in our twin flame’s arms. It’s way more than that! There are constant ups, downs, twists, and turns to this wild journey. By the time we’re well into our twin flame journey, our whole life has been turned inside out.

Here’s Some of the Consequences We Might Experience as a Result of Having a Twin Flame…

We Tend to…

 1   BECOME MORE ISOLATED AND DISTANT-

It’s like God or a Higher Power is taking away all the distractions to make us concentrate on our twin flame mission. We need more time for solitude.

2   MAKE MAJOR CHANGES IN OUR LIVES-

There will be lots of changes. Among them we might move long distances, drop our religion, change our career, and even stop addictions or bad habits. We find ourselves willing to do anything and everything.

3   CHANGE FRIENDS-

Because our whole life begins to center around our twin flame, we have less and less in common with others who are not experiencing the same phenomenon, or at least, supporting our roller-coaster twin flame relationship.

4   DISTANCE OURSELVES FROM DIFFICULT FAMILY MEMBERS-

If we don’t cut ties completely, we will drastically limit our time with those who are heavily into control, rigid rules, obligations, and traditions of the 3rd dimension mindset. Being around them can make us feel guilty or judged.

5   SLOW DOWN, AND NOT BE SO CRAZY BUSY-

We stop living life like it’s a race, always running from one thing to another.

6   BECOME REALLY SPIRITUAL-

Not only do we embrace God, Higher Power, Universe, Spirit, Divine, or any other way you want to identify that higher source that knows more than we do, but we learn to count on that inner guidance or intuition in our relationship and with everything else in our lives.

7   DEVELOP LESS TOLERANCE TOWARDS 3rd DIMENSION ATTITUDES AND BEHAVIORS-

It might get difficult to watch the news or be involved in or around pessimistic drama.

8   BECOME MORE SENSITIVE-

This goes along with the previous point. Not only do we become less tolerant to others’ negative energy, we become more sensitive to sounds, chemicals, perfumes, and certain foods. For example, it might become unpleasant to listen to white noise, and we might be drawn to listening to brown noise instead.

9   BECOME MORE CREATIVE-

The key is to do more things that are unconventional (similar to the unconventional twin flame relationship), imaginative (being open to new ideas), and that are inspired (to utilize our inner guide or intuition).

There are hundreds of ways this will play out in our lives. It could be as subtle as being more creative with every-day problem-solving, or as obvious as changing your career to be an artist.

10   IMPROVE OUR SUPERNATURAL ABILITIES-

We acquire a desire and the ability to communicate with our twin flame the 4th dimension way through psychic abilities, such as telepathy and astral projection. Maybe that’s why we get so many psychic readings, because we are learning to get better at the skill ourselves.

Inside Out

As I said before, our whole life will be turned inside out. The twin flame journey drives us inward, pushing us to find our true selves, feel connected to a Higher Source, and achieve twin flame union.

Are You Ready to Turn Your Life Inward?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details .

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

To learn more about Vickie’s Individual Coaching Sessions for twin flame relationships. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.

 

 

Are You in a Twin Flame Relationship or Just Infatuated or Obsessed?

It seems more and more people are having really intense attractions for a special person. Even though you can’t get that person out of your mind and want to be with them so bad you can’t see straight, that is not a reason to automatically assume you have found your twin flame.

Here’s the Difference Between Having a Twin Flame and Being Infatuated or Obsessed…

1   THE LENGTH OF TIME-

Being Infatuated or Obsessed…

When we are infatuated or obsessed, the attraction weakens with time. What was once terribly exciting gradually dwindles as the months pass by.

Having a Twin Flame…

When we have a twin flame, the attraction is still there years and even decades later. If we are doing our inner work, the attraction actually grows. Love usually takes time to develop, mature, and expand.

2   DREAMWORLD-

Being Infatuated or Obsessed…

When we are infatuated or obsessed we get caught up in daydreaming and imagining how we want the relationship to play out and what we want our twin flame to say and do.

Having a Twin Flame…

When we have a twin flame, the loving energy is often so intense it keeps us focused on the feeling. Our dreamworld mainly consists of wanting to experience that amazing mind-blowing feeling more.

3   FOCUS OUR ATTENTION ON-

Being Infatuated or Obsessed …

When we are infatuated or obsessed, we focus our attention on the physical world, which is what we can see, hear, and touch. Having physical contact with our special person is extremely important, if not everything. Often the attraction fades when we can’t see, hear, or touch our special person.

Having a Twin Flame…

When we have a twin flame, we focus our attention mostly on the feeling.

The love, appreciation, and connection outweighs what is physically seen, heard, or touched, ten to one.

5   PERFECTION-

Being Infatuated or Obsessed …

When we are infatuated or obsessed, we think our special person is perfect, and especially perfect for us. We think everything about them is perfect—the way they show affection, how they look, what they say, their personality, and how they behave.

One of the sure signs we are infatuated or obsessed is that we can’t stop talking about our special person.

Having a Twin Flame…

When we have a twin flame, it’s not about their perfections or even seeing their imperfections, but how the connection and love feels.

6   EXPECTATIONS-

Being Infatuated or Obsessed …

When we are infatuated or obsessed, we tend to place a lot of responsibility on our special person. We usually expect our special person to make us feel better by fulfilling our needs. This could be sexual, companionship, safety, financially, to build our self-esteem, or anything else we think we are lacking.  If those needs are not met, we quickly lose interest in our special person.

Having a Twin Flame…

When we have a twin flame, we see the relationship from a different perspective, taking full responsibility to make ourselves feel better. Instead of waiting to get our needs met, we focus on feeling better anyway. This different perspective makes our unmet needs not so crucial and frees up our relationship.

7   DRAMATIC-

Being Infatuated or Obsessed …

When we are infatuated or obsessed, we tend to have more drama by having frequent quarrels and misunderstandings. Each flare-up has the underlying aim of making our special person or ourselves feel guilty for doing something wrong.

This is usually caused by holding a lot of high expectations (#6) over our special person’s head or holding a lot of high expectations over our own head.

Having a Twin Flame…

When we have a twin flame, we quickly learn making someone feel bad about themselves or what they have done makes the relationship an absolutely horrible experience.

The Good Part

Whether we are infatuated or obsessed, or have a twin flame, the purpose of the relationship is the same—learn how to unconditionally love. The good part is if you are infatuated or obsessed and you learn to unconditionally love that special person, it becomes a worthwhile, amazing experience.

Are You Ready to Learn How to Unconditionally Love Your Twin Flame?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details .

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

To learn more about Vickie’s Individual Coaching Sessions for twin flame relationships. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.

 

Adapt a Jesus-Like Mindset if You are Unsure About Your Twin Flame

So many of us spend so much time being unsure. We get so worried about whether that special person we keep thinking about is our twin flame or not. Is it really that important to know if you have found the one? To help you get some clarity and perspective, try adapting a Jesus-like mindset.

Ask Yourself These Questions:

1   Would Jesus wonder if he was wasting time on the wrong person?

2   Would Jesus not ask God for guidance with this relationship?

3   Would Jesus get worried when something changes in the relationship?

4   Would Jesus let that special person hurt his feelings?

5   Would Jesus claim his doesn’t know how to listen to God’s voice, his inner guidance, or intuition?

6   Would Jesus focus on his own or that special person’s wrong doings, faults, or differences?

7   Would Jesus try to make that special person feel guilty for what they did or didn’t do?

8   Would Jesus lack the willingness to forgive both himself and that special person?

9   Would Jesus stop having faith if he couldn’t see evidence of the relationship?

10   Would Jesus not trust that God’s got a plan for this relationship that will benefit everyone?

11   Would Jesus question his worth or feel not good enough to do what God asks for this relationship?

Some of those questions you might answer with a YES because of your religious beliefs, but with the majority of those questions you would probably answer with a NO.

Would all our doubts and fear about that special person we keep thinking about fade away if we just followed Jesus’s example?

If you want a good book on how to adapt a Jesus-like mindset, A Course in Miracles was supposed to have been channeled from Jesus.

“If you want to be like me I will help you, knowing that we are alike. If you want to be different, I will wait until you change your mind.”

A Course in Miracles, Chapter 8, Section IV, Paragraph 6

Are You Ready to Have a Happy Outcome with that Special Person?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details .

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

To learn more about Vickie’s Individual Coaching Sessions for twin flame relationships. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.

 

Are Most Twin Flames More Introverted?

The more I talk to people questioning whether they have met their twin flame, the more I am finding a pattern. Most of them who have contacted me tend to be more introverted than extroverted.

Here’s Some Reasons Twin Flames Might Tend to Lean Towards Being More Introverted…

1   TOTAL COMMITMENT-

Those who lean towards being more extroverted usually enjoy a lot of different activities and have a wide range of friends. Therefore, it might be difficult to completely commit to one major relationship with the single goal of learning how to unconditionally love that person.

Those who lean towards being more introverted usually have no problem making one relationship with one gigantic goal their top priority. They tend to have very few loved ones, but they are deep  meaningful relationships.

2   TAKING ACTION-

Those who lean towards being more extroverted usually like moving into action and making things happen. That could make it hard to stop doing something long enough for God or a Higher Power to take the lead.

Those who lean towards being more introverted usually can stop trying to make it happen, and let the relationship unfold with God or a Higher Power’s guidance.

3   FOR VALIDATION-

Those who lean towards being more extroverted usually rely on the world around them or their twin flame for confirmation of their efforts. However, the twin flame journey is often about learning how to believe in something before seeing evidence of it, which can take a hefty mind shift for extroverts.

Those who lean towards being more introverted usually get their proof of relationships internally, by how they feel. This really helps during those times when their twin flame is not physically in contact with them.

4   MAKE CHANGES-

Those who lean towards being more extroverted usually make outer changes, by doing something that can be seen, heard, or touched. That, along with the fact that extroverts often jump into action before they think it over can cause them to push their twin flame further away.

Those who lean towards being more introverted usually make inner changes. It’s less about seeing evidence and more about feeling themselves change. That includes feeling more love, worthiness, forgiveness, and gratitude towards themselves and their twin flame.

5   SEEK COMPANIONSHIP-

Those who lean towards being more extroverted usually prefer physically being in someone’s presence. This makes it difficult not to move on and date others when experiencing a runner/chaser pattern with their twin flame.

Those who lean towards being more introverted are comfortable spending time alone and there is less of an urge to date others when their twin flame is not physically with them.

6   COMMUNICATION-

Those who lean towards being more extroverted usually like to communicate by doing something they can see, hear, or touch—preferably in person. Part of the twin flame journey is to learn a new way to communicate, operating from the 4th dimension mindset with thoughts, and feelings. That can be difficult for an extrovert to adapt to.

Those who lean towards being more introverted can easily communicate with others through their thoughts and feelings. This inclination allows them to experience telepathic thoughts and astral travel easily with their twin flame.

7   SIGNS FROM THE UNIVERSE-

Those who lean towards being more extroverted usually move at a quicker pace. They are used to doing lots of activities in a shorter timeframe—not spending much time observing. Therefore, there are probably hundreds of signs from the universe about their twin flame and their journey that extroverts have a hard time being aware of.

Those who lean towards being more introverted tend to take time to watch and examine behaviors and situations. This often helps them pick up on signs from the universe quickly, helping them great make sense of the twin flame journey.

Don’t Get Me Wrong!

This does not mean those who lean towards being more extroverted cannot have a twin flame! It means the more extroverted you are, the more difficult it may be to navigate the twin flame journey for a happy outcome.

Are You Ready to Have a Happy Outcome with Your Twin Flame?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details .

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

To learn more about Vickie’s Individual Coaching Sessions for twin flame relationships. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.  

 

Does Everyone Have a Twin Flame?

The answer to that question can have two different answers depending on our definition of twin flame relationship.

ONE ANSWER

If we define  twin flame as a special relationship with one special person that will be so intense and magnifying that we will do anything, including giving up our ego (3rd dimension) for it, then the answer is NO. There are very few who want to lose their self-image to melt into the oneness (5th dimension) with another person.

If a person is an ISTP, ISTJ, ESTP, or ESTJ according to the Myers-Briggs Personality Test, probably the last thing they want in life is a deep, out-of-this-world relationship with anyone. According to Myers-Briggs, that’s approximately 30% of the population.

ANOTHER ANSWER

But if we ease up on the twin flame definition and consider it to be more of a relationship with another person that we are to learn how to unconditionally love and feel a connection with, the answer is YES.

In fact, we’re ALL here on earth to learn how to love ourselves, others, and everything else.

If you are unsure whether or not you have found your twin flame, try easing up on your twin flame definition. It would probably make it simpler for you to just go ahead and learn how to unconditionally love the person you keep thinking about. There are no real benefits in waiting to love anyone who comes into your life.

Are You Ready to Stop Waiting and Learn How to Love the Person You Keep Thinking About?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details .

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

To learn more about Vickie’s Individual Coaching Sessions for twin flame relationships. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.

 

 

The Main Obstacles in the Twin Flame Journey

Before we have the most fulfilling relationship humanly possible on a long-term basis, there are some obstacles we have to overcome.

The Main Obstacles in the Twin Flame Journey are that….

1   WE WILL WANT TO GET OUT OF IT-

No matter how much we pray, how hard we try, or what we do, we cannot quit. There might be a day or two when we think we have finally let our twin flame go, then something happens to bring our twin flame back into our minds.

2   WE WILL THINK IT’S WRONG TO BE THIS OBSESSED-

We may have had an all or nothing attitude before, but this relationship will take it to the extreme. Absolutely everything else that we care about will take a lower priority and even go off our radar. The challenge is that we and others will think it is wrong, but it’s not.

3   WE FIGHT OURSELVES-

We often have knockout battles between our mind and our heart. At times we are so sure we want nothing to do with our twin flame and then completely turn around the next moment and want to be with her/him so bad we can’t see straight.

4   WE WILL HAVE TO FORGET ABOUT HAVING A NORMAL RELATIONSHIP-

It’s very difficult to get our minds wrapped around the fact that there is no way that our twin flame relationship will even resemble being like everyone else’s.

5   WE WILL EXPERIENCE DREADFUL LOWS-

Because the twin flame relationship is about getting rid of the 3rd dimension (ego) in both individuals at the same time, the lows can get extreme. One minute we can be fine and the next minute we’ll be in the deepest, darkest place we have ever felt. The challenge is to learn how to diminish the intensity and frequency of the lows. By the way, these bouts can actually disappear if even one of the twin flames does their inner work on a consistent basis.

6   WE WILL HAVE TO BECOME SPIRITUAL-

There is no way of getting around it, we will become extremely spiritual. In order to fit in, many twin flames have denied, ignored, and even fought their spiritual side. Between all the paranormal events, signs from the universe, telepathy, visions, dreams, and psychic abilities, it will make our spiritual side unshakable. In fact, it becomes so unrelenting that all our pre-programed religious beliefs about what is right and what is wrong will become irrelevant.

7   WE WILL STRUGGLE WITH THE NEED FOR MORE QUIET TIME-

Our desire to be social and have casual conversations will fade and at times almost vanish.  We’ll become more interested in solitude, creativity, and spiritual undertakings.  The twin flame journey drives us inward.

8   WE WILL BATTLE TO KEEP THE IDEA OF FREE WILL-

Almost everybody defines free will as having freedom to make choices as separate individuals, without these choices being predestined by fate or divine will. But the more we get into the twin flame journey and become more spiritual, the more we question and want to redefine that definition. Why, the whole twin flame concept is based on believing wholeheartedly in a predestined fate.

9   WE WILL LET GO OF FRIENDS-

There will be a tendency to try to hang onto old friends. Because our focus centers around our twin flame, we have less and less in common with others who are not experiencing the same phenomenon. We might have a couple of friends left who support our roller coaster relationship and all of our changes, but no matter how hard they try they can’t quite understand our twin flame attraction.

10   WE WILL RESIST CHANGE-

In the end we will find ourselves doing things we never ever thought we would do. Because the magnetic pull to be with our twin flame is so strong, we’ll find ourselves doing anything and everything to get to get her/him in our arms. We’ll change jobs or move hundreds of miles just to be physically closer to our twin flame. We’ll try all types of spiritual practices just to feel a deeper connection. We’ll even change every belief that is standing in the way of having a happy outcome with our twin flame.

Overcoming these 10 obstacles will push us out of our comfort zones, stretch us beyond what we think is possible, turn our whole lives inside out, and most of all, prepare us for our twin flame union. 

Are You Ready to Overcome the Obstacles in Your Twin Flame Journey?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details.

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

You can also contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session. 

 

Why Is the Attraction to Our Twin Flame So Intense?

What keeps us wanting to be with our twin flame so bad we can’t see straight? You probably guessed that the answer has something to do with love. But, it’s not quite what you think.

The attraction is caused by the intense need to learn how to unconditionally love our twin flame.

We have probably had several lifetimes with our twin flame, stuck in the 3rd dimension mindset (conditional love). The same relationship (with different bodies and different roles) keeps repeating, lifetime after lifetime, until we change our mindset and learn how to love without conditions.

Conditional Love

This is about trying to CONTROL LOVE. The 3rd dimension mindset thinks love is the ability to control ourselves and our twin flame’s behaviors with making promises, having expectations, compromising, making sacrifices, and most of all, using guilt. We really think we can keep our twin flame from running/chasing by using these five methods.

Unconditional Love

This is about believing love is a FEELING that reveals itself when it is extended to our twin flame. People with this mindset think love is the ability to control the love they feel with their own loving thoughts, being grateful, forgiving, and using their inner guidance or intuition.

Good News!

It’s not necessary for both twin flames to raise their mindset to the 4th dimension (unconditional love). Only one of the two needs to love unconditionally, because twin flames are ONE. They are not separate.

Are You Ready Get Rid of the 3rd Dimension Mindset?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details .

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

To learn more about Vickie’s Individual Coaching Sessions for twin flame relationships. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.

 

 

Twin Flame: Worried the Relationship is One-sided?

Are you afraid your intense feelings towards someone are one-sided (unrequited love) and they don’t feel the same way about you? Do you think you might be wasting time with love that is not openly returned or rewarded?

This is a common doubt, especially for those who feel the intense energy, but have not met her/him in person yet. Or for those who were lucky enough to get a quick glance of that special person but haven’t seen her/him since.

How Can Love Not be Returned or Rewarded?

The answer is simple. If we are in a 3rd dimension mindset, love is often not returned or rewarded.

About 3rd Dimension Love

The 3rd dimension’s idea of love is doing something to GET something from that special person in return, which is really conditional love. With this mindset, we sure don’t want to waste our time on someone who won’t love us back.

About 4th Dimension Love

The 4th dimension’s idea of love is GIVING loving thoughts to that special person not expecting anything in return, which is unconditional love. With this mindset, we feel the benefits right away. The love in the relationship will increase. The more unconditionally loving thoughts we give to that special person, the better we feel. As long as we have a wonderful relationship with that person, who cares if they are our twin flame or not?

We GET what we GIVE.

 

Are You Ready to Learn How to Unconditionally Love That Special Person?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details .

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

To learn more about Vickie’s Individual Coaching Sessions for twin flame relationships. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.

 

Four Personalities that are Least Likely to Have Twin Flame Relationship

There are two major things that happen in a twin flame relationship that do not fall in line with certain Myers-Briggs personality types (MBTI).

Feeling (F)

One of them is the ability twin flame’s have to experience the intense feelings and connection they have with their twin flame. In fact, the ability to feel this is a driving force that keeps them interested in the relationship.  Twin flames are ruled by what they feel in their hearts, not concrete evidence.

Personality types that are based in Thinking (T) are not inclined to pick up feelings easily or have a strong desire to feel the soul connection with another person.  They usually have little interest in engaging in depth with any one person and are not focused on the emotional side of life.

Intuitive (N)

Another one is that to have a happy outcome, twin flames are required to follow their inner guide or intuition. The twin flame journey is full of unexplainable paranormal events, including telepathy, visions, vivid dreams, astral travel, and undeniable signs from the universe—nothing that is logical.

Personality types that are based in Sensing (S) are inclined to need concrete facts from their environment. This type focuses on what they physically (3rd dimension) see, hear, and touch, which can make the twin flame journey nearly impossible to navigate with any success.

The Least Likely Personality Types to Have a Twin Flame Relationship…

Those with both S and T personality traits are the least likely, and frankly, they probably have no desire whatsoever to deal with a deep heartfelt relationship, let alone a twin flame.

ISTPs   ISTJs     ESTJs    ESTPs

 

Are You an Intuitive (N) and/or a Feeler (F) Ready to do Your Inner Work?

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Do Most Twin Flames Have an INFJ or an INFP Personality?

I have known I’ve had an INFJ personality according to the Myer-Briggs Type Indicator Test, but never thought about the connection between personality types and twin flames until recently. When I asked my twin flame coaching clients, most were INFJ personalities. So, I started digging deep into the personality types.

I’ve added the INFP personality because they share the same traits discussed here.

Here’s Some of the Ways INFJs or INFPs and Twin Flames Correlate…

INFJS and INFPs…

1   ARE LOOKING FOR THEIR SOUL MATES-

INFJs and INFPs are searching for “the one.” They crave a mind-blowing, amazing soul connection that lasts for eternity. There is a deep desire for a strong connection at every possible level—spiritual, mental, and physical.

2   ARE EAGER TO DO THE INNER WORK-

INFJs and INFPs are used to going inward to get their guidance. In fact, INFJs are known for being the most intuitive of the 16 personality types.  Both personality types have the ability to interpret and manage the high highs and the low lows that come with a twin flame relationship.

3   HAVE AN “ALL OR NOTHING” PERSONALITY–

INFJs and INFPs are extremely focused and driven. They dive into whatever they are interested in and dive deep—to the point others may think they are obsessed and need therapy. Twin flame relationships require that depth of passion.

4   ARE HIGHLY SENSITIVE PEOPLE-

INFJs and INFPs have incredible telepathic abilities built in, which is extremely helpful in order to have a happy outcome in a twin flame relationship. Both personality types can still feel connected to their twin flame despite the distance between them.

Their sensitivity also makes it easy to detect even the slightest changes, thoughts, and feelings from their twin flame sometimes.

“No matter if we’re already in a committed relationship or not, INFJs and INFPs can end up feeling nerve-wracked, baffled, and in constant anguish over what seems to other people to be nothing more than a simple crush.”

From The INFJ Revolution: Reclaim Your Power, Live Your Purpose, Heal the World  

by Lauren Sapala

4   NEED TO HAVE A CAUSE-

INFJs and INFPs are here to heal. That falls in line with the purpose of the twin flame relationship, which is to release the ego or conditional love completely and come from unconditional love. There isn’t a higher cause any person can ever achieve in a relationship.

5   ARE NONCONFORMISTS-

INFJs and INFPs have a strong desire to be independent from others and have no desire to be normal, which is a good fit for having an extremely rare twin flame relationship.

6   AVOID CONFLICT-

INFJs and INFPs have a tendency to avoid conflict at all costs. As a way to protect themselves, they retreat, withdraw, and then avoid.  That can explain the runner pattern in twin flame relationships. When that happens, both personality types can find refuge in perfectionism, workaholism, and other addictions.

IN CONCLUSION

These six things make a good case that twin flames can easily have INFJ and INFP personalities. Of course, that doesn’t mean you can’t have a twin flame if you have any of the other 14 personalities. Although if you did have INFJ or INFP personality, it might make your twin flame journey easier.

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Twin Flames: If You Are Still Unsure, There is Something You Need to Know

Most of us spend a lot of time, sometimes years, trying to be certain if we have found our twin flame. Like clockwork, that person is the first and the last thing we think about every day. No matter what they have said or not said, done or not done, or how much they run from us or chase us, our minds still stay fixed on them. And yet, we still doubt if she/he is the one we need to learn how to unconditionally love.

What Causes Our Confusion?

The answer is simple, the 3rd dimension mindset. Still being unsure is one of the best excuses this mindset provides to delay the inevitable.

With this mindset, somehow, we think it won’t be beneficial to us in any way to unconditionally love any person other than our twin flame. Let that statement sink in.

The 3rd dimension mindset wants us to think it won’t be beneficial to us in any way to unconditionally love any person other than our twin flame.

Think about it! Do we really think the universe will place our authentic twin flame into our awareness if we disregard anyone leading up to it?

You can’t lose by learning to unconditionally love the person you keep thinking about.

We are here not to define who to love, but to learn how to give love.

 

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Twin Flames: Why is it Important to Make a Commitment?

You may ask, “A commitment to what?” Here it is in a nutshell.

We have to make a commitment to do whatever it takes, however long it takes, to have a happy outcome with our twin flame.

Don’t take this lightly. This is some commitment! It is an undertaking for a happy outcome to the highest relationship humanly possible.

Here’s Why it’s so Important!

Until we make the commitment to do whatever it takes, however long it takes, we are…

1  WASTING TIME-

We will continue to be on an emotional roller coaster and probably keep going in and out of the runner/chaser pattern.

2  STUCK IN THE 3RD DIMENSION MINDSET-

That means we are scared to venture up to the 4th and the 5th dimension, where miracles happen and it gets absolutely amazing.

3   TRYING TO MAKE THIS INTO A NORMAL RELATIONSHIP-

I’m going to save you some time and agony. It won’t work! This is not an ordinary relationship! The twin flame relationship is about learning to unconditionally love, no matter what they say or do.

4   NEGLECT DOING OUR INNER WORK-

It’s so easy to blame our twin flame, everyone else, or anything else for our unsatisfying relationship with our twin flame. But really, it’s because we haven’t done our own inner work by releasing our doubt, jealousy, impatience, guilt, hurt, and of course, our feeling of unworthiness.

 

Instead of waiting, jump in!  It may be scary at first to take an all or nothing attitude with your relationship. A real commitment to have a happy outcome with your twin flame requires a there-is-no-turning-back mindset. You won’t regret it.

 

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Twin Flame: A Positive Way to Think About Being Obsessive

Probably all twin flames have obsessive personalities, or at least that’s what I have experienced with myself and the people who have reached out to me for help with their relationships. You might even say the whole twin flame concept is about obsessing—thinking about one person over and over.

Many years ago, I went to a workshop where the speaker took a descriptive word and defined it in two completely opposite ways—the negative definition and the positive definition. I remember him talking about the word “aggressive.”  On the one hand, it means hostile, pushy and offensive. On the other hand, “aggressive” means passionate, determined, and strong. The speaker asked for descriptive words from the audience and every time he came up with two ways to look at the word—the bad, wrong, and negative angle and the good, right, and positive angle.

Let’s take a look at the word “obsessive.” Most definitions associate the word with anxiety and mental illness. It’s doing something excessively to an unreasonable degree, being fixated, and addictive. No wonder we twin flames think we are crazy!

Try to think about being “obsessive” the positive way. Define it as driven, focused, passionate, and engaged. Why, almost everyone who is successful with anything is obsessive and has done it excessively to an unreasonable degree.

 

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How to Attract or Seduce Your Twin Flame

Are you doing anything and everything to be in your twin flame’s arms, but getting no response, or worse, the opposite of the response that you want? Maybe you were ghosted on social media or she/he changed their phone number.

Unfortunately, the twin flame relationship is NOT a normal relationship. What we’ve used to charm and entice others won’t work very well with our twin flame.  Here’s why…

3rd Dimension Ways to Attract a Twin Flame

This mindset concentrates on doing things to GET noticed. We have the “look at me” attitude to lure our twin flame in. Look how attractive I am, and what I am willing to do or say to GET your attention. This is usually done by using things our twin flame can physically see, hear, or touch.

The 3rd Dimension Mindset Attracts by Using…

1  OUR BODY’S APPEARANCE-

We will go to any length to improve our appearance, especially if we think our twin flame is more attractive than we are. Of course, we will lose weight and strengthen our muscles. We might even get pearly white teeth, wear heels, wear the color red to seem more passionate, or smile often to appear more attractive.

2   WORDS-

We can use all sorts of ways to GET noticed with words, such as complimenting our twin flame, being sexually suggestive, making promises, apologizing, and saying endearing things such as, “I love you.” Then, we could top it off by using a seductive voice or emojis to appear more desirable.

If that doesn’t GET their attention, we can try to make our twin flame feel bad about what she/he did or didn’t do.

3   ACTION-

This means we do something to GET noticed. Taking action covers a broad area.  We could physically touch our twin flame to get their attention. We could do something they like or expect to please them. We could try to rescue them and fix their problems. Or we could take action because we are worried about them.

We could even go so far as to constantly drive by their house or show up at places they frequent.

 

4th Dimension Mindset is a Better Way to Attract Your Twin Flame

This mindset concentrates on GIVING to attract. We work really hard to learn how to give unconditional love to our twin flame by using loving thoughts, gratitude, forgiveness, and our inner guidance or intuition. Instead of the “look at me and what I am doing” attitude to pull them in, we become a magnet so strong our twin flame can’t resist moving towards it.

Why Don’t 3rd Dimension Ways Work?

It’s simple. It’s not a normal relationship based on conditional love (i.e. if you look and act the way I like, I will love you). It’s an out-of-this-world amazing relationship and it takes unconditional love to make it manifest for any length of time.

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What Makes the Twin Flame Separation So Hard?

I know the magnetic pull sometimes is so strong it seems unbearable, and you want to be physically near your twin flame sooo bad. But if you believed being physically separated was only going to make the relationship more amazing in the long run, would it be so hard?

Things That Make the Twin Flame Separation So Hard…

When we…

  • Think being near our twin flame’s body is more important than having an out-of-this-world amazing relationship with them.
  • Blame ourselves, our twin flame, anyone, or anything for the separation.
  • Let ourselves get depressed and hopeless because we are physically apart from our twin flame.
  • Don’t really believe in God, Higher Power, Inner Guide, Source, Spirit, Universe, Guides, Angels, Divine, Jesus, or whatever we want to call that higher source that knows way more than we do.
  • Try to avoid making changes of any kind, especially with our thoughts and beliefs.
  • Are afraid of learning a new way of communicating with our twin flame, such as feeling the energy, telepathy, and astral projection.
  • Neglect listening and following our intuition, inner guidance, or gut feelings.
  • Believe all we have to do is to learn to be patient and wait until we are together again. That makes us put our inner work on hold.
  • Think if someone apologized it would help end the separation.
  • Pay very little attention to our mindset and more on trying to control what’s happening or what we think should happen.
  • Think loneliness and why we miss our twin flame comes from not having their body touching or near our body.

Now think about it. Do you really want to make being physically separated from your twin flame into a painful experience? Or do you want to use it to make the relationship even better?

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Time Is a Sign You Have Found Your Twin Flame

Are you still unsure you have found your twin flame? Have you been on your twin flame journey less than a couple of years? More time will help you get clarity.

Time will tell if you have found your twin flame.

One of the signs the universe gives us is the amount of time we think about the same person day in and day out. It usually takes the universe years to finally convince us that we have really found our twin flame.

Here’s why…

If it’s an obsessive or ego-based relationship, our deep desire to be with that person begins to fade almost immediately. The attraction for that person is centered around trying to GET something from them, such as companionship, security, the ability to feel worthy, or money. It’s extremely difficult to wait for any length of time for the same person when we are focused on filling our imagined needs.

If it’s a twin flame relationship, our deep desire to be with that person is consistent over time, even though we may have periods that it’s less intense. But the desire stays consistent. The attraction for that person comes from wanting to GIVE unconditional love to them. That makes the relationship timeless.

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What’s Positive About Being Separated from Your Twin Flame?

Almost all of us twin flames have experienced times when we couldn’t physically communicate (see, hear, touch, or get a response) with our twin flame. If this is one of those times, before you get really depressed and think your world has come to an end, look at your separation differently. Physical separation is part of the journey to reaching the deepest love humanly possible.

Here’s Some Positive Things About Being Separated from Our Twin Flame…

Time Alone Gives Us a Really Good Reason to…

  • Get used to relying on a higher source (God, Higher Power, Spirit, Divine, Universe, Guides, or whatever you want to call it).
  • Get focused on what we truly want.
  • Realize we are on a hero’s journey.
  • Pay more attention our thoughts and feelings rather than what’s actually happening.
  • Work on ourselves to feel worthy and good enough for an ongoing amazing relationship in the near future.
  • Learn how to forgive ourselves, our twin flame, and others.
  • Eliminate all the doubts we have about our relationship.
  • Rethink our entire lives.
  • Use our intuition and become very spiritual.
  • Operate from a 4th dimension mindset instead of the 3rd dimension or ego.
  • Realize this is not a normal relationship that functions well on conditional love and a 3rd dimension mindset.
  • Address habits such as needing to please, staying crazy busy, addictions, and being dependent on others.
  • Grasp that sacrifice and compromises are not required and actually delay a happy outcome.
  • Do away with sabotagers such as the need to blame, apologize, and hide the truth.
  • Master a different way to communicate and feel connected to our twin flame—the nonphysical way.
  • Stay focused on unconditional loving no matter what your twin flame says or doesn’t say, or does or doesn’t do.
  • Discover how to appreciate the time alone.

Especially at the beginning of the journey, it’s hard to believe that everything that happens, including your time alone, is working towards your twin flame union. Once you start using your separation to do your inner work, it shortens your timeline for a happy outcome with your twin flame.

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The Disadvantages of Having a Twin Flame

When most of us think about having a twin flame, what comes to mind is having the most fulfilling relationship humanly possible with a connection that is out-of-this-world. A relationship where whistles blow, bells ring, and fireworks ignite. No wonder it’s so appealing.

What usually doesn’t come to mind, are the disadvantages of having a twin flame.

The Disadvantages of Having a Twin Flame are…

1   WE CAN’T QUIT-

No matter how hard we try or what we do, we cannot get out of it. There might be times we think we have finally let our twin flame go, until we get signs from the universe or feel that magnetic force reel us back in.

2   WE BECOME REALLY OBSESSED-

We may have had an all or nothing attitude before, but this relationship takes it to the extreme. Everything else that we care about eventually takes a lower priority. Even our numbing devices and addictions, such as caffeine, food, busyness, texting, pills, alcohol, drugs, and cigarettes start losing our attention.

3   WE FIGHT OURSELVES-

We often have knock out battles between our mind and our heart. At times we are so sure we want nothing to do with our twin flame and then completely turn around the next moment and want to be with her/him so bad we can’t see straight.

4   WE HAVE TO FORGET ABOUT HAVING A NORMAL RELATIONSHIP-

There is no way our twin flame relationship will even resemble being like everyone else’s, at least until the planet evolves considerably.

5   WE WILL EXPERIENCE TERRIBLE LOWS-

Because the twin flame relationship is about getting rid of the 3rd dimension (ego) in both individuals at the same time, the lows can get extreme. One minute we can be fine and the next minute be in the deepest, darkest place we have ever felt. By the way, these spells can disappear if even one of the twin flame’s does their inner work on a consistent basis.

6   WE WILL HAVE TO BECOME SPIRITUAL-

There is no way of getting around it, we will become extremely spiritual. Between all the paranormal events, undeniable signs from the universe, telepathy, dreams, and intuitive abilities, it will make us believe there is something greater—beyond what we physical see, hear, and touch. In fact, it becomes so convincing that all our preprogrammed religious beliefs of what is right and what is wrong will become irrelevant.

7   WE WILL SPEND A LOT OF TIME ALONE-

Our desire to be social and have casual conversations will fade and at times almost vanish.  We’ll be more interested in solitude, creativity, and spiritual endeavors.  The twin flame journey drives us inward.

8   WE HAVE TO GIVE UP THE IDEA OF FREE WILL-

Most people think they have the ability to make choices as separate individuals, without these choices being predestined by fate or divine will. If we had free will in our lives and with this relationship, it would have turned out exactly the way we wanted it to a long time ago.

9   WE WILL LOSE FRIENDS-

Because our focus centers around our twin flame, we have less and less in common with others who are not experiencing the same phenomenon. We might have a couple of friends left who support our roller coaster relationship and all of our changes, but no matter how hard they try they can’t quite understand it.

10   WE FIND OURSELVES DOING THINGS WE NEVER THOUGHT WE WOULD EVER DO-

Because the magnetic pull to be with our twin flame is so strong, we’ll do practically anything to get to get her/him in our arms. We’ll change jobs or move hundreds of miles just to be physically closer to our twin flame. We’ll try all sorts of spiritual practices just to feel a deeper connection. We’ll even change every belief that is standing in the way of a happy outcome with our twin flame.

 

Huge disadvantages, huh? Or are they? These 10 disadvantages force us out of our comfort zones, stretch us beyond what we think is possible, turn our whole lives inside out, and most of all, prepare us for our twin flame union.  

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When 1111 or 11:11 is NOT a Twin Flame Sign

When people contact me, they often mention that they see 1111 or 11:11 everywhere. You need to know that, just seeing four ones plastered everywhere is not necessarily a sign from the universe. Since 1111 or 11:11 have become so well known as twin flame signs, it’s easy to get fooled by thinking if we see or hear them, we have found our true love.

Here’s When 1111 or 11:11 Probably Isn’t a Twin Flame Sign…

1   THERE ARE NO OTHER SIGNS

Pay attention when there aren’t any other signs from the universe that will point us in the direction of our twin flame, such as seeing or hearing her/his name (especially if it’s an uncommon one, or if it’s first and last name together), or her/his birthdate (especially if it’s with the year too).

The key is the more uncommon and unlikely the sign is, the more the universe is sending us a private message.

2   WE ARE LOOKING FOR IT

Sometimes when we want that person to be our twin flame, we will start helping the universe by watching out for 1111 or 11:11. We might catch ourselves waiting for the clock to change, and guessing when 11:11 is.

It’s not much of a sign from the universe if we don’t trust that we’ll notice it when it does happen.

3   IT DOESN’T COME WITH A FEELING

A sign from the universe has a feeling attached to it. We feel something that is either emotional or physical. Emotionally we might get an “aha”, feel touched, or feel a little spooked out by how the sign appeared. Physically we might get chills, goose bumps, teared up, or feel our heart center expand.

The feeling that comes with the sign is almost always more important than actually seeing or hearing 1111 or 11:11.

 

Even if you do get others signs, are not looking for 1111 or 11:11, or do have a feeling when you see or hear it, it still takes inner work to have a happy outcome.

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How Being Patient Sabotages Your Twin Flame Relationship

You would think being patient would be a loving thing to do, especially if you are in the runner/chaser pattern. But, the majority of the time it’s not.

Here’s How Patience Can Sabotage Our Twin Flame Relationship…

When we use patience to…

  • Blame our twin flame, their current partner, ourselves, anyone or anything else for the separation. A large part of the twin flame journey is learning how to forgive, even this.
  • Wait, which really means that we’re not ready for physical union yet either.
  • Keep fantasizing. That means we think our daydreams of a storybook romance just the way we want it are so much better than having an unconditionally loving relationship.
  • Stay in our comfort zone. Being with our twin flame sometimes has so many ups, downs, twists, and turns there might be a tendency to be afraid of the journey.
  • Stall doing our own inner work, which is letting go of the ego’s 3rd dimension mindset and releasing guilt, fear, and feeling unworthy.

As you can see, being patient is often used as an excuse to stay in fear of having a better a relationship than you have now.

 Are You Ready to Stop Being Patient and Do Your Inner Work?

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Twin Flames: Can You Avoid Physical Separation?

Every twin journey is different, but it is almost inevitable that you will experience physical separation at some point. That’s probably why so many think it’s one of the twin flame stages. But if you were able to avoid physical separation, this is probably how you could do it.

You May be Able to Avoid Physical Separation if You…

1   Embrace change and look forward to all the ups, downs, twists and turns that will happen in the relationship.

2   Think you are one now and not separate individuals.

3   Always follow your inner guidance or intuition, no matter whether it makes sense of not.

4    Hardly ever experience fear, anger, sadness, feeling hurt, jealousy, disappointment, or guilty about anyone or anything.

5    Feel you are worthy and good enough for a tremendous amount of love, no mater what you look like or how you have behaved.

6   Have almost eliminated the need for stress relievers, such as pills, drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, food, and caffeine.

7   Have learned how to enjoy every step of the twin flame journey, even what appears to be the bad things.

8   Have almost gotten rid of sabotaging habits such as trying to please others, hiding the truth, or staying crazy busy.

10   Stopped trying to make your twin flame relationship normal like other couples.

11   Let go of expectations.

And the most important one of all…

12   Don’t care if you are physically separated from your twin or not.

These 12 things emphasize the importance of doing enormous amounts of inner work. Remember the purpose of twin flame relationships is to bust through the 3rd dimension mindset (conditional love), and operate from the 4th dimension mindset (unconditional love).

Are You Ready to Focus on Your Inner Work?

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How Opening Your Chakras Can Help Your Twin Flame Relationship

The more inner work we do, the easier our twin flame relationship gets, especially when we are in a runner/chaser phase. There are hundreds of methods of inner work. Opening our chakras is one of them.

Any inner work we do helps our twin flame relationship, whether we immediately see evidence of it or not.

What are Chakras?

Chakras are energy centers in our body. When we hold onto regrets, blame, and negative emotions it blocks those energy centers. If chakras are open our energy flows, freely allowing love and happiness in. In other words, opening our chakras is one way to release our negativity, and accept love.

Here’s Some of the Advantages of Opening Your Chakras…

When we…

1   Need something to FOCUS on in MEDITATION. This might help those who have a difficult time sitting down, and doing nothing.

2   Need a VISUAL we can wrap our minds around. We can picture the different chakras in shapes, symbols, and colors.

3   Are highly SENSITIVE or EMPATHIC. Opening chakras can release other people’s (especially our twin flame’s) doubts and negativity, instead of taking it on with them.

4   Want to use our INNER GUIDANCE or INTUITION more. If we get the energy flowing, we are open to being aware of a greater wisdom about the relationship. That’s why psychics often make a practice of opening their chakras.

5    Experience physical or emotional INSTABILITY in the relationship. Opening chakras can help steady the extreme lows and intense highs so they are manageable.

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What About the Twin Flame Isolation?

Have you noticed along your twin flame journey that you are becoming more isolated and distant? Do you find yourself having less and less in common with your friends and family? Is your enthusiasm to attend social activities decreasing?

I even had a coaching client confess that during a lunch date with her longtime friend, she got up and politely left early.  She said she couldn’t make herself stay any longer and pretend to be interested in anything other than her twin flame. We did a session on her trying not to feel guilty about it.

The Purpose of the Twin Flame Isolation

I strongly believe we experience feeling isolated and distant because it is a way to get us focused on our inner work, which is learning to unconditionally love both ourselves and our twin flame in order to have a happy outcome. It’s like God or a Higher Power is taking away all the distractions to make us concentrate on our twin flame mission.

Are You Ready to do Your Twin Flame Inner Work?

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What Twin Flame Inner Work Involves

There are hundreds of ways to do your twin flame inner work. All consist of methods of releasing conditional love (3rd dimension mindset or ego) and operating from unconditional love (4th dimension mindset). There is no wrong way to do the spiritual and personal growth that is necessary for a lasting happy outcome with your twin flame.

But, if we half-ass anything we do to help our twin flame journey, we won’t get most of the benefits from it.

You get what you give.

To get the benefits of our inner work, we have to give all the focus we can muster to operate from unconditional love. It’s like jumping in head first and not coming come up for air until we actually feel the benefits.

Sometimes this means …

  • Rereading or hearing a (spiritual or personal growth) concept until we memorize it.
  • Reading, seeing, or hearing a concept explained a hundred different ways by a hundred different people.
  • Reading, watching, and listening to other’s stories about a concept.
  • Practicing a concept over and over until it comes naturally.
  • Putting our process in slow motion, like reading one sentence at a time and taking time to really reflect on it until it soaks in.
  • Talking to experts about a concept.

Here’s the Advantages of Doing Our Inner Work…

When we roll up our sleeves, really concentrate, and ponder a concept until it sinks in, we…

1   Open up to a different perspective of our relationship and everything else, releasing the need to judge.

2   Experience the absence of doubt, fear, guilt, and unworthiness.

3   Open the flood gates to all the unbelievable love that is in the relationship.

Are You Ready to Do More Inner Work?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details .

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

To learn more about Vickie’s Individual Coaching Sessions for twin flame relationships. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.

 

Are You Someone Who Doesn’t Need to Hire a Twin Flame Coach?

There are some people who would NOT benefit from hiring a twin flame coach, because it wouldn’t help!

Here are Some Signs We DON’T Need to Hire a Twin Flame Coach…

When we…

  • Appreciate our twin flame journey and wouldn’t exchange it for a normal relationship or anything else.
  • Pay attention to our inner guide or intuition throughout the day with various situations.
  • Are constantly stepping out of our comfort zone and noticing how our relationship has improved and evolved, even during the runner/chaser phases.
  • Look forward to every up, down, twist, and turn in our twin flame journey.
  • Have no indications of being impatient.
  • Practice forgiving everyone who upsets us in any way, even our twin flames current partner.
  • Have a really good relationship with our twin flame in the 4th dimension or ethers.
  • Have become psychic and very spiritual.
  • Don’t have doubts about the future of our relationship.

If you identify with these signs, don’t let anyone talk you into wasting your time and money on twin flame coaching—not unless you want to shorten your timeline for a happy outcome.

If you don’t identify with these signs, you can contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

Twin Flame Self-Study Course

This program explains how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

 

 

When to Be Cautious About Twin Flame Predictions

We all want to know when we will finally be in our twin flame’s arms for eternity. Most of us reach out to psychics or resort to the Internet for relationship predictions at least one time, if not constantly.

Here’s When to be Cautious About Twin Flame Predictions…

When we…

1   IGNORE OUR OWN INNER GUIDANCE OR INTUITION-

Sometimes we dumb down our own psychic abilities and give more credibility to someone else.

2   RELY ON THE TIME FRAME-

When it comes to twin flame relationships, I have yet to hear of a psychic prediction that could nail the time flame accurately.

3   USE ASTOLOGY AS AN EXCUSE-

Astrological forecasts might cause us to put too much emphasis on our natal charts and what is written in the stars to navigate our relationship. We could neglect what we could do right now, in this moment.

4   PUT OUR INNER WORK ON HOLD-

After getting a prediction, especially one with a time frame, there is a tendency for us to sit back and wait for it to happen.

5   TRY TO SKIP THE JOURNEY AND GO DIRECTLY TO THE PRIZE-

Sometimes we want our twin flame so bad, we’ll put all our faith in predictions. The trouble with that is, we’re trying to skip the really good parts of the twin flame journey. The parts where we release our fears, guilt, and feeling unworthy, and learn how to unconditionally love someone so much it radiates out into the world.

Here’s the thing! Only you know if you are using psychic predictions as an excuse, or if you are trying to escape the twists and turns of the twin flame journey.

Are You Ready to Stop Having Excuses or Avoiding the Journey?

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details .

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

To learn more about Vickie’s Individual Coaching Sessions for twin flame relationships. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.

 

19 Signs We Are Trying to People Please with our Twin Flame

The difference between people pleasing and unconditional love is simple. The need to please is rooted in fear, and with twin flame relationships we are usually afraid our twin flame will run if we don’t at least try to please them. On the other hand, unconditional love comes from extending love and not caring about what happens—run or don’t run, it doesn’t matter.

Here’s Signs We’re Trying to People Please in our Twin Flame Relationship…

When we…

1   Say yes when we want to say no.

2   Think nothing of telling white lies to avoid hurting our twin flame.

3   Worry about what we did or did not do.

4   Secretly, think we are responsible for our twin flame’s happiness.

5   Have a habit of blaming ourselves for what happened.

6   Take things our twin flame says or does for face value.

7   Will do anything to keep our twin flame from running.

8   Feel we are not good enough for our twin flame.

9   Try to adapt our lifestyle to fit theirs.

10  Apologize to make our twin flame feel better and/or to avoid conflict.

11  Feel we would have a better relationship if we looked, spoke and acted differently.

12   Are afraid to tell the truth.

13   Try to fix our twin flames problems for them.

14   Deprive ourselves of things we want for the sake of the relationship.

15   Think our twin flame’s opinions are more important than our own. We can almost deny our own thoughts and feelings.

16   Believe doing more than is required in any situation—that by going an extra mile, our twin flame will appreciate and respect us even more.

17   Adjust our behaviors according to what your twin flames likes or dislikes.

18   Avoid doing or saying anything that might upset our twin flame.

19   Claim we don’t know how to listen to our inner guidance or intuition.

If you would like help stopping your need to please your twin flame…

Twin Flame Self-Study Course

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Signs You Feel Unworthy of Your Twin Flame Relationship

What’s on our mind the most when we are separated from our twin flame? Wondering when we are going to get together, of course. We just want them in our arms, and the sooner the better.

Just for a minute, take a broader perspective about your relationship. Why are they not with you now? Your inability to feel worthy of that much love on a consistent basis plays a major part in that.

Here’s Some Signs We Feel Undeserving of Our Twin Flame Relationship…

When we…

  • Have plenty of regrets about anything that happened in our past.
  • Strongly believe we need to do something to be loved or accepted.
  • Depriveourselves of the things we want.
  • Constantly worry about what we did or did not do.
  • Feel we are never good enough.
  • Find it difficult to accept praise or appreciation from others.
  • Are afraid to tell the truth to others.
  • Think and talk about our past mistakes a lot.
  • Have a hard time accepting kindness from others.
  • Feel we would be worthier if we looked,spoke, or acted differently.
  • Have a fear of not living up to others’ expectations.
  • Focus on what we are doing wrong and our faults.
  • Feel guilty and apologize often.
  • Find ourselves sacrificingand compromising more often than not.
  • Lack the willingness to forgive ourselves.
  • Think there are things we can improveon or change to be worthier.
  • Focus on trying to please others.

Until we feel we are worthy of our twin flame relationship, we will, to some extent, sabotage our relationship.

Are You Ready to Feel Worthy Enough for Your Twin Flame Relationship?

This self-study course helps you change the mindset that you have about yourself, your relationship, and the world around you. You will finally feel you deserve what you want. For more details.

Check out the Quiz, How Worthy Do You Feel?

If you need more help, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

How the Twin Flame Journey is Like the Movie Groundhog Day

Through the years, I must have watched the 1993 movie Groundhog Day a dozen times. Not only did the movie make me feel good, but I thought it was very spiritual in a mainstream way. It also helped me strengthen my belief that “there are no accidents” and my attraction to the movie was setting me up for my own version of Groundhog Day.

Here’s How the Twin Flame Journey is Like the Movie Groundhog Day…

1   TRAPPED IN TIME

In the movie, the main character, Phil Connors, is reliving the same day over and over as if he was stuck in time until he learns how to unconditionally love.

In the twin flame journey, it seems almost all our waking hours are focused on our twin flame. This goes on day after day, month after month, and year after year. The happy ending only occurs when we unconditionally love ourselves, our twin flame, others, and God or a Higher Power.

2   DOUBT OURSELVES

At first, Phil Connors doubts himself and thinks he might be crazy, going to the doctor for a checkup and to a therapist.

Twin flames do the same, thinking we might be crazy and doubting ourselves. We also reach out to therapists, psychics, and, of course, the Internet to help us.

3   FIGHTS BACK

Getting angry about his situation, Phil lashes out by criticizing and being downright cruel to others. Thinking the clock might be to blame, he finally throws it across the room, breaking it. But as he finds out the next day, his rage had no effects. The clock was in perfect condition and the alarm rang the next morning as usual.

In the twin flame journey, we often think it is a curse, trying to blame everyone and everything for this never-ending horrible experience. We soon find out our upset has no affects in changing the situation. Our twin flame is still on our minds every day.

4   PEOPLE PLEASE

Phil also tries to change himself to please others. He memorizes everything about other’s likes and dislikes. Then Phil goes about predicting future based on what happened yesterday. When he memorizes that his producer, Rita, doesn’t like white chocolate, it backfires on him. Rita thinks he is creepy and wants to run the other way.

How many times have we been so afraid to lose our twin flame that we start saying and doing things just to please them—catering to their likes and trying to avoid their dislikes, then finding ourselves in the runner/chaser pattern?

5   SELF-DESTRUCTIVE

Phil even takes it to the extreme. He wants this day to end so bad he resorts to stealing a truck, kidnapping the groundhog, and running the truck off of a cliff. But again, it has no lasting effect.

In our twin flame journey, we may resort to old destructive behaviors, such as over eating, over drinking, over working—anything just to stop this ongoing intense attraction.

6   PIVOT POINT

Phil keeps trying to push and rush a romance with Rita, hoping to get some relief by being with her and having sex. Finally, Rita slaps him and declares, “You will never love someone but yourself.” Phil replies, “That’s not true. I don’t even like myself.” With that one statement, a lightbulb turns on in Phil. He was really honest with himself, and the movie takes a turn from then on.

We often think as soon as we are able to see, hear, and touch our twin flame, it will give us the relief we so desperately want. Yet, until we learn to love ourselves and feel worthy of that much love on a consistent basis, we cannot fully experience it.

7   FOCUS

With Phil’s realization and new outlook on his predicament, he begins by learning to focus—not in a controlling, self-centered, and wanting something in return way. He starts by simply trying to throw cards into a hat, by training his mind and concentrating on it.

A twin flame journey is mostly about training our minds away from doubt, disappointment, and unforgiveness towards ourselves, our twin flame, or anyone else. We learn the power of our thoughts like Phil did.

8   ACTS OF KINDNESS

Phil then gives love to others with small acts of kindness, like caring for a homeless guy and surprisingly, providing coffee to his co-workers. The more he genuinely cares for others, the better he feels about himself. Phil’s courage and ability to care continue to build as he catches a boy falling from a tree and saves a man from choking.

Even though it seems unrelated, the more we genuinely care for others and forgive them, the better we feel about ourselves and the easier our twin flame journey will get.

9   BEING INSPIRED

Phil evolves into letting go of “ho-hum” and instead, having a deep desire to be inspired and excited in what he does. This is shown by him taking up ice sculpting and playing the piano with feeling.

For most of us on the twin flame journey, “ho-hum” becomes less tolerable. We become more intuitive, creative, and learn to absolutely love our activities.

10   COMING TOGETHER

By taking time to become a person Phil could admire and love, he attracted others who admired and loved him too. Everyone at the dance thought highly of Phil and voiced their appreciation of him. When he stopped actively chasing Rita, he became a strong magnet of attraction.

When we push to get our twin flame physically near us, we don’t think our ability to love and be ourselves is important. Neglecting our inner work will not make our magnet strong enough to hold the relationship together for long!

10   THE BEGINNING

Phil wakes up with Rita in his arms, pinches her to see if it is real, and says, “Something is different. Anything different is good. But this could be real good.”

Finally getting your twin flame back in your arms is wonderful, but it could get real good!

 

Are You Ready to Make Your Magnet Strong?

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Twin Flames: Advantages of the Internet

Have you found yourself glued to the Internet, always hunting down every little thing you can about your twin flame and the twin flame experience?

Here are Some Advantages of the Internet with Our Twin Flame Experience…

1   FEEL CONNECTED

Of course, the biggest advantage of the Internet is to feel connected to our twin flame when we are physically separated. Just by looking at their photos we can pick up or intensify that good feeling energy. Our twin flame’s social media accounts can also give us signs from the universe to verify our warm and fuzzy feelings.

2   LEARNING

The more we learn about the twin flame experience, the better we feel. Our convoluted journey starts making sense.

3   STILL RARE

Since actually finding our twin flame is still so rare, without the Internet, we probably would all be in therapy or a mental institution, thinking we are crazy.

4   GIVES US HOPE

Whether we are watching a twin flame psychic on YouTube with their latest prediction, reading about someone’s story from another part of the world, or seeing our twin flames latest comment, it helps us have faith.

5   INNER WORK

The Internet provides us a jumpstart to doing the necessary spiritual and personal growth that is needed for a happy outcome with our twin flame.

Thank God for the Internet!

Are You Ready to Go Further than the Internet with Your Spiritual and Personal Growth?

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Why People Pleasing Does NOT Work in Twin Flame Relationships

You love your twin flame so much that you might have a tendency to focus on trying to please them every chance you can. But the need to please can easily cause the runner/chaser pattern.

Here’s Why the Need to Please Can Easily Cause the Runner/Chaser Pattern…

1   Usually, underlying our need to please is being scared to death that if we don’t do everything we can, our twin will do the unbearable, physically leave us.

2   When we have the belief (3rd dimension mindset) that “relationships require sacrifice and compromise” we tend to assume this is essential for a successful relationship.

3   We can easily try to control everything that happens in the relationship by pleasing. We can even get carried away and try to hide the truth, avoid discussing certain subjects, or fix our twin flame’s problems for them. This doesn’t work in a twin flame relationship for very long.

4   People pleasing steers us away from our own wants, desires, and most of all, our inner guidance or intuition.

5   Trying to please our twin flame makes us scared about something all the time. Often, it’s about reactions to what we said or did or what might happen in the future.

6   People pleasing causes us have an extremely hard time accepting unconditional love, which is what the twin flame relationship is all about. Somehow, we don’t feel worthy of love without doing something to earn it.

7   Continuing our old habit of trying to please others at our expense only keeps us in our comfort zone. Even though it seems like it’s a loving thing to do, it’s really not helping the relationship at all.

8   It makes us feel second-rate and kind of lousy.  We never really feel good about ourselves, no matter how much we do for our twin flame.

Notice how trying to please is wrapped up in giving in order to get something else in return, which is commonly known as conditional love.  Somehow, we feel being afraid, sacrificing, and feeling unworthy is a small price to pay if it will keep our twin flame in our arms.

If you need help having a happy outcome with your twin flame…

Twin Flame Self-Study Course

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Twin Flame One-on-one Coaching

Coaching consists of 45-minute sessions over the phone (within the United States and Canada). For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion. For more details

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

 

Best Twin Flame Movies

There are all sorts of warm and fuzzy romantic movies out there and gobs about soul mate relationships. There are some with scenes that are characteristic of a twin flame relationship. But I chose to list the movies that are the most like a twin flame experience.

Here’s my Criteria…

WHAT I LEFT OUT

  • Movies where the main story was about something else, and they seemed to have added a magnetic romance as an added bonus.
  • Movies that were labeled as science fiction, fantasies, or animations. It’s hard enough to believe what we are experiencing is not made up without a movie to reinforce it.
  • Movies that didn’t have a happy outcome in this lifetime. I don’t know of any twin flame who feels good after watching a story they identify with about love going wrong.

WHAT I DID INCLUDE

I listed movies that had…

  • Signs from the universe, which is extremely common in a twin flame relationship.
  • Obstacles to overcome, like distance, different cultures, being married or with other people, and different religious beliefs.
  • The runner/chaser pattern.

 

Here’s My Pick for the Best Twin Flame Movies…

Serendipity

Falling in Love

Fools Rush in

Sleepless in Seattle

Elena Undone

The Notebook

If you need help having a happy outcome with your twin flame… 

Twin Flame Self-Study Course

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or

Twin Flame One-on-one Coaching

Coaching consists of 45-minute sessions over the phone (within the United States and Canada). For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion. For more Details

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

 

Twin Flames: 29 Ways to Waste Time in Your Relationship

It’s easy to sit back and wait for our twin flame to stop running and come back into our arms. All we think we need to do is learn how to be patient. That attitude either causes a very long wait, or the same runner/chaser pattern, on and off, for years.

Here’s Ways We Can Waste Time While Waiting…

When We Keep…

1   Ignoring our inner guidance or intuition.

2   Feeling anger and grudges are justified, especially with ourselves or our twin flame. Someone has to be responsible!

3   Thinking we need to live by traditions and expectations of others, and feeling guilty if we don’t.

4   Calling ourselves or others names, such as idiot, asshole, loser, or fatty. We only do this to make ourselves or others feel wrong and unworthy.

5   Hiding the truth.

6   Considering God, Higher Power, Universe, Spirit, or Source as hokey.

7    Resenting others for having a normal life.

8   Trying to build our self-esteem by criticizing others.

9   Avoiding downtime or quiet time.

10   Wanting to get retribution for being betrayed.

11   Believing we can hurt other people and others can hurt us by telling the truth.

12   Being a victim of something that happened in the past.

13   Complaining about what we don’t have and what is not going right in our relationship.

14   Letting our ability to feel good depend on what’s currently happening.

15   Trying to make others feel guilty for what they did or didn’t do.

16   Being easily deceived by others.

17   Holding onto regrets about past events and what should have happened.

18   Fighting with all our might to stay in our comfort zone and to not ruffle feathers.

19   Believing thoughts are private unless we express them.

20   Being determined to meet the expectations of others.

21   Believing compromise and sacrifice are required in any relationship.

22   Criticizing ourselves.

23   Trying to be in control of what happens. This usually includes making lots of plans and promises.

24   Feeling sorry for ourselves.

25   Getting worried when something changes in the relationship.

26   Thinking others’ opinions matter more than our own.

27   Focusing on trying to do and say what will please your twin flame.

28   Taking things personal, trying to make everything that happens about us.

29   Feeling like you wouldn’t wish this kind of relationship on anyone.

Whew! What a list. We can waste time in our relationship as long as we want to, but here’s the problem: Every thought we think has an effect. So, if we think the negative thoughts, no matter what the subject, we will get negative effects. It’s much easier and pleasant to change the way we think than go through the painful experiences we will have by wasting time.

If you would like help while waiting…

Twin Flame Self-Study Course

This twin flame self-study course shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome. For more Details .

Or read my blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

To learn more about Vickie’s Individual Coaching Sessions for twin flame relationships. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.

 

The Question Twin Flames Want Answered the Most

Why do most of us hire psychics? To know when we are going to be with our twin flame, of course. But, even when we do get a time frame from a psychic reading, it never seems to be accurate.

Here’s the problem…

Psychics usually read the energy in the moment. For most people who have little desire to do personal/spiritual growth, and have ingrained ways of thinking, it’s easy for psychics to figure out their future.

Every thought we think has an effect. So, if we keep thinking the same thoughts, we will get the same effects in life. If we operate mainly in the 3rd dimension, that is especially true. It becomes real easy for psychics to predict.

But, for a twin flame, the energy changes often. You and your twin flame are mentally connected. Therefore, every thought you or your twin flame thinks changes the effects. That’s why there are times it feels like we are on an emotional roller coaster.

On top of the twists, turns, ups, and downs, it feels like we are constantly being prodded and pushed from God or a Higher Power into doing our inner work. This combination makes it very difficult for psychics to predict our future accurately.

I haven’t heard of any twin flames yet, including myself, who have gotten an accurate time frame about “when we will be with our twin flame.”

I don’t do psychics readings, but I can help you shorten your timeline of being with your twin flame. Here’s two ways…

Twin Flame Self-Study Course

This program explains how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome.

For more Details

or

Twin Flame One-on-one Coaching

Coaching consists of 40-minute sessions over the phone (within the United States and Canada). For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact, Vickie Champion.

For more Details

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

How the Twin Flame Experience is a Hero’s Journey

There are different versions of the Hero’s Journey, some simpler with less stages and some more complex with more stages. Probably the most popular one is from the mythologist Joseph Campbell. I’ve used a shorter, simpler version that most twin flames could easily identify with.

Here’s How the Twin Flame Experience is a Hero’s Journey…

1   THE CALLING

There comes a time in almost everyone’s life when we are asked to go out of our comfort zone and stretch beyond what we think is possible. Sometimes the calling begins with a tragic event or a dilemma we’re facing—an external pressure. Sometimes it starts with a feeling of discontent and uneasiness—something rising up from deep within.

With both beginnings, the calling is something pulling our lives in a completely different direction and causing us stress.  It is extremely difficult, if not impossible, as it is in a twin flame relationship, to ignore it or try to control it.

Somewhere inside, we know a bigger life awaits us where we become the hero in our own life.

 

2   REFUSAL OF THE CALL

We have the tendency to resist or fight against the call of being with our twin flame, trying desperately to return back to the way our life used to be—normal like others. We are scared to death that we are being pushed into sacrificing all the good things we have going for us, and that our deviation from the normal way of living will lead to our demise.

Along with watching our life being pulled in a completely different direction, there is an enormous amount of doubt about whether she/he is the right one and if this relationship is even of a twin flame origin. We don’t want to waste time and effort on the wrong person, do we?

The refusal can last for years until we stop doubting, resisting, and fighting the call to be with our object of affection, whether that person is our twin flame or not. All we have to do is jump in and make a commitment to the journey, wherever it takes us.

When we commit, and mean it, the fear subsides—and is replaced by a feeling of relief that we are now going in the right direction, no matter how abnormal or crazy it seems.

 

3   SUPERNATURAL AID

Once we commit to the journey, divine guidance appears. It can show up in all kinds of forms, often several at once, and change as the journey progresses. Sometimes we come across seasoned travelers or mentors who give us training, tools, or advice that will help on the twin flame journey. They show us how to use supernatural aids or 4th dimension mindset techniques.

We learn how to open up and pay attention to unusual phenomena such as signs from the universe, vivid dreams, telepathy, astro projection visits, and having increased psychic abilities.

Our mentors can go only so far with us on our journey. Eventually we have to face our fears alone. Sometimes our mentors are required to give us a swift kick in the behind to get us to move forward.

If we don’t try to jump in and take control of our journey, or recoil in fear, our twin flame journey gets easier with these aids. Then, our trust in our divine guidance, ourselves, and God or a Higher Power tends to grow with each step we take.

 

4   CROSSING THE THRESHOLDS

As the journey moves forward we are asked to begin leaving our old way of living and take the plunge into the unknown, where the rules and limits are not known (3rd dimension mindset).

An example could be moving to a different city, or even country to be closer to our twin flame. It could be breaking up with our current relationship.  Or it could be quitting our job.

Almost always it is closing a door before the next door opens—an act of faith. We have no idea of what will be involved, and how we will survive. No one can rescue us and we are on our own.

 

5   TEMPTATIONS

The ego knows we are beginning to release the 3rd dimension mindset and hangs on with all its might. It is so tempting to want to run from our fears, retreating to physical pleasures.

With every temptations we indulge in we realize the pleasures and comfort are no longer the gifts we once thought they were and are not satisfying at all. They were just illusions of safety and pleasure.

Temptations could be dating other people beside our twin flame, re-connecting with old friends we no longer have anything in common with, relapsing back into addictions or habits like people pleasing, accepting another job in the same industry because we are afraid of career change, or trying to go back home.

This is where the twin flame runner/chaser pattern comes into play. If one or both parties are tempted to go back to the 3rd dimension mindset of rules and limitations, the physical union cannot survive. The twin flames  will have to physically part to overcome the temptations.

We learn that relying on God or a Higher Power and using our supernatural aids can slay the dragons or temptations the ego conjures up—again, again, and again.

This can be an exciting part of the twin flame journey. Each victory over the ego, builds faith, enhances the feeling that nothing is impossible, and gives us momentary glimpses of a wonderful world, the 5th dimension.

 

6   BELLY OF THE WHALE

The journey keeps moving us inward to the most dangerous spot, to confront our greatest fear and inner demons head on. It might appear we have been swallowed up and eaten alive. But really, we have only allowed the death of the 3rd dimension ego-self and let the 5th dimension soul-self rise up and come into power.

We realize our greatest fear was only a smoke screen hiding what we always knew—that we have been unlimited and connected to our twin flame all along. There was nothing to fear after all!!!

 

7   THE REWARD

The reward is being free of fear and feeling at one with our twin flame—the life we always wanted. There is no need to feel inadequate or separate any longer.  We are at one, and able to align completely with God or a Higher Power in the 5th dimension.

 

8   THE REAPPEARANCE

After letting the ego’s 3rd dimension mindset die, we will often be called to share it with others in the ordinary world.  With our twin flame union, our combined light will be so strong that it will be extremely difficult for others not to shine their lights.

One of the purposes of a twin flame union is to be an example-that oneness and the 5th dimension mindset exists.

 

I can be a mentor for your twin flame journey and give you lots of supernatural aids. Here are two ways…

How to have a Happy Outcome with your Twin Flame Relationship 

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or

Twin Flame One-on-one Coaching

Coaching consists of 45-minute sessions over the phone (within the United States and Canada). For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact, Vickie Champion.

For more Details

 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

 

 

 

Why Would Twin Flames Be Reluctant to Use Psychics?

There are a lot of reasons why we wouldn’t want to use a psychic. Maybe we are just scared to try new things, or don’t believe psychics can read minds. Maybe you’re scared you’ll get hooked and call them every week to get the latest on your twin flame relationship. It may be that you’ve had a bad experience in the past and sworn off ever talking to one again.

But probably, the most common reason we’re reluctant is that we are scared they will tell us that she/he is not our twin flame, or/and that we won’t have a happy outcome.

I don’t do readings, but I can help you with having a happy outcome with your loved one, whether they are your twin flame or not.

Here’s how…

How to have a Happy Outcome with your Twin Flame Relationship

Course

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more Details.

or

Twin Flame One-on-one Coaching

Coaching consists of 45 minute sessions over the phone (within the United States). For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact, Vickie Champion. For more Details.

 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

How the Twin Flame Chaser’s Wait Can be Tolerable

Maybe you are in the beginning phases of being physically apart from your twin flame. Maybe you have been separated more than once. Maybe you have waited for months, or even years without contact with your twin flame.

It doesn’t matter! You have a choice right now! Are you going to make the rest of the wait a bad experience or tolerable?

Signs Your Wait is a Bad Experience…

When you have spells of…

  • Missing your twin flame terribly.
  • Feeling sad thinking about being apart.
  • Thinking you did something wrong in the relationship.
  • Blaming your twin for running.
  • Feeling like a failure.
  • Getting downright depressed.
  • Feeling sorry for yourself and wondering things like, “no one I know has this kind of heartache, why do I?”
  • Thinking “I wouldn’t wish this experience for anyone else.”

If you are one of those having a bad experience at least half of the time, you can do something about it. That doesn’t mean you reach out and try to contact your twin flame—yet again. It means you get into doing your inner work of learning how to unconditionally love.

When we begin using our inner guide, stop doubting ourselves, forgive the past, accept and appreciate things the way they are, have faith, and finally feel worthy of the same unconditional love, it makes the wait tolerable, if not satisfying.

“Satisfaction is moving in the direction of a desire.”

Abraham Hicks

If you need help making the wait tolerable you can…

Visit the entire Twin Flame section.

Or contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

Or check out the Twin Flame Course.

Twin Flames: What is Inner Work?

I often tell my potential coaching clients that the twin flame journey gets a lot easier and can be downright pleasant when you do your inner work. They often question, “What is inner work?” Here’s my reply.

Doing Inner Work is Learning How to…

1   Rely on God (Higher Power, Source, Spirit, Universe, or whatever you want to call it).

2   Feel worthy.

3   End the need to doubt, worry, or be afraid.

4   Use your intuition or inner guide.

5   Release control of what happens.

6   Not cast blame, even towards yourself.

7   Be honest and tell the truth.

8   Communicate telepathically.

9   Make how you feel more important than what’s happening.

10   Forgive others and yourself.

11   Enjoy change.

12   End the habit of people pleasing.

13   Be grateful, even for the unpleasant situations.

14   Be aware of your thoughts, taking yourself off of auto-pilot.

 

Good News!

Whew! When you look at this list it can seem exhausting and overwhelming. But the good news is that if you only work on ONE of these, (especially #1), you’ll feel the difference right away. Then, the more inner work you do, the better you will feel about yourself and your twin flame journey.

Everywhere you turn there are methods and people to help with doing your inner work. Just use your inner guidance and dig in to what feels right. I offer two ways other than my blogs and videos…

 A Course for Twin Flames

This self-study program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

or

Twin Flame One-on-one Coaching

Coaching consists of 45-minute sessions over the phone (within the United States). For more Details. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.  

 

Twin Flame Relationship: Why Are We So Impatient?

With my coaching clients I am often asked, “How can I be more patient while I’m waiting to be with my twin flame?” A large part of the answer is to realize why we get so impatient.

Why Do We Get So Impatient?

 

1   PLACING RESPONSIBILITY

We have a tendency to blame our twin flame, their current partner, anyone or anything else for the separation. That makes it a waiting game—waiting for our twin flame to come to their senses, waiting for someone to get out of the way, or waiting for the circumstances to change. That way we have no responsibility for separation at all, except to learn to be patient.

 

2   THE END

We have a tendency to think being physically with our twin flame is the end goal. Once we are with our twin flame, we can finally set up house and go back to a normal way of living. We think the end product will be feeling better, more comfortable, and more secure we he/she is near us.

Thinking the relationship is a normal romance where we live happily ever after is misleading. Having a twin flame means we will learn to unconditionally love her/him no matter what they say or do, whether she/he is physically with us or not.

 

3   GOING INWARD

This is the most important reason why we are impatient. If we were doing our own inner work, we would feel the progress every single day.

We would be busy letting go of the ego’s 3rd dimension mindset and releasing feeling unworthy, afraid, guilty, limited, and yes, feeling impatient.

We would be learning and using 4th dimension mindset tools. Telepathy, astro projection visits, vivid dreams, and psychic abilities achieve a closer twin flame connection than we ever thought possible without physically seeing, hearing, and touching them.

We would be watching ourselves transform into the hero in our own lives—nothing to feel impatient about.

 

I can help you take responsibility for your part and go inward to make your twin flame journey extremely rewarding. Here’s how…

 

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

or

Twin Flame One-on-one Coaching

Coaching consists of 45-minute sessions over the phone (within the United States). For more Details. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.  

 

 

 

How Do You Know for SURE if You Have Found Your Twin Flame?

Are you one of those who have read every blog and watched every video you can find on the signs of having a twin flame? Maybe you have most of the signs, but not all of them. That can get confusing! To top that off, one person might say one thing and another say something else. Who’s right? No wonder you might still have doubts whether you have found your twin flame or not!

Brace yourself!

The only way you will know for SURE is if you go inward.

Relying on someone outside of yourself to tell you what’s going on inside yourself can give you a starting point, but it can’t take you home. You have to do that yourself!

Take time to ask yourself (your higher self, your inner guide, or your intuition) the big question. Then, this is the hard part, have a willingness to hear the honest answer. Only you will know if she/he is the one.

 

If you need help going inward, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

Visit the entire Twin Flame section.

Or check out the Twin Flame Course.

Twin Flames: Listening to Music

Have you noticed how music can affect your emotions? There is something about certain songs that have a direct line to our hearts.

That being said, be careful if you’re not currently together with your twin flame and you’re in the runner/chaser phase. Pay attention to how you feel when listening to your favorite love songs. Does it make you feel better or worse about your situation?

I bet you, most of the time you will feel worse. How do I know?

Because the majority of love songs are about love gone wrong. Love songs tend to be about missing a loved one terribly, how a loved one hurt the singer, or someone’s willingness to do absolutely anything to get their loved one back in their arms. Most love songs are probably written right after a breakup.

If you get into songs that make you feel worse, then it’s easier to start doubting yourself or your twin flame, feel sorry for yourself, and get downright depressed about the relationship.

But, if you get into songs that make you feel better, it gives you hope, and shortens the timeline for a happy outcome with your twin flame. (See my blog, Twin Flame Songs)

 

For more info, visit the entire twin flame section.  

To get some help with your relationship, I offer a self-study Course for Twin Flames or Twin Flame One-on-one Coaching.

How the Law of Attraction Applies to Twin Flame Unions

Probably everyone has heard of “the law of attraction.” It means every thought we think, whether we express it or not, becomes a magnet to the experience that matches that thought. In other words, we get back what we give out.

Did you notice, I didn’t say that you can get exactly what you want to happen and with whom? That would imply we have free will and can make anything happen that we want, no matter how it affects anyone or anything else. Maybe you have had times it seemed you were in control and got exactly what you wanted to happen, but that was when it worked in everyone else’s favor also.

However, we can get the emotional feeling or experience that we want from anything that happens, all the time. With our thoughts and perceptions we can choose the experience we want, which attracts more of the same kind of experience.

When we first find out who our twin flame is, or we are in a physical relationship, we are thinking gobs of loving thoughts and get gobs of loving back.  But as the relationship progresses and the newness wears off, three things could happen with our thoughts…

1   We could let ourselves get lazy and slack off from thinking feel good thoughts. It’s so easy to put our minds on auto-pilot, paying very little attention to how we want to feel.

2   Or we could replace those feel good thoughts by trying to prove that we are right—or the opposite, that we are wrong. In other words, we want someone to feel bad for what happened or didn’t happen.

3   This is the best option of all! We could think feel good thoughts no matter what our twin flame says or doesn’t say, or does or doesn’t do. That’s unconditional love and when we give it, we get it back.

 

Being physically near our twin flame cannot survive long when we don’t care about how we feel or when we want our twin flame, ourselves, or both to feel bad for something that happened or didn’t happen. For an unconditional loving thought is a magnet for unconditional love.

 

For more blogs and videos about Twin Flames.

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

and

Twin Flame One-on-one Coaching

Coaching consists of 40-minute sessions over the phone (within the United States). For more Details. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact Vickie Champion.  

 

 

Are you Still Unsure? Twin Flame or Obsessive Relationship

Sometimes it’s really difficult to tell if you have finally found your twin flame or if you are in the middle of a relationship that is crammed with unfulfilling dreams that will slowly deplete your self-esteem. There is such a fine line between the two.

The three blogs below can save you months (or years!) until you figure out which one it is on your own…

         

          Obsessive vs. Twin Flame Relationships-What is the Difference?

          Wanting Someone-Is it Obsessive or a Twin Flame?

          Attracting Someone-Is it Obsessive or a Twin Flame?

 

A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

 

 

Why are We Excited About Finding our Twin Flame?

What’s all the excitement about twin flames?  Apparently, according to the spiritual community, the planet is going through an acceleration of some sorts and twin flame unions are surfacing at an alarming rate. One of my life coaching clients said she heard the label “twin flames” from different people three times this week alone.

Who wouldn’t want to find the most fulfilling relationship humanly possible? At first glance the thought of having someone to complete us and the feeling we finally found a “home” is absolutely irresistible.  And who wouldn’t want to have sex that is out of this world amazing?

The problem is, most think all they need to do is go out and find their twin flame. Then whistles will blow, bells will ring, and fireworks will ignite. And a new deeply connected, wonderful life will encompass them. It doesn’t work that way.

First of all, our twin flame cannot be found. They will appear automatically, but only when we are ready mentally and spiritually.

Secondly, no one or nothing can complete us. We are already complete and whole. We can think we are incomplete, but it’s a faulty concept to begin with and not true.

Let me explain it this way…

No matter how hard we try, we can never fill our imagined half empty glass, especially with a relationship. But with God’s (Higher Power’s, Source’s, Spirit’s, Inner Guidance’s, whatever you want to call it) help, we become aware that we are completely full to the brim already and nothing is missing. When we start believing we are already complete and whole, we will tremendously increase your chances of actually meeting our twin flame.

The overflow from both parties’ full glasses is the fuel that ignites the twin flame union. Therefore, a twin flame union is an expansion of what already is. Two people that believe they are whole and complete that share it with the other one.

Don’t worry!

It’s not necessary to have a twin flame to be happy. If we think our glass is completely full and we don’t need someone else to fill it up to make us happy, our chances grow substantially in having a wonderful relationship that is perfect for us.

 

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

 

Twin Flames: Pitfalls of Using Psychics

My previous blog listed some really good reasons to use psychics, but there are some things you also need to watch out for.

The Lovers Tarot Card

Some Pitfalls of Using Psychics with your Relationship…

When you start…

  • Relying on them to get you out of your anxiety attacks and fear. With a twin flame relationship, that could cost you a fortune. Instead of asking the psychic what’s going to happen to get you out of the fear, ask them for methods on how to relieve the fear yourself.

 

  • Becoming dependent on the psychic’s guides or intuition. A major part of the twin flame journey is about learning to navigate by your own inner guidance. Don’t use psychics to delay your inner work.

 

  • Counting on the psychic’s time frames. Concerning the future, especially with twin flame relationships, psychic predictions can be way off. I’m going to be so bold as to say, ignore their timeframes completely concerning your relationship. Otherwise, you might tend to put your inner work on hold while you are waiting.

 

  • Taking what psychics say too seriously. Just because they try to use their psychic abilities, doesn’t mean they are right all the time. Sometimes psychics are influenced by what’s going on in their own lives. Sometimes they haven’t done their own inner work and talk about things to be afraid of. And bear in mind, some psychics don’t have any idea what having a twin flame connection is like.

 

  • Feeling beaten down, like you are wrong for what you want and your feelings. Watch out if you feel depressed or hopeless at the end of the reading. Good psychics will probably tell you some things you don’t want to hear, but in a loving way with a positive spin so that you can understand it.

 

If any of these resonate with you, you might want to try backing off a bit and using your own inner guidance more. In order to have a lasting happy outcome with your twin flame you will have to do it anyway. Why not start now?

I don’t do psychic readings, but I do offer help with your twin flame relationship. Here are two ways…

How to have a Happy Outcome with your Twin Flame Relationship 

Course

It consists of over 9 different PDFs and an individual phone coaching session. The study program explains how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome.

For more Details

or

Twin Flame One-on-one Coaching

Coaching consists of 40 minute sessions over the phone (within the United States). For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact, Vickie Champion.

For more Details

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

 

 

Twin Flames: How Psychics Help

Psychics are a great source of help with a twin flame relationship, especially at the beginning of your journey.

Psychics Can Help You…

  • Not feel you are going crazy!
  • Verify if your relationship is of a twin flame, soul mate or karmic origin.
  • Get answers to your questions.
  • Build your faith.
  • Learn about yourself, your twin flame, and the relationship.
  • Think in new ways.
  • Understand the woo-woo and spiritual experiences. If the psychics are really good they usually won’t give you a by-the-book answer. They will wait until their guides give them an answer.
  • Makes sense of this wild journey.

 

Whether you use psychics or not, they are a good resource for help with your relationship. I don’t offer readings, but here are two ways I can help  you…

How to have a Happy Outcome with your Twin Flame Relationship 

Course

It consists of over 9 different PDFs and an individual phone coaching session. The study program shows you how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome.

For more Details

or

Twin Flame One-on-one Coaching

Coaching consists of 40 minute sessions over the phone (within the United States). For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact, Vickie Champion.

For more Details

 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

 

A Big Reason to Get Help With Your Twin Flame Relationship

When I have a conversation with potential coaching clients, almost everyone’s main concern is, “when will I physically be with my twin flame?” The magnetic energy is so intense, sometimes it can feel unbearable. We automatically assume that once we are physically with our twin flame, it will become bearable.

Here’s the problem! Being physically near your twin flame before you are ready causes you to sabotage the relationship and the runner/chaser pattern.

Read this next part carefully! The reason the twin flame pull is so magnetic and intense is to keep us focused on our mission and most of all, willing to do our inner work and change our entire way of living in order to have our twin flame union.

So, the biggest reason to get help with your twin flame relationship is to…

Shorten the timeline!

If you roll up your sleeves, and do the inner work that is needed, a happy outcome with your twin flame occurs a whole lot sooner.

You can get help from almost anywhere, but here are two ways I can help you other than my blogs and videos…

How to have a Happy Outcome with your Twin Flame Relationship 

Course

This program explains in great depth the complex twin flame concepts and how to actually move past the challenges to have a happy outcome. For more Details

or

Twin Flame One-on-one Coaching

Coaching consists of 40 minute sessions over the phone (within the United States). The client chooses the subject or subjects they want help with for each session. If you could use some help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session. For more Details

 

Twin Flames: Signs Not to Date Others

It’s easy to get impatient waiting to be with your twin flame. Sometimes we want to run out and find the closest person. Sometimes we think we are crazy for wasting any more time on our twin flame relationship.

Here are Some Signs Not to Date Others Yet…

When you…

1   Get irritated with your twin flame for currently being with someone else, and you want to level the playing field or make her/him jealous. Even the slightest bit of retaliation won’t help you feel better long term.

2   Can’t really get excited about anyone else. The only one you can’t wait to be with is your twin flame.

3   No one is interested in you. You reach out on dating sites and no one responds back.

4   Find someone else that might work out, but the relationship peters out quickly. You might have one phone call that ends only after a few minutes, or get stood up on a date.

5   Are able to date someone else, but the relationship feels flat. Even though this person is likeable and you have someone to share things with, there is no spark in the relationship. It is not bad and not good, it feels like nothing.

6   Get lots of signs from the universe that pull your attention back to your twin flame. (For more details read Why do Twin Flames Get so Many Signs & Synchronicities?)

The Only Solution

If you have a twin flame, trying to find a substitute relationship, will not help you get much relief from the agony of waiting. Only doing your inner work will. Doing your inner work will give you immediate help with what is happening now, and also shorten the timeline for a happy outcome with your twin flame.

Everywhere you turn there are methods and people to help with doing your inner work. Just use your inner guidance and dig in to what feels right. I offer two ways other than my blogs and videos…

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

or

Twin Flame One-on-one Coaching

Coaching consists of 30-40 minute sessions over the phone (within the United States). For more Details  For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact, Vickie Champion.  

 

Dating Others and Having a Twin Flame

What do we do when our twin flame is currently with someone else? Do we wait for the duration or do we go out and try to find someone else to fill their place? There are advantages and disadvantages to each.

Finding Someone Else

Advantage of Finding Someone Else…

If we are honestly not interested in having a happy outcome with our twin flame or we are really in an obsessive relationship, then finding someone else is really good for us. It will help us let go and move on.

Disadvantage of Finding Someone Else…

If our twin flame is really our twin flame and not some obsessive relationship, finding someone else will make the situation worse. Not only will we not be able to get our twin flame out of our mind, but it will be hard to deal with the dishonesty, guilt, and regrets that comes with our new relationship. It’s really difficult to have a happy outcome with our twin flame when we are with someone else.

 

Waiting

Disadvantage of Waiting…

The big disadvantage in waiting to be with our twin flame is we can let our thoughts go into a downward spiral. Impatience, self-doubt, judging ourselves and our twin flame, and feelings of unworthiness can all creep into our mind. It makes the wait depressing and extremely painful.

Advantage of Waiting…

Instead of finding someone else or making the wait painful, we can  roll up our sleeves and do our inner work. This really shortens the timeline for a happy outcome with our twin flame.

 

Here’s the Problem with Twin Flame Relationships

We can try to find a substitute relationship, make our experience painful, and drag it out, but we will inevitably have to do our inner work, whether it’s in this lifetime or the next.

I can help you do your inner work, if you are ready. Here’s two ways…

 

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

or

Twin Flame One-on-one Coaching

Coaching consists of 30-40 minute sessions over the phone (within the United States). For more Details. For a complimentary coaching and consulting session, contact, Vickie Champion.  

 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

Wanting Someone-Is it Obsessive or a Twin Flame?

Have you ever wanted someone so bad, you can’t see straight? You can’t seem to get them out of your mind. At times, it’s all consuming to the point you can’t think of anything else.

This feeling probably happens to some degree with all romantic relationships. Although if we look deeper there is a distinct difference between wanting to be with your twin flame and leaning towards an obsessive relationship.

 

Here’s the Difference….

When you Want to be with a Twin Flame…

You HAVE NO IDEA WHY. It’s not explainable. No matter how hard you try, you can’t come up with much of anything to justify your desire. In fact, you probably have hundreds of reasons why not. And you tend to constantly question yourself, “Why them, of all people?”

 

When you are Leaning Towards an Obsessive Relationship…

You HAVE LOTS OF REASONS WHY you want to be with that person. There is a strong tendency to think you would be the picture perfect couple. In fact, you probably spend hours daydreaming about how great it will be when you are finally together.

Even knowing this distinction, sometimes it’s hard to tell what kind of relationship you are focusing on. To find out more differences read Obsessive vs Twin Flame Relationships-What’s the Difference?

 

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

 

 

Attracting Someone-Is it Obsessive or a Twin Flame?

So, you have your eye on someone really, really, special… all-consuming special. Or, maybe you have come across one of those obsessive relationships full of agonizing years of trying to convince that person you are the perfect couple and never really succeeding. Read on if you want to know if you have hit the jackpot and found your twin flame, or if it’s time to move on.

Here’s the Difference…

When you come across an Obsessive Relationship…

You will try everything you possibly can to get and retain the relationship. If you have come across one of those obsessive relationships, you will say and do whatever it takes to win over your true love’s heart. This can consist of bombarding them with sweet nothings and the L word, changing in order to get their approval, holding back little secrets, telling white lies, trying to make them feel guilty for not paying enough attention to you, apologizing constantly, trying to make them to feel jealous, orchestrating ways to run into them on purpose, trying to get close to his/her friends, or even plotting ways to break up their current relationship with someone else.

When you come across your Twin Flame…

You will try everything in your power to get rid of them. Twin flames experience an overwhelming feeling of love that often gets so intense it seems unbearable at times. So, it makes sense they will do anything to get some relief.

Life for a twin flame often becomes a painful inner struggle fighting with their own heart. A twin flame will try anything to sabotage the relationship including trying to deny it, ignore it, avoid it, control it, judge themselves and their twin flame, and even trying to pray it away.

Even knowing this big distinction, sometimes it’s still difficult to tell what kind of relationship you are focusing on. To find out more differences read Obsessive vs Twin Flame Relationships-What’s the Difference?

 

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

Are Twin Flame Relationships Becoming a Trend?

Are you having trouble finding that one person that you can live happily ever after with? Maybe you are going from one painful relationship to another year after year. Or are you the third wheel staying away from any relationship whatsoever?

 

Times are a-changing!

I think it’s getting more difficult to fit relationships into a box with rules and restrictions. You know the typical scenario, boy meets girl, they date, they get married, have children and live happily until one of them dies. Maybe you grew up with parents who were able to fit their relationship into a box and are trying to coax you in that direction. Maybe it’s been part of your culture or religion for centuries. Maybe you see some of your friends who can live in a traditional relationship, which makes you wonder, “What in the heck is wrong with me?”

 

Here’s the problem!

Most of us can’t make ourselves jump in the box even for a little while, no matter how hard we try. We are either gay, a successful professional female, a male who wants to stay home and take care of the kids, we come from divorced parents and can’t imagine tying the traditional knot with anyone, or we want to marry for love.  Do I need to go on? And even if we could make ourselves jump in the box, it’s getting extremely difficult to find a partner who wants to jump in the same restrictive box with us.

 

What’s this got to do with twin flames?

These kinds of relationships usually are not trying to control love with male and female role playing, having expectations, and traditions. Twin flame relationships focus on learning how to unconditionally love each other, having the freedom to be who they really are. They don’t depend on their partner to make them feel better about themselves.

 

The Conclusion

If you can’t get yourself to conform to a traditional relationship, you’re not supposed to. Change the focus of your relationships to unconditional love, being who you really are, and taking responsibility for your own happiness. You’ll find the new trend fits you.

 

Twin Flame Course

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

 

Twin Flame: Signs you Need Help with your Relationship

You probably know already that it’s impossible to break up a twin flame relationship for good. Sure, there are times we have distanced ourselves from our twin flame physically, but in our minds the relationship goes on day after day, month after month, year after year.   The only thing we can really control is if we want to make this experience pleasant, instead of painful. Getting outside help can make a tremendous difference.

Hands Reaching OutHere’s a Few Signs You Could Benefit from Some Help with Your Relationship…

When you…

  • Are actually physically sick over this relationship. You may have stomach aches, panic attacks, or any ailment you can imagine.
  • Think you are unworthy or deep down don’t believe you deserve happiness.
  • Are denying, avoiding, or fighting to get rid of the relationship.
  • Wish your life could go back to the way it used to be.
  • Are doubting yourself like never before.
  • Are stuck in the runner/chaser pattern.
  • Want to be with your Twin Flame very very badly, so bad it hurts.
  • Get spooked out by the paranormal and spiritual experiences that come with a twin flame relationship.
  • Have gotten yourself downright depressed.
  • Mentally beat yourself up. No matter what you do, you’re not good enough.
  • Don’t know how to use your inner guidance or intuition.
  • Consider yourself a people pleaser.
  • Blame yourself or your twin flame for anything that happened or is happening in the relationship.
  • Feel like nothing you have tried on your own seems to have helped much.
  • Just want to talk to someone who understands the complexity of a twin flame relationship.
  • Want to shorten the timeline for a happy outcome, which is the best sign of all.

Now really! Even if you were struggling with one of these signs, it would be enough to get you to reach out for help. There are lots of resources that  could help you. Just start! You can’t get a doctorate degree without learning new things and you can’t have a twin flame union without learning to live differently.

Like I said before, there are lots of places you can reach out to for help. I offer two of those, a written course and one-on-one coaching.

 

How to have a Happy Outcome with your Twin Flame Relationship

Course

It consists of over 9 different PDFs, plus a individual phone coaching session. The course explains in great depth the complex twin flame concepts and how to actually move past the challenges to have a happy outcome and shorten your timeline.

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Twin Flame One-on-one Coaching

Coaching consists of 30-40 minute sessions over the phone (within the United States). The client chooses the subject or subjects they want help with for each session. If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

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For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

Announcing a Course for Twin Flames

When it comes to your twin flame relationship, do you often doubt yourself and feel like you are crazy? At times do you find yourself either running from your twin flame or chasing them? Does it feel like you are on an emotional roller coaster with ecstatic highs and some really scary lows?

Would you find it uplifting to get some help?

 

How to have a Happy Outcome with your Twin Flame Relationship

Course

It consists of over 9 different PDFs and an individual phone coaching session. The study program explains how to shorten the timeline and navigate the relationship for a happy outcome.

For more Details

 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

 

What is God’s Part in Twin Flame Relationships?

I’ve been talking to struggling individuals, watching videos, and reading  everything I can find on twin flame relationships. What fascinates me is, that hardly ever is the spiritual part of this experience mentioned, let alone discussed in length.

How do people go through this without believing in God or a Higher Power? And if they do, why don’t they talk about it in detail? I can’t.

 

Here’s what God or a Higher Power does for me…

God…

  • Answers my questions and gives me insights about my twin flame relationship.
  • Never fails in getting me out of the fear when I ask.
  • Helps me accept my twin flame relationship, instead of wasting effort trying to reject it.
  • Makes my twin flame journey enjoyable.
  • Shows me how to truly forgive, expand my gratitude, and have lots more faith.
  • Helps me master new ways to connect with my twin, beyond physical touch, and words.
  • Comforts me when I need it.
  • Insures me that a happy outcome for my twin flame relationship is guaranteed.
  • Teaches me how to accept love like I never knew before.
  • Guides me to let go of trying to control it, and instead sit back and watch the relationship unfold in the perfect way, at the perfect time.

 

As you have noticed, your twin flame relationship is the most intense, mind blowing, frightening, and most challenging journey you have ever experienced. But it also could be the most rewarding.

All you need to do is let God or a Higher Power be your guide through the twists, turns, ups and downs of this uncharted path. It could be the most unbelievable, amazing adventure known to mankind.

 

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

What Twin Flames Need to Know for a Happy Ending

Is your twin flame relationship in runner/chaser pattern? Maybe you know who your twin flame is, but haven’t had a real relationship yet? Perhaps you are just hoping to find your twin flame soon. Neverthe-less, there is something you really need to know for the relationship to be successful.

“You can’t have an unhappy journey lead to a happy ending.”

Abraham Hicks

 

What the Heck Does that Mean?

There is a tendency to overlook our part in creating a happy ending to the relationship. If we treat being separate from our twin flame as a miserable experience, we tend to blame someone or something for the separation, put our life on hold until they come, feel lonely, or try to manipulate him/her into our arms.

Actually, our part in the twin flame journey is to raise our state of mind above the sacrifice, blame, fear, guilt, and anger into feeling happy no matter what happens. For a visual explanation, see my videos Why You are Not With Your Twin Flame Now and a A Twin Flame Union Explained.

 

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

 

About Twin Flame Mind Chatter

We all experience it to some extent. What is it? It is that endless barrage of thoughts that race through our minds—an inner monologue, or mind chatter.

Part of our twin flame experience (and the actual union) is shaped by what dimension our mind chatter is coming from. Our relationship could be at a standstill—or downright painful­—if our mind chatter is at the lower energy level of the 3rd dimension. Or, our relationship could actually be enjoyable if our mind chatter is at the higher energy level of the 4th dimension. Best of all is the amazing, out of this world twin flame experience that results from the 5th dimension inner dialog.

Here’s the Differences in our Inner Monologue….

3rd Dimension Mind Chatter

When we are at that lower energy level mindset, almost all of our attention is placed on what’s not going right and what it should be.  Jealousy, anger, doubt, and fear can race through our minds, like we have no control over it.

Our Relationship Mind Chatter Has a Tendency to Consist of…

  • Blaming ourselves or our twin flame for the current situation
  • Fantasizing and daydreaming about making our twin flame relationship into a traditional romantic relationship full of rules and obligation
  • Pining away about what we don’t have, like the ability to physically touch or, see our twin face-to-face
  • Rehashing past encounters and judging what should have happened
  • Disagreeing with what’s going on with our relationship
  • Creating catastrophic scenarios based around the theme of “never being able to be with our twin”

 

4th Dimension Mind Chatter

When we are in the 4th Dimension, we realize that our mind chatter plays an important part of our twin flame relationship, both in what happens and our experience of it. Almost all of our attention is placed on observing and taking control of our inner monologue.

Our Relationship Mind Chatter Has a Tendency to Consist of…

  • Lots of mantras or affirmations
  • Taking time for meditation and quiet reflection with less mind chatter
  • Asking relationship questions to God or a Higher Power, and waiting for the answers
  • Desiring to learn, understand, or experience more about our relationship

 

5th Dimension Mind Chatter

When we are in the 5th Dimension, we mostly clear out our mind chatter and develop a quiet mind. Our point of focus is on listening for inner guidance and having an observing mind.

Our Relationship Mind Chatter Has a Tendency to Consist of…

  • Developing an inner dialog with our twin flame, and God or a Higher Power
  • Extending love to ourselves, others, and everything else
  • Constant thoughts of gratitude
  • Acceptance of everyone and everything

 

If you find that your mind chatter is mostly in the 3rd dimension, notice how you feel. Do you feel you wouldn’t wish a twin flame relationship on anyone? Does it make you feel better or worse to think about your relationship? If it makes you feel worse, it’s time to start taking control of your inner monologue.

If you find your mind chatter is mostly in the 4th dimension, again, notice how you feel. When you think of your relationship, does it make you feel better or worse? Do you feel good, but not great? Is it starting to feel flat or at a standstill? Maybe it’s time to start listening full-time and let God or the Higher Power take over your inner monologue.

 

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

 

6 Signs You are Having an Unhappy Twin Flame Journey

So, you are separate from your twin flame, or it’s not going well at all with them. How do I know? You wouldn’t be reading this if your relationship were hunky-dory and full of bliss.

Remember, having a twin flame can be the most fulfilling relationship humanly possible. But, there is a catch! In order to reap the lasting rewards of the relationship, we have to make the journey along the way the best experience we’ve ever had, not the worst.

Here’s Signs We Are Having an Unhappy Journey…

When we…

  • Feel hurt by what our twin flame did or didn’t say, or what they did or didn’t do.
  • Place all our attention on what’s NOT happening now.
  • Daydream about what we want the future with our twin to be like.
  • Put our life on hold, just waiting for him/her to contact us.
  • Secretly want our twin flame to rescue us from our current situation. (Or at least make it better.)
  • Place enormous importance in their physical body being near us. In other words, missing them.
  • Are disappointed or depressed with the response when we try to make contact with our twin.

WARNING! This next statement might be upsetting!

“You can’t have an unhappy journey lead to a happy ending.”  

Abraham Hicks

We have to choose happiness and unconditional love before we can have a happy ending with our twin flame. For a visual explanation, see my two videos Why You are Not With Your Twin Flame Now and A Twin Flame Union Explained.

 

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

 

How to Make Your Twin Flame Relationship a Horrible Experience

After a while you’ll realize you can’t break up and if you do temporarily, you can’t stop thinking about your twin flame. I think everyone comes to the realization that the only control we really have in this relationship is whether this will be the worst experience we have ever had or the best experience.

 

Here are Some Ways to Make it an Awful Experience…

 

  1. Fight it. Listen to all your friends and try to be normal. Go out with other people and make yourself enjoy it. Cut off all ties and do your damnedest not to think about your twin. The longer you can last, the more painful it gets.

 

  1. Don’t ever ask God or a Higher Power for help. Go with the concept “God only helps those who help themselves.”

 

  1. Insist on making promises, try really hard to keep them, and feel guilty when you break them. To make it even worse, expect your twin to do the same.

 

  1. Leave a trail of unforgiven relationships, such as ex’s, family, friends, acquaintances, and even strangers. Make it a point to bad mouth them, think about revenge, or avoid them like the plague. Think that anger and keeping grudges has nothing to do with the success of your twin flame relationship.

 

  1. Don’t bother with being grateful for your twin flame relationship. It’s best to stay focused on things that are not going the way you want them too.

 

  1. Tell your twin what he/she is doing wrong or at least think about it a lot. To make it worse, you could blame what your twin said and did for your separation.

 

  1. Make up elaborate daydreams and fantasies about the future with your twin. Don’t forget to add in exactly what will happen, who will do or say what and when. That way you will have lots of disappointments.

 

  1. Stay focused on what’s happening, what you can physically touch, hear with your ears, and see with your eyes. To make it even worse, think it will always be like this, you will always be separated from your twin, and there will never be a happy outcome.

 

  1. Be extremely skeptical about the woo-woo part of your twin flame relationship. Doubt your intuition, absolutely deny any paranormal events, and ignore even the slightest hint of telepathy with your twin. And make sure you block your true feelings, especially those from the heart. That way you will have no doubt that you have gone crazy!

 

  1. Stay steadfast to the belief that once your knight/dame in shining armor rides up on a white horse and rescues you, it will be bliss. To make it worse, believe that having your twin beside you will alleviate the need for further inner work.

 

Really! If you actually do these 10 things, either you are not in a twin flame relationship to begin with and are hell bent on sabotaging your life. Or you’re reading this from a room in a mental ward. The intense magnetic pull you have for your twin would be unbearable and it would send you over the edge.

The less excruciating thing to do is to change your mind to make this the best experience you have ever had.

 

For a Twin Flame Course to show you how to shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

What Does Twin Flame Energy Feel Like?

I’ve asked a few of my twin flame coaching clients what the energy felt like. Most of them, like me, had to think about it for a long time before we could put it into words.  We all agreed that the twin flame energy was hard to describe, extremely intense, and unlike anything we have experienced before with any other relationship. Here’s what we came up with…

Twin Flame Energy Can Feel Like…

  • Sensational bolts of energy running through our body.
  • Our heart center has expanded so much it seems like it can burst at any minute.
  • The strongest magnet in the world is pulling us towards our twin.
  • Every cell in our body is pulsating and alive.
  • An expanding warmth.
  • An indescribable deep love.
  • Our entire body feels expansive and tingling.

It Can Also…

  • Grab our attention so forcefully that it’s extremely difficult to concentrate on anything else.
  • Make us so eager to be with our twin that we feel like a child jumping up and down, waving our hands in the air with anticipated excitement.

 

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my Twin Flame Coaching and Consulting.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

 

 

 

Detaching & Twin Flame Relationships

Has someone told that you need to let your love interest go and move on? That’s a good suggestion for people in obsessive relationships. Most of them wouldn’t think of detaching from their love interest. They are always manipulating and pushing to make the relationship happen.

However, if you are in a genuine twin flame relationship, you most likely have already tried detaching or separating dozens of times. The intensity of the energy can get so strong, we’ll do anything to try to get away from it, and have.

I use to be really good at detaching. I’ve known for a long time that hanging on can repel something I want. Once I released something, it would either come back to me, or something better would take its place. It always worked before, until I tried letting go of my twin.

So far, every attempt I have made to separate and move on has been excruciatingly painful. It has whirled me into a tailspin—downward into the darkest fear and depression I’ve ever experienced.

I went a week once, trying to separate from my twin, blocking her energy, allowing no thoughts about her, and having internet or social media contact.  It got worse each day, until I was begging God to die. I truly thought the only way to escape the pain was for my life to end.

Every time, the minute I give in and embrace my twin flame again, I get relief. Attempting to detach is as hard as trying to separate the backside of a dollar bill from the front side.

 

What We CAN Detach From…  

Maybe we can’t separate from our twin flame, but we can detach from 3rd dimension mindset. The 3rd dimension is a way of life that supports needing things to work out a certain way. In fact, most, if not all our suffering in our twin flame relationship comes from staying attached to the 3rd dimension.

 

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website. For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help letting go of your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

Free Will & Twin Flame Relationships

If you are like me and every genuine twin flame I’ve talked too, you can’t really break up. Boy, have we tried! Most of us have done everything humanly possible to end the relationship.

I’ve tried denying it, avoiding it, cutting off contact, attempting to date others, keeping myself crazy busy, praying it away, saying hundreds of affirmations daily, performing surrender ceremonies, meditation, psychics, past-life regressions, journaling, ignoring signs from the universe, living in the moment, and hypnosis. I even went to a shrink, thinking I was crazy for not being able to let my twin go. All with no success. My twin is still on my mind every day, year after year.

Here’s where the concept of free will comes in. Most of us define free will as the ability to make choices as separate individuals, as one wishes, without these choices being predestined by fate or divine will.

If free will were possible, wouldn’t more of us in genuine twin flames be able to will or wish it away?

A Course in Miracles states that,

“Every decision is made for the whole Sonship, directed in and out, and influencing a constellation larger than anything you have ever dreamed of.”

To me, this means that, instead of every individual going their own separate way and doing their own thing, there is a Higher Power or God orchestrating a course of events so intertwined that it is beyond our comprehension.

That being said, I had no choice but to try all those things to get rid of my twin. Maybe it was to learn to be compassionate with other twin flames failing at free will as I did. Maybe it was to write this blog. It sure wasn’t to end the connection with my twin flame.

A Course in Miracles also says,

“What could you not accept, if you but knew that everything that happen, all events, past, present and to come, are gently planned by One Whose only purpose is your good?”

“And it will lead you on in ways appointed for your happiness according to the ancient plan, begun when time was born.”

That last phase ties into what I have heard others say about a twin flame plan being something our soul agrees to do before we come back to earth.

And finally, it says,

“As the course emphasizes, you are not free to choose the curriculum, or even the form in which you will learn it. You are free, however, to decide when you want to learn it.”

I think we have been chosen for an exceptional study program with specific lessons, tests, and assignments customized especially for us that we are expected to complete. That last line means that the only choice we have is not if, but when we want to master the program.

Therefore, we do not have free will about whether we have a twin flame or not, who our twin flame is, or even all the twists, turns, ups, and downs our journey will entail. But we can decide when we will complete our assignment.

 

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

 

Two Different Definitions of Twin Flame Relationships

On my video, 34 Signs You are in a Twin Flame Relationship I find the comments either agree with me or totally disagree with me. I think the confusion comes from their definition itself of a twin flame relationship. One meaning seems to be “Easier” like a soul mate. The other version is more “Challenging.”

With both definitions of a twin flame relationship you can experience that deep love everyone talks about, notice a feeling of “familiarity” between  you, recall your past lives together, and become aware that you are telepathically connected.

 

Here’s what I think are the Differences…

 

INTERESTS

  • The EASIER definition has many shared common interests in the physical world, such as music, food, income brackets, and age.

 

  • With the CHALLENGING definition there are hundreds of opposite interests, such as messy/clean, scheduled/spontaneous, and spiritual/analytical.

 

HONESTY

  • With the EASIER definition, it’s justifiable to keep secrets if you have a good reason.

 

  • With the CHALLENGING definition, it becomes unbearable to not be honest, especially with yourself.

 

 PURPOSE

  • With the EASIER definition, the primary mission is to have a storybook romance, a cool relationship with great sex.

 

  • With the CHALLENGING definition the primary mission is to help bring yourselves and humanity to a new level of consciousness.

 

FOCUS

  • With the EASIER definition the relationship is supposed to complete you and make you whole. That usually means your twin comes to your rescue, releasing you from the responsibility of your inner work.

 

  • With the CHALLENGING definition both twins are already whole and complete. Each whole comes together to experience the ultimate crash course in forgiveness, unconditional love, and oneness.

 

SELF-IMAGE

  • With the EASIER definition, it builds your self-image at a pace that feels safe, comfortable, and without much stress.

 

  • With the CHALLENGING definition, it almost destroys your existing self-image and reconstructs a new one. This is the part that makes most of us think we are crazy! It’s a time of extreme change, personal growth, and awakening for both parties.

 

APPROACH

  • With the EASIER definition, you welcome the relationship with open arms.

 

  • With the CHALLENGING definition, at times you have tried with all your might to end the relationship.

 

Now, Here’s the Good News!

Whether you believe the EASIER or the CHALLENGING definition of a twin flame relationship or a variation of them, it doesn’t matter.

Your job in any relationship is to learn how to unconditionally love the other person and yourself.

 

For a Twin Flame Course to show you how to shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

 

Why is Telepathy so Important in Twin Flame Relationships?

If you have a successful twin flame union you are probably not reading this. So this is for those of us still struggling with the twists, turns, ups, and downs, of the runner/chaser relationship.

If you haven’t guessed it by now, this twin flame thing is all about doing our inner work and learning new things. One of them is learning about a different way to communicate, using telepathy or mind reading.

Instead of relying only on physical touch, and the written/spoken word, telepathy is the ability to go deeper by picking up the thoughts and feelings of the other twin.

 

Here’s Why Telepathy is so Important in Twin Flame Relationships. It…

  • Helps us feel connected even miles away.
  • Can stop the doubts and fear.
  • Eliminates the urge to keep secrets from one another.
  • Allows us to feel safe in the truth.
  • Intensifies intimacy.
  • Is a way to get closer to God or the Higher Power.

 

As you can see, learning to use telepathy can help take the intense craziness out of the relationship.

 

For a Twin Flame Course to show you how to shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

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They are…

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If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

6 Ways “A Course in Miracles” Helps Twin Flames

I’m just like almost everyone else. I needed help with this all-consuming relationship. Once I discovered the term “twin flame,” I immediately went on the internet and found lots of resources. Everyone has their own experience and take on it.

Sometimes the information made me feel better. Sometimes it gave me clues to unravelling my own twin flame journey. Sometimes it confused me. And sometimes I couldn’t relate with the authors at all.

To this day, A Course in Miracles has given me more comforting “ahas” than any other resource on how to deal with the ups, downs, twists, and turns of my twin flame relationship.

 

Here’s Some Ways It Can Help You Manage Your Twin Flame Relationship…

 

A Course in Miracles…

1   Helps us get out of the FEAR.

The whole book is a course on how to redirect and train our mind away from fearful thoughts.

 

2   Guides us to rely more on GOD or a HIGHER POWER.

Our twin flame relationship gets a lot easier when we surrender to a Source that can solve any problem and resolve any conflict without sacrifice from anyone.

 

3   Shows us how to get rid of the EGO.

The ego is a term we use for self-importance, and being independent of others, including our twin flame. Therefore, all of our struggles in the relationship come from trying to stay separate and hang onto the ego.

 

4   Teaches us how to FORGIVE.

Without forgiveness, it is impossible to really love our twin flame, end the separation, and become one.

 

5   Helps us realize the enormous power of our THOUGHTS.

Many of us get in the pattern of chasing after or running from our twin flame. Instead, all we have to do to get immediate relief with any situation is replace our judging thoughts with loving thoughts.

 

6   Inspires us by describing a glimpse of the BIGGER PICTURE.     

It’s easy to lose perspective and get hung up in the intensity of the twin flame relationship, not taking into consideration the hundreds, if not thousands, of others who will benefit from the love of our twin flame union.

 

I only listed 6, but there are countless ways A Course in Miracles can make your twin flame journey easier and less painful.

 

For a Twin Flame Course to show you how to shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

How to Win the Twin Flame Battle

The twin flame journey seems like a combination of the very best you have ever wanted and the worst you could have imagined. It’s a huge ongoing battle between your head (ego) and your heart (love), until inevitably your heart wins. We know Love conquers all. So until your ego raises the white flag and surrenders, the relationship can be extremely difficult to endure.

Some try to avoid or deny the battle hoping the ego will fizzle out on its own, not realizing that it may take several lifetimes for that to occur. Others decide not to take ownership for their part, and instead blame their twin for running away from the battleground.

Then there are some who decide to let Love lead the way. Even though the game plan seems to have lots of obstacles to conquer, they have faith they will be well equipped to overcome anything they need to face.

 

Here are Some Ways Love Can Equip You to Fight the Ego…

1   Make a Commitment. 

Accept the fact that your destiny is to win the war with your ego and unconditionally love your twin flame. No matter how much you avoid, deny, downplay, or resist, it will still be your mission. Sometimes making the “whatever it takes” commitment can be the hardest part of the battle.

 

2  Take Full Responsibility for Your Thoughts.

Every thought you think has an effect. So, if you send out more loving thoughts instead of thoughts based on your ego, it changes the advantage. Think of them like cupid’s arrows, with the power to transform anything to love.

 

3  Change your Perception.

You and your twin are ONE. Only the ego can make you believe that you are separate and can go in different directions.

 

4   Call in the General.

Whenever the ego seems to be knocking you to the ground and making you judge yourself, your twin or the situation, stop and ask your leader, Love, what to do. Ask and ye shall receive. You can get out of any jam with Love, even in the midst of a full blown battle.

 

Once you go into the battle well equipped with Love leading the way, you’ll find the ego is not so intimidating and as powerful as you thought. And with each victory it gets easier to keep moving forward until Love has won.

 

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

 

 

 

Twin Flame Songs

There are gobs of warm and fuzzy romantic songs and absolutely hundreds about “love gone wrong.” There are some songs that hint at a twin flame relationship, but lack the intensity of it. I left those out. I chose to list the songs with a positive slant that are most like the magnitude of the twin flame experience.

Below are Some Songs that Relate to the Twin Flame Journey…

“The Only One” by The Black Keys 

“Magic” by Olivia Newton John

“I Knew You Were Waiting (for Me)” by George Michael and Aretha Franklin

“Feels Like Heaven” by Laid Back 

“I Knew I Loved You” by Savage Garden

“Eternal Flame” by Bangles

“I’ve Loved You Before” by Melissa Etheridge

“Thinking About You” by Trisha Yearwood

“Past Lives” by Kesha Sebert 

“Déjà Vu” by Dionne Warwick 

“Almost There” by Andy Williams 

“After All” by Peter Cetera and Cher

“Said I Loved You But I Lied” by Michael Bolden

“Somewhere” by Barbara Streisand

“Rise Up” by Andra Day

“I Want to Know What Love Is” by Foreigner

“I Won’t Give Up” by Jason Mraz

“Long Time Coming” by One Night Only 

“10,000 Hours” by Justin Beiber & Dan + Shay

“A Whole New World” Aladdin

“If I Should Fall Behind” by Bruce Springsteen

“She” by Elvis Costello

“In Your Eyes” by Peter Gabriel

“Don’t Know Much” by Aaron Neville and Linda Ronstadt

“Up Where We Belong” by Joe Cocker and Jennifer Warnes

“How Deep in the Ocean” by Jason Gould

“Beyond Me” by TobyMac

“Love Just Is” by Hillary Duff

“I’m Alive” by Celine Dion

“Let Me Love You” by Schiller 

“Can’t Remember Never Loving You” by “Nashville” Soundtrack

 

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How to Make a Twin Flame Relationship Easier


This video describes 4 ways to make a twin flame, twin soul, or true love relationship less challenging.

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Twin Flames: Avoid the Urge to Jump the Gun

Maybe you know who your twin is, but yet have not actually met yet? Or perhaps you have met, but one of you is in the process of running. No matter what your current situation is, the all-consuming intense twin flame energy can be extremely difficult to deal with.

In the midst of a spell of this powerful energy, it is harder than blazes to sit still and not take action. Sometimes we want to take action to get rid of the energy all together for some relief. Sometimes we want to take action and do something to get our twin to come closer.  And then there are the extremely rare times that we take action because God or a Higher Power instructs us too.

Here’s the key to whether or not the action will have a happy outcome…

Before taking action of any kind, and ask yourself these questions,

          “Am I trying to take control of… (fill in the blank).”

          “Am I afraid of…. (fill in the blank).”

If you are, it would be better if you would just sit down, take some deep breaths, and try to embrace the energy instead.

The twin flame journey is about going within, letting go of the fear, the need to control, and just trusting God or the Higher Power. A happy outcome will happen with little or no effort on your part when the time is right.

 

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About the Twin Flame Age Difference

“I’m really having a problem that my twin is twelve years younger. Why is there such an age difference?” One of my coaching clients questioned.

I think this is undoubtedly one of the hardest difference twin flames face, especially the older one of the two. So far, not once has the subject been brought up to me with the younger of the two.

Here are Two Reasons for the Age Difference…

1  Twin flames are filled to the brim with extreme polarities, ranging from different personality traits,  income brackets,  backgrounds, religions, beliefs, and physical characteristics. The age gap is usually one of them. The opposite factor plays a significant role in what makes your unconditional love for your twin like no other.

 

2   Let’s not forget the twin flame connection has a bigger purpose for humanity, and is not a typical story book romance. Because the twin flame connection is all about breaking the norms, changing rules, and shaking things up, it would make sense that the age gap would play and important part in this. What bridges the generation gap better than a romance between two individuals growing up in different time spans?

 

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How to Push Your Twin Flame Away Even More

Maybe you have been with your Twin Flame and one of you ran. You could both acknowledge your relationship, but because circumstances are what they are—maybe you are with other people, or live in different cities, you have stayed apart. Or you might know who your twin flame is, but you still haven’t physically met.

No matter what the reason, you are not together. There are times you feel you are handling the separation well and then there are times you are absolutely miserable.

 

Here are Two Things You Can Do to Delay Your Union Even More…

1   It’s easy to start BLAMING OUR TWIN for the separation, especially if they are in denial, avoiding us, not into personal growth, or just clueless.

Here’s the problem with twin flames: Because we are one with our twin, on some level they can feel us JUDGING them, which repels them even more. What will bring them closer is loving them unconditionally no matter what they do, say, or where they are in life.

 

2  When we get afraid we’ll never be with our twin and we can’t stand it any longer, we can try to MAKE IT HAPPEN. You know, reaching out trying to beg, prod, sweet-talk, and nudge them into our arms.

How does this push our twin flame away more?  Well, TIMING is everything.

The best analogy I can think of is that we need to calm down and wait for the swell. If we don’t wait for the right wave, it either takes a lot of effort paddling and kicking like crazy and then we’ll never be able to catch it. Or we’ll find ourselves hurled in the undertow. But if we learn to wait for the swell, our paddling joins with a bigger flow, one that will take us easily all the way to the beach.

To have a wonderful relationship with our twin, it’s better to wait for the swell and not take action when we are lonely and afraid. If the timing is right, there is very little (if anything) we need to do to make it happen.

 

Blaming, judging and trying to make the relationship happen is exactly what we are learning NOT to do.  Remember, having a twin flame is all about learning to have faith, not letting what seems to be happening upset us, and loving without reservations.

 

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Promises in a Twin Flame Relationship

Why is it hard to make promises to your twin and actually keep them? There is a simple answer. You can’t take a twin flame relationship and fit it into a 3rd dimension mindset. It just won’t work. Here’s why…

Reasons for Promises

1   The 3rd dimension mindset can make promises in an effort to feel SECURE in their relationship, especially “forever” promises. Because twin flames minds are connected, all one twin has to do is be aware of their own “FEELINGS” about the relationship to recognize their twin feels the same.

 

2   The 3rd dimension consciousness can make promises to try to alleviate FEAR. Fear only appears when you are thinking about things in the future, or things in the past, believing they will happen again. Twin flames quickly learn to stay in the PRESENT where fear cannot exist.

 

3   The 3rd dimension mindset can make promises hoping to CONTROL behaviors, yours or your twins. Twin flame relationships focus very little, if any, attention on who’s doing what. It’s all about LOVING, FORGIVING, and ACCEPTING in spite of what’s happening.

 

4   In the 3rd dimension consciousness, promises can easily put you on AUTO-PILOT causing you to IGNORE your thoughts, feelings and insights. A twin flame relationship is the opposite. It ENHANCES your intuition, sensitivity, and opens up a new world.

 

5  In the 3rd dimension mindset, promises can easily cause COMPROMISE and SACRIFICE. The focus is keeping the promise, no matter what you have to do or how miserable you are. Because everything is INTENSIFIED with twin flames, feeling miserable becomes absolutely unbearable.

 

Here it is as simply as I can put it. The only way making promises will work in a twin flame relationship is if a Higher Power or God specifically instructs you to do so.

 

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Why You are NOT with Your Twin Flame now

This video is a simple illustrated explanation of why you are not with your twin flame, twin soul, or true love right now. And what you can do about it.

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How Daydreams Sabotage a Twin Flame Relationship

Everybody probably at one time or another has fantasized about a romantic relationship. Daydreaming is a quick fix, in other words, thinking that romance will be just the way you want and it is around the corner. We long for a companion who understands us and responds to our every need.

Here’s the problem.

Daydreaming locks us into trying to control how our twin acts and what’s going to happen according to our imagined fantasy. Maybe you can get some relationships to look like your storybook romance, but not with a twin flame.

In fact, daydreaming can be the very thing that causes us enormous pain and delays us from that glorious day we unite with our twin. We are so busy trying to control what our relationship should be like, what our twin should say and do, and what should happen, that we completely forget the real purpose of having a twin flame.

Twin flame relationships are all about learning to forgive, accept, and unconditionally love. So, it would make sense that everything that we wouldn’t even think of daydreaming about, is going to happen.

To feel better, instead of getting lost in daydreams that waste time and cause disappointment, take a different approach. Ask a Higher Power or God how to truly love your twin, and how to really accept that much love back.

 

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How “A Course in Miracles” Helps Twin Flame Relationships

I don’t know how anyone can get through a twin flame relationship without doubting everything they thought they knew for sure. What has helped me tremendously is the two-hundred or so pages on special relationships in A Course in Miracles. Here’s only some of what it says…

1 About a Possible Twin Flame Union…

Chapter 20 , Section IV , Paragraph 5

”To each who walks this earth in seeming solitude is a savior given, whose special function here is to release him, and so to free himself. In the world of separation each is appointed separately, though they are all the same. And each one finds his savior when he is ready to look upon the face of Christ, and see Him sinless.”

I’ve probably read this section hundreds of times in my 29 years of studying A Course of Miracles, but until I became aware of my twin, I never noticed the words in bold.

To me, this means that when each person is ready to really unconditionally love another person, one is specifically appointed to us, a twin flame.

 

2 Accepting it

Chapter 4, Section I, Paragraph 9

“You are not at peace because you are not fulfilling your function. God gave you a very lofty function that you are not meeting. Your ego has chosen to be afraid instead of meeting it.”

“Any attempt to increase its believableness is merely to postpone the inevitable.”

To me this means, what causes all the pain in the relationship is not accepting our function, of learning to unconditionally love this person who is completely the opposite of us, our twin. We are only wasting time when we try to make sense of the relationship.

 

3 Fighting the Intense Fear

Chapter 18 , Section VI , Paragraph 6

”But forget not that your relationship is one, and so it must be that whatever threatens the peace of one is an equal threat to the other. The power of joining its blessing lies in the fact that it is now impossible for you or your brother (or sister) to experience fear alone, or attempt to deal with it alone.”

To me this means, when either my twin or I are in fear, the other one experiences it also. I think this is part of the connection and why we feel so emotional at times without a logical or apparent reason.

 

Chapter 18 , Section VI , Paragraph 7

“Yet just as this is impossible, so it is equally impossible that the holy instant come to either of you without the other. And it will come to both at the request of either.”

          “I desire this holy instant for myself, that I may share it with my brother, (or sister) whom I love.

          It is not possible that I can have it without him, or he without me.

          Yet it is wholly possible for us to share it now.

          And so I choose this instant as the one to offer to the Holy Spirit, that His blessing may descend on us,

          and keep us both in peace.”

To me this means, we don’t have to grin and bare it. We have the power to release the fear in our twin and ourselves. All I know is everytime I say these four sentences, it always releases the fear and I feel so much better.

 

4 The Power of the Relationship

Chapter 18 , Section II , Paragraph 13

“You have been called together with your brother, (or sister) to the most holy function this world contains. It is the only one that has no limits, and reaches out to every broken fragment of the Sonship with healing and uniting comfort.”

To me this means, as twins, we have a mission. We have been asked to participate in the highest relationship possible on earth. And with the uniting of the relationship, we will radiate so much love that everyone will somehow feel connected and at peace. Pretty lofty huh?

 

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What Causes the Heartache in a Twin Flame Relationship?

What makes having a twin flame so darn difficult? The answer is easy. The only way it can be excruciating, is if you or both of you are trying to fit the relationship into a  3rd dimension box.

The 3rd dimension is about operating from rules, obligations, traditions and fear. The exact same thing the twin flame union is supposed to break out of and blow wide open.

 

Signs you are Trying to Shove your Relationship into a 3rd Dimension Box is When you…

1   Really think a CONVENTIONAL ROMANCE (trying to control your love like most couples) is going to be successful.

2   Have RIGID BELIEFS, characterized by polarities such as right/wrong, black/white, rich/poor, and feminine/masculine.

3   Believe your thoughts are PRIVATE and it’s OK to lie if you have a good reason.

4   Resist CALLING ON a Higher Power or God for help.

5   Think you need to DO something to FIX the relationship.

6   BLAME your twin, anyone or anything else for your current situation.

7   Think ANGER or JEALOUSY is justified.

8   Define INTIMACY as having your twin in physical proximity to you.

9   Give lots of importance to the AMOUNT of “I love you’s” said.

10  Wish your life could GO BACK to the way it used to be.

11  SACRIFICE and make compromises.

12  Expect your twin to DO things for you, and with you, to show their love.

13  Make PROMISES to control behaviors.

14  Pay very little attention to noticing your thoughts and more on trying to CONTROL what’s happening or what you think should happen.

15  COMPARE your relationship with other couples and wish for a normal relationship instead.

16  Feel you would be HAPPIER if things were different. Maybe if you were married, or with your twin all the time you would feel better.

17  Operate from CONDITIONAL LOVE. Only if they SAY and DO what you want, then you will love them more.

18  Use your twin to fill your box of NEEDS such as companionship, financial help, emotional support, or to make decisions for you.

19  Place importance on giving and receiving MATERIAL GIFTS that represent love such as birthday gifts, Valentine’s day gifts, and matrimonial gifts.

20  Think what your twin SAYS or DOES is more important than the LOVE you have for them.

21  Hold GRUDGES against your twin or anyone else.

22  Take relationship ADVICE SOLELY from loved ones, religious leaders, doctors, and therapists.

23  Neglect listening and following your INNER GUIDANCE or intuition.

24  Feel SEPARATE from your twin and from a Higher Power or God.

 

Now think about it. Do you really want to take the unconditional love and freedom out of the most loving relationship you’ll ever experience? Ask a Higher Power or God to help move you up to living mostly in the 4th and 5th dimension. You’ll find all the agony and pain in this relationship disappear.

 

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9 Ways a Twin Flame Relationship Can Screw You Up

This video describes how unsettling and difficult a Twin Flame relationship can be.

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5 Ways to Make a Twin Flame Relationship Easier

Meeting your twin is only part of it, being able to handle the intensity and looking head on at your ego is another thing. The purpose of having a twin flame is to go through a crash course in releasing the ego for eternity. No easy feat!

Here are Some Suggestions to Make Your Twin Flame Union Easier…

1   Throw the paradigm of romantic relationships out the window. A twin flame union won’t be like any relationship you have ever had before or be like hardly any other relationships in the world. You’re probably one in 100,000, if that. I also highly doubt it will be the same as other twin flame unions. Twin flames connect to be an example of a new way to love and way more than a story book romance.

 

2   Think of the relationship as a huge inner adventure that can’t be escaped, only mastered. Every day there will be new things to explore, different paths to follow, lots of twists and turns, and demons to conquer.

 

3   Get used to lots of spiritual experiences. You will be exposed to everything that will help you release your ego and act only out of unconditional love. This could be signs from the universe, telepathy, psychic abilities, recalling past lives, astro projection, or even anything that seems impossible.

 

4   Learn to go within and pay attention to the “feeling.” No matter what’s happening in your relationship, or what your twin is doing or saying, stay focused on the “feeling” moment by moment. If it feels like fear or some of the lower energies, send your twin unconditional love to transform it. If it feels like love or some of the higher energies, bask in it as long as you can.

 

5   With the relationship, start heavily relying on God (Source, Spirit, Inner Guide, Universe or anything else you want to call it). That Higher Power is the only thing that can make this adventure easier, end the fear and take you to a place that very few humans have ever gone. All you have to do is ask, listen, and follow through when directed to do so.

 

Good news!

Whether you have been in an active twin flame union for years, are separated, or haven’t even met them in person yet, these five things will help make this adventure absolutely amazing.

 

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Meditation- Connect with a Twin Flame, Soul Mate or True Love

This is a short easy meditation to help you either to heal or improve your Twin Flame, Soul mate or true love relationship.

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34 Signs You Are in a Twin Flame Relationship

This video describes some obvious and not-so-obvious signs of a twin flame or twin soul relationship.

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How are Twin Flames, Soul Mates, & Obsessive Relationships the Same?

Everyone talks about the many differences. Twin Flames are supposed to be the union that helps mankind. Soul Mate relationships are usually known for deep connections between two people that have similar mindsets. And Obsessive Relationships are usually thought of as one sided, where feelings of infatuation become extreme.

But, What Do They Have in Common?

The purpose.

All relationships, no matter what form they come in, are for us to learn how to unconditionally love the other person no matter what they say or do.

Don’t get me wrong!

That doesn’t mean we have to stay in a relationship that isn’t working or even talk to our partner again. But, it does mean that we stop judging them long enough to see another perspective, open our hearts, and love them in spite of it.

We are here, not to find love, but to learn how to give it.

 

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A Successful Twin Flame Union Explained

This video shows you what a successful twin flame relationship is and how to get it.

 

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What’s Unusual About Twin Flame Signs & Synchronicities?

Twin flame relationships are so rare and so individualized that it’s difficult to pin point generalized concepts. That being said, this understanding comes from my own experience and my observations of the very few true twin relationships that I have come across.

What’s the difference between the usual signs most of us experience and those related to your twin flame?

 

1   Confirmation

Everyone gets signs every day. Usually the signs & synchronicities either confirm that we are taking the right action or are directing us to take another action.

Twin flame signs & synchronicities tend to be mostly directed towards getting us to focus our attention on our twin. Hardly ever do the signs ask us to take action. It’s like the universe doesn’t want us to get distracted or forget our mission.

 

2  Being Bombarded

Usually, we hear people say, “When I hear or see something three times, I take it as a sign.”

Well, if the universe wants us to really pay attention to a twin flame, we can get 100s and 100s of signs & synchronicities, all coming from different sources, at different times, in different ways. We can turn around and right in front of us is yet another sign.

 

3  Neverending

Usually we get signs and synchronicities telling us to take some sort of action. If we follow it, we never see another sign on that subject again.

With a twin flame relationship, for long periods which can last for years, we will see one sign after another, all appearing to drive home the same message – and yet there is no action to take. It’s almost as if the universe wants us to stay focused on watching the story unfold.

 

4  Intensity

Usually we see a name, or hear a special song, or someone says the right thing that makes us take notice. Nothing explosive happens. It was like a gentle reminder confirming us or nudging us in a direction.

Sometimes, with twin flame signs and synchronicities, they can get extreme. Upon seeing or hearing a sign or synchronicity, we can get emotional by tearing up, feeling a little scared, or like we just entered the twilight zone. And if we are with others at the time, they feel the emotional impact with us. It’s like the universe wants it to be right in-your-face, so there is no way you can deny it.

 

5  Spiritual  Spin

Usually we get signs and synchronicities by seeing or hearing something outside of us, unless we happen to be a little psychic.

Twin flame signs and synchronicities tend to direct us more inward. We can experience more intense dreams or visions, become more telepathic, have  overwhelming feelings, and even experience astro projection.  Some feel the other twin’s presence long before they manifest physically in their life.

 

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 A Course for Twin Flames

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What is a Twin Flame Union Anyway?

Some think a twin flame is finding the other half of your soul to complete you. Some think it’s the same as a Soul Mate. Some think a Twin Soul and Twin Flame are interchangeable. Some use twin flame to describe their dream man or woman.

How confusing? I think it’s just about as hard to define as the word “love.”

Whenever I come across subjects like this that have so many different definitions, I listen to my intuition or inner guidance to find what feels right for me.

 

I like S.J. Morgan’s definition in her book  Soul Mates & Twin Flames…

“The twin flame union is the strongest, deepest, and purest form of love that can be experienced by two entities within this universe. It requires both entities to release their egos in order to act only out of unconditional love. The successful twin flame union is the last level of spiritual ascension prior to an entity’s return to God. They must be ready to love one another eternally and unconditionally.”

 

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Why do Twin Flames Get so Many Signs and Synchronicities?

We all get signs from the universe every day if we would just pay attention to them. Signs and synchronicities are things that happen that our logic can’t explain away. They either guide us towards a direction or direct us away from a direction.

It seems common for the twin flames’ signs to be way more frequent and more in- your-face. I guess so we don’t miss it. It’s like we have a mission to complete.

 

Here are some of the Reasons I think Twin Flames Experience so Many Signs From the Universe…

 

1  BIGGER  PURPOSE

A twin flame union is not the normal story book romance, full of personal gratification and enjoyment. Twin flames are being prepared for some major contribution to the world. Therefore, the universe will nudge and urge twin flames in the direction of their destiny through a series of signs and synchronicities.

 

2   EXCEPTIONAL

The signs and synchronicities help twin flames to become aware and realize this is something special that cannot be considered ordinary. Constantly being bombarded by signs makes us wake up and take notice.

 

3   UNCERTAINTY

During our journey towards our twin flame union, it’s difficult to not get lost in doubt. Signs and synchronicities always appear to confirm again and again that we are on the right track, that we are not crazy.

 

4   HARD  TO  DISMISS

It makes it very hard to deny or run from our twin flame when we are bombarded with never ending signs and synchronicities. No matter how much we try to forget, dismiss, or resist our soul connection, we are continuously reminded of it by the universe.

 

5   RAISE  THE  ENERGY

The intensity and frequency of the signs and synchronicities in twin flame connections stagger the mind which lifts the energy in not only the twins, but for anyone who is a witness to the sign. We experience situations that cannot simply be coincidental.

 

6   KEEPS  US  FOCUSED

The magical signs and synchronicities help keep us focused on watching the story unfold and in perfect timing. Otherwise we would get terribly impatient, miss the incredible journey, and just focus on the destination.

 

There may be years upon years during which you will see one sign after another, all appearing to be emphasizing the same message – and yet at the same time, nothing happens!  You just have to have faith that these synchronicities are happening for a reason.  Trust that you are not imagining them.  Accept the fact that as painfully slow as it feels, God is giving you a super advance notice for a very good reason.

 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

 A Course for Twin Flames

This 200 page program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.

 

 

Twin Flame: 8 Signs You Probably Have NOT Met Them Yet

It’s confusing when we first meet someone who whips us off our feet and we experience out-of-this world chemistry. It’s hard to believe this is an ordinary romance. So, we can easily assume we’ve finally found the highest relationship humanly possible, our twin flame.

Signs You Probably Have NOT Met Your Twin Flame Yet…

1  There is not an age difference of at least a few years.

2   You tend to keep little secrets from her/him because you are afraid of her/his reaction. If it is a twin flame union, there is absolutely nothing you won’t discuss with them.

3   You can’t remember receiving lots of noticeable signs and synchronicities that were nudging you in his/her direction, long before you ever met.

4   There are not enormous amounts of differences between you and her/him. In fact, twin flames are opposites, having hardly anything in common at first other than they are both human and have an intense attraction for each other.

5  Neither one of you is heavily involved in self-growth, spiritual, or faith based pursuits.

6  Your deep attraction  to her/him has faded or died out with time.

7  Neither one of you has realized that this isn’t the first time the two of you have met. Twin flames almost always have had several previous lifetimes together.

8  You aren’t ready to unconditionally love someone no matter how they act, what they say, or what they do. Twin flames are put together to go through a crash course in forgiveness, gratitude, and acceptance.

 

Whether or not you have found your twin flame, it doesn’t matter. What matters is whether or not you want a deep fulfilling connection with someone else. And if you do, #8 is the only thing that can make that come true. Even the most ordinary romances can be amazing.

 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details

Obsessive vs. Twin Flame Relationships– What is the Difference?

Many of us, at some point in time, find ourselves in a relationship that literally knocks our socks off. When the passion is so extreme, we want to be with them every minute of the day, and can’t keep our hands off them. You know, when we are sure they are the one and only one.

Because of the overwhelming intensity, sometimes it is difficult to distinguish whether we have hit the payload and are in the midst of the highest kind of relationship humanly possible. Or if we are embarking on a relationship that is a journey of unfulfilling wishes that little by little cut away at our self-esteem.

To help you save months (or years!) until you finally figure it out on your own, let’s look at:

Some of the differences between Obsessive Relationships and Twin Flame Relationships…

 

1   COMMUNICATION

Those in Obsessive Relationships Tend to…

  • Feel they must constantly stay in touch with each during the day, whether it is by texting, calling, or emailing. Anxiety usually builds when there isn’t a timely response.
  • Say the L-word as much as possible, especially on the phone or when departing. If one partner doesn’t say “I love you” enough, the other may start to think their partner doesn’t love them anymore or that their partner is cheating.
  • Need constant reassurance.

 

Those in Twin Flame Relationships Tend to…

  • Communicate by telepathy.
  • Not say “I love you” a lot. They feel it. There is no doubt in their minds.

 

2   APPROACH

 Those in Obsessive Relationships Tend to…

  • Engage in people pleasing. One or both parties change their appearance, behaviors, and beliefs to please the other. They think nothing of actually changing into someone else in order to get the other’s approval.
  • Let physical separation become a mood changer. They let themselves become depressed in the absence of one another. This leads to lots of  “I miss you” texts and calls.
  • Have little secrets and tell white lies. They don’t want their partner to either disapprove or to have their feelings hurt.

 

Those in Twin Flame Relationships Tend to…

  • Learn to accept each other exactly the way they are.
  • Feel their love interest’s connection no matter where they are in the world.
  • Be completely honest with each other about everything.

 

3   DAYDREAM

Those in Obsessive Relationships Tend to…

  • Develop long drawn out fantasies of how they want it to be in the future. This likely involves a marriage, an orchestrated wedding ceremony, and having children.
  • Create imaginary conversations between themselves and their love interest.

 

Those in Twin Flame Relationships Tend to…

  • Get intuitive glimpses of what might happen in the future. Intuition doesn’t tell the whole story, is just gives little snapshots. So, instead of getting wrapped up in making plans and embellishing on every little detail, twin flames are prone to watch the relationship unfold and wait for the next glimpse.

 

4   FOCUS

Those in Obsessive Relationships Tend to…

  • Constantly describe their love object. They concentrate on detailing who the person is, such as their appearance, bad and good personality traits, achievements, kind gestures, and loving words.
  • Ignore the warning signs and red flags, such as jealousy, arguments, placing blame, and misunderstandings.
  • Try to make the relationship happen. They either orchestrate ways to run into their love object on purpose, try to get close to his/her friends, or plot ways to break up their current relationship with someone else.

 

Those in Twin Flame Relationships Tend to…

  • Learn to pay less attention to who their love object is and put more focus on the interaction between each other, and how they relate to one another.
  • Notice the signs and synchronicities, whether they are “this is going well” or “this is not going well” signs.
  • Work on letting it happen in divine timing.

 

5   EXCLUSION

Those in Obsessive Relationships Tend to…

  • Neglect other people in their lives, such as family, friends and co-workers.
  • Believe their love object will be everything to them and they need no one else. They can easily get so wrapped up in devoting all the attention on their love object that they even forget God (Higher Power, Source, Spirit, Inner Guidance, or whatever term you want to use).

 

Those in Twin Flame Relationships Tend to…

  • Believe in inclusion, leaving no one behind.
  • Make God (Higher Power, Source, Spirit, Inner Guidance, etc.) a big part of the relationship. It would be impossible to navigate through the twin flame journey without help and guidance from some Higher Power.

 

6   OTHERS REACTIONS

Those in Obsessive Relationships Tend to…

  • Find that other people become agitated with them when they constantly discuss their love object. Others either quickly change the subject, roll their eyes, manage to disappear, or flat out request them to stop.
  • Have family, friends and even strangers express their concerns that there may be an obsession problem. If best friends or more than one of the others has spoken up, that’s a red flag.

 

 Those in Twin Flame Relationships Tend to…

  • Have support from most they encounter because of the high energy they can feel. Psychics are usually good at picking up the twin flame energy.
  • Have people look forward to hearing about any latest twists and turns of the relationship. A few of the others may not totally understand, but they usually don’t believe it’s obsessive either.

 

7   THE  UNDERLYING  MINDSET  OF  THE  RELATIONSHIP

Those in Obsessive Relationships Tend to…

  • Need the relationship to be a certain way, most often in the form of some kind of lasting romantic relationship.
  • Treat the other person as a possession. They have the delusion that their object of desire does (or will) belong to them.
  • Use the other person as a trophy or self-esteem enhancer.
  • Be deathly afraid of losing their love object.

         

Those in Twin Flame Relationships Tend to…

  • Not be as concerned with the form of the relationship, whether it’s romantic, work related, or just friends.
  • Focus on unconditional love, forgiveness, appreciation, and acceptance of the other person.

 

Here’s the Good Part!

Whether you are in an obsessive relationship or a twin flame union, it doesn’t make a difference. Either one can be a wonderful experience if you focus on unconditional loving, no matter what form the relationship takes. God (Higher Power, Source, Spirit, Inner Guidance, etc.) is great with taking a mess and turning it into something amazing, if you just ask.

 

For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.

For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.

If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.

 A Course for Twin Flames

This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details

 

 

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