Do you identify as an INFP Myers-Briggs personality type? Do you seem to have a problem with being critical or judgmental of yourself? Maybe you are afraid of making mistakes?

Here’s 7 Possible Reasons INFP Personality Types Judge Themselves…

INFPs…

1   ARE FREE SPIRITS-

Of the 16 personality types, INFPs are the most independent and nonconforming. If they try to be “normal” and make themselves follow others, they can fall into the pattern of judging themselves.

2   ARE EXTREMELY TELEPATHIC-

INFPs tend to be overemotional because they can experience others’ feelings, even if the feelings are not expressed. That means they have the ability to detect the slightest anger, fear, or dishonesty in others, no matter how far away they are. Until INFPs see actual evidence of those feelings, they might judge themselves.

3   HAVE HIGH STANDARDS-

INFPs tend to strive to be perfect. When they fall short of their expectations, they often judge themselves.

4   HAVE A HARD TIME MAKING DECISIONS-

INFPs tend to need time to explore and examine their options carefully before making decisions. They could easily judge themselves for not being able to make a decision, or for taking too long to make a decision. This could be alleviated if the INFP would utilize their intuition or inner guidance in the matter.

5   CRAVE EMOTIONAL INTIMACY-

INFPs tend to want deep emotional relationships. In fact, INFPs are one of the personality types who seek and actually find their twin flame. They can often judge themselves for not being able to find or be with “the one” yet.

6   NATURALLY EXPLORE EVERYTHING-

INFPs tend to explore and experience all sorts of things. Nothing’s wrong with that! In fact, exploring is how their creativity blossoms. They might judge themselves for needing to explore so much or when they take one of their experiences too seriously and think it was wrong.

7   ARE EXTREMELY INTUITIVE-

If an INFP tries to be “normal” and dumbs down their intuitive ability, they are attempting to cut off their source. There could be a tremendous amount of self-criticism when they can’t be someone they are not meant to be.

Are You an INFP who is Ready to Hone Your Intuition or Inner Guidance?

If you identify with the INFP personality type, this self-study eBook can help you fine-tune your intuition or inner guidance—without having to change who you are. For more details.

Also, check out the INFP Personality Type section on my website or the INFP Intuition QUIZ.

If you need more help using your intuition or inner guide, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

Are you an INFP Myers-Briggs personality type who is having a difficult time with romantic relationships?  Do your relationships fall short after a few years, or even after a few months? Have you found it difficult for your partners to be honest with you? Maybe the relationship has become ho-hum and stuck in everyday routines? That’s a common occurrence for INFPs.

Why are Romantic Relationships so Hard for INFPs?

INFPs….

1   SET THE BAR EXTREMELY HIGH-

INFPs are usually on the hunt for “the one.” INFPs are one of the personality types who seek and often find their twin flame. They crave the deepest connection they can have with one person at all levels—physical, mental, and especially spiritual.

That narrows the field. Most people want a “normal” romantic relationship, not something that is miraculous and awe-inspiring for eternity.

2   ARE DREAMERS-  

INFPs tend to spend a lot of their time thinking about what they want in a relationship. If they are dreaming in the 3rd dimension (what they can see, hear, touch, taste, and smell) then it is extremely hard for anyone to live up to their expectations and behave like the INFP wants them to.

But, once the INFP learns the only way to be content is to dream at a higher level in the 4th dimension (related to our thoughts and feelings). By dreaming about freedom, flexibility, happiness, respect, kindness, honesty, appreciation, or any positive feelings, then relationships substantially improve.

3   ARE HIGHLY INTUITIVE–

INFPs are wired to function from their intuition or inner guidance. When they stray away from that by judging themselves, people pleasing, or by having painful patterns, it makes it hard on their relationships.

4   ARE ALWAYS ON A QUEST-

INFPs tend to be on a never-ending spiritual and personal growth quest. If their partner doesn’t have that same desire, it can put a strain on having a deep connection with them.

5   WILL AVOID CONFLICT-

INFPs tend to do everything and anything to avoid relationship conflict, even caving in. Avoiding can alleviate the current relationship conflict, but requires them to go against their intuition or inner guidance, which causes enormous inner conflict for an INFP.  In the long run, it doesn’t make the relationship easier.

6   JUDGE THEMSELVES-

INFPs tend to not judge their partner, but they usually judge themselves terribly. Maybe it’s because they are trying so hard to be perfect. When they fail to live up to their expectations, INFPs have a tendency to punish themselves or even lash out, trying to sabotage the relationship.

Summing it Up

These 6 reasons why INFPs have a hard time with romantic relationships, usually involves them not using their intuition or inner guidance to its fullest capacity.

Are You an INFP who is Ready to Hone Your Intuition or Inner Guidance?

If you identify with the INFP personality type, this self-study eBook can help you fine-tune your intuition or inner guidance—without having to change who you are. For more details.

Take the INFP Intuition QUIZ.

Also, check out the INFP Personality Type section on my website.

If you need more help using your intuition or inner guide, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

Finding out which of the 16 Myers-Briggs personality types you lean towards, gives you a direction to unlocking who you are and your preferences, like having a basic compass. It just gives you a direction, leaving out the thousands and thousands of individual variations.

Of course, taking the Myers-Briggs test is the best way to find out for sure what your personality type is. But if you want to try to figure it out on your own, this might help you.

I divided these into two sections, the main signs and the not-so-obvious signs. If you don’t identify with the main ones, you probably lean towards another personality type.

Main Signs That You Might Have an INFP Personality Type…

INFPs Tend to…

1   Be nonconformists. They have a strong desire to be independent from others and have no desire to be normal.

2   Believe everything is connected and search for the deeper meaning behind everything.

3   Like change and will try anything once.

4   Take time to explore and examine their choices carefully before making a decision.

5   Desire emotional intimacy. They want to develop deep, authentic one-on-one relationships.

6   Have overactive imaginations, with lots of creative ideas.

7   Have a strong inner world, knowing their own core beliefs and values—and try to always operate from them.

Not-so-Obvious Signs You Might Have an INFP Personality Type

INFPs Tend to…

1   Lean towards experiences that awaken or intensify feelings of passion, inspiration, or connection.

2   Have a hard time enjoying the moment. They are mostly future oriented.

3   Be interested in what’s hiding behind the five senses or the 3rd dimension.

4   Spend lots of time on self-reflection.

5   Look and find their twin flame. 

6   Thrive on freedom and flexibility.

7   Be advocates for those they feel are oppressed or misunderstood.

8   Have a hard time with criticism from others.

9   Struggle with extreme emotions, mainly because they feel other’s energies and emotions intuitively.

10   Pick up their intuition and creative ideas from the outside world.

11   Enjoy physical activities, especially in nature.

12   Have unrealistic expectations of themselves.

13   Be more attracted to the mental and spiritual than the material and concrete.

14   Be on an ongoing adventure of self-discovery and personal growth.

15   Have excellent listening skills.

16   Communicate often through their creativity.

17   Judge themselves terribly. They don’t judge others much, but they really judge themselves.

18   Be perfectionists, causing them to not give themselves enough credit.

19   Travel extensively.

20   Have a difficult time organizing tasks, streamlining systems, and being efficient.

If you identify with all of the main signs and most of the not-so-obvious signs, you are probably an INFP personality type. It’s estimated that less than 5% of the population are INFPs. No wonder so many feel that no one understands them.

Are You an INFP Who is Ready to Get Help with Using Your Intuition or Inner Guidance More Often?

If you identify with the INFP personality type, this simple eBook can help you increase the use of your intuition or inner guidance—without having to change who you are. For more details.

Take the INFP Intuition QUIZ.

If you need more help using your intuition or inner guide, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

INFP Myers-Briggs personality types are very sensitive to the energy of others and their environment. This makes certain situations depleting and sometimes extremely difficult for an INFP.

Here’s a List of Some of the Things That Cause INFPs to Feel Exhausted or Drained…

• Judging or doubting themselves.
• Inability to be creative or use their imagination.
• Someone wanting their constant attention.
• Making small talk, such as discussing the weather, what they had for lunch, or what they are going to do that day.
• Keeping everything the same and setting up routines.
• Social events, especially when they involve being in large groups or around negative people.
• Being criticized.
• Not having a sanctuary or a safe space of their own.
• Being stretched too thin or having back-to-back obligations.
• Being pushed to make decisions before they have time to explore the options.
• Relationship conflict or misunderstandings.
• Not feeling connected to others.
• Negativity. Being around negative people for any length of time or watching the news can be very draining.
• Trying to stop or dismiss how they feel. For an INFP, ignoring their feelings and emotions is cutting off their energy source.
• Not having big blocks of time on their own with no interruptions.
• Dishonesty. This can mean others not telling the truth, or denying their own truth to themselves.
• Not being able to move their body.
• Soaking up others’ emotional storms. It’s easy for INFPs to feel others’ trauma or crisis and take it on.
• Trying to do things without passion or inspiration. In other words, trying to settle for mediocre. INFPs love to really feel their emotions.
• Denying their intuition or inner guide. Exploring, using their imagination, recognizing signs from the universe, and sensing the energy are some of the things that energize INFPs.

Are You an INFP who is Ready to Fine-tune Your Intuition or Inner Guidance?

If you identify with the INFP personality type, this self-study eBook can help you use your intuition or inner guidance more often—without having to change who you are. For more details.

Also, check out the INFP Intuition QUIZ.

If you need more help using your intuition or inner guide, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.