Are you struggling with the possibility that you might be gay? Maybe you know you prefer the same sex, but have spent years doing everything humanly possible to change it.
Here’s where the concept of free will comes in. Most of us define it as the ability as separate individuals to make choices, as one wishes, without them being predestined by fate or divine will.
If free will is possible in this instance, wouldn’t there be more of us gays able to will or wish it away?
What if we stopped buying into the concept of free will altogether? Would that, in itself, end most of the gay shame, pain, and struggle to change what is?
A Course in Miracles states that,
“Every decision is made for the whole Sonship, directed in and out, and influencing a constellation larger than anything you have ever dreamed of.”
To me this means, instead of every individual going their own separate way and doing their own thing, that there is a Higher Power or God orchestrating a course of events so intertwined that it is beyond our comprehension. And that there is a Divine reason so many of us are now being born or turning gay—we just don’t know what it is yet.
Other passages say,
“What could you not accept, if you but knew that everything that happens, all events, past, present and to come, are gently planned by One Whose only purpose is your good?”
“And it will lead you on in ways appointed for your happiness according to the ancient plan, begun when time was born.”
And another states,
“You need to be reminded that you think a thousand choices are confronting you, when there is really only one to make. And even this but seems to be but a choice.”
To me that means, our only choice is whether we want to keep thinking we have free will, or to let God or the Higher Power show us how to be happy.
That last line goes even deeper. It only appears like we have a choice from one or the other. But, there is no opposite to choose from. Free will does not exist. There is only God or a Higher Power, and happiness to select.
For more blogs, visit the Relationship Section on my website.
If you need help with being gay, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.