This video describes 7 reasons why women find it more difficult to forgive themselves than men do.
If forgiveness were always easy the self-help section of the bookstore wouldn’t be lined with titles telling people how to do just that. Take heart and know that you’re not the only one who struggles with forgiveness. Identifying why forgiveness is difficult for you, however, could be the first step in resolving the anger issue that’s holding you back from happiness.
Here’s 10 Reasons it is So Hard to Forgive…
1 We might feel trust is broken or we’ve been betrayed.
2 We don’t want to let them off the hook.
3 We think forgiveness means that we let them in our lives again.
4 If we forgive and forget it will happen again.
5 When we want to feel superior. This usually happens when we want an apology.
6 We believe anger stops it from happening again.
7 We believe our resentment can punish others.
8 We want them to take responsibility for their actions.
9 We want then to be willing to remedy the situation.
10 We believe we must forgive the truth and not our perception of it.
Another reason why there are so many books about the art of forgiveness is because it’s important. Forgiving someone — and often ourselves — can lead to a greater awareness, a shift in stuck energy and a happier, more blissful life.
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One way to feel lighter, free, more optimistic and charged once again with purpose is to forgive yourself. Is there something that you’ve done or not done that you have been holding onto? If it’s time to let go of the past so you and your loved ones can proceed with a brighter future, consider these reasons for forgiving yourself today.
1 Have a happier and more rewarding life.
2 Take advantage of using our intuition.
3 Experience a healthier life, with less sickness and disease.
4 Understand what freedom feels like.
5 Avoid energy loss anddepression by not storing ugly memories.
6 Help others forgive themselves.
7 Manifest our wildest dreams.
8 Stop attracting the same kind of dramatic situations and unhealthy relationships.
9 Build our self-esteem, instead of wasting time tearing it down.
We don’t need to remain in a cage or state of punishment by not forgiving ourselves. It doesn’t do anyone any good. Regain your energy, your freedom and your self-esteem by acknowledging the episode or pattern that is making you feel bad, thanking it for the lesson and letting go of the hurt by forgiving yourself.
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By Vickie Champion
What you’ve done is not the reason you’re not forgiving yourself. It’s what you want to continue to do. Think about that. There’s a reason – one that you feel is pretty darn good – for continuing to hold onto that self scorn. We always think we have good reasons for what we do. And maybe we do, or did. Is it time to change your reason for not forgiving yourself? Consider these 12 benefits or excuses we have for not forgiving ourselves.
We can have an EXCUSE to…
1 Talk about ourselves with a self-condemning overtone.
2 Place others ahead of ourselves.
3 Hold onto bad habits like overeating and over spending to punish ourselves.
4 Deflect gifts or compliments from others.
5 Feel intimidated when we’re around others.
6 Stay stuck in time, reliving events over and over.
7 Neglect self-care.
8 Delay going for our dream job.
9 Preoccupy our time with ugly memories.
10 Deprive ourselves of the things we want to do, be or have.
11 Ignore our intuition.
12 Pat ourselves on the back for being right.
Did you recognize yourself in any of these statements? Well for heaven sakes don’t condemn yourself anymore! Just be aware. Smile on that self-awareness and know that with it things have already started to change.
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Forgiveness can be like cleaning out your closet. At first, it’s dreaded as one difficult, if not impossible, task. But once the contents have been cleared, sorted and organized, everything feels better – lighter.
Do the contents of your spirit need to be assessed? Forgiveness is one pathway toward clearing and freeing the spirit. We can say we have forgiven someone, but have we?
Here’s how to tell if you still need to do more forgiveness work-
1 Use what the person said or did as a topic of conversation.
2 Daydream about getting revenge or some kind of justice. A good example of this is attending your high school reunion and showing them.
3 Preoccupy your mind day in and day out either reliving or dwelling on the situation or the person’s behaviors.
4 Get annoyed if someone even mentions the person.
5 Have a tendency to avoid the person.
6 Are secretly delighted to hear about the person’s current difficulties and losses.
7 Strongly believe you have been unfairly treated and are an innocent victim.
8 Have friends and family that are tired of talking about the person and the latest drama.
Forgiveness is usually more of a process than we are willing to admit. If there’s still work to do, that’s OK! Now you know that you need to continue the process of forgiving to create a lighter, more expansive you.
To help you learn to forgive, you can also contact Vickie Champion for a discovery coaching and consulting session to overcome your guilt.
By Vickie Champion