I have been working with my latest client, a newly single Mom. We have only had a couple of coaching sessions, but I already recognize symptoms of several of the most common money problems:
- Overspending money on her son to relieve her guilt over her deadbeat ex
- Knows what budgeting is all about but never took it seriously
- Has a hard time controlling her impulse spending
- Nickel and dimes her money away on quick fixes instead of saving up for what she really wants and needs
- Accepts financial help from her Mom, but feels lousy about it
- Is way too generous with her friends, and ends up resenting them for it
No matter what angle we approached her situation from, all the symptoms came down to this one cause: she doesn’t know what her own dreams are. Well, actually she did have one, but she honestly didn’t think she deserved to have it!
Are you like this lady?Do you feel stuck in the mud, with no direction to go and no way to get there if you did?
Here are some things you can do to get yourself kick started to achieving your dreams…
- Write a list of 50 things you would like to do, be, or have – no matter how crazy they may sound. This helps motivate you to break old habits, and to be happier.
- Make and follow a budget. Budgets are not a form of medieval torture, but are a planning tool for getting your dreams.
- Whenever you feel the urge to impulse buy, slow down! Give yourself a chance to think about it so you can have a choice: do you want a quick fix or dream come true?
- Be an example for your children, family, friends, whoever you hold dear. Show them how to make dreams come true!
Once you know what your dreams are, you will know how much you can buy and how much you need to save. So, dream away and just go for it!
You can also contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.