1. I have a hard time asking for or accepting help from others.

2. It hurts my feelings when others don’t say “thank you” or appreciate me.

3. I feel like a doormat and that I am being used.

4. I have visitors who either come at inconvenient times or overstay their welcome.

5. I resent others for having fun when I have to work.

6. I am not comfortable with free time.

7. I feel that I am not “good” enough.

8. I say “yes” when I really want to say “no.”

9. Others express concern about my need to please.

10. I lie rather than face the rejection of certain individuals.

11. I worry about hurting others’ feelings.

12. I am critical of my past decisions or lack of.

13. I try to bury my feelings, desires, or dreams.

14. How people respond to me is really important.

15. I have a hard time ending conversations when I want to.

16. I measure my self-esteem by how much I “do” as well as the “praise” and appreciation I receive from others.

17. I feel trapped.

18. I think I know what others will “say” or “do” in certain situations.

19. I don’t have enough hours in the day to get everything done.

20. I avoid conflict and disagreements at all costs.

21. I have a hard time making decisions on my own.

22. I feel guilty when I say “no.”

23. I apologize more than once a day.

24. I strive to be “perfect.”

25. I’m worried about something all the time. Often, it’s about the reactions to what I said or did or what might happen in the future.

26. I think I am responsible for others’ happiness.