8 Advantages of Saying NO When you Want To

Saying YES when you want to say NO can make you feel liked or that you’re accomplishing something.  But the harm it does far outweighs these benefits. Here are Some of the Upsides of Saying NO When you Want to… You… Are liked for who you are as a person, not for...

How People Pleasers are Selfish!

I’m not stupid. I know that a people pleaser’s worst fear is to be called selfish. People pleasers rearrange their whole lives so they will not be regarded as selfish. Well, people pleaser, listen up: You. Are. Selfish.  At least consider the possibility that you may...

The Darkside of People Pleasing

It’s as scary as the vampires populating the movie screens and books. And just as seductive: It’s the darkside of needing to please. A coaching client of mine said she couldn’t see any value in not being too nice until I bluntly explained the huge and scary...