There is no way around it, INFJs are notorious for being control freaks! Nothing is out of bounds. They try to control their environments, their schedules, their routines, situations, future events, and of course, others.
Reasons INFJs are so Controlling
INFJs are usually…
- Organizers and planners.
- Like absentminded professors. Remembering the details of day-to-day living can be difficult. So, the more they set up airtight systems and procedures, the easier it is for them.
- Engaged in their inner world of deep thoughts and feelings, and hate it when their outer world is in disarray.
- Very sensitive to the energy of almost everything. Taking control of what’s controllable often stops them from being overstimulated by unnecessary activity, confusion, and chaos.
- Good at predicting the future and see things coming down the pike way before it happens. With that information, they are often guided to warn others, over and over and over, which may appear to other personality types as controlling.
Get This Clear!
Being a control freak is natural for an INFJ. It’s ingrained. So, don’t waste time trying to change who you are. Controlling only becomes an obstacle in your life when it comes from a 3rd dimension mindset. Let’s explain.
About 3rd Dimension Controlling
The 3rd dimension frame of mind pushes the Higher Source aside and wants to be in complete control. This mindset wants to be totally in charge of how things play out—every detail of what happens, when, where, who does what, and how it happens.
That means this level of mindset distracts INFJs, keeping them focused on trying to manipulate the details of what can be seen, heard, touched, tasted, or smelt with the five senses.
For instance, in relationships this level of mindset makes INFJs try to control what they or their special person says or does, how to avoid arguments, how to make the relationship successful and last a lifetime, and how it will look to others.
Important to be Aware of
Because INFJs tend to be extremely intuitive, they might sometimes know parts of what will happen, and parts of how it will happen, but they are NOT in control of the details. The Higher Source is in charge of the details, knowing what will benefit their relationship and others the most and when it needs to happen.
About 4th Dimension Controlling
4th dimension controlling is about focusing on being in charge of the INFJ’s thoughts and perceptions about what happens, and how it happens. They can change their mind from fearful thoughts and perceptions to loving ones. That’s really the only thing INFJs can completely control.
Summary
It is extremely beneficial when the INFJ releases their need to control the details on the physical level (what we see, hear, taste, touch, and smell). Then takes that same need to control to the mental level (thoughts, emotions, perceptions, and attitudes) to transform any fearful, angry, and negative thoughts (they or anyone else has) into loving, peaceful, and positive thoughts.
You cannot imagine how that kind of control can affect thousands
of people, now and for eternity.
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