Almost all twin flame relationships have a period of time when they are not physically near each other. The distance is a part of getting rid of our 3rd dimension (ego) frame of mind and accepting the higher dimension mindsets. A component of this is gaining more clarity and understanding about our longing for physical contact. We could ask ourselves this question…
Is my Wanting to Physically be with my Twin Flame a NEED or a DESIRE?
To Clarify if Our Longing is a NEED…
1 A NEED TO SOLVE OUR PROBLEMS
Having a NEED is our ego’s (3rd dimension’s) way of solving our problems. Our problems could be loneliness, making decisions, an inability to feel safe, inadequate finances, or feeling unworthy, to name a few. Our ego wants us to believe that if our needs were fulfilled in our twin flame relationship, we would be in bliss.
2 A NEED FOR PHYSICAL BODIES
A NEED is associated with what one or both physical bodies do or don’t do, or say or don’t say. A good example of this is the longing for companionship, which is usually wanting the two physical bodies to be near each other.
3 A NEED TO PROVE SOMETHING TO OTHERS
Usually, but not always, a NEED comes with a longing to prove something to someone else. Maybe it’s proving we are worthy of attracting someone like our twin flame. Perhaps we want to show others how enlightened and intuitive we are or prove that we were right all along in spite of the condescending and skeptical behaviors of others.
4 A NEED CAUSES IMPATIENCE
Having a NEED almost always causes us to be impatient, even chomping at the bit, to be able to physically see, hear, and touch our twin flame’s body.
This Impatience Tends to Make Us…
- Focus and question about how and when the in-person union with our twin flame will happen.
- Put our life on hold until we get that need met.
- Frustrated by the physical absence of our twin flame.
5 A NEED REQUIRES FULFILLMENT
A NEED can only be fulfilled in the 3rd dimension (what we see, hear, touch, taste, and smell with our body’s senses) to feel complete and whole. Nothing else will work!
To Clarify if Our Longing is a DESIRE…
1 A DESIRE DOESN’T SOLVE OUR PROBLEMS
Having a DESIRE is our intuition’s (4th dimension’s) way of leading us in the direction of our heart’s desires.
2 A DESIRE IS NOT LIMITED TO PHYSICAL BODIES
A DESIRE is associated with how things feel, such as the feeling of the twin flame connection or the feeling of “knowing” or certainty.
3 WITH A DESIRE, WE DON’T KNOW WHY WE WANT IT
No matter how hard we try to give a valid reason why we want to be with our twin flame, we come up empty. When we find ourselves fighting and resisting it because we can’t justify it, it’s a good sign it’s a DESIRE and not a NEED,
4 A DESIRE HAS PATIENCE
Having a DESIRE makes the wait to physically see, hear, and touch our twin flame’s body not such a big deal and even tolerable.
This Patience Tends to Allow Us to…
- Focus on the feelings and the connection of the relationship that’s happening right now.
- Enjoy every step of the journey.
- Not be bothered so much by the physical absence of our twin flame.
5 WE ARE CURIOUS TO VALIDATE OUR DESIRE
A DESIRE comes with an excitement and interest to see evidence of our desire, but there is no NEED to prove something to someone else.
6 A DESIRE AUTOMATICALLY STIMULATES UNCONDIONAL LOVE
A DESIRE has a built-in mechanism to give unconditional love to our twin flame instead of trying to get something from them, like a NEED requires.
In other words, our fulfillment comes from just having the DESIRE to love someone soooo much.
IF YOUR LONGING IS MOSTLY A NEED
If you have reasons why you want to be with your twin flame, put an enormous value on being in physical proximity with your twin flame, want to prove something to others, and put your life on hold until you are with them, you will probably be disappointed if you ever get with your twin flame. You have a lot of inner work to do before you can have a lasting happy outcome.
IF YOUR LONGING IS A LITTLE OF BOTH
It’s OK if you have a little of both. The more inner work you do to get intuitive insights on fulfilling NEEDS, the more likely you will have an amazing relationship with your twin flame.
IF YOUR LONGING IS MOSTLY A DESIRE
You are probably not even reading this if your longing is mostly a DESIRE, because you just “know” it will happen at the right time for everyone.
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