It is extremely hard, especially at first, to know for sure if we have found our twin flame or not. Both the twin flame and the karmic (false twin flame) relationship can begin with the same intensity and attraction, but with time the difference becomes clearer.
Here’s Some Signs We Are NOT in a Twin Flame Relationship…
When We…
1 GRADUALLY LOSE INTEREST IN OUR SPECIAL PERSON-
The “I want to be with you soooo much” attraction may only last a few weeks or months before you begin to noticing that it is starting to dwindle.
2 NOTICE SIGNS FROM THE UNIVERSE-
If we are in a twin flame relationship, we are usually bombarded with all sorts of positive signs from the universe and synchronicities that are encouraging us along the journey. If we are in karmic relationships, we usually experience signs from the universe in the form of red flags.
3 ARE NOT THAT INTRIGUED-
In a karmic relationship, we progressively lose our interest in really knowing our special person—physically, mentally, and spiritually. We can often notice the relationship hovering around one thing, such as sex, with very little fascination on any other aspects.
In a twin flame relationship, we are curious to know our special person deeply from every angle and want to learn to unconditional love every part of them.
4 ARE DEFENSIVE-
Being defensive is when we justify, explain, or make excuses trying really hard to convince someone or, more importantly, to convince ourselves we are in a twin flame relationship.
5 LET OUR SPECIAL PERSON HARM US-
Physical violence or mental belittling can be associated with some karmic relationships, but hardly ever with twin flame relationships. We probably wouldn’t be able to even attract our “true love” if we had an unconscious desire to use the relationship to punish ourselves or hurt our special person.
6 HAVE RESORTED TO LASHING OUT-
Another thing that can be associated with some karmic relationships is badmouthing and name calling, such as calling them a narcissist. By the time we verbalize our negative thoughts, we have already judged, tried, and convicted our special person.
7 ARE UNABLE TO BE HONEST WITH OUR SPECIAL PERSON-
One of the key elements of being in a twin flame relationship is feeling so comfortable and safe that we want to be sincere. Karmic relationships can often make us guarded and hesitant to reveal the truth.
8 ARE RELUCTANT TO FORGIVE-
If we are in a karmic relationship, there is a strong tendency to hold onto past hurts whether we, our special person, or both initiated them. Rather than forgiving, the focus is turned towards someone being guilty and punished for it. If we are in a twin flame relationship, there is greater pull to forgive and overcome past hurts.
9 RESIST LEARNING HOW TO UNCONDITIONALLY LOVE-
Not willing to go the extra mile is common with karmic relationships. We think if we can just fix the problem, we won’t need to unconditionally love ourselves or our special person.
When we are in a twin flame relationship, we are a lot less reluctant to go that extra mile.
What Now!
If you have all or most of these signs, you are probably in a karmic relationship. But, that’s NOT a BAD thing! Even in a karmic relationship, there is a lot of love underneath the hurt and pain, but that doesn’t mean you will physically be together for eternity, or even talk to each other again.
There are two main ways to have peace and a happy outcome with your karmic relationship. One is to be willing to unconditionally love yourself and your special person, no matter what was said or not said, or done or not done. The other is listening and following your intuition or inner guide.
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