Are you an INFP Myers-Briggs personality type who is having a difficult time with romantic relationships? Do your relationships fall short after a few years, or even after a few months? Have you found it difficult for your partners to be honest with you? Maybe the relationship has become ho-hum and stuck in everyday routines? That’s a common occurrence for INFPs.
Why are Romantic Relationships so Hard for INFPs?
1 SET THE BAR EXTREMELY HIGH-
INFPs are usually on the hunt for “the one.” INFPs are one of the personality types who seek and often find their twin flame. They crave the deepest connection they can have with one person at all levels—physical, mental, and especially spiritual.
That narrows the field. Most people want a “normal” romantic relationship, not something that is miraculous and awe-inspiring for eternity.
2 ARE DREAMERS-
INFPs tend to spend a lot of their time thinking about what they want in a relationship. If they are dreaming in the 3rd dimension (what they can see, hear, touch, taste, and smell) then it is extremely hard for anyone to live up to their expectations and behave like the INFP wants them to.
But, once the INFP learns the only way to be content is to dream at a higher level in the 4th dimension (related to our thoughts and feelings). By dreaming about freedom, flexibility, happiness, respect, kindness, honesty, appreciation, or any positive feelings, then relationships substantially improve.
3 ARE HIGHLY INTUITIVE–
INFPs are wired to function from their intuition or inner guidance. When they stray away from that by judging themselves, people pleasing, or by having painful patterns, it makes it hard on their relationships.
4 ARE ALWAYS ON A QUEST-
INFPs tend to be on a never-ending spiritual and personal growth quest. If their partner doesn’t have that same desire, it can put a strain on having a deep connection with them.
5 WILL AVOID CONFLICT-
INFPs tend to do everything and anything to avoid relationship conflict, even caving in. Avoiding can alleviate the current relationship conflict, but requires them to go against their intuition or inner guidance, which causes enormous inner conflict for an INFP. In the long run, it doesn’t make the relationship easier.
6 JUDGE THEMSELVES-
INFPs tend to not judge their partner, but they usually judge themselves terribly. Maybe it’s because they are trying so hard to be perfect. When they fail to live up to their expectations, INFPs have a tendency to punish themselves or even lash out, trying to sabotage the relationship.
Summing it Up
These 6 reasons why INFPs have a hard time with romantic relationships, usually involves them not using their intuition or inner guidance to its fullest capacity.
If you identify with the INFP personality type, this self-study eBook can help you fine-tune your intuition or inner guidance—without having to change who you are. For more details.
Take the INFP Intuition QUIZ.
Also, check out the INFP Personality Type section on my website.
If you need more help using your intuition or inner guide, contact Vickie Champion for an initial coaching and consulting session at a discounted price.