It seems more and more people are having really intense attractions for a special person. Even though you can’t get that person out of your mind and want to be with them so bad you can’t see straight, that is not a reason to automatically assume you have found your twin flame.
Here’s the Difference Between Having a Twin Flame and Being Infatuated or Obsessed…
1 THE LENGTH OF TIME-
Being Infatuated or Obsessed…
When we are infatuated or obsessed, the attraction weakens with time. What was once terribly exciting gradually dwindles as the months pass by.
Having a Twin Flame…
When we have a twin flame, the attraction is still there years and even decades later. If we are doing our inner work, the attraction actually grows. Love usually takes time to develop, mature, and expand.
2 DREAMWORLD-
Being Infatuated or Obsessed…
When we are infatuated or obsessed we get caught up in daydreaming and imagining how we want the relationship to play out and what we want our twin flame to say and do.
Having a Twin Flame…
When we have a twin flame, the loving energy is often so intense it keeps us focused on the feeling. Our dreamworld mainly consists of wanting to experience that amazing mind-blowing feeling more.
3 FOCUS OUR ATTENTION ON-
Being Infatuated or Obsessed …
When we are infatuated or obsessed, we focus our attention on the physical world, which is what we can see, hear, and touch. Having physical contact with our special person is extremely important, if not everything. Often the attraction fades when we can’t see, hear, or touch our special person.
Having a Twin Flame…
When we have a twin flame, we focus our attention mostly on the feeling.
The love, appreciation, and connection outweighs what is physically seen, heard, or touched, ten to one.
5 PERFECTION-
Being Infatuated or Obsessed …
When we are infatuated or obsessed, we think our special person is perfect, and especially perfect for us. We think everything about them is perfect—the way they show affection, how they look, what they say, their personality, and how they behave.
One of the sure signs we are infatuated or obsessed is that we can’t stop talking about our special person.
Having a Twin Flame…
When we have a twin flame, it’s not about their perfections or even seeing their imperfections, but how the connection and love feels.
6 EXPECTATIONS-
Being Infatuated or Obsessed …
When we are infatuated or obsessed, we tend to place a lot of responsibility on our special person. We usually expect our special person to make us feel better by fulfilling our needs. This could be sexual, companionship, safety, financially, to build our self-esteem, or anything else we think we are lacking. If those needs are not met, we quickly lose interest in our special person.
Having a Twin Flame…
When we have a twin flame, we see the relationship from a different perspective, taking full responsibility to make ourselves feel better. Instead of waiting to get our needs met, we focus on feeling better anyway. This different perspective makes our unmet needs not so crucial and frees up our relationship.
7 DRAMATIC-
Being Infatuated or Obsessed …
When we are infatuated or obsessed, we tend to have more drama by having frequent quarrels and misunderstandings. Each flare-up has the underlying aim of making our special person or ourselves feel guilty for doing something wrong.
This is usually caused by holding a lot of high expectations (#6) over our special person’s head or holding a lot of high expectations over our own head.
Having a Twin Flame…
When we have a twin flame, we quickly learn making someone feel bad about themselves or what they have done makes the relationship an absolutely horrible experience.
The Good Part
Whether we are infatuated or obsessed, or have a twin flame, the purpose of the relationship is the same—learn how to unconditionally love. The good part is if you are infatuated or obsessed and you learn to unconditionally love that special person, it becomes a worthwhile, amazing experience.
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