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Free Will & Twin Flame Relationships

If you are like me and every genuine twin flame I’ve talked to, you can’t really break up. Boy, have we tried! Most of us have done everything humanly possible to end the relationship.

I’ve tried denying it, avoiding it, cutting off contact, attempting to date others, keeping myself crazy busy, praying it away, saying hundreds of affirmations daily, performing surrender ceremonies, meditation, psychics, past-life regressions, journaling, ignoring signs from the universe, living in the moment, and hypnosis. I even went to a shrink, thinking I was crazy for not being able to let my twin go. All with no success. My twin is still on my mind every day, year after year.

Here’s where the concept of free will comes in. Most of us define free will as the ability to make choices as separate individuals, as one wishes, without these choices being predestined by fate or divine will.

If free will were possible, wouldn’t more of us in genuine twin flames be able to will or wish it away?

A Course in Miracles states that,

“Every decision is made for the whole Sonship, directed in and out, and influencing a constellation larger than anything you have ever dreamed of.”

To me, this means that, instead of every individual going their own separate way and doing their own thing, there is a Higher Power or God orchestrating a course of events so intertwined that it is beyond our comprehension.

That being said, I had no choice but to try all those things to get rid of my twin. Maybe it was to learn to be compassionate with other twin flames failing at free will as I did. Maybe it was to write this blog. It sure wasn’t to end the connection with my twin flame.

A Course in Miracles also says,

“What could you not accept, if you but knew that everything that happens, all events, past, present and to come, are gently planned by One Whose only purpose is your good?”

“And it will lead you on in ways appointed for your happiness according to the ancient plan, begun when time was born.”

That last phase ties into what I have heard others say about a twin flame plan being something our soul agrees to do before we come back to earth.

And finally, it says,

“As the course emphasizes, you are not free to choose the curriculum, or even the form in which you will learn it. You are free, however, to decide when you want to learn it.”

I think we have been chosen for an exceptional study program with specific lessons, tests, and assignments customized especially for us that we are expected to complete. That last line means that the only choice we have is not if, but when we want to master the program.

Therefore, we do not have free will about whether we have a twin flame or not, who our twin flame is, or even all the twists, turns, ups, and downs our journey will entail. But we can decide when we will complete our assignment.

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