This video describes 6 different ways that romantic relationships can be difficult to manage.
Archives for September 2016
How Daydreams Sabotage a Twin Flame Relationship
Everybody probably at one time or another has fantasized about a romantic relationship. Daydreaming is a quick fix, in other words, thinking that romance will be just the way you want and it is around the corner. We long for a companion who understands us and responds to our every need.
Here’s the problem.
Daydreaming locks us into trying to control how our twin acts and what’s going to happen according to our imagined fantasy. Maybe you can get some relationships to look like your storybook romance, but not with a twin flame.
In fact, daydreaming can be the very thing that causes us enormous pain and delays us from that glorious day we unite with our twin. We are so busy trying to control what our relationship should be like, what our twin should say and do, and what should happen, that we completely forget the real purpose of having a twin flame.
Twin flame relationships are all about learning to forgive, accept, and unconditionally love. So, it would make sense that everything that we wouldn’t even think of daydreaming about, is going to happen.
To feel better, instead of getting lost in daydreams that waste time and cause disappointment, take a different approach. Ask a Higher Power or God how to truly love your twin, and how to really accept that much love back.
A Course for Twin Flames
This program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.
For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.
For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.
If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.
7 Reasons Women Have a Hard Time Forgiving Themselves
This video describes 7 reasons why women find it more difficult to forgive themselves than men do.
Promises, Romance, and the 3rd Dimension
The 3rd dimension is all about rules and obligations. So it would make sense that making and keeping promises in a relationship, would be a good part of that mindset.
If you are one of the very few couples who are having no problems and are perfectly happy making and keeping promises, don’t read this. But, if it’s getting harder and harder for either you or your partner to follow your commitments, here’s why…
Romantic Promises tend to…
1 Give you false SECURITY about the future
2 CONTROL behaviors or at least, attempt to do so
3 Help you avoid CHANGES
4 Encourage POSSESSIVENESS
5 Push you towards taking your partner for GRANTED
6 Cause COMPROMISE and SACRIFICE
7 Lower SELF-ESTEEM when the promise has been broken
8 Foster CONDITIONAL LOVE
9 Put you on AUTO-PILOT, causing you to IGNORE your thoughts, feelings, and insights
10 Slow down PERSONAL GROWTH
11 Allow you to neglect your INNER GUIDANCE or intuition
When you look at these components broken down, no wonder the old worn out 3rd dimension consciousness, full of rules, obligation, and compromise is in the process of collapsing. I think most of us are ready to experience unconditional love, living in the present, and using our inner guidance or intuition instead.
Visit the entire 3rd, 4th and 5th dimension section and take the Quiz.
If you need help with moving up to the 4th or 5th dimension, contact Vickie Champion for a coaching and consulting session.
How “A Course in Miracles” Helps Twin Flame Relationships
I don’t know how anyone can get through a twin flame relationship without doubting everything they thought they knew for sure. What has helped me tremendously is the two-hundred or so pages on special relationships in A Course in Miracles. Here’s only some of what it says…
1 About a Possible Twin Flame Union…
Chapter 20 , Section IV , Paragraph 5
”To each who walks this earth in seeming solitude is a savior given, whose special function here is to release him, and so to free himself. In the world of separation each is appointed separately, though they are all the same. And each one finds his savior when he is ready to look upon the face of Christ, and see Him sinless.”
I’ve probably read this section hundreds of times in my 29 years of studying A Course of Miracles, but until I became aware of my twin, I never noticed the words in bold.
To me, this means that when each person is ready to really unconditionally love another person, one is specifically appointed to us, a twin flame.
2 Accepting it
Chapter 4, Section I, Paragraph 9
“You are not at peace because you are not fulfilling your function. God gave you a very lofty function that you are not meeting. Your ego has chosen to be afraid instead of meeting it.”
“Any attempt to increase its believableness is merely to postpone the inevitable.”
To me this means, what causes all the pain in the relationship is not accepting our function, of learning to unconditionally love this person who is completely the opposite of us, our twin. We are only wasting time when we try to make sense of the relationship.
3 Fighting the Intense Fear
Chapter 18 , Section VI , Paragraph 6
”But forget not that your relationship is one, and so it must be that whatever threatens the peace of one is an equal threat to the other. The power of joining its blessing lies in the fact that it is now impossible for you or your brother (or sister) to experience fear alone, or attempt to deal with it alone.”
To me this means, when either my twin or I are in fear, the other one experiences it also. I think this is part of the connection and why we feel so emotional at times without a logical or apparent reason.
Chapter 18 , Section VI , Paragraph 7
“Yet just as this is impossible, so it is equally impossible that the holy instant come to either of you without the other. And it will come to both at the request of either.”
“I desire this holy instant for myself, that I may share it with my brother, (or sister) whom I love.
It is not possible that I can have it without him, or he without me.
Yet it is wholly possible for us to share it now.
And so I choose this instant as the one to offer to the Holy Spirit, that His blessing may descend on us,
and keep us both in peace.”
To me this means, we don’t have to grin and bare it. We have the power to release the fear in our twin and ourselves. All I know is everytime I say these four sentences, it always releases the fear and I feel so much better.
4 The Power of the Relationship
Chapter 18 , Section II , Paragraph 13
“You have been called together with your brother, (or sister) to the most holy function this world contains. It is the only one that has no limits, and reaches out to every broken fragment of the Sonship with healing and uniting comfort.”
To me this means, as twins, we have a mission. We have been asked to participate in the highest relationship possible on earth. And with the uniting of the relationship, we will radiate so much love that everyone will somehow feel connected and at peace. Pretty lofty huh?
A Course for Twin Flames
This 200 page program shows you how to take the heartache out of your relationship, and shorten your timeline for a happy outcome. For more details.
For several blogs and videos, visit the Twin Flame Section on my website.
For more details on my twin flame Individual Coaching Sessions.
If you need help with your twin flame relationship, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching & consulting session.