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Like a lot of words, the definition of “vulnerable” varies and may even be contradictory.  On one end, being vulnerable possesses a fearful meaning, like being unprotected against attack and harm. If we adopted this explanation, we would tend to keep our inner thoughts tucked away and hidden.

Yet, on the other end there is a loving description that can free us from any kind of fear and let us be our real, authentic self. Here are 8 of the more loving definitions.

To be Vulnerable is to…

• Be emotionally accessible and wide open.
• Let go of your defenses and wing it.
• Be completely honest with yourself and others.
• No longer have the need to keep secrets.
• Have the courage to be imperfect.
• Accept yourself exactly the way you are.
• Allow deep joy and connection.
• Open up for greater personal and spiritual growth.

Which kind of definition do you want to believe? The fearful or the loving kind? Your decision can impact how you live your whole life.

 

Check out the Being Vulnerable section.

If you need help having courage to be vulnerable, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

 

 

Maybe you’re still wary about all this “vulnerability” talk. You know there must be advantages to protecting against vulnerability. You’re right. When you refuse to be wide open and accessible you are afforded some benefits.

You…

• Don’t have to worry about being hurt or disappointed.
• Save time by only having short conversations about things that don’t matter like the weather.
• May continue focusing on vices like food, buying stuff, alcohol, and keeping crazy busy.
• Can take pride in showing others how perfect you are, always being on and not letting your guard down.
• Experience adrenalin highs from the stress of hiding your feelings, moods and pain.
• Won’t have to experience ever being turned down.
• Can reach your goal in life of maintaining status quo.
• Save money from not purchasing personal growth programs, attending workshops, or hiring a life coach.

If the above are worthy lifestyle choices for you, then you’re right to try and protect against vulnerability. Choosing to be vulnerable may mean change, or the discovery of a deep love for ourselves and others. Who needs to take the path less traveled when the well-worn rut of addiction, isolation, and just-good-enough suits you just fine?

 

Check out the Being Vulnerable section.

If you need help having courage to be vulnerable, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

 

“Being vulnerable” is in the air these days. It’s a new definition for living that allows us to dare and connect with our highest potential and the people that help us on our way. But what does it mean to be vulnerable? What are the ways in which we open this door to authenticity in our daily lives?

Here are 19 Ways to be Accessible and Wide Open…

• Let others see you cry, especially if you are a guy.
• Go out without make-up.
• Initiate contact with strangers.
• Tell others you are afraid when you are.
• Ask for help.
• If you don’t know, admit it.
• Be the first to say “I love you.”
• Tell others what you are ashamed of.
• Do something that makes you look silly.
• Speak up.
• Do something you might not be perfect at.
• Ask for what you want.
• Admit you made a mistake.
• Show others what you keep hidden.
• Look people directly in the eyes.
• Let someone see you naked.
• Say no, when you want too.
• Fall in love.
• Be OK with being misunderstood, labeled or rejected.

Being vulnerable is a challenge because we’ve been taught or even learned on our own that we should do everything within our power to guard against it. But being vulnerable is the greatest acceptance of our divine gifts and our fallible, magnificent humanity. Vulnerability bonds and celebrates us all.

 

Check out the Being Vulnerable section.

If you need help having courage to be vulnerable, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

 

Almost everyone has been afraid of being vulnerable, accessible and wide open. Those of us brave enough to dare this journey of vulnerability, have experienced the benefits.

You…

• Finally experience true intimacy.
• Start believing you are “good enough.”
• Stop pretending to be something you are not.
• Become a person you admire.
• Are free from worry about what everyone else thinks.
• Open to forgiving yourself and others.
• Release loads of tension.
• Understand the word “acceptance.”
• Are free from feeling isolated and alone.
• Have deep, meaningful conversations with anyone.
• Attract people who really “get you.”
• Get internal validation.
• Gain insights you wouldn’t have understood before.
• Help others have the courage to be vulnerable too.
• Live a wonderful adventure.

As you can see, allowing yourself to be vulnerable and wide open is a gift you give yourself.

 

Check out the Being Vulnerable section.

If you need help having courage to be vulnerable, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.