Vickie Champion

"I inspire and strengthen lives one thought at a time."

Archives for September 2012

Do We Need to Change Our Appearance to Look Better?

Part of my Road to Real is working on my appearance. In 7 months, I have had a heck of a time losing any substantial weight or inches. I’ve been on a few different diets, consulted doctors and experts, hired a physical trainer, attended yoga, and have adjusted and readjusted my hormone medications.

Here’s what fascinates me. People tell me all the time that I look better. You’ve done something different, they say. But the only thing I have done that might be getting results is positive affirmations.

That really makes me wonder. Is changing our thoughts all we need to do to look better? Is it that simple?

To help change your thoughts, contact Vickie Champion for a discovery coaching and consulting session.

By Vickie Champion

22 Reasons Why we Say YES When we Want to Say NO

We say YES when inside we’re screaming NO because we believe that the three-lettered word comes bearing gifts. We believe it brings us love, peace and a reward. It’s hard to say NO to what ultimately is an addicting and disempowering habit with the expectation of receiving those three things, isn’t it? But beware. The inability to say NO shows up in our daily lives as a form of self-sabotage.

Here are Some Reasons Why we Say YES When we Want to Say NO…

To…

  • Be liked.
  • Avoid disappointing others.
  • Feel appreciated or earn praise.
  • Relieve feeling guilty.
  • Reduce our own stress by focusing on others’ needs.
  • Feel more righteous or more capable than others.
  • Be needed.
  • Avoid conflict.
  • Stay busy and avoid downtime.
  • Feel secure.
  • Stay on auto-pilot.
  • Make and keep friends and acquaintances.
  • Stay in your comfort zone.
  • Fix others to avoid fixing themselves.
  • Keep addictive behaviors like overeating.
  • Blame others for our situation.
  • Neglect self-care.
  • Avoid appearing selfish.
  • Be in control.
  • Not hurt other people’s feelings.
  • Keep striving to be perfect.
  • Be a good person.

Saying YES to people all the time can be an act of cowardice. It keeps you in your own comfort instead of living your truth. When you’re ready to stop the chronic people pleasing and learn to say no in a gentle way, check out my Painless Ways to Stop People Pleasing—How to Say NO and Still be Kind video series.

See my entire People Pleasing section if you need more advice on ways to say no, contact Vickie Champion for a discovery coaching and consulting session.

8 Advantages of Saying NO When you Want To

Saying YES when you want to say NO can make you feel liked or that you’re accomplishing something.  But the harm it does far outweighs these benefits.

Here are Some of the Upsides of Saying NO When you Want to…

You…

  • Are liked for who you are as a person, not for giving in.
  • Feel better physically without all that stress of overpromising.
  • Build your self-esteem from facing and overcoming your fears.
  • Impress others by not being an easy target.
  • End the constant feeling of being trapped.
  • Are able to focus on your own needs, wants, and dreams for a change.
  • Can stop worrying so much and begin relaxing a little.
  • Start feeling you really are “good enough.”

If you are ready to live a better life and want to learn how to say no in a kind way, check out my Painless Ways to Stop People Pleasing—How to Say NO and Still be Kind video series.

See my entire People Pleasing section if you need more advice on ways to say no, contact Vickie Champion for a discovery coaching and consulting session.

11 Advantages of Saying YES When you Want to Say NO

The reason people pleasers stay stuck in saying “yes” when they really want to say “no” is that they receive some benefit. Saying yes all the time, while potentially derailing a person’s dreams, does provide a pay off.

Here are Some of the Benefits of Saying YES When you Want to Say NO…

To…

  • Be liked for giving in.
  • Avoid those disappointing looks.
  • Prevent whining and begging pleas.
  • Keep overeating and getting physically sick from all the overpromising.
  • Continue building your reputation as an easy target.
  • Have a good excuse for criticizing yourself.
  • Impress by being better than others.
  • Constantly focus on fixing everyone else’s lives while neglecting your own.
  • Be able to stay in your comfort zone.
  • Avoid looking at or working on your own needs, wants, and dreams.
  • Worry and fret about something all the time.

If the advantages are not outweighing the disadvantages and you want the learn how to say no a kind way, check out my Painless Ways to Stop People Pleasing—How to Say NO and Still be Kind video series.

If you need more advice on ways to say no, contact Vickie Champion for a discovery coaching and consulting session.

19 Signs Your Inability to Say NO has Gotten Out of Hand?

Everyone says an occasional YES when they really wanted to say NO. This list, however, is for those of us who have allowed our inability to say NO compromise our mental health, relationships, work, finances and our bodies.

Here are some Signs it’s Time to Learn How to Say NO… 

When you…

  • Feel guilty if you say no.
  • Usually work into the wee hours to make a deadline.
  • Put saying yes on auto-pilot.
  • Can’t remember when you turned someone down.
  • Think saying NO is selfish.
  • Find yourself squeezing things into your schedule and always running a little behind.
  • Gain weight and get physically ill from overpromising.
  • Apologize several times a day.
  • Say YES for the sole purpose of not ruffling feathers.
  • Can say your greatest fears are rejection and being selfish.
  • Secretly, feel you are being used.
  • Neglect self-care to fit something else into your schedule or give the extra money saved to someone else.
  • Often feel exhausted.
  • Are extremely uncomfortable with free time or extra money.
  • Volunteer for several things at once.
  • No matter how much you “do” you still don’t feel you are good enough.
  • It hurts your feelings when others don’t appreciate your efforts.
  • Try to stuff down your  feelings, desires and dreams.
  • Have loved ones suggest therapy or hiring a life coach.

If you are ready to learn how to say NO in a kind way, check out my Painless Ways to Stop People Pleasing—How to Say NO and Still be Kind video series.

See my entire People Pleasing section.  If you need more advice on ways to say no, contact Vickie Champion for a discovery coaching and consulting session.

 

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Vickie Champion

Twin Flame Coach & Life Coach
and Adviser
My consistent approach is listening to my intuition, inner guide, or gut feelings to guide me toward helping my clients where they need it the most. Results can be quick and often surprise my clients. My coaching is about achieving results and breaking old patterns. Contact me today to get started:
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