Don’t get yourself out of sorts and in a wreck about networking. Below are suggestions and advice I share with my business coaching and consulting clients to release the fear and get them results. Whether you use one, two or all of them, won’t matter because you’ll start seeing the results immediately.
Here are the Ways to Release the Fear of Attending Networking Events…
1. Fear is a Choice.
The easiest way to get out of fear is just by recognizing we have fear and knowing we have a choice whether we want to release or keep it. Then decide to let it go. Just say it’s over.
2. Know we Avoid What we are Afraid of.
The tendency is to stay stuck in our same beliefs about networking events, skip out early or no longer attend them. The problem with avoiding what we are afraid of is that we never overcome the fear.
To overcome the fear we need to do it anyway. Do it in spite of the fear. I tell myself, “No matter what happens or what excuses I have, I’m still doing it,” whether it’s walking over to a stranger and introducing myself or staying until an event is over.
3. Stop Judging.
Things we could judge about the networking event…
- The event itself… Maybe it’s how many people are attending, the location, the room setup, the activities, the time or day, the temperature, or the cost.
- Others… We might judge what others have said, what they did, or how they look.
- Ourselves… If we have fear a large portion of our judging is focused on ourselves. Perhaps it is how we look, what we said or did, and even our attitude.
Whether we realize it or not, if we just stopped judging the fear would subside.
4. Change the “Purpose” in Your Mind of Attending the Event.
Instead of making the “purpose” to get something from the event, make the “purpose” to give something. This means we shift the purpose from “What’s in it for me?” to “How can I make a contribution to this event?”
What would be some things we could “give” at an event?
- Cooperation with the facilitator
- A smile
- A listening ear
- Motivation or support to others
- Our time to volunteer
- Our attention to people who are alone to make them feel welcome
5. Do Affirmations.
This means we exchange a negative thought for a positive thought.
Some examples of affirmations…
- There is nothing to fear, even this event.
- I can fail at nothing including this event.
- I am loving and lovable all the time.
- I bond with everyone I meet.
- I will judge nothing that occurs during this event.
6. Stay in the Moment
When we are afraid of networking events we are either worrying about the impact it will have on the future or we are remembering what happened at past events.
If you have more questions about networking events and speaking to strangers, contact Vickie Champion for a discovery coaching and consulting session.
By Vickie Champion