Because you need more customers, you sign up to attend a networking event. You’re running just a little late. You check the mirror one last time to make sure there’s nothing between your teeth. You have your stash of business cards. Once inside you grab your drink. You take a sip and then you proceed to stare at the bottom of the glass like it’s the most fascinating work of art you’ve ever seen. When someone finally tears you away to mingle, it’s with the people you know already. And then, thankfully, it’s OK to slip out without it being too awkward. Whew!
Later you wonder: Why don’t those events ever bring me the results everyone else brags about? What’s making the networking event so painful and is causing the lack of good connections is fear.
What Could We Be Afraid of About Networking Events?
We could be afraid of…
- Approaching new people.
- Having to say “no.”
- Not getting any results.
- Initiating a conversation.
- Others not liking us.
- Not knowing what to say.
- Bumping into competitors.
- Saying something stupid.
- Others finding out we’re a fraud.
- Appearing too pushy.
- Talking too much.
- Promoting ourselves.
Why We Have the Power to Rid Ourselves of the Fear
The only thing that makes us fearful about networking events is our beliefs about them. When we change our mindset the fear disappears.
The Advantages of Not Having Fear at Networking Events
- Look forward to attending networking events.
- Find networking events are a good use of our time and worth the money.
- Have fun.
- Make really good connections.
- Realize it’s one of the best ways to build self-esteem in business or with our career.
Want to know how to end this torture? See my next blog on “Ways to Get Out of Fear of Attending Networking Events.”
If you need more advice or tips about networking events and speaking to strangers, contact Vickie Champion for a discovery coaching and consulting session.
By Vickie Champion