Notice how no matter what we do to relieve guilt it never fades away? It’s like a never ending cycle. I’ll explain why.
1 Remember, the only way we can feel guilty is to start with making up a rule we think we need to follow and then try to follow it.
Example… Loving mothers stay home when their kids are young.
2 We start feeling deprived.
Example… We need more money to pay the bills.
3 We then break the rule.
Example… We get a job.
4 We begin to feel guilty about breaking the rule.
Example… We think we are hurting our kids in some way.
5 We try to relieve the guilt.
Example… We buy our kids some extra toys to make up for it.
And here we go again…
1 We create another rule to follow to relieve the guilt.
Example… Good mothers who work give their kids anything they want.
2 We feel deprived again.
Example… There is still not enough money to pay all the bills.
3 We then discard theoriginal rule to follow the current rule.
Example… Then we work longer hours to get a promotion or take on an extra job.
And so on…
To get off of the Guilt Cycle and end this painful pattern see my upcoming blog entitled How to Get Rid of Feeling Guilty.
Other info on guilt by Vickie Champion you might be interested in are:
What is Guilt?
You can also contact Vickie Champion for a discovery coaching and consulting session to overcome your guilt.
By Vickie Champion