Are you person A? The Avoider? You have a difficult relationship with a client, boss, co-worker, friend, spouse or any other relationship so you spend much of your day on autopilot. You are desperately trying to eliminate all thoughts and dealings with him or her. Out of sight, out of ear-shot, out of mind, you think.
Or are you person B? The Bad Mouther? You spend a lot of your time thinking about what that person said or did, and, in fact, bad mouthing them to anyone who will listen?
Here are Some More Signs we Really Need to Improve a Relationship…
- Are scared to tell that person the truth.
- Have verbal arguments.
- Find ourselves judging that person and telling others.
- Go over and over in our minds what we need to do about a situation and how that person will react to it.
- Think it’s easier to give in than irritate that person.
- Pay little attention, if any, to how we’re feeling about the situation.
- Say yes to that person when we really want to say no.
- Depend on the relationship to be successful.
- Start taking that person for granted.
- Notice that person is either avoiding or scared of us.
By taking the time to improve our difficult relationships we can become person C, the Choice maker. It’s up to us, we can continue our difficult relationship with that person or choose instead to improve it and benefit from it.
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