As you probably read in my last post (if not, go to 5 Advantages of Blaming first), there are lots of advantages to laying the blame for our current economic collapse on everyone and everything from banks to people with bad credit to government to the neighbor’s dog.  But stop to consider – there are two sides to everything, and where there are advantages there are also disadvantages.  Let’s explore the downside to pointing an accusing finger at just about anyone we can think of…

Here are some disadvantages of blaming:

• It camouflages our real problem, our personal relationship with money
• We can easily become paralyzed, scared to death to make any decisions
• It keeps our focus away from appreciating what we do have and what’s going right
• Whether we realize it or not, we loose a little self-esteem every time we blame something or someone, including ourselves, for what’s happening
• We feel we are POWERLESS to change our financial situation, let alone make a difference in the overall American economy

Although it is a common reaction to find our favorite scapegoat when things go wrong, the truth is all that finger pointing really just points us in the wrong direction.  It is a knee-jerk reaction that gives us a brief moment of satisfaction, yet ultimately leaves us floundering about the world without a genuine solution.

We can either blame or stop blaming.  We can empower ourselves to move forward and repair our financial relationships.  Once we take responsibility for our part in our own situations, we can take power over it.  This will lower our fear levels, raise our self esteem, and turn this monetary crisis in a positive direction!

If you need more advice on how to release the need to blame others, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

 

By Vickie Champion