Posts Tagged ‘Being too nice’
I’m not stupid. I know that a people pleaser’s worst fear is to be called selfish. People pleasers rearrange their whole lives so they will not be regarded as selfish. Well, people pleaser, listen up: You. Are. Selfish. At least consider the possibility that you may have selfish, self-absorbed tendencies by reading and thinking about this.
It’s as scary as the vampires populating the movie screens and books. And just as seductive: It’s the darkside of needing to please.
A coaching client of mine said she couldn’t see any value in not being too nice until I bluntly explained the huge and scary disadvantages to her. She is now working on stopping this nasty habit.
So here it is as bold and in your face as I can make it…
This is the year you’ve decided that you’re going to live your dreams, accomplish those set-aside career aspirations and strengthen your relationships. But if you have a need to please – especially at work – it ain’t gonna happen. Know the signs of a People Pleaser at work. If you recognize yourself in the following examples, it’s time to stop. It’s time to change your reactions. It’s time to remember what you really want for yourself.
Say yes to practically any task anyone needs done just to be “liked.”