We probably all catch ourselves at one time or another wanting to “be right” over choosing to be happy. The key is to be aware of it and realize we have a choice. We can either change our minds or remain adamant about “being right” and suffer the consequences.
Here are the disadvantages of “being right”…
- We waste time judging, insulting, and complaining, which depletes our energy.
- We work extremely hard trying to prove we are right.
- We feel like a failure and have a need to punish ourselves when we are wrong.
- We use “being right” to build our self-worth instead of realizing we are worthy just because we exist.
- We eat humble pie a lot.
- We have a strong need to feel superior by making others feel inferior.
- We alienate many people.
- And it causes disagreements and makes enemies of the people who remain — the ones who also need to “be right”.
- We feel lonely because we start believing we have all the answers and don’t need anyone else.
- We get tired of hearing others sing, “You’re so Vain.”
Trade Carly Simon’s “You’re so Vain” for Bobby McFerrin’s “Don’t Worry, Be Happy” and lose the exhaustion, isolation and embarrassment that comes with always having to be a know-it-all.
To read more about “Being Right” see Vickie Champion’s previous blog entitled The Advantages of “Being Right”.