Vickie Champion

To find out if it's time to stop being too nice and start living your life answer these questions and total your score:

1. I have a hard time asking for or accepting help from others.
      Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
2. It hurts my feelings when others don't say "thank you" or appreciate me.
      Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
3. I feel like a doormat and that I am being used.
      Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
4. I have visitors that either come at inconvenient times or overstay their welcome.
      Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
5. I resent others for having fun when I have to work.
      Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
6. I am not comfortable with free time.
      Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
7. I feel that I am not "good" enough.
      Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
8. I say "yes" when I really want to say "no."
      Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
9. Others express concern about my need to please.
      Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
10. I lie rather than face the rejection of certain individuals.
       Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
11. I worry about hurting others' feelings.
       Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
12. I am critical of my past decisions or lack of.
       Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
13. I try to bury my feelings, desires or dreams.
       Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
14. How people respond to me is really important.
       Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
15. I have a hard time ending conversations when I want too.
       Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
16. I measure my self-esteem by how much I "do" as well as the "praise" and appreciation I receive from others.
       Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
17. I ask for permission.
       Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
18. I think I know what others will "say" or "do" in certain situations.
       Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
19. I don't have enough hours in the day to get everything done.
       Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
20. I avoid conflict and disagreements at all costs.
       Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
21. I have a hard time making decisions on my own.
       Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
22. I feel guilty when I say "no."
       Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
23. I apologize more than once a day.
       Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
24. I strive to be "perfect."
       Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
25. I'm worried about something all the time. Often, it's about the reactions to what I said or did or what might happen in the future.
       Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
26. I think I am responsible for others' happiness.
       Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
27. I feel my only role in life is giving to or helping others.
       Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
28. I feel trapped.
       Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never
29. I have noticed my need to please is getting worse.
       Most of the time    Sometimes    Seldom   Almost Never