This video gives three examples of getting signs from the universe and the importance of paying attention to them.
Saying YES when you want to say NO can make you feel liked or that you’re accomplishing something. But the harm it does far outweighs these benefits.
Here are Some of the Upsides of Saying NO When you Want to…
- Are liked for who you are as a person, not for giving in.
- Feel better physically without all that stress of overpromising.
- Build your self-esteem from facing and overcoming your fears.
- Impress others by not being an easy target.
- End the constant feeling of being trapped.
- Are able to focus on your own needs, wants, and dreams for a change.
- Can stop worrying so much and begin relaxing a little.
- Start feeling you really are “good enough.”
If you are ready to live a better life and want to learn how to say no in a kind way, check out my Painless Ways to Stop People Pleasing—How to Say NO and Still be Kind video series.
By Vickie Champion
Everyone says an occasional YES when they really wanted to say NO. This list, however, is for those of us who have allowed our inability to say NO compromise our mental health, relationships, work, finances and our bodies.
Here are some Signs it’s Time to Learn How to Say NO…
- Feel guilty if you say no.
- Usually work into the wee hours to make a deadline.
- Put saying yes on auto-pilot.
- Can’t remember when you turned someone down.
- Think saying NO is selfish.
- Find yourself squeezing things into your schedule and always running a little behind.
- Gain weight and get physically ill from overpromising.
- Apologize several times a day.
- Say YES for the sole purpose of not ruffling feathers.
- Can say your greatest fears are rejection and being selfish.
- Secretly, feel you are being used.
- Neglect self-care to fit something else into your schedule or give the extra money saved to someone else.
- Often feel exhausted.
- Are extremely uncomfortable with free time or extra money.
- Volunteer for several things at once.
- No matter how much you “do” you still don’t feel you are good enough.
- It hurts your feelings when others don’t appreciate your efforts.
- Try to stuff down your feelings, desires and dreams.
- Have loved ones suggest therapy or hiring a life coach.
If you are ready to learn how to say NO in a kind way, check out my Painless Ways to Stop People Pleasing—How to Say NO and Still be Kind video series.
By Vickie Champion