You may think just shedding those extra pounds would be satisfying. Sure it would be nice to fit into smaller clothes and be able to cross your legs without a great deal of pain. But the question is, "If getting rid of that excess fat was so satisfying, then why do we gain it back?"

The Following Reviews what Wanting to Lose Weight Really Means:

• You revolve your life around things you think you "need" to do, like following the latest diet, counting fat grams, reading food labels, weighing food, exercising, taking pills, or even preparing for surgery. Not only do these tasks take lots of your energy, but they also steer you away from doing things that give you pleasure and you thoroughly enjoy.

After the holidays, many of us come through a period of sugar highs, feeling bloated, tighter clothes and most disturbing of all, that daily "guilt." Year after year it's the same: starting in mid-November and gaining momentum as the weeks pass by, we involve ourselves in an extremely painful relationship with food. It's the kind of relationship where we sacrifice foods we enjoy, feel guilty when we "give in," or become constantly obsessed about when, what, and how much do we get to eat next.

If you’ve read my previous blogs you can recognize the signs you’re in a bad relationship. And, hopefully, if you’re in a relationship now you can identify more than a handful of these hints that signal you’re in a good relationship. 
 
When you…

• Look forward to seeing or talking with your partner.

• Laugh and act playful together.

• Feel completely relaxed in their presence.

• Often make eye contact.

• Don’t depend on what your partner says or does to be happier.

• Both have learned to give and receive affection.

Over the years of working with life coaching clients and dealing with my own weight loss issues, I’ve gathered and developed several weight loss affirmations or mantras.
 

Here Are Some Helpful Weight Loss Affirmations to Use...

• I have no use for excess weight any longer.

• I prepare and eat my food with love.

• Every day, I'm getting happier and healthier.

• I now use food for healing myself, not hurting myself.

• I no longer center my life around food.

• Today, I let nothing stress me out.

You might ask, “What are weight loss affirmations anyway?” Simply, they are thoughts we think over and over about weight. It is the act of affirming a belief.

The basic idea is to repeat an affirmation or a mantra until we start believing it. Then it becomes a natural part of who we are.
 

Some of the Many Benefits of Doing Weight Loss Affirmations...

• Give us faster and longer lasting results.

• Help us achieve our weight loss goals.

• Build our confidence and self-esteem.

• Helps us stay focused on our weight loss goals.

This isn’t about the obvious REALLY toxic relationships. You know, the ones that are full of jealousy, abuse, overdependence, or manipulative and controlling behavior. I’ll leave that to the therapists.

Here are some not-so-obvious hints you have a bad relationship…

When you…

• Have a habit of blaming each other for one thing or another.

• Feel guilty and apologize at least once a month.

• Stay crazy busy most of the time.

• Repeatedly take things too seriously.

• Feel lonely and unconnected.

• Want your partner to appreciate you more.

Maybe things in your relationship could be better. And maybe your partner will come around to doing the things he or she ought to be doing. But first, are you? Are you sabotaging your relationship in small, insidious ways?
 
When you…

• Put expressing “I love you” on auto-pilot, saying it at least once a day.

• Over-apologize or expect your partner to.

• Bring up past mistakes.

• Strongly believe that a good relationship requires you to make sacrifices and compromises.

• Are too available.

• Never have an opinion on anything.

I intend to bring sexy back. The kind of sexy that is the embodiment of self respect, self compassion and self love.  What? You say feeling sexy isn’t that important to you? It should be. Could you/should you amp up the wattage of the sexy meter? Read on…
 

The Biggest Signs You Could Feel Sexier

When you…

• Think of yourself as not sexy at all.

• Believe feel sexy is for those few people who are good looking.

• Place feeling sexy as not that important to you.

Out of all my blogs since Sept 2008, the top 3 most popular ones are on people pleasing. They are 52 Traits of a Chronic People Pleaser, 19 Reasons to Stop People Pleasing, and 10 Affirmations of a Chronic People Pleaser.
 
That shocks me! Are there that many people suffering from the need to please that they want to get informed and possibly overcome it?
 
Take this short people pleasing test and see if your chronic niceness is causing you enough stress, unhappiness, and difficulties to want to do something about it. 
 
Is it Time for You to Stop People Pleasing and Start Enjoying your Life?
 
If you are ready to end the habit of people pleasing now, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.
 

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When we think of feeling sexy, the first thing that comes to most of our minds is being hot, flirtatious, risqué, seductive, and to be real frank, kind of a slut. Uck! Who wants that? Always fighting off unwanted attention and trying to ignore the off-color looks and comments behind our backs. No wonder most women dumb it down and never give feeling sexy another thought.
 
I’d like to redefine what feeling sexy means so every woman could actually feel sexy if they wanted to.
 
My Definition of a Sexy Woman is…

Someone who…

If you are anything like me, you’re curious about what topics others are interested in. (Seems like a lot of us are questioning our habit of needing to please.) So to celebrate my 41st month of blogging, here are my Top 10 blog posts about ordinary day-to-day life.
 
#10.  10 Subtle Signs You are Unhappy

#9.   12 Ways to Stop People Pleasing

#8.   10 Popular Things Women Feel Guilty Over

#7.   How to Get Rid of Feeling Guilty

#6.   6 Things Women People Pleasers Don’t Realize

#5.   6 Reasons Women Feel So Guilty

I’m not stupid. I know that a people pleaser’s worst fear is to be called selfish. People pleasers rearrange their whole lives so they will not be regarded as selfish. Well, people pleaser, listen up: You. Are. Selfish.  At least consider the possibility that you may have selfish, self-absorbed tendencies by reading and thinking about this.

It’s as scary as the vampires populating the movie screens and books. And just as seductive: It’s the darkside of needing to please.
 
A coaching client of mine said she couldn’t see any value in not being too nice until I bluntly explained the huge and scary disadvantages to her. She is now working on stopping this nasty habit.
 

So here it is as bold and in your face as I can make it…

People Pleasers…

Do you want to have a higher quality of life, learn how to live better, or be more successful? Watch this and see how.
 

 
Here’s my personal advice on how to have a better life, business, or career…

1 Try FULLY PARTICIPATING or really engage in whatever you find yourself doing. It’s taking everything you do whether it’s a relationship, work, or making a budget and really getting into it.
I really believe most of our misery and discontent comes from getting into the habit of half-assing it. 

I have had the honor of being a business and life coach to Connie Phillips-Eary, the executive director at Sojourner Center in Phoenix, AZ.  I really admire how she achieved one of her dreams. Below is her story of how she got out of fear of failing. 
 

Connie wanted to hike the breathtaking and remote Havasupai Falls in Arizona. The 12- mile hike was not for the faint of heart with switchbacks and a steep descent.
“I’m not an outdoors type,” she said. “I’m not real athletic so it was a real challenge to do it.”

I have had the honor of filming a few of my coaching clients to get their advice, suggestions, tips, and insights on what they wish they knew in their 20’s spiritually.
 
Participants in Part III are Jody Owen, JoAnne Musolf, Lucinda Lintz, Alita Kalgaard, Kathy Church, and Sally Marks.
 

 
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I have had the honor of filming a few of my coaching clients to get their advice, suggestions, tips, and insights on what they wish they knew in their 20’s spiritually.
 
Participants in Part II are Kimber Lambeth, Diane Bolden, Darrell Merrick, Debbie Frank, Connie Phillips-Eary, Kelly Loeffler, and Michelle Evard.
 

 
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I have had the honor of filming several of my coaching clients to get their thoughts on how they overcome, release, relieve or get rid of their fear.
 
Participants in Part III are Margaret Burnison, JoAnne Musolf, Darrell Merrick, Connie Phillips-Eary, and Michelle Evard.

 
Other information to overcome fear by Vickie Champion you might be interested in are:

38 Ways Fear Can Harm Us

9 Ways to Get Out of Fear

Signs we Might be in Fear

Signs We Are Releasing Fear

 
To see more inspiring video’s visit Vickie Champion’s YouTube Channel
 

I have had the honor of filming several of my coaching clients sing portions of their most inspiring tunes.
 
Participants in Part III are Connie Phillips-Eary, Lucinda Lintz, Ketan Patel, Darrell Merrick, Debbie Frank, and Kathy Church.
 

 
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Contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary life coaching and consulting session.
 
 

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I have had the honor of filming several of my coaching clients sing portions of their most inspiring tunes.
 
Participants in Part II are Alita Kalgaard, Kelly Loeffler, Andrea Beaulieu, JoAnne Musolf, Sonja Haller, Michelle Evard and Margaret Burnison.
 

To see more inspiring video’s visit Vickie Champion’s YouTube Channel.
 
Contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary life coaching and consulting session.
 

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I have had the honor of filming several of my coaching clients to get their thoughts on how they overcome, release, relieve or get rid of their fear.
 
Participants in Part II are Connie Kadansky, Sonja Haller, Ketan Patel, Kelly Loeffler, Kathy Church, and Debbie Frank.

 
Other information to overcome fear by Vickie Champion you might be interested in are:

38 Ways Fear Can Harm Us

9 Ways to Get Out of Fear

Signs we Might be in Fear

Signs We Are Releasing Fear

 
To see more inspiring video’s visit Vickie Champion’s YouTube Channel.

I have had the honor of filming a few of my coaching clients to get their advice, suggestions, tips, and insights on what they wish they knew in their 20s about relationships and interacting with others.
 
Participants in Part II are Margaret Burnison, Connie Kadansky, Ericka Young, Sonja Haller, Darrell Merrick, Ketan Patel, Connie Phillips-Eary, Kelly Loeffler, and Kathy Church.
 

 
To see more inspiring video’s visit Vickie Champion’s YouTube Channel.
 
Contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary life coaching and consulting session.
 
 
 

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I have had the honor of filming a few of my coaching clients to get their advice, suggestions, tips, and insights on what they wish they knew in their 20s about health.
 
Participants in Part II are Cindy Dillard, Lucinda Lintz, Alita Kalgaard, Darrell Merrick, Debbie Frank, Ketan Patel, Connie Phillips-Eary, Kelly Loeffler, and Kathy Church.
 

 
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I decided to share some of my insights and tips about staying healthy. It’s not your normal run of the mill advice like exercise, eat nutritious meals, get the proper sleep, take your vitamins daily, and eliminate stress. This will surprise you!
 

 
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If you are in poor health, struggling with and illness, or keep battling sickness, contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary life coaching and consulting session.

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I have had the honor of filming a few of my coaching clients to get their advice, suggestions, tips, and insights on what they wish they knew in their 20’s about relationships.
 
Participants in Part I are Michelle Evard, Cindy Dillard, Sally Marks, Jody Owen, JoAnne Musolf, Lucinda Lintz, Diane Bolden, Margaret Burnison and Alita Kalgaard.
 

 
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Contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary life coaching and consulting session.
 
 

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I have had the honor of filming a few of my coaching clients to get their advice, suggestions, tips, and insights on what they wish they knew in their 20’s spiritually.
 
Participants in Part I are Sonja Haller, Ericka Young, Kimber Lambeth, Cindy Dillard, Connie Kadansky, Ketan Patel, Margaret Burnison and Lucinda Lintz.

 
To see more inspiring video’s visit Vickie Champion’s YouTube Channel

 
Contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary life coaching and consulting session.
 

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I have had the honor of filming several of my coaching clients sing portions of their most inspiring tunes.
 
Participants in Part I are Ericka Young, Jody Owen, Kimber Lambeth, Cindy Dillard, Sally Marks, Connie Kadansky, Andrea Beaulieu, and Diane Bolden.

 
To see more inspiring video’s visit Vickie Champion’s YouTube Channel.
 

Contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary life coaching and consulting session.
 
 
 

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I have had the honor of filming several of my coaching clients to get their thoughts on how they overcome their fear.
 
Participants in Part 1 are Margaret Burnison, Ericka Young, Jody Owen,  Kimber Lambeth, Cindy Dillard, and Sally Marks, Lucinda Lintz, Alita Kalgaard and Diane Bolden.

 
Other information to overcome fear by Vickie Champion you might be interested in are:

38 Ways Fear Can Harm Us

9 Ways to Get Out of Fear

Signs we Might be in Fear

Signs We Are Releasing Fear

To see more inspiring video’s visit Vickie Champion’s YouTube Channel
 

I have had the honor of filming several of my coaching clients to get their thoughts on what they wish they knew in their 20’s about health.

Participants in Part 1 are Connie Kadansky, Margaret Burnison, Jody Owen, Michelle Evard, Kimber Lambeth, Ericka Young, Sonja Haller, Diane Bolden, Sally Marks, and JoAnne Musolf.

 
 
Other upcoming videos by Vickie Champion you might be interested in are:
 

What Women Wish They Knew About Health- Part II

What Men Wish They Knew About Health

What Women Wish They Knew About Money

I have had the honor of being a business and life coach to Connie Kadansky. I really admire how she handled this situation. Below is her story of how she handled a serious illness. 
 

I have had the honor of being a business and life coach to Lucinda Lintz. I really admire how she handled this situation. Below is her story of how she got out of fear of a possible foreclosure. 
 

I have had the honor of being a business and life coach to Diane Bolden. I recently asked her to tell us how she conquered a difficult situation.  
 

 
Here’s a recap of her story of getting out of a difficult situation…
A few years ago I had the opportunity to go snow skiing which I love to do and I hadn’t done it in years. I couldn’t wait to hit the slopes and I knew I needed to start slowly because it had been a really long time. So I started off with easy runs and it wasn’t long before I said, “Too heck with this, I’m going straight for a black diamond run.”
 

I have had the honor of being a business and life coach to Ketan Patel. I recently asked him to tell us how he overcomes the fear of the unknown. I often use this approach to get rid of fear myself.  
 

Here’s a recap of his story of being afraid of the unknown…

One of my longtime career and life coaching clients is Kelly Loeffler. I have seen her in very difficult life situations step up, get out of the fear of what others will think,  and do the right thing. 
 
I recently asked Kelly to tell a story of overcoming feeling alone.
 

Here’s a recap of her story of being afraid, scared, and lonely…

Determining if it’s our intuition can be a tricky thing. Sometimes there is such a fine line between the answer that solves all our problems and complete paranoia. Then there are times our intuition throws us a curve and surprises us.
 

Here Are Ways to Tell if Our Intuition or Inner Voice Is Speaking to us …

Our intuition…

• Comes in a whisper or a glimpse. To me it’s a calm statement or a quick peek, a matter-of-fact.

• Keeps gently reminding us. The message will not change and it will keep repeating over and over -- sometimes for years.

I have had the honor of coaching JoAnne Musolf and to have her as my coach. I love that she calls me on my stuff.   
 
I recently asked JoAnne to tell us how she overcomes procrastination. This is her story.
 

One of my longtime life coaching clients that I admire is Kimber Lambeth.  Very seldom do I see people going through a tough time in their lives and make it the best thing that ever happened to them instead of the worst. Kimber was so determined, that she got out of the fear quickly, which changed the outcome.   
 
I recently asked Kimber to tell us how she overcame the fear with her relationship.  This is it.

You’re no whiner.You’re not prone to crying jags. You’re always smiling in pictures. You take a lot of joy in curling up on the couch with Ben & Jerrys and a new Netflix.
 
You’re happy, right?
 
Maybe. But there are some beliefs, attitudes and behaviors that either prevent or indicate that you’re not yet off-the-charts, deliriously happy.  They’re subtle. But see if you recognize yourself in these 10 signs.
 

Here’s 10 Subtle Signs we Are NOT Happy…

When we…

• Criticize our body, our behaviors, and often feel guilty.

However you define happiness -- contentment, joy, peaceful, satisfied, thrilled, or being on cloud nine -- we all strive to feel that way.
 

Here’s 10 Signs we are Truly Happy…

When we…

• Forget to worry.

• Have frequent, overwhelming episodes of appreciation.

• Know what it feels like to enjoy the journey.

• Have no interest in judging others in any way.

• Have no desire to criticize our body, behaviors, or even our own thoughts.

• Lose interest in wanting to be right.

It comes up in casual conversation: Seen any good movies lately? As a matter of fact, I have. I did some thinking about the movies that I have found the most compelling, the most uplifting and the most truthful. They all illustrate some universal aspect of life and, of course, they’re entertaining.
 

Here’s my Top 10 Spiritual Movies…

1 As It Is in Heaven  (By far the best)

2 Castaway

3 Peaceful Warrior

4 Groundhog Day

5 The Legend of Bagger Vance

6 Gandhi

7 Field of Dreams

8 Seven Years in Tibet

When people hear what my specialty is, they proudly comment, “I’m good at using my intuition.”  Then as the conversation progresses they start telling me about how difficult some of their relationships are, how they don’t have enough money, how they are unhappy in their job, and how they are coping with their illnesses.
 
I really don’t think most people realize that if we really listened to our intuition and followed it all our problems would completely disappear.
 
Here is a test to see How Often you Listen to Your Intuition or Gut Instincts?
 

If you had enough money, you’d feel better about yourself right? Not necessarily. Many times, I have found that my coaching clients use money to actually lower their self-esteem. It’s not often recognized as a tool we use to reflect the way we feel about ourselves.

You use money to lower your self-esteem…

When you…

• Keep increasing your debt.

• Spend money to relieve your guilty feelings.

• Forget to appreciate what you do have.

• Get angry with yourself over past financial mistakes.

If forgiveness were always easy the self-help section of the bookstore wouldn’t be lined with titles telling people how to do just that. Take heart and know that you’re not the only one who struggles with forgiveness.  Identifying why forgiveness is difficult for you, however, could be the first step in resolving the anger issue that’s holding you back from happiness.
 

1  We might feel trust is broken or we’ve been betrayed.

2  We don’t want to let them off the hook.

3  We think forgiveness means that we let them in our lives again.

So you have decided to hire a life coach, but how do you pick the perfect one? Someone who won’t let you get away with your “stuff” but won’t confuse, anger or do nothing for you.
 

Here Are Ways to Recognize a Good Life Coach…

When they…

• Custom fit the sessions for you and your issues.

• Have overcome many of their own issues.

• Are both a consultant/adviser and a coach. This will save you a lot of money, time, and in the long run, get you better results.

Is your secret wish to be perfect? Are you striving for excellence in everything you attempt?  Do you spend hours, days, weeks, months, and years trying to get everything to your satisfaction?
 
Stop a minute to watch this wonderful video by leadership coach, Diane Bolden.  It will give you a short break from your agonizing struggle, entertain you, and give you a refreshing perspective.

Did you notice perfectionists have an unusual amount of fear of making mistakes, never really think about going for their dreams, and forget about having fun.
 
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Life coaching can help people get where they want to go faster. It can guide them in finding their passion, eradicating their creative “stuck,” and help create greater peace and joy in people’s lives. I know many coaches who do extraordinary work every day. And then…there are the coaches that haven’t found their dream job yet.

 

Here’s Some Signs of a Bad Life Coach…

When they...

• Don’t teach, coach, advise, provide guidance, or give you any insights.

• Get easily distracted during your sessions.

• Feel sorry for you or are condescending.

Yesterday, a potential individual coaching client told me that he thought life coaching was for people that are mentally ill. WOW!  That blew my mind.
 
It’s funny how athletes think nothing of having a coach for their team, musicians will hire a tutor, and businesses have consultants. But when it comes to learning ways to live a better life there is a tendency to think there is something wrong with us if we have a life coach.
 
To answer the question, is life coaching for the mentally ill, the answer is NO. Life coaching is for people that want an easier, happier way to live and are either tired of trying to figure it out by themselves or want impartial, personal advice.
 
Other information about coaching by Vickie Champion you might be interested in:
 

Life coaches, like all good coaches whatever the discipline, usually have a gift for bringing out the best in their people. This can mean providing encouragement, new strategies and techniques, and on occasion, providing a dose of tough love. The rewards are better performances in all aspects of life, including family, business, personal and spiritual. When you’re ready to get clear, change things up for the better and commit to a better life hiring a personal coach is worth it.
 

Life Coaching is Definitely Worth it When We…

• Are ready to hear what others might have been afraid to say -- the good, the bad, the ultimate truth toward our happiness.

Just recently, a client of mine and I agreed to end her individual coaching sessions. She just couldn’t get into it. There is a right time for everything and sometimes spending the money and time on something you are not ready for, is a waste.
 
Life Coaching is not Worth it AT ALL When you…

• Don’t want to hear things that take you out of your comfort zone.

• Want to keep blaming everyone and everything else for your current jam.

• Are adamant to be right instead of being happier.

Either you read some of my previous blogs on being a chronic people pleaser or you self-diagnosed. But you’re ready to do something about it because the people-pleasing habit had wrought havoc on either your health, professional or personal life – maybe all three. Let’s get started!
 

1 Make your goal in life to be happy instead of being perfect.

2 Make today the first day of the rest of your life and forget your past mistakes.

3 Appreciate what you did right every day. Understand? Did right. Don’t beat yourself up with your woulda, coulda shoulda lists.