29 Ways to Describe, Define, or Explain Fear

When I ask: “Do you want to get rid of the fear?” My clients often react as if they don’t know what I am talking about. They really don’t think they are afraid of anything. They feel they are just having an argument or stressed and it’s not fear. To clarify what fear really means I’ve listed ways to define it and explanations on the not-so-obvious ones.

Here are OBVIOUS Ways to Define Fear….

          1  Anxiety

          2  Concern

          3  Worry

          4  Doubt

          6  Horror

          7  Fright

          8  Panic

          9  Insecurity

 Here are the NOT-SO- OBVIOUS Ways to Define Fear….

          10   Anger- Afraid you have no control over an individual or a situation.

          11   Suspicious- Afraid you’ll be hurt in some way.

          12   Dread- Afraid you have to do something you don’t want to do.

          13   Impatience- Afraid you won’t get what you want.

          14   Control- Needing it to go your way to feel safe.

          15   Intimidation- Afraid others are better than you.

          16   Shyness- The inability to stand out and express yourself for fear that someone will disapprove.

          17   Confusion- Afraid if you make a decision, you’ll make a mistake.

          18   Sacrifice- Afraid you will have to give something valuable up to get something else.

          19   Procrastination- Afraid you’ll make a mistake.

          20   Perfectionism- Afraid you’ll make a mistake.

          21   Avoidance- Afraid to look or think about it.

          22   Regretful- Afraid you made mistakes in the past.

          23   People pleasing- Afraid if you don’t “do” something, you won’t be liked.

          24   Obligation- Behaving a certain way in fear of not being a responsible person.

          25   Vengeful- Afraid someone will not be punished for their mistakes.

          26   Inadequacy- Afraid you can’t handle the situation.

          27   Bored- Afraid to do something different.

          28   Guilt- Afraid you did something wrong.

          29   Envious- Afraid someone has it better than you.

Believe it or not, I stopped myself from listing all the definitions of fear. But in your observations of yourself, if you notice feelings and reactions that make you feel bad about yourself, makes other feel bad, or makes specific situations worse – that’s fear.


If you need help getting rid of your fears, contact Vickie Champion for a discovery coaching and consulting session.

By Vickie Champion


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The Difference Between Belonging and Fitting In

I just read Brene Brown’s book Daring Greatly. She did a comparison between Belonging and Fitting In that I thought was an interesting concept.

Here are my thoughts on it….

  • To belong is being somewhere because it feels right. To fit in is being somewhere we know we should be.

  • To belong is to speak from our heart. To fit in is to say the socially acceptable thing.

  • To belong is to wear the clothes we absolutely love. To fit in is to wear what others are wearing.

  • To belong is to find acceptance in our individuality and uniqueness. To fit in is to gain approval for being like everyone else.


How many times have we tried fit in and were completely baffled as to why it was so unsatisfying?  Yet to feel good, all we have to do is have the courage to show up  exactly as we are.


If you need help having courage to be vulnerable, contact Vickie Champion for a discovery coaching and consulting session.


By Vickie Champion


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8+1 Ways to Define Being Vulnerable

Like a lot of words, the definition of “vulnerable” varies and may even be contradictory.  On one end, being vulnerable possesses a fearful meaning, like being unprotected against attack and harm. If we adopted this explanation, we would tend to keep our inner thoughts tucked away and hidden.

Yet, on the other end there is a loving description that can free us from any kind of fear and let us be our real, authentic self. Here are 8 of the more loving definitions.

To be Vulnerable is to…

  • Be emotionally accessible and wide open.

  • Let go of your defenses and wing it.

  • Be completely honest with yourself and others.

  • No longer have the need to keep secrets.

  • Have the courage to be imperfect.

  • Accept yourself exactly the way you are.

  • Allow deep joy and connection.

  • Open up for greater personal and spiritual growth.


Which kind of definition do you want to believe? The fearful or the loving kind? Your decision can impact how you live your whole life.


If you need help having courage to be vulnerable, contact Vickie Champion for a discovery coaching and consulting session.

By Vickie Champion


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8 Advantages of NOT Being Vulnerable

Maybe you’re still wary about all this “vulnerability” talk. You know there must be advantages to protecting against vulnerability. You’re right. When you refuse to be wide open and accessible you are afforded some benefits.


  • Don’t have to worry about being hurt or disappointed.

  • Save time by only having short conversations about things that don’t matter like the weather.

  • May continue focusing on vices like food, buying stuff, alcohol, and keeping crazy busy.

  • Can take pride in showing others how perfect you are, always being on and not letting your guard down.

  • Experience adrenalin highs from the stress of hiding your feelings, moods and pain.

  • Won’t have to experience ever being turned down.

  • Can reach your goal in life of maintaining status quo.

  • Save money from not purchasing personal growth programs, attending workshops, or hiring a life coach.


If the above are worthy lifestyle choices for you, then you’re right to try and protect against vulnerability. Choosing to be vulnerable may mean change, or the discovery of a deep love for ourselves and others. Who needs to take the path less traveled when the well-worn rut of addiction, isolation, and just-good-enough suits you just fine?  

If you need help having courage to be vulnerable, contact Vickie Champion for a discovery coaching and consulting session.


By Vickie Champion


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19 Ways to be Vulnerable

“Being vulnerable” is in the air these days. It’s a new definition for living that allows us to dare and connect with our highest potential and the people that help us on our way. But what does it mean to be vulnerable? What are the ways in which we open this door to authenticity in our daily lives? Here are 19 ways to be accessible and wide open.

  • Let others see you cry, especially if you are a guy.

  • Go out without make-up.

  • Initiate contact with strangers.

  • Tell others you are afraid when you are.

  • Ask for help.

  • If you don’t know, admit it.

  • Be the first to say “I love you.”

  • Tell others what you are ashamed of.

  • Do something that makes you look silly.

  • Speak up.

  • Do something you might not be perfect at.

  • Ask for what you want.

  • Admit you made a mistake.

  • Show others what you keep hidden.

  • Look people directly in the eyes.

  • Let someone see you naked.

  • Say no, when you want too.

  • Fall in love.

  • Be OK with being misunderstood, labeled or rejected.


Being vulnerable is a challenge because we’ve been taught or even learned on our own that we should do everything within our power to guard against it. But being vulnerable is the greatest acceptance of our divine gifts and our fallible, magnificent humanity. Vulnerability bonds and celebrates us all.

If you need help being vulnerable, contact Vickie Champion for a discovery coaching and consulting session.


By Vickie Champion



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