Maybe you’re still wary about all this “vulnerability” talk. You know there must be advantages to protecting against vulnerability. You’re right. When you refuse to be wide open and accessible you are afforded some benefits.
- Don’t have to worry about being hurt or disappointed.
- Save time by only having short conversations about things that don’t matter like the weather.
- May continue focusing on vices like food, buying stuff, alcohol, and keeping crazy busy.
- Can take pride in showing others how perfect you are, always being on and not letting your guard down.
- Experience adrenalin highs from the stress of hiding your feelings, moods and pain.
- Won’t have to experience ever being turned down.
- Can reach your goal in life of maintaining status quo.
- Save money from not purchasing personal growth programs, attending workshops, or hiring a life coach.
If the above are worthy lifestyle choices for you, then you’re right to try and protect against vulnerability. Choosing to be vulnerable may mean change, or the discovery of a deep love for ourselves and others. Who needs to take the path less traveled when the well-worn rut of addiction, isolation, and just-good-enough suits you just fine?
If you need help having courage to be vulnerable, contact Vickie Champion for a discovery coaching and consulting session.
By Vickie Champion