People pleasers make great employees…or do they? People pleasers, while often eager to help out, may not make the best employee if your business is in need of a great leader. Here’s why:
1 Great leaders are great decision makers. People pleasers have a tendency to put off making decisions, fearing they will make a mistake.
2 Great leaders build strong teams. People pleasers have difficulty delegating and have been known to overlook incompetent members of their team.
3 Great leaders communicate well. People Pleasers usually avoid communicating when possible because they feel insecure when interacting with others.
4 Great leaders do the honest thing no matter how much it might upset others. People pleasers are guided by the need to be nice and avoiding confrontation is often a much higher priority than honesty.
5 Great leaders are creative and lead followers in new directions. People pleasers lean toward following procedures and staying under the radar.
No one set of people lack the ability to be creative and lead. But chronic people pleasers need to shuck the insecure overcoat that prevents them from stepping out into the light of leadership. It is possible to reform people-pleasing tendencies and not just for the sake of career advancement and satisfaction but the deep peace and joy that comes from self-guided intuition and trust.
When you’re ready to stop the chronic people pleasing and learn to say no in a gentle way, check out my Painless Ways to Stop People Pleasing—How to Say NO and Still be Kind video series.
By Vickie Champion