I have had the honor of being a business and life coach to Diane Bolden. I recently asked her to tell us how she conquered a difficult situation.
Here’s a recap of her story of getting out of a difficult situation…
A few years ago I had the opportunity to go snow skiing which I love to do and I hadn’t done it in years. I couldn’t wait to hit the slopes and I knew I needed to start slowly because it had been a really long time. So I started off with easy runs and it wasn’t long before I said, “Too heck with this, I’m going straight for a black diamond run.”
So, I picked a run and got to the top of the hill. I pushed myself off and got about a third of the way down and realized, “Oh my God, this is so over my head.” There were moguls everywhere. When I talk about moguls, I’m talking about three foot in diameter and about three foot high little hills and they were all next to each other.
To make things worse the slope of the hill was almost vertical. It was awful! This is a mistake! So, I look up and realize I can’t go back up. Just at that moment this fog rolled in. Fog so thick I thought I could grab it and hold it in my hand. I couldn’t see more than three feet in front of me. I panicked!
All I wanted to do was get down the mountain. I’m just going to go for it. So, I pushed off and PLOP, I came smacking down to the ground. Ski’s flying in both directions. It took me 20 minutes to find them because I couldn’t see anything.
I got my skis back on and tried it again and WHAP! Same thing. I thought, “I just have to figure this out from where I’m at.” I realized just about all I could see was the mogul in front of me and if I could just ski around the edge of the mogul and bend my legs in such a way that they absorbed the shock, I would be able to get around it and then stop. Then I could look at the next mogul, ski around the edge of that and stop.
I was making some progress. Then I looked down toward the end of the mountain and WHAP, I totally wiped out again. I realized if I’m ever going to make it down this mountain I going to have to forget about reaching the bottom, take one mogul at a time, and trust that I’m going to know what I need to know how to take one mogul at a time.
So, what I learned from that is to get out of fear, you can’t go back into the past and you can’t get preoccupied with what’s needs to happen in the future. You have to stay right in the moment. Take one moment at a time and when you do, you will have everything you need to get through it.
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